Stop Telling and Start Listening
I believe we can bridge the gap dividing us. I believe we don't need to cancel, avoid, or shame those we disagree with. I believe in finding ways to connect and collaborate across diverse viewpoints, discovering solutions to the complex problems before us. "Stop Telling and Start Listening" puts these beliefs in action, as we engage in powerful, insightful learning conversations, as we demonstrate how curiosity and empathy can flourish even in the face of disagreement.
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Feedback That Fuels: How to Give It and Why It Matters
04/29/2024
Feedback That Fuels: How to Give It and Why It Matters
"Can I give you some feedback?" Often, just hearing this question can set us on edge, anticipating the critical comments that typically follow. But does feedback always need to be a dreaded experience? Can it instead be a constructive, necessary, and even a positive interaction? Feedback is a nuanced art, filled with complexities we may not always consider. It involves more than just delivering our thoughts; it requires recognizing the humanity, emotions, and vulnerabilities of the person receiving our words. So, what are the real benefits of giving feedback? And perhaps more crucially, what risks do we run by holding back? In today’s episode, I'm excited to explore these questions with Joan Hibdon, a seasoned expert in effective communication. We’ll discuss how mastering the art of feedback can significantly boost your leadership qualities, strengthen your relationships, and help you manage conflicts more adeptly. Tune in and discover how transformative good feedback can be. You won’t want to miss this! About today's guest: Joan Hibdon is the principal owner and founder of providing coaching and consulting services focused on cultivating leadership excellence and creating extraordinary employee experiences that result in high-performance organizations. Aligning business strategies with human performance is the essence of what Joan’s career has been devoted to for nearly three decades. Cultivating cultures where people thrive is her passion.
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Unexpected Turns: A Conversation on Life's Surprises and Lessons
04/22/2024
Unexpected Turns: A Conversation on Life's Surprises and Lessons
Have you ever found yourself at the crossroads of change, surrounded by the unfamiliar and asking, 'What now?' Change, with all its unpredictability, often leads us to these moments—despite our best-laid plans. In today’s episode, we dive into a vibrant and enlightening conversation with Monica Von, a coach and cherished friend who specializes in navigating life's transitions. Join us as we explore profound insights into self-discovery and unveil the opportunities that lie beyond the boundaries we set for ourselves. Tune in to uncover how embracing change with Monica can unlock a world of potential.
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Adventurous Wheels: Cycling for Education in South Africa
03/25/2024
Adventurous Wheels: Cycling for Education in South Africa
Are you ready to dive into an epic tale of resilience and adventure? Picture yourself conquering the rugged terrain of one of the world’s toughest gravel rides, pedaling over a hundred miles under the blanket of night, deep in the heart of South Africa. It's not just a ride; it's a testament to passion, adventure, and unwavering dedication. Join me on the latest episode of our podcast as I sit down with the remarkable Andre Brandmuller. Together, we delve into the extraordinary story behind his tireless commitment to a cause that ignites his soul: the creation of a school to provide education to underprivileged and overlooked children in South Africa. But our conversation goes beyond the adrenaline-fueled bike ride; it peels back the layers to reveal the raw challenges and triumphs that shape Andre's noble quest. Get ready to be inspired as we uncover the fundamental hurdles he confronts in his mission to nurture and expand this educational sanctuary amidst the constraints of limited resources. Tune in now for a journey that will leave you inspired, enlightened, and ready to make a difference!
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Embracing the Adventure
03/18/2024
Embracing the Adventure
Have you ever eagerly committed to an event, only to feel a wave of dread as the date draws near? Yeah, me too. But guess what? There's a learning opportunity associated with that emotion, and today, we're diving deep into it. Join me on my own voyage of self-discovery as I prepare for an exhilarating adventure, all while wrestling with the unique challenges associated with it. From battling nerves to releasing control to embracing the unknown, this is my ongoing story of growth and transformation. Discover how I navigate uncertainty, seek opportunity in the unknown, and embrace an adventure for what it will be, not for what I expect or want it to be. Real adventures begin when you step outside your comfort zone. This is part one of my story about an adventure which is outside my comfort zone. Start here and stay tuned for the rest of the stories, the lessons, and the unexpected twists that await me on my latest adventure. Are you in?
