Love Each Other Better

Did you know that too much conflict and arguing is one of the top 3 reasons couples get divorced? According to Forbes, 58% of divorcing couples cited this as their #1 reason for splitting up. When I read this 2024 statistic, my first thought was: It doesn't have to be this way! Hi, I'm Ali Miller, and I created the Love Each Other Better Podcast to share relationship-saving tools and principles that will help you and your partner spend less time fighting and more time doing what you do best: loving each other. I'm a longtime Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and a Certified Coach specializing in couples communication and conflict resolution. I've worked with hundreds of couples over the past two decades, helping them work through their challenges and create thriving relationships. On the Love Each Other Better Podcast, I share transformational tools and inspiration from Nonviolent Communication to help couples find their happy again, tools I've only been sharing with my clients and students until now. I am overjoyed to be able to share them with you here on this podcast. Whether you're on the verge of divorce or just a tad bit dissatisfied in your relationship and know it can be so much better, you're in the right place if you want more fun, more ease, and more LOVE in your relationship. I'm so glad you're here.

27: Breaking Free from Patriarchy, Sexism and Misogyny in Hetero Relationships with Vivek Patel 04/03/2025

27: Breaking Free from Patriarchy, Sexism and Misogyny in Hetero Relationships with Vivek Patel In this episode I'm so honored to be joined by Vivek Patel of Meaningful Ideas to explore the impact of patriarchy, sexism, and misogyny in heterosexual relationships and how to break free from this toxic conditioning that contributes to so much pain for so many people. Vivek shares his own personal journey of recognizing and unlearning his own sexist conditioning and how this profoundly improved his own marriage. He also offers practical tips for how others can do this, too. Vivek emphasizes the importance of redefining masculinity, dismantling hierarchical mindsets, and the power of self-compassion to support honest conversations between men and women about the impacts of sexism on their relationships. Tune in for a raw, real, and inspiring conversation about deprogramming patriarchy, embracing vulnerability, and breaking free from toxic masculinity. CONNECT WITH VIVEK PATEL Vivek Patel of Meaningful Ideas has been sharing Conscious Parenting concepts for over 15 years. The ideas he shares have been used by thousands of families to create more harmony and connection in their homes. He has written more than 500 parenting articles and created over 300 videos. There is also a book in the works. Vivek cares deeply about empowering parents to develop more harmonious relationships with their kids using a powerful approach called “Non-Coercive, Collaborative Parenting”, based on Communication, Connection, and Collaboration. He is also best friends with his 27 yr old. Check out Vivek's social media @meaningfulideas If you'd like to receive more personalised and intimate parenting support from Vivek, please consider joining his parenting support group: Sign up for Vivek's FREE COURSE "Guiding Without Controlling". Registration Link CONNECT WITH ALI MILLER Apply to join us for the Love Each Other Better: 6-Month Group Coaching Program for Couples at Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Connect with me on social media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email me: [email protected] Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/35993505

26: Understanding Attachment Theory to Create Secure Relationships with Maya Diamond 03/15/2025

26: Understanding Attachment Theory to Create Secure Relationships with Maya Diamond In this insightful episode of the Love Each Other Better Podcast, I’m honored to have a very special guest, relationship expert Maya Diamond. Maya guides us in a deep-dive into the fascinating world of attachment theory. She unravels the complexities of the four primary attachment styles—secure, avoidant, anxious, and fearful avoidant—and explores how our childhood experiences shape the way we connect in adult relationships. Maya shares practical, actionable advice for healing insecure attachment styles, offering listeners valuable tools to foster more secure and fulfilling connections. Whether you're seeking to understand your own attachment style or improve your relationships, this episode is packed with insights and strategies to build deeper, more meaningful connections. Tune in to learn how to heal childhood wounds, cultivate secure attachments, and communicate effectively for a stronger, healthier partnership! ABOUT MY GUEST Maya Diamond is an expert Dating and Relationship Coach who is known for helping people finally find their beloved after years of trying, so that they can have happy, satisfying, and fulfilling relationships. She specializes in helping people heal their insecure attachment and find healthy secure love. Maya is a trained psychotherapist and holds a Master’s Degree in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. In 2018, Maya was named one of the best life coaches in San Francisco by Expertise.com. In 2014, she was named one of the Best Relationship Experts in California by DatingAdvice.com. Maya's dating advice has been featured on mindbodygreen.com and elephant journal.com. She shared her message on the TedX stage, with her talk, “The Surprising Key to Building a Healthy Relationship that Lasts.” CONNECT WITH MAYA DIAMOND Go to to book your free love breakthrough call with Maya Website: empowerlove.us Instagram: mayadiamond.empowerlove Fbook group: Podcast: Rewire Your Attachment Style ~ CONNECT WITH ALI MILLER Apply to join us for the Love Each Other Better: 6-Month Group Coaching Program for Couples at Book a free consultation call with Ali: https://www.calendly.com/alimillercoaching/45 Get my free feelings and needs lists: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Connect with me on social media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alimillercoaching Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email me: [email protected] Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/35704545

