Episode 368: Notes from a Client Session: Increasing Your Influence
Release Date: 12/18/2025
Episode 387: When You Know You Should Calm Down... But You Don't Want To
Your Parenting Long Game
Sometimes you know you could look at your child's behavior differently... but you don't want to. You're angry. You're resentful. And part of you feels like letting go of those feelings would mean ignoring something that isn't okay. When that happens, trying to force yourself to calm down or change your thoughts may be skipping something important. In this episode, I'll explain why recurring anger and resentment can be signals and what you may need to understand before those feelings can loosen their grip. In this episode, you’ll hear: • Why part of you may resist letting go of anger,...
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Episode 386: Stop Validating Your Child's Feelings
Your Parenting Long Game
For many of us, validating your child's feelings can lead to a child getting even more upset. Validation isn't necessarily wrong... but for many sensitive children, it isn't what they're actually looking for. I'll explain why "naming emotions" often increases Yuck, and what children really need instead. In this episode, you’ll hear: • Why validation can unintentionally make some sensitive children feel more alone • The one word many parents add that completely changes the message they're sending • A simple shift that helps your child feel truly understood so they can process their...
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Episode 385: How to Help Your Child Take Back Control of Their Big Reactions
Your Parenting Long Game
What if your child's biggest struggle isn't that they have big emotions...but that those emotions keep taking over? When children feel powerless against frustration, disappointment, or anxiety, our instinct is often to teach them coping strategies. Often the missing piece is helping them feel like they're in charge of the process instead. In this episode, you’ll hear: • Why many kids reject coping strategies and how we accidentally make that more likely • A simple shift that helps children want to build resilience instead of feeling pressured to change • How to plant seeds that help...
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Episode 384: When Your Child Is Upset and Other Children (or Tasks) Also Need You
Your Parenting Long Game
Parenting can feel like one long tug-of-war between the child who needs you right now, the child who's waiting for you, and the growing list of things that still need to get done. And when everyone's needs seem important, it's easy to feel like no matter what you choose, someone is losing out. The good news is that we can use these moments to help build children's resilience rather a belief that we're not there for them. In this episode, you’ll hear: • Why trying to figure out who needs you most in a specific moment isn't the best strategy to use • How we teach children who can't...
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Episode 383: How to Address Kids' Complaints of "I'm Bored"
Your Parenting Long Game
Summer is around the corner, which means there's a good chance you're about to hear a lot more complaints about being bored. And maybe you've heard that boredom is good for your child. (Spoiler: It is!) But what if you're not seeing your child do those positive things that they're "supposed to do" when they're bored? In this episode, Rachel explores why some children experience boredom very differently than we realize, why "go find something to do" is often harder than it sounds, and how parents can help kids build the ability to handle boredom without becoming their source of constant...
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Episode 382: How to "Win" Any Argument With Your Child (or Anyone!)
Your Parenting Long Game
When your child argues, pushes back, or keeps insisting that something is “not fair,” it’s easy to believe the goal is to stop the behavior, explain better, or finally get them to understand. But what if the more you try to “win” the moment, the more influence you actually lose? In this episode, Rachel shares why emotionally attuned parents often get pulled into over-explaining, why logic rarely works once a child is emotionally flooded, and the powerful shift that helps children calm down without you having to overpower the moment. In this episode, you’ll hear: • The...
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Episode 381: When You Are Exhausted... and Your Child Wants to Connect
Your Parenting Long Game
When you’re exhausted and your child suddenly wants to connect, it can create a painful internal tug-of-war: part of you desperately needs rest, while another part worries that saying “not right now” could damage the relationship or shut your child down emotionally. The good news is that it is possible to consider both your child's needs and your own when making decisions in these situations. In this episode, you’ll hear: • Why emotionally attuned parents often feel torn between connection and their own needs • How to stop fighting yourself internally during hard moments •...
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Episode 380: When You Walk on Eggshells Because You Dread Your Child's Reaction
Your Parenting Long Game
When you’ve gone through the same hard moments with your child over and over — bedtime battles, pushback around limits, meltdowns when it’s time to leave something fun — it’s easy to start bracing before anything has even happened. You may find yourself already tense, already exhausted, already expecting the reaction before you even say a word.The reaction you’re having makes more sense than you may realize… and it is possible to make a shift that takes less energy and increases your influence with your child. In this episode, you’ll hear: • Why we naturally start dreading...
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Episode 379: When Your Child Complains About the Same Things Over & Over
Your Parenting Long Game
When your child pushes back on something they’ve already done many times (like a simple routine or going to the same place every week), it can be confusing... and draining. When the same resistance shows up again, it’s easy to wonder why nothing is sticking…or why it feels like you’re back at the beginning every single time. But what’s driving that reaction isn’t what most parents assume, and until you see what’s actually going on underneath, these patterns tend to repeat. In this episode, you’ll hear: • What’s actually happening in those moments when your child resists...
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Episode 378: When You Say No and Your Child Keeps Pushing
Your Parenting Long Game
When your child keeps arguing after you’ve already said no, it can feel exhausting and personal. You’ve explained your reasoning, you’ve made a thoughtful decision… and yet they keep pushing. It’s easy to interpret that as disrespect or manipulation. But what’s actually happening in those moments is less about defiance than you think. In this episode, you’ll hear: • Why kids continue to argue even when they already know the answer (and why it’s not just about trying to change your mind) • A steadier, more effective approach that allows your child to regulate while you...
info_outlineAs parents, we want to be a steady, positive influence...someone our child trusts, listens to, and feels safe with. But in the hardest moments, that influence often slips away, not because we don’t care or aren’t trying, but because our child’s reactions pull us into doubt, urgency, or over-accommodation. In this episode, I explain why influence breaks down under pressure, and how rebuilding it starts with balancing confidence and connection.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Why confidence without connection can lead to shame, power struggles, and self-doubt in kids
- How connection without confidence can actually increase anxiety and resistance
- What it sounds like in real life to hold firm limits and care about your child’s experience so both of you feel safer and more capable
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