The Trust and Thrust Podcast
Toronto Dominatrix, Bastienne, talks about FemDom, BDSM and life as a professional Inkster. A silly yet sincere glimpse into the day-to-day life and thoughts of a Dominatrix.
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My Failed D/s Relationships of 2023
12/30/2023
My Failed D/s Relationships of 2023
Boundaries, negotiation and communication in BDSM are not emotionally sterile. In the paid version of this podcast () I audit my relationship failures of 2023 and hopefully we all learn something new and valuable from them.
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The 5th Annual FUCK CHRISTMAS Event!
12/07/2023
The 5th Annual FUCK CHRISTMAS Event!
Here we go again! It's my annual celebration of NOT celebrating! Join me this Christmas, be merry, be kinky, have fun! Bastienne.ca
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Greed, Freedom and Function
11/13/2023
Greed, Freedom and Function
In this episode I talk about gut instincts, the natural progression of D/s relationships and the surprising moral boundaries that pop up in pro BDSM. Negotiation, communication and boundaries are buzz words that - in theory - feel straight forward but IRL can equal messy feelings. I talk about "giving away a subby" and feeling anxiety about it because if you love something, set it free and all that jazz. Check out the full podcast and archive of over 130 epidsodes on ! Thanks so much for listening, stay kinky until next time!
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Tagline Wars & Other Silly Things
10/06/2023
Tagline Wars & Other Silly Things
Hello Fellow Perverts! Hope you're staying kinky and cute and there’s something currently in your boot(ie). Things are changing at The Wiggle Room, slowly but surely including a new room being accessible in the next few months. In this episode, I talk about Americans and have a revelation about respect that kind of runs through the whole episode. I’m looking for fart, ballbusting and wedgie subs! I’m also doing lots of audio customs on OnlyFans which has led to me starting a new, wedgie focused podcast on Patreon called . If you’re currently wearing tighty whities…. you know what to do. I talk about the copy kittens again and a new podcast I’m obsessed with called "”. I approve of every one except episode 21. I’m visiting Calgary again this winter! I’m figuring out OnlyFans (finally) after a year of shaking my proverbial boobies over there. I’m adding mugs to (soon) and lots more chitty chatty ;) Here’s I talk about in the ep 💋 Thanks so much for subscribing, check out bastienne.ca/links and see what else tickles your fancy! Until next month, stay kinky! xo Bastienne
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UPDATE!
09/02/2023
UPDATE!
Hey! It’s me and my cleavage! Did you miss me? Well, I’m back to give you a wee, little update. I’ve been busy over the summer, capering about, through nature and online. I started a wedgie podcast over on Patreon called , I’ve been collecting data (and souls) over on my , I’m trying out a new and I’m getting ready to completely redesign The Wiggle Room! I also wrote a mini book called and it’s available for $10 on my website, go buy it right meow! It’s all very exciting, listen to the audio for all the juicy details. PS. I’m also looking for experienced ballbusting subbies for clips! , $10 application fee, must be experienced (with proof) and all the usual booking prerequisites apply. Thanks for listening! If you want more subscribe to the private podcast for $7/month at . too, just for fun.
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The Perfect Submissive
05/18/2023
The Perfect Submissive
Perfectionism, control freaks, narcissism, codependence, feedback, rejection, acceptance, self aftercare, lifestyle surrogacy, behavioural democracies and a delightful lack of notes. Thank you for listening, go to BASTIENNE.SUBSTACK.COM for the full episode and visit BASTIENNE.CA/LINKS for all the places that I exist on the internet! xo Bastienne
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DECEPTION: A good person doing dirty things.
04/24/2023
DECEPTION: A good person doing dirty things.
Hello Fellow Perverts! I’ve returned with more revelations! This episode is all about healthy compartmentalization versus destructive secrecy in kink (and in life). There’s a LOT of mental homework to keep up with, as an adult, with, any level of responsibility. I think it’s fair to say, we all get overwhelmed and lost at times. We get stuck in ruts, deal with shame, feel alone, struggle with anxiety and depression - all that fun, grown up, bullshit. What we do with those experiences is important. I view kink as a release valve, a healthy, therapeutic outlet for dark feelings - but - that is certainly up for debate. Let’s talk about morality in the Den of Iniquity! How to feel like a good person who does dirty things. Stay Kinky! xo Bastienne
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MY NEW BOOKING PROCESS!
04/11/2023
MY NEW BOOKING PROCESS!
Hello Fellow Perverts! It is me, Bastienne, and I am (momentarily) popping out of my hiatus to tell you some exciting news! I am officially saying goodbye to time wasters - GOODBYE FOREVER! 👋 SEE YA NEVER! This means, I’m not taking new clients currently (and haven’t for a few weeks) and in the meantime, I’ve been scheming up an entirely new way to vet newbies. This involves a $10 application fee, deadlines, and a couple of quizzes and some other, lovely, time-saving mechanisms! The application will only be available on which I’m making publicly available in May, but I’m actually so freaking excited about it that I wanted to jump back on here and tell yous guys about it. I’m planning on posting more literotica, FemDom tutorials and other digital downloads for all your kink-nerd needs! I’m currently working on some courses like “How to Plan a BDSM Scene”, “How to Date a Sex Worker” and (of course) “Safe Ballbusting 101”. There was also an option to add A FREAKING MUG WITH MY PICTURE ON IT so please, someone, order that because it is absurd and amazing! I also wrote an informative (and salty) blog post that you might enjoy. It’s called and it delves into all the ways that people waste my time (intentionally and non-intentionally) and how I plan on preventing that going forward. Tis purposely salty with the intention of providing context to well intentioned, sweet muffins who don’t understand why there are so many hoops to suddenly jump through. If you’re reading this, that means you’re on my paid mailing list which means (you guessed it) you’re awesome. Thank you for supporting me in all my ventures, not just the wanky ones 💗 Stay kinky until the next revelation! xo Bastienne
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HIATUS
02/22/2023
HIATUS
Goodbye (for now) Fellow Perverts! It’s break time for Bastienne! I’m not doing a weekly podcast anymore, well, at least not for a bit. I feel like I’ve filled the archive () chock full of good, kinky stuff and I can feel myself getting vague and repeating myself a lot on here. The classic BDSM lines of “it’s all about communication” - “it depends on the person” - “BDSM is all about boundaries”. YADA YADA. It’s not wrong, it’s just redundant. Anyhoo, I’m very proud of the archive I’ve created so please peruse that over at and if anything jumps out at you, you can subscribe for $7/month and go binge my blabberings! There's a search function on substack so you can search for exactly what you're interested in. Also, all content is very straightforward and authentic. It may be a new perspective on something kinky you’ve been curious about for a while. Plus, there’s horny-time erotica posts sprinkled in there too! So, now you can keep up with me on other platforms like Instagram, Twitter, OF, etc. All of which are listed at :) Also… catch me guest appearing on Aspasia’s poddy! Join for $10/month at ;) Stay kinky! xo Bastienne
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ASPASIA & BASTIENNE! Your Dominatrix Buds.
02/07/2023
ASPASIA & BASTIENNE! Your Dominatrix Buds.
HELLO FELLOW PERVERTS! Toronto Dominatrix and fellow silly person, joins me once again for another, delightful chat session. We sat on astro turf, munched on oranges and croissants, sipped some adult beverages and rambled about our kinky lives til the sun went down! This week on the free version of the podcast, we answer where the person basically wants to be in a submissive mindset all the damn time. We each give our opinions about that situation. A chill pill may be in order. Want to keep listening? The full podcast is 1 hour + 45 minutes long and is available on both of our private newsletters over on substack. ASPASIATHEGREAT.SUBSTACK.COM + BASTIENNE.SUSTACK.COM. On the full version we chat about ballcrushers, a past love making trend, Top Drop and we try 'musk' flavoured life savers and realize that Australians have been up to no good. Thanks for listening - stay kinky until next week :) xo Bastienne
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February 1st, 2023
02/01/2023
February 1st, 2023
Hello Fellow Perverts! I’ve abandoned the usual format this week and instead we’re do a little story time! Allow me to read you my latest blog post titled “”. Tis all about these very misunderstood mechanisms in power exchange and how they’re all about wanting acceptance. Mushy mushy, hippie FemDom! Craving more? Go to and make sure to also join the private podcast and get access to the FULL hour of this episode called “”. This week I chat about sensory deprivation and a revelation about who I’m attracted to and why. You’ll also get full access to over 100 archived episodes all about kink and FemDom. Thanks for listening! xo Bastienne
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January 29th, 2023
01/29/2023
January 29th, 2023
Hello Fellow Perverts! This week I’m organizing my life like crazy, getting ready to sit down and get to work on fun things like taxes, clips and such (PFFT). Promoting my couples sessions with a cute as fuck coupon. A new hot dog costume for my dog who has now been converted into an adorable, low-key, Walmart greeter for nervous new people at work (it also stops him from barking - yay). And I’m promoting bird pictures on OF. As an aside, please go to / iHeartRadio / Amazon Music / or whatever podcast app you use and give me a thumbs up or 5 stars if you’re feeling generous ⭐ Thanks for subscribing - stay kinky until next week! xo Bastienne Craving more? Go to and make sure to also join the private podcast and get access to the FULL hour of this episode called “”. This week I chat about nipples, butch lesbians and general disappointment in my industry. You’ll also get full access to over 100 archived episodes all about kink and FemDom.
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January 17th, 2023
01/17/2023
January 17th, 2023
Hello Fellow Perverts! I had a busy, kinky weekend! I’m still reeling from the top high to be honest and wanted to record while still buzzing. I enjoyed some duos, filmed some clips, saw some regulars (and newbies) and did my first fully silent session! I also fisted two different people and bruised my right foot from some vigorous ballbusting. It was all really nice :) This week I read this question from the BDSM advice subreddit: “” Oh boy, great question, great timing - let me tell you what I get. Basically, BDSM is like a make your own adventure where you get to safely explore roles / perspectives within the social hierarchy that are inaccessible to you in normal life. For me that has meant playing as a dominant and a sadist. It’s benefitted me inside and outside of BDSM in many ways. Craving more? Join the private podcast and get access to the FULL hour of this episode called “”. This week I chat about sounding, guys with long hair and learning kink languages. You’ll also get full access to over 100 archived episodes all about kink and FemDom. Thanks for subscribing! Check out all the internet place I exist and I’ll chat at you again next week ;) xo Bastienne
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January 11th, 2023
01/12/2023
January 11th, 2023
Hello Fellow Perverts! I just got back from a mini vacay that included lots of binge watching, a jacuzzi, a recliner & an ice cream cake! There’s vacation foot pics (and other pics) coming soon to my OF :) This week I read a question about ADHD and how attention span affects BDSM sessions. I love this subject because I feel like we all struggle with managing our attention to some degree or another, whether we have diagnosed ADHD or not. Plus, a big part of my job is simply getting AND KEEPING people’s attention. This can mean anything from a 45 second visit to my website that bounces to close relationships that evolve over hundreds of hours and many years. It’s all about keeping the attention of others and managing mine as well. This is all a fancy way of presenting you with the longest butthole fingering pep talk you’ll ever get. Craving more? Join the private podcast on and get access to the FULL hour of this episode called “ADHD & The Smothering Rebreather”. This week I chat about the smothering rebreather, AirBnB tomfuckery and working too hard. You’ll also get full access to over 100 archived episodes all about kink and FemDom. Thanks so much for subscribing! I’ll bug you again next week ;) xo Bastienne
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January 3rd, 2022
01/03/2023
January 3rd, 2022
Hello Fellow Perverts! The subject of boundaries has been surfacing a lot in my life, and work, lately so I thought I’d do a little spiel about the basics (from my perspective) for anyone who may need to hear it right now. Yes, yes - I know boundaries come up every week! But, hey - it’s ultimately important stuff and sometimes I like to pretend I’m Oprah, it’s one of my lesser known kinks. Go look at all and HAPPY NEW YEAR! xo Bastienne Craving more? Join the private podcast and get access to the FULL hour of this episode called “”. This week I chat about my yummy slice of dysfunction, bad first impressions in kink and I rant about copy cats. You’ll also get full access to over 100 archived episodes all about kink and FemDom.