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Empowering Parenthood: Navigating today's challenges
03/12/2024
Empowering Parenthood: Navigating today's challenges
Parenting is a profound journey, filled with both joy and challenges. From nurturing to guiding, parents shoulder the responsibility of shaping another human being's life. However, in today's dynamic world, staying informed and connected as a parent is more crucial than ever. In our latest episode, I sit down with Tessa Milne to delve into the myriad challenges facing parents and children in schools and communities. We explore topics ranging from bullying, suicide, and substance abuse to the administrative and educational hurdles in our schools, shedding light on the importance of proactive engagement and access to resources. Tessa's passion for community education shines through as she shares insights on how parents can stay informed and involved in addressing these challenges. This conversation isn't about instilling fear or promoting isolation, but rather about fostering awareness and empowerment among parents. Join us for a thought-provoking discussion on the evolving landscape of parenting and the invaluable role of education and engagement in helping to navigate it.
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Rising Above Chaos: Turning Tough Weeks into Triumphs
02/26/2024
Rising Above Chaos: Turning Tough Weeks into Triumphs
Do you ever feel like life has thrown you into a cycle where everything seems to go wrong, despite your best efforts to keep things under control? In this week's podcast, I delve into one of those challenging weeks in my life, where it felt like everything was falling apart. But, what followed in the subsequent week was a revelation—a series of activities that helped me realize the abundance of resources available to navigate through chaos. Join me on this journey as I share the ups and downs of that week, and invite you to explore the tools at your disposal that you may not be aware of. Together, we'll uncover strategies to guide you through your personal journey and the challenges that come with it. In this episode, you'll discover practical insights gleaned from my own experience, along with actionable tips to help you find strength and resilience in adversity. By sharing candid anecdotes and lessons learned, I aim to foster a deeper connection with you, my listeners, and provide a beacon of hope during tough times. So, if you've ever felt overwhelmed by life's curveballs, this podcast is for you. Tune in as we explore how to turn crappy weeks into catalysts for growth, and empower ourselves to emerge stronger on the other side. Join me for this enlightening conversation, and let's navigate through the chaos together.
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Each painting has a story
02/19/2024
Each painting has a story
Who doesn't appreciate a captivating story? Whenever someone asks about my preferences in books or movies, my response is consistently, "I love a good story, well told." In today's podcast episode, we delve into the intersection of art, storytelling, and personal transformation. I'm thrilled to welcome our guest, Mark Jamnik, as he shares his remarkable journey. Mark's narrative unfolds from his attachment to the tangible and comfortable to a profound appreciation for exploration, leading him to the intangible beauty found in art—a journey that transcends mere sight. Join us as we explore Mark's evolution and his groundbreaking work with Subliminal Story Art. Prepare for an enlightening and motivating conversation that delves into the transformative power of art and narrative. Tune in for an episode that promises to spark inspiration and ignite your passion for adventure, storytelling, and creativity. More about Mark: Mark Jamnik creates an interactive approach to abstract art, called Subliminal Story Art. This style of art connects below the threshold of consciousness, inspired by accounts of everyday life inspired by community and expressed through the artist’s interpretation. His work is shown in galleries, retail establishments, corporate offices, coffee shops and he teaches a monthly “Paint With The Artist” series in Bend, OR. In 2023, he published “” to invite readers to feed their starving “inner” artist and connect back to creativity. Learn more about this art by visiting: Featured articles of interest referenced in our conversation:
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At Peace with Who You Are, Where You Are
02/12/2024
At Peace with Who You Are, Where You Are
Have you ever encountered someone whose presence exudes a unique and captivating energy? It's not boastful or flashy, but rather a quiet confidence that draws others in. In today's episode, we're joined by , a remarkable individual with a captivating blend of humility and confidence. From the moment I met him, I was struck by his ability to navigate life with a sense of inner peace and authenticity. His perspective on the world, his genuine connection with others, and his commitment to self-discovery are truly inspiring. While this podcast is centered around the art of listening, it's also about using listening as a tool for communication and connection. Join Jonathan and me as we delve into his journey through life, exploring the motivations, inspirations, and guiding principles that shapes his path. Prepare for an enlightening and thought-provoking conversation that promises to leave you with valuable insights and a renewed appreciation for the power of self-awareness and acceptance.
