Speaking The Unspoken
The essence of this podcast is to have Unspoken conversation and that sometimes means it's Raw, Blunt and Uncut between 5 black women. We engage in conversations, together with leaders in the field of Social justice, Therapeutic Inventions and Mental health often our conversations are centre around what is hindering our development and growth both individually and collectively as a black community. We are parents and Professionals working and helping parents and children to achieve family mental health wellness. Enjoy our first season Our 2nd season starts 1st April 2022
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Swallowing our Trauma Part 3
07/06/2022
Swallowing our Trauma Part 3
This is the final episode of 'Swallowing our Trauma', where we will continue to talk about how Trauma shows up in the black community. "Blood Trauma" is a phrase I learnt from a friend and colleague, when describing the experience of the ingenious people of Canada. Born with trauma, raised in it and live with systems that continue to retraumatize us. Trauma is not a single event for the black community, it is submerged in the framework of our society and culture. We learnt to swallow the impact racism has on us as a community, and as individuals trying to survive, and move forward. I remember working in a children's daycare back in London, England, I was having a discussion with a parent about growing up in inner-city London. She said to me something that I will always remember. "Our children have to be mentally, physically and emotionally fit in order to survive the world they live in." Raising children in this era we are always asking ourselves "are our children going to experience the trauma that we did? Listen to the episode and leave us a review of your thoughts. Who are we???-well, there are 5 of us ……. -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Ferrell Clinical Psychologist - Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. Sharon Donaldson Regional Director - Eating Disorder Services, UK.
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Swallowing Our Trauma Part 2
06/13/2022
Swallowing Our Trauma Part 2
People holding, holding their tongue, but we've got this kind of confused idea that somehow swallowing means we're safe. Our reluctance as a community to not acknowledge the harmful impact of trauma has on our bodies and our minds. The evidence is in how we prioritize health and wellness, also the way we used addition to cope with swallowing our trauma. We normalized the over-sexualization of our community. We've normalized, drinking too much. We have normalized, some of those harmful things that we still do, it's been normalized. Who are we???-well, there are 5 of us ……. -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Ferrell Clinical Psychologist - Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. Sharon Donaldson Regional Director - Eating Disorder Services, UK.
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Black People Swallowing their Trauma
05/21/2022
Black People Swallowing their Trauma
There is the belief that trauma is a single event or a combination of many events, In the black community, we discuss why it's on a continuum of historical, generational and daily trauma experiences in our community. Learning to swallow our trauma in order to survive or create safety. Maybe the motivation to not disrupt/ make noise about the unjust is influenced by many factors which include the need to protect and secure our need to survive in an unjust society. Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs always comes to thought when discussing our Why. It's what motivates us to fulfill our basic needs of food, safety, love and self-esteem...... Who are we???-well, there are 5 of us ……. -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Chef experience Officer & Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Ferrell Clinical Psychologist -Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. &-Sharon Donaldson Regional Director- North Ellern Mede Eating Disorder Services, UK. Articles to read regarding being deported. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/may/13/britain-22-years-kids-deported-jamaica-home-office-flight Books;
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Hustling for Worthiness Black Women and Self love.
04/28/2022
Hustling for Worthiness Black Women and Self love.
A raw open discussion about what drives us to hustle for our worthiness and the journey of self-love and what it actually means. Why It takes us years to be protective of ourselves and then the learning that I no longer have to give of myself, to the point of depletion to feel worthy of love and belonging. What has informed our sense of worthiness? We dive into our value, our worth and our rollercoaster journey to self-love. We begin to discuss how mainstream media is portraying Black women in a particular way. Who are we???-well, there are 5 of us ……. -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Chef experience Officer & Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Farrell Clinical Psychologist -Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. &-Sharon Donaldson Regional Director- Eating Disorder Services, UK. Check out the link below for the list of books: To know more check out our website: https://www.theblackwomencollective.com/
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Permission To Heal
04/14/2022
Permission To Heal
Therapy is for mad people, Cheryl says before she began her personal journey with therapy, when her therapist tells her to “leave her bullshit at the door”. When we talk about therapy we ask ourselves, why do black people struggle to seek it out for themselves? Is it a lack of understanding about why people seek out therapy or is it the stigma of accessing mental health services? Or is it simply that we lack the understanding of how generational trauma impacts how black people show up in the world today. There have been many great books written about how trauma impacts the body, what trauma is and how it can distort our sense of the world and influence families for generations. Who are we???-well, there are 5 of us ……. -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Chef experience Officer & Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Farrell Clinical Psychologist -Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. &-Sharon Donaldson Regional Director- North Ellern Mede Eating Disorder Services, UK. Check out the link below for the list of books: To know more check out our website: https://www.theblackwomencollective.com/permission-to-heal/
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Our relationships with parents
04/02/2022
Our relationships with parents
Healing and mental health; a frank, raw and honest discussion about being raised by parents who struggle with very little community support and lack accessible resources to help them deal with depression, anxiety, stress and past generational trauma. What they did was used the resources they had at the time. They went to Church, the hairdressers, and other places where they could talk to their black peers. As Dr. June says “the hairdresser was a place my mum was able to share with other women and be honest about how she really felt about her marriage”. Amanda and June share the difficult conversations with their parents when confronted about how they were raised. Relationships with our parents and our relationship with our children. Marriage, multiple partners, trust, male fragility we touch on it all in the conversation. Including talking to our children about our emotions and why acknowledging painful emotions is so important in giving our children permission to ask us questions that may be uncomfortable. …. Who are we???-well, there are 5 of us ……. -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Chef experience Officer & Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Farrell Clinical Psychologist -Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. &-Sharon Donaldson Regional Director- North Ellern Mede Eating Disorder Services, UK. To know more check out our website:
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Church, Shame, Fear and Black people Part 1
02/22/2022
Church, Shame, Fear and Black people Part 1
Are we performing our worthiness? " I recognize the shame and judgements." This is a raw and open conversation between 5 black women. They have journeyed together for over 25 years in learning, parenting, self-discovery and development. After listening to a chapter by Tracey Michael Lewis -Giggetts: from the book 'You Are the Best Thing by Tarana Burke and Brene Brown.' This is one heated discussion with so many different perspectives based on our life experiences and growing up with religion being the backbone of our community. We discuss some challenging subjects, and we talk about shaming, judgement, controlling, and we remember some of the elders of teh church. No short skirts, no makeup, and often you would hear teh elders of teh church say look how much neck or arms some sister was showing; we experience it directly and or observed. Also, we discuss how sex and sexuality are introduced to us through the church before we are mature to understand the impact on our ability to experience intimacy. Why? Maybe because the black community tends to distance themselves from talking about something they don’t quite have control of, or they feel powerless to change that narrative! Maybe because the church has been a place for community, connection, support and hopes, we are worried we do not want to erode that notion that the church is our haven and a safe place? I asked each of teh women if they had a billboard, and every black girl would see it! What would it say? They shared: “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” “Speak up” “Take up as much space as you want.” “Don’t edit yourself.” “Courage to be who you are” To know more, check out our website;
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How does other people influences who we are
02/22/2022
How does other people influences who we are