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December 28th, 2022
12/29/2022
December 28th, 2022
Hello Fellow Perverts! This week I’ve been getting lots of audio requests on OF and I’m loving it! I talk about being a professional third wheel and how refreshing it is to be left out - seriously! We also had a storm over Christmas weekend here in Toronto and I made a couple TikToks (@bastiennecross). I read a question from a dominant who feels like he is second fiddle in his D/s, open relationship. I talk about how to feel invested while sharing your subby with (an)other dominant(s). Also, I’m slowly taking all the thirsty pics off my website, you should take a gander at the new vibe of my homepage. Shifting towards cute / fun vibes in an attempt to stop attracting vanilla dudes. Craving more? Join the private podcast and get access to the FULL hour of this episode called “” This week I chat about balloon popping, Anniewood and the nauseating practice of self promotion. You’ll also get full access to over 100 archived episodes all about kink and FemDom. Thanks for subscribing, I’ll bug you again next week! xo Bastienne
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December 20th, 2022
12/20/2022
December 20th, 2022
In this episode I talk about starting an OnlyFans! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "I STARTED AN ONLYFANS" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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December 13th, 2022
12/13/2022
December 13th, 2022
In this episode I talk about plans for the holidays including duos with Aspasia the Great! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Pain Storming with Aspasia the Great" please join me for $7/month on and check out Aspasia's podcast on ;)
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December 10th, 2022
12/09/2022
December 10th, 2022
In this episode I talk about cancelling Christmas, expectations and duos with Aspasia the Great over the holidays! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Subspace & People Pleasing" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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November 30th, 2022
11/30/2022
November 30th, 2022
In this episode I talk about FEMINISM and objectification of women in Pro FemDom! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Feminism & Free Use" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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November 25th, 2022
11/25/2022
November 25th, 2022
In this episode I talk about kinky FFM threesomes (X3) this week, cuckqueans, finding a Daddy Dom, Fuck Christmas and my 8th anniversary! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Cuckqueans & Chemistry" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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November 20th, 2022
11/20/2022
November 20th, 2022
In this episode I talk about David Cross, playing with couples and the intimacy and boundaries that come with BDSM titles! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Collars & Culty Vibes" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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November 10th, 2022
11/10/2022
November 10th, 2022
In this episode I talk about ordering a Cybian, (re)starting yoga, upcoming clips, a kinkiversary and losing / gaining confidence as a dominant! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Saint Andrew & Crossed Wires" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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November 1st, 2022
11/02/2022
November 1st, 2022
In this episode I talk about margarita spanking, time waster season and some recommendations! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Spanking & Speaking Up" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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October 27th, 2022
11/02/2022
October 27th, 2022
In this episode I talk about birthday shenanigans with Aspasia the Great, resonating with your partners kinks and purposely dying in horror games! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Sissification & Stand Up" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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October 20th, 2022
11/02/2022
October 20th, 2022
In this episode I talk about 'The Last of Us' remake, guilt about sexual sadism and a potential new Patreon page! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Suplexes & Sadism" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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October 14th, 2022
11/02/2022
October 14th, 2022
In this episode I talk about butterscotch liqueur, Mommy roleplay and a couple of slow, chill weeks! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Bum Sniffing & Blame" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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October 5th, 2022
11/02/2022
October 5th, 2022
In this episode I talk about how to transition from a rough scene into aftercare, turkey day sessions and back to work catch ups! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Trampling & Time Theft" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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September 28th, 2022
11/02/2022
September 28th, 2022
In this episode I talk about harbingers, airports, performance anxiety and a BDSM book recommendation! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Final Bosses & Fat Fetishism" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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September 13th, 2022
11/02/2022
September 13th, 2022
In this episode I talk about travelling in Canada, a hot take on Toronto and a worship-y spank bank story! Thanks for listening! I'm Bastienne Cross, a Toronto Dominatrix who absolutely LOVES the world of FemDom! Listen in every week for lots of chill, honest talk about my experiences as a silly, lighthearted lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. If you'd like to listen to the full, hour long version of this podcast, "Ballbusting & Burn Out" please join me for $7/month on ;)
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