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233 How Do I Stop Comparing Myself to Others and Learn to Live Me-Free?

Your Hope-Filled Perspective with Dr. Michelle Bengtson podcast

Release Date: 09/28/2023

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Do you constantly compare yourself with others? On social media, in your neighborhood, at church, or in the school drop-off lane, do you push yourself to prove that you measure up . . . and then feel ashamed when you don’t? Measuring yourself against others isn’t healthy. And it isn’t God’s plan. In fact, the way of Jesus is completely upside down from this measure-up world. He invites us to follow him and be restored to freedom, confidence, and joy. Join me with Shannon Popkin as we address how to stop comparing yourself to others.


Quotables from the episode:

  • The constant effort to prove that I measure up (or try to hide when I don’t), does not lead to a life of freedom and joy. Here’s what does: learning to live me-free.
  • At its root, comparison places value on our differences.
  • Comparison is really a pride issue—it keeps us focused on ourselves.
  • When we compare ourselves to others, we focus on how we measure up (or don’t) like lines on a measuring glass. But Jesus points out the spout—that place where we pour out on others.
  • Comparison 1) distracts me from my purpose; 2) depletes my productivity, and 3) destroys our potential.
  • When we fall prey to comparison, we need to ask ourselves “Is this something Jesus would say to me?”
  • Comparison is a tactic of the enemy, whether we are comparing our appearance, our status, our sin, or even our ministry for Jesus to others’.
  • Humility is a key to combatting comparison.
  • Comparison is often bred because we don’t desire to be “less than” others, but in God’s economy those who are the least, are considered the greatest.
  • There is NO exclusivity in the kingdom of God.
  • Healthy comparison includes those times we are inspired and learn from others, and are then encouraged to be and do what I am uniquely called to do.
  • Comparison divides us and causes us to back away, when God is calling us to move toward him!
  • When tempted to compare yourself to others, ask yourself “who am I listening to?” Scripture says “my sheep know my voice,” so be sure you are listening for God’s voice.

 

Scripture References:

  • Philippians 2:5-7 ESV Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,[a] 6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped,[b] 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant
  • James 3:14-15 ESV But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. 15 This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic.
  • Matthew 20:26-27 ESV But whoever would be great among you must be your servant,[c] 27 and whoever would be first among you must be your slave,[d] 28 even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, 

 

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Guest:

From the platform, page, and podcast mic, Shannon Popkin invites women to drink deeply of God’s story, and live like it’s true. Shannon’s books include Comparison Girl, and Control Girl, and she hosts the “Live Like It’s True” podcast. Shannon has been featured on FamilyLife Today, Revive Our Hearts, and Proverbs 31.

Shannon is happy to be sharing life with Ken, who makes her laugh every day. Together, they have the joy of watching their three young-adult kids become the amazing people God created them to be. 

 

Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson
Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson