Episode 331: When Your Child Is Hard on Themselves When They Make a Mistake (Why Saying “It’s OK” Doesn’t Help)
Release Date: 01/09/2025
Episode 348: Reduce the Stress of Kids’ Frustrating or Confusing Behavior
Your Parenting Long Game
When we’re raising kids with big emotions, we often learn how to navigate their behavior, moods, and attitudes to avoid meltdowns and dramatic moments. But sometimes, even when we’re doing everything “right,” our children’s behavior can throw us a curveball -- crying for seemingly no reason, refusing to do something they wanted to do, or getting disproportionately angry over a small inconvenience. These situations can leave us frustrated, confused, and powerless to help. In this episode, you’ll learn: What we need to understand about our kids’ confusing...
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Episode 347: How to Feel More Confident When Responding to Kids' Reactions (Especially Negativity)
Your Parenting Long Game
Many kids with big emotions seem to default to negativity—even after a day full of fun and connection. When we witness their lack of positivity, we often think things like, “Why can’t they just be happy?” or “Why are they acting so spoiled?” We feel frustrated that their mood can derail the whole family’s energy, and we feel helpless to do anything about it. But we are not helpless! In this episode, you’ll learn: Exactly kids focus on what went wrong, even when so much went right How we keep ourselves stuck in a cycle of negativity – and a simple way to break free ...
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Episode 346: Stop Telling Your Anxious Child That Things Will Be Ok (What They Need Instead)
Your Parenting Long Game
Many children with big emotions also struggle with anxious thoughts. When our child feels scared, nervous, or overwhelmed, our first instinct is usually to reassure them that everything will be okay. But what if we are actually making it HARDER for them to feel better in the moment and build resilience for the future? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why, in our defense, we’re wired reassure our children when they feel anxious What happens in our kids’ brains when we reassure them (and why they often feel more anxious after we try to help) Three things our children...
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Episode 345: Responding to Snarky Responses Like “This is STUPID”
Your Parenting Long Game
When we see our kids struggling with things like schoolwork, or friend drama, or dealing with a teacher they don’t like, we often offer suggestions to help them get through those situations more easily. But what should we do when our children give short or snarky responses to our genuine attempts to help? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why kids are so resistant to our suggestions, even if they know they’re good ones What we almost always do that makes the situation worse How to respond to this type of attitude so that you maintain your positive, powerful influence (and...
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Episode 344: An Unfortunate Side Effect Of Having “Big Feelings” (That You Can Fix for Your Child)
Your Parenting Long Game
People who have big feelings have many strengths. They understand other people really well and often have very strong, meaningful relationships. But there are also potential downsides to having big emotions, like having a hard time making decisions, feeling different from friends and family members, and feeling bad about themselves. Fortunately, there is something that we can do as parents to help our kids with these struggles, while strengthening their resilience and self-esteem. In this episode, you’ll learn: What it was like for me growing up as a highly sensitive person in...
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Episode 343: When a Child Has a Big Reaction to a Limit You Set
Your Parenting Long Game
We know setting limits for our children is an important part of parenting. But kids with big emotions often have over-the-top reactions that seem disproportionate to the situation. How can we handle their reactions effectively when we are exhausted by their rudeness, disrespect, and negotiations? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why children have big reactions to reasonable limits What we’re doing as parents that often makes it worse How we can help our kids handle discomfort when things don’t go their way (without losing our influence!) --
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Episode 342: Why You Must Be IMPERFECT to Raise Great Kids
Your Parenting Long Game
It's natural to want to do a “good job” as a parent. We want to be attentive, be calm when our kids are having a difficult time, teach them all the skills they need to know in life…and it's easy to be really hard on ourselves when we don't do all of those things well. The good news is, our kids don’t need parents who never make mistakes -- they actually need us to be imperfect! In this episode, you’ll learn: Why it’s hard for us to accept that our imperfections make us better parents Four reasons we MUST be imperfect to raise great kids What we should spend our...
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Episode 341: I’m Feeling Overwhelmed and Stuck… Now What?
Your Parenting Long Game
If you are raising a child or children with big emotions, you probably deal with a lot of drama throughout the day: anxiety, resistance, disrespect…maybe even your child speaking negatively about themselves. The good news? There are a lot of strategies that can help. The bad news? There are a lot of strategies that can help. And often because there are a lot of these strategies that can help, you may feel so exhausted and run down that you don’t know which strategies to try first or what your next step should be. This episode includes: What keeps us feeling stuck and unable...
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Episode 340: Energy Mismatches: Why Kids Have Big Reactions to Small Things
Your Parenting Long Game
If you are raising children with big emotions, you are probably used to their big reactions when they are tired, hungry, or overstimulated. But sometimes children have big reactions even when there is no obvious reason, leaving us feeling confused and like we have to walk on eggshells around them. In this episode, you’ll learn: What is going on when our kids act overly irritated or annoyed but it isn’t clear why How to recognize what I call “energy mismatches” (with examples) What we can do to help our kids have fewer big reactions -- and more confidence...
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Episode 339: Two Simple Words That Will Help You Become a Powerful Positive Influence
Your Parenting Long Game
We know how important it is to be a powerful positive influence with our children. But becoming one sounds daunting at times -- especially with everything else we have to juggle on a daily basis. The good news is, we can increase our influence easily, just by adding two little words to our vocabulary! In this episode, you’ll learn: What a “powerful positive influence” is, and what happens when you are one Two qualities every powerful positive influence has Two “magic” words that show our kids we care, we are consistent, and we can handle their big emotions ...
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While some kids with big emotions blame others, others are incredibly hard on themselves. And it can be devastating to hear them beat themselves up when they make a mistake! Often when they do, our instinct is to tell them it will be okay, that it’s not a big deal, that everyone makes mistakes. But as you’ve probably noticed, that doesn’t make them stop this behavior in the long run, and it can even make them feel worse in the moment. The good news is that we can use Leadership Parenting strategies to help our children – and ourselves! – handle these situations more effectively.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
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Why previous attempts to help our kids calm down haven’t worked -- and often make things worse instead
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Qualities that many children with big emotions have in common (and why it feels like they regularly get stuck in cycles of negativity)
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How to stay regulated and help kids get unstuck so they can learn how to handle their mistakes in the moment… and build resilience for the future
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Free resource: Summary of Episode 331