25: How to Be Assertive Without Being an A-hole 02/13/2025

24: Building Beloved Community with Roxy Manning, PhD 01/20/2025

24: Building Beloved Community with Roxy Manning, PhD In this episode of Love Each Other Better, I’m thrilled to welcome Roxy Manning, PhD, a psychologist, Nonviolent Communication trainer, and the author of How to Have Anti-Racist Conversations. Together, we explore the concept of the Beloved Community, inspired by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., and how it ties into Roxy’s work and activism. We dive into topics like having authentic and courageous conversations, addressing systems of oppression within families, and navigating how to handle harm in relationships. We also discuss the difference between positive and negative peace, and why being fierce—engaging in “necessary trouble”—is essential for real change. In a special segment, we role-play how to open up a meaningful conversation about patriarchy and sexism within a heterosexual relationship, offering practical tools and approaches for navigating these sensitive yet critical discussions. You won’t want to miss Roxy’s inspiring vision for a more just and equitable future, along with actionable ways to connect with her transformative work. This is a conversation full of wisdom, heart, and hope! Connect with my guest, Roxy Mannning, PhD Clinical psychologist, certified trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication, and co-host of the podcast Fierce Compassion. As a Black Caribbean immigrant to the US, Roxy Manning brings a unique, intersectional lens to her organizational work, focusing on transforming communication to foster justice and equity. Author of How to Have Antiracist Conversations and coauthor of The Antiracist Heart, her writing provides practical tools for antiracist dialogue and building compassionate communities. Dr. Manning lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, inspiring change internationally through her teachings and writings. Find her books, writing, and podcast at . Connect with your host, Ali Miller Stop Fighting Private Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com/StopFighting [email protected] /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/34930640

23: Relationship Resolutions for Your Best Year Yet 01/01/2025

22: Challenging White Supremacy, Patriarchy, and Capitalism in our Families with Jen Lumanlan 12/10/2024

22: Challenging White Supremacy, Patriarchy, and Capitalism in our Families with Jen Lumanlan In this thought-provoking episode of the Love Each Other Better podcast, I sit down with Jen Lumanlan, host of the Your Parenting Mojo podcast and author of Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection & Collaboration to Transform Your Family and the World. Join us for an introduction to how white supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism shape family dynamics and influence parenting approaches, and how to shift out of traditional power dynamics to make family life easier and more connecting. Jen shares powerful insights and practical tools to help parents navigate conflicts and create family environments where everyone's needs—parents' and children's alike—are honored. From addressing the micro moments where resistance in children shows up to exploring deep concepts like white supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism and how they intersect in our families, this episode offers a roadmap for transforming family relationships and beyond. Whether you’re a parent seeking to navigate the pressures of modern life or someone looking to create a more just and collaborative family dynamic, this episode is packed with inspiration and actionable strategies. Tune in and start building a family culture rooted in equality, trust, and compassion today. About Jen Lumanlan JEN LUMANLAN, MS, MEd, (she/her) hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, which was named Best Research-Based Parenting Podcast by Lifehacker and has been downloaded almost 4 million times. After attending Berkeley and Yale and following a traditional career path in sustainability consulting, Jen found that parenting was her toughest challenge yet. She went back to school for a master’s degree in psychology focused on child development and another in education, and trained as a Co-Active coach to share what she learned with other parents. Her work has been featured in outlets such as Psychology Today, Romper, and NPR. Jen is the author of Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection and Collaboration to Transform Your Family - and the World. Jen’s Resources Facebook: Instagram: Website: Take Jen’s quiz: Tell Me What My Child Needs! When you understand your child's most important need and meet that more often, they'll stop resisting you as much. Read Jen’s book: Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection & Collaboration to Transform Your Family and the World: Listen to Jen’s podcast: Your Parenting Mojo: (open anytime; just $7 with coupon code ALIMILLER) - shows you how to set limits effectively, and also set far fewer of them than you ever thought possible, without being a permissive parent! (opens every ~Oct and Feb) - helps parents understand the real causes of their triggered feelings, begin to heal those hurts so they feel triggered less often, and repair more effectively on the fewer occasions when it does still happen. (opens every May) - provides ongoing support for parenting challenges - from tantrums/meltdowns, screen time, and raising healthy eaters to getting on the same page with your parenting partner. Connect with Ali Miller Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) 8-Week Private Coaching Program for Couples: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Website: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com Instagram: NVC for Couples Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples/ Email: [email protected] /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/34371470

21: Self-Regulation Strategies for Thriving Relationships with Dr. Gila 11/23/2024

21: Self-Regulation Strategies for Thriving Relationships with Dr. Gila In Episode 21 of the Love Each Other Better podcast, I’m joined by clinical psychologist, neuropsychologist, and certified parenting coach, Dr. Gila, to explore self-regulation strategies and their transformative impact on intimate relationships. Dr. Gila is a master at simplifying complex concepts in interpersonal neurobiology while providing practical, actionable tools for managing emotional stress so we can thrive in our relationships. In this illuminating episode that is infused with compassion, Dr. Gila discusses the importance of self-awareness, daily self-care practices, and how to effectively navigate moments of emotional overwhelm. You’ll gain insights into the fight-flight-freeze response, what happens when we "flip our lids," practical ways to pause and reconnect, and how to strengthen emotional resilience within relationships. Tune in for science-based strategies, compassionate expert advice, and empowering tools to love each other better—even in the toughest moments. ~ Dr. Gila (she/her) is a Jai-certified parent coach and certified Clini-Coach®, in addition to being a clinical psychologist and neuropsychologist. Most importantly, she’s a single mom. Dr. Gila specializes in single parenting with connection, not perfection. She is passionate about helping single parents build healthy relationships with their kids AND themselves, through workshops, individual coaching, and her group program, The SingleParentology™ Lab. Her motto is: Even if you're on your own, you don't have to do it alone! Connect with Dr. Gila! COACHING: Dr. Gila Parenting Website: Email: IG: FB: Free resources: PDF GUIDE: Tantrums, & Meltdowns, & Rages...Oh My! The single parent's guide to understanding challenging behaviors () AUDIO: Guided Meditation for Single Parents () VIDEO: What Every Parent Needs to Know When the S**T Hits the Fan. () THERAPY: GZR Psychology Services, PLLC * Website: * Email: * Phone: 914-292-3978 * Location: Fully virtual. NYS residents only. * Insurance: Private pay. Superbills offered where appropriate. Connect with Ali Miller /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/34121081

20: Building Connection: The Intersection of Neuroscience and Nonviolent Communication, with Sarah Peyton 10/29/2024

19: "How do we find time to connect in our busy lives?" Live Coaching with Noelle + Frank 10/16/2024

18: Exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy with Dr. Rachael Meir 10/01/2024

18: Exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy with Dr. Rachael Meir In this inspiring episode, we explore the nuances of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) with Dr. Rachael Meir, addressing common questions and concerns about polyamory, open relationships, and other forms of ethical/consensual non-monogamy. Dr. Meir breaks down the distinctions between terms like ENM and polyamory, explaining how ENM serves as an umbrella concept for a variety of relationship dynamics. We delve into how to create mutually satisfying agreements, manage complex emotions like jealousy, and ensure clear communication within non-monogamous relationships. Drawing from her expertise in relationships and personal experience, Dr. Meir offers practical insights on how to approach ENM thoughtfully—whether you're exploring it for the first time or already practicing it. We also discuss how non-monogamous relationships challenge the idea that one partner should meet all of our emotional and physical needs and how embracing individual autonomy within partnerships can lead to more fulfilling connections. For those feeling curious but cautious or wondering how to navigate conversations about opening up a relationship, or succeeding in your already-established non-monogamous relationships, this episode offers valuable guidance. Tune in as we address listener questions and explore how to create ethical, transparent, and consent-driven agreements in non-monogamous relationships. Guest Expert Bio and Links Dr. Rachael Meir is a licensed Clinical Psychologist and a Certified Clinical Sexuality Coach with over 15 years of experience in the field. She earned her PsyD (Doctorate of Psychology) from the PGSP-Stanford PsyD Consortium and BA from the University of Colorado, Boulder. Dr. Meir is sex-positive, LGBTQIA+ affirming, BDSM/kink aware and she specializes in ethical/consensual non-monogamy, including swinging, open relationships, polyamory, and other alternative relationships and lifestyles. As a bisexual woman living in a polyamorous triad relationship herself, she is dedicated to helping people navigate the challenges of opening their relationships and successfully sustaining multiple sexual and romantic partnerships. Ali's Resources Learn more about Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) 8-Week Private Coaching Program for Couples: /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/33284872

17: "I hate my spouse!" 09/09/2024

16: The #1 Mistake Couples Make 08/16/2024

15: Empowering our Kids through Collaborative Problem-Solving 07/30/2024

15: Empowering our Kids through Collaborative Problem-Solving This episode is a bit different from my usual focus on romantic relationships, as I dive into the parent-child dynamic. While today's discussion is tailored for parents, the principles I'll explore are just as applicable to your relationship with your partner or anyone you spend time with, making this episode valuable for everyone. As a mom to a four-year-old, parenting has become a central part of my life, prompting me to seek out resources and support that align with my values. After attending a recent parenting summit, I felt compelled to share insights on enhancing our relationships with our children through the lens of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). In this episode, we'll delve into the essence of NVC that has become my anchor in parenting: collaborative problem-solving. We'll discuss how collaboration, rooted in the core NVC principle that everyone's needs matter, can transform our decision-making processes and strengthen our bonds with our kids. By prioritizing a collaborative mindset, we can move away from the traditional "power-over" mode and create an environment where our children's voices are heard and valued. Whether you're navigating everyday decisions like what to eat for a snack or more significant choices like schooling options, embracing collaboration can help ensure that all needs are considered. I'll share personal stories and practical strategies on how to slow down, lean into moments of disagreement, and foster a family dynamic where everyone's needs are honored. Join me as to explore how this approach not only empowers our children but also lays the foundation for healthier, more connected relationships across the board. Even if you don't have kids, the principles I discuss will resonate with anyone looking to improve their communication and relationship skills. Tune in to discover how embracing a collaborative mindset can help us all love each other better. And don't forget to share your thoughts and experiences in my private Facebook group, NVC for Couples: Transform Your Relationship One Conversation at a Time, or message me on Instagram @alimillercoaching. I can't wait to hear from you! Resources Join my private Facebook Group, NVC for Couples: Transform Your Relationship One Conversation at a Time: Follow or message me on Instagram: /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/32353562

14: Client Spotlight: Margot and Dan 07/11/2024

13: What's Underneath Your Anger? 06/24/2024

13: What's Underneath Your Anger? Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed by anger and wondered what's truly fueling it? In today’s episode, “What’s Underneath Your Anger?”, I dive deep into a cathartic experience I just had that unveiled the tender feelings lurking beneath my own anger. Join me as I explore the vulnerable emotions that often underlie anger, such as stress, fear, guilt, and helplessness. I’ll share how a powerful song led me to an emotional release, uncovering the fear that had been fueling my anger for years. This revelation didn’t just bring me personal healing—it also brought relational healing by transforming my understanding of others' anger, including my ex-partner’s. Discover how embracing and getting curious about our anger can lead to profound self-empathy and empathy for others. I’ll provide practical tips and exercises to help you identify the vulnerable feelings beneath your anger, fostering greater compassion and connection in your relationships. Tune in to learn how you can turn conflict into connection by addressing the feelings beneath your anger, and hear about my personal journey towards healing and understanding. Don’t miss out on this transformative episode! Episode Highlights: The tender feelings that often lie beneath anger My emotional breakthrough and how it reshaped my perspective of my ex-partner A practical exercise to explore the feelings under your anger How to transform anger into empathy and connection in your relationships Links and Resources: : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cs-ju_L9pEQ Free feelings list: Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Learn about my Private Coaching Program for Couples: If this episode resonates with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Let’s get curious about what’s underneath our anger and start healing together. /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/31868842

12: From Reactive to Responsive: The Key to Transforming Your Relationship 06/07/2024