My capacity to love was purely due to my mother's love and kindness; Crazy, my mother taught me what not to be! And the same time led me to dig deep and live my dream. A Discussion through reflections about the role models in our lives. The who and the why and the impact on how those that have influenced shape our lives so far; We often do not recognize who our role models were until we are much older, when we can look at the experiences from a different perspective. Sometimes that influence is positive, and sometimes it’s not, but nerveless shapes our awareness and understanding of who we are. Who are we -well, there are 5 of us: -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Chef experience Officer & Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Farrell Clinical Psychologist -Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. & -Sharon Donaldson Regional Director- North Ellern Mede Eating Disorder Services, UK. Wow, such an honest conversation and so raw, "My grandmother was a trained teacher back in the hometown of Guyana. When she arrived in England in the 60s, her qualification wasn't accepted". “My grandmother became a social worker in the 60s". "Someone I admired and loved her very much, such a rooted and grounded woman." “My father had a great appreciation for education and love of learning and saw it as a gift, and I inherited that passion for learning.” “ My mother was sweet and not quick to anger,” and “that each of us as siblings knows that their capacity to love came directly from their mother.” In conclusion, our role models are not one fixed person but a combination of many Mothers and fathers, teachers, grandparents and a more comprehensive community. It influences who we are today. This discussion reminded us that we are multidimensional as women, particularly black women. We need to remind ourselves of those we take lessons from, the good, the bad and the indifference, to shape who we are today and who we inspire to be tomorrow. It’s Important how we shape and influence the next generation of black youth, the emerging black women, our daughters, and men, our sons. To know more, check out our website;
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Does our values cause us to have conflict with ourselves
02/22/2022
Does our values cause us to have conflict with ourselves
Are our values part of who we are? This podcast episode is a discussion between 5 women, first, what are your values and what would be your top 5 values and if you had the opportunity to move to a new world which ones would you take? What are values; What are the things that we would want to die on a hill if they were not being honoured? Our values govern how and what we do unconsciously! ever wonder why you get mad or frustrated about a situation or a person? well, it's often because your value is not being honoured? Who are we???-well there are 5 of us ……. -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Chef experience Officer & Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Farrell Clinical Psychologist -Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. & -Sharon Donaldson Regional Director- North Ellern Mede Eating Disorder Services, UK. We explore and discuss this in-depth our own values! And what's interesting is that the discussion goes into exploring the impact on our mental health and the overall wellness of the black community. Honesty can it be a value for black people in the workplace as one of their values In summary Comprising our values it appears is one of the things black people do every day to survive relationships and jobs. Can you imagine if black people went around sharing their value of honesty what a hot mess that would be! Our parents told us to work harder and dream bigger how has that served us! In our discussion, we take a look at the impact our values have on our sense of well-being/ mental health. Often when people feel stuck or unfulfilled it is often when they are not able to fulfill their values/ beliefs. Can you even consider the impact of our internal dialogue when we are at odds with what we believe in and what we do? That is why every black person should be accessing healing at some level!! Did you know Healing can be physical: through Dance, Drumming, Yoga etc and traditional therapy which includes Psychoanalysis and psychodynamic therapies. Behaviour therapy behaviour therapy. ...Cognitive therapy. ...Humanistic therapy. ...Integrative or holistic therapy. For a person, whether they're Black or not, who works best in metaphor and detail, Black storytelling can validate or strengthen how they communicate. We live in a society where we are told to talk, think, and write based on White cultural values. Black storytelling can be a symbol of healing and resisting. For more information please visit my website;
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The reflections of the generation of the Windrush.
02/15/2022
The reflections of the generation of the Windrush.
“Ahhhh, the birth of Lovers Rock music...........” “They called us names like Wog, Kitty Kat, chocolate-drop, Nxxxxx...............” “ and often told us to go back to our country” “Racism was relentless early 60s No Irish, No Dogs, NO Blacks. This Podcast is about 5 Black women sharing their experiences of what it is like to grow up in a time England referred to as the Windrush in the 1940s. Speaking the Unspoken is about engaging Black women in conversations that firmly put their future and family in their hands. Who are we -well, there are 5 of us: -Amanda Drayton, Service Manager -Youth Offending Team UK. -Allison Williams, Chef experience Officer & Family Communications Coach CA. -Cheryl Christine Placement & Contracts Manager -Children Looked After, Children Service, UK. -Dr. June Farrell Clinical Psychologist -Specializing in Child and Adolescent Mental Health UK. & -Sharon Donaldson Regional Director- North Ellern Mede Eating Disorder Services, UK. Today's podcast starts with a question for all 5 of us to respond to! What was it like to be raised as the first generation of the Windrush? Below are a few snippets of our conversation: “The Name-calling was something I remembered made me very angry,” “Our parents and children, we had to use lots of energy to get through a normal day's work and school.” “We pulled in strength from our community and helped foster a good sense of self.” Click the link below to start reading more about the impact of the Windrush on families and, in particular black men and women. This podcast was raw, honest and insightful about five women's individual stories about how they struggled and flourished despite the struggles of this generation. To know more, check out our website;
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