12: From Reactive to Responsive: The Key to Transforming Your Relationship Welcome to today's enlightening episode, "From Reactive to Responsive: The Key to Transforming Your Relationship." There's a timeless quote, often attributed to Viktor Frankl, that encapsulates the essence of our discussion: "Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." Have you ever felt the sting of regret after reacting impulsively to a loved one? Do you yearn for the freedom to respond with calm and clarity instead of reflexively lashing out? You're not alone. Many of us crave the ability to navigate our emotions and interactions more mindfully. In this episode, we'll explore how we can shift from reacting out of habit to responding with intention, especially in the heat of the moment. We'll delve into the profound impact of finding that crucial space between stimulus and response, and how it can transform our relationships and personal growth. We'll draw from the tools of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to guide us in this transformation. Learn practical steps to slow down, identify your thoughts and feelings, and understand your needs and those of your partner. Discover how to make empowered requests that foster connection and mutual understanding. Join me as I share personal stories (including moments of my own reactivity that led to regret), and discuss the powerful journey towards becoming more responsive. This episode is packed with insights and actionable advice to help you build stronger, more loving relationships. Ready to transform your interactions and embrace a more mindful approach to communication? Tune in and discover the freedom that comes from choosing your response. If this resonates with you and you're eager to stop fighting and start loving better, check out my eight-week private coaching program for couples at www.AliMillerCoaching.com/StopFighting. Spots are limited, so don't wait to apply. Life is short, and love is precious—let's make every moment count. Resources Feelings and Needs Lists: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) 8-Week Private Coaching Program for Couples: /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/31655512

11: Three Unconventional Ways to Stop Repeating the Same Fight and Finally Resolve Your Issues 05/24/2024

11: Three Unconventional Ways to Stop Repeating the Same Fight and Finally Resolve Your Issues In this episode, we're diving into something many couples struggle with: breaking the cycle of recurring fights. If you and your partner find yourselves stuck in the same argument loop, this episode is for you. Brought to you by my new eight-week private coaching program for couples, "Stop Fighting Without Stuffing Your Feelings or Sacrificing Your Needs," this episode offers a glimpse into transformative techniques that can change the way you communicate and resolve conflicts. If what you hear resonates, head over to to learn more about how my program can help your relationship thrive. As a couples therapist and coach, I’ve seen the frustration couples face when they can't move past their conflicts. Being stuck in a cycle of disconnection, especially with someone you love deeply, can be excruciating. In this episode, I share three unconventional ways to help you get unstuck and start resolving your relationship issues effectively. You'll be able to apply these tools right away, and see what a huge difference they make. These tips are part of the comprehensive toolbox I provide in my coaching program, designed to teach couples exactly how to navigate conflicts from start to finish in a connecting, compassionate, and collaborative way. Ready to Transform Your Relationship? If you’re ready to stop repeating the same fights and start loving each other better, listen to this episode and consider applying for my exclusive private coaching program for couples. Spots are limited, so don’t wait! Visit www. to apply. Tune in, take notes, and start your journey towards a healthier, happier relationship today. Let's stop fighting and start loving each other better. Resources Stop Fighting! without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs: 8-Week Coaching Program for Couples: /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/31446707

10: Connecting Across Neurotypes with Bob Yamtich 05/10/2024

10: Connecting Across Neurotypes with Bob Yamtich Join us in this profound episode of Love Each Other Better as we delve into the transformative power of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) within the autism community and beyond. My guest, Bob Yamtich, a seasoned NVC teacher and former Marriage and Family Therapist who has worked extensively with the autism community, shares insights into the beauty of needs awareness and its profound impact on relationships. Bob's journey intertwines personal growth with professional experience, offering a unique perspective on the intersection of neurodiversity and communication. Bob's work coaching and teaching NVC reflects a deep commitment to fostering self-connection, creativity, and shared empowerment. In this episode, Bob reflects on his experiences working with diverse neurotypes, particularly within the autism community. He highlights the importance of needs consciousness, emphasizing that needs—universal, flexible, and inherently beautiful—are at the core of connecting across neurotypes. Bob challenges common misconceptions about empathy and flexibility within the autism community, advocating for a deeper understanding of "special needs" and how empowerment comes from understanding the difference between needs and strategies. Through this heartfelt conversation between friends/colleagues, PLUS a powerful roleplay, Bob and Ali demonstrate how connecting at the needs level cultivates empathy, mutual respect, and win-win solutions, bridging allistic and autistic perspectives. Tune in to discover practical strategies for navigating relationship dynamics, especially where neurodivergence is in the mix. Learn how embracing needs awareness fosters resilience, trust, and harmony in our most cherished relationships. Join us on this enriching journey toward deeper connection and understanding through the lens of Nonviolent Communication. Resources Bob Yamtich: -->Contact Bob through his website to receive his Self-Connection Coloring Book Feelings and Needs Lists: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) Private Coaching Program for Couples: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/31221347

09: "But NVC is so unnatural." 04/26/2024

08: "I Don't Want to Talk About it." 04/12/2024

07: Let's Talk About Sex, featuring Mary Goyer 03/29/2024

06: The Key Ingredients of an Authentic Apology 03/15/2024

06: The Key Ingredients of an Authentic Apology Welcome to Episode 6 of the Love Each Other Better podcast, where we dive deep into the complexities of relationships with compassion and understanding. Today, we're tackling a topic that's essential for anyone navigating the ups and downs of love: the art of the authentic apology. In every relationship, there are bound to be moments where we inadvertently hurt our partner, whether it's through our words or actions. But simply saying "sorry" isn't always enough to mend the rift. In fact, sometimes it can even make things worse if the apology lacks sincerity or fails to address the underlying issues. So how do we apologize in a way that truly heals and strengthens our connection with our partner? That's what we'll explore in today's episode. We'll start by delving into the concept of self-forgiveness, understanding the needs that drove our behavior, and acknowledging the impact of our actions on our partner. From there, we'll learn the key ingredients of an authentic apology, including listening empathetically to our partner's perspective, expressing genuine remorse, and offering insight into our motivations without making excuses. If you've ever struggled to find the right words to apologize to your partner, or if you've been on the receiving end of an apology that fell short, this episode is for you. Join me as I show you how to apologize in a way that fosters understanding, compassion, and ultimately, deeper connection in your relationships. And remember, if you're seeking personalized guidance and support in navigating your relationship challenges, don't hesitate to reach out. I’m here to help you and your partner love each other better. Email me at [email protected]. Resources: Private Coaching Program for Couples: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Download my free list of Universal Human Needs: Book a free 30-minute call with Ali: /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/30329758

05: What are we actually fighting about? 03/01/2024

How to Get Your Partner to Change 02/15/2024

Listening is SO Much More Than Waiting for Your Turn to Speak: Crash Course in NVC Part 3 02/02/2024

Moving Beyond Blame: Crash Course in NVC Part 2 01/25/2024

Moving Beyond Blame: Crash Course in NVC Part 2 In Episode 2 of our Crash Course on Nonviolent Communication, we delve into the transformative concept of moving beyond blame. Join me, your host, as we explore how to navigate conflicts with compassion, focusing on understanding our own needs and those of our loved ones. Today, we take a closer look at a core principle of Nonviolent Communication (NVC): every act of violence, including blame, is an attempt to meet unmet needs. Discover the power of redirecting your attention from blame to the underlying needs, transforming conflicts into opportunities for connection. I share personal insights and experiences, illustrating how NVC can be applied in real-life situations, particularly in the realm of romantic relationships. Drawing inspiration from a children's book, "Keyana Loves Her Friend," we explore the simplicity of heart-centered communication. Learn how naming and expressing vulnerable feelings can bridge the gap between conflict and connection. As we break down the mechanics of the NVC model, including the 4-step process (Observation, Feeling, Need, Request), you'll gain practical insights into expressing yourself without blame. Discover the liberating third way beyond forceful blame and silent withdrawal, and explore the potential for inner transformation and effective communication as we lay the groundwork for future episodes. Join me in this journey towards more compassionate and heart-centered connections. Tune in, reflect on your own tendencies in relationships, and explore the profound shift that occurs when we prioritize understanding needs over looking for fault. If you find this podcast valuable, please take a moment to rate and review it, helping us spread the message of love and effective communication. Thank you for being part of the Love Each Other Better community. Resources: To access the free lists of feelings and universal human needs referenced near the end of the episode, go to /episode/index/show/6bcfae60-2c45-4429-901f-b69df94c54af/id/29652553

"But I'm not violent!": Crash Course in Nonviolent Communication: Part 1 01/19/2024

Trailer 01/16/2024

Love Each Other Better

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