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The point of Our Life's Journey
02/07/2024
The point of Our Life's Journey
Join me on the latest episode of 'Stop Telling and Start Listening' as I delve into the transformative power of a chance encounter with the lyrics of a Rush song. The stirring words sparked a profound reflection on the essence of life's journey, revealing the often-missed truth: 'the point of the journey is not to arrive, anything can happen.' Tune in as host, David Cooke shares his personal journey of confronting the pressures of modern living and invites listeners to embrace the beauty found in perpetual growth, even at the age of sixty-seven. Tune in now to embark on this introspective voyage and discover the wisdom that awaits.
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Unlocking Potential: How Language Shapes Our Mindset
01/30/2024
Unlocking Potential: How Language Shapes Our Mindset
Are you ready to transform the way you think and tackle challenges? Join me on the latest episode of “Stop Telling and Start Listening”titled "Unlocking Potential: How Language Shapes Our Mindset." In this eye-opening episode, we delve into the profound impact of the questions we ask ourselves. Discover why shifting from "Why isn’t this working?" to "How can I make this work?" can lead to groundbreaking changes in your personal and professional life. The psychology behind the questions we ask ourselves. How to reframe frame your internal dialogue for creativity and positivity. Practical strategies to cultivate an opportunity mindset. Insightful tips from [Your Name]'s extensive experience as a business advisor. A thought-provoking exercise that will instantly demonstrate the power of positive questioning. Feel the shift in real-time! Engage with us! Share your thoughts and experiences using the hashtag #stoptellingandstartlistening. Let's create a community of forward-thinkers.
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Echoes of Choices: Barry Adkins and Kevin’s Lasting Legacy
01/22/2024
Echoes of Choices: Barry Adkins and Kevin’s Lasting Legacy
Imagine a tranquil Sunday morning, the serenity of your home enveloped in the warmth of a morning coffee. The light-hearted banter with your spouse is gently interrupted by an unexpected knock at the door. As you welcome two local police officers, they present a haunting artifact – your son’s driver’s license. In that solemn moment, they deliver the heart-wrenching news: your son has tragically passed away from alcohol poisoning. This isn't a fictional narrative; it's the harrowing reality my guest, Barry Adkins, faced – a poignant journey he eloquently narrates in his book, “Kevin’s Last Walk”. Barry's story, shared in numerous high schools nationwide, isn’t just a cautionary tale about the dangers of drinking. It's a powerful testament to the weight of our choices and their far-reaching consequences. In this episode, I sit down with Barry to delve into his profound commitment to sharing Kevin’s story. It's a conversation that's not only about grief and loss but also about the resilience of the human spirit and the ability to transform personal tragedy into a beacon of hope and learning for others. Barry’s experiences have not only inspired and educated but have profoundly changed lives. Join us as we explore the depth of Barry’s journey, and discover how active listening, empathy, and sharing can lead to healing, understanding, and impactful change. About Barry Adkins: Barry Adkins has shared with tens of thousands of people the dangers of binge drinking, and his experience of losing his 18 year old son, Kevin, to alcohol poisoning. The day that was supposed to mark the beginning of Kevin’s adult life, turned out to be his last, and Barry’s message is both a powerful inspiration and a warning about the consequences of even one night of binge drinking.. Barry’s compelling presentation has saved countless lives and is fulfilling his dream to “make something very good” come from his son’s death. In 2007, Barry set out on an epic 1400 mile journey, and walked from Arizona to Montana with his son’s ashes in his backpack. Social media links:
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Critical Race Theory: An uncomfortable reality or another woke agenda
01/15/2024
Critical Race Theory: An uncomfortable reality or another woke agenda
Racism: a word that sparks debates, discomfort, and introspection. But, how often do we confront its complexities head-on? In our next episode, I sit down with Jamel Donnor, an esteemed college professor and scholar, to delve into the heart of this challenging topic. With his rich experience in teaching and discussing race, Professor Donnor offers a unique perspective that goes beyond the headlines. We're not just talking about racism - we're exploring how it's taught, discussed, and understood in our society. Is Critical Race Theory an essential tool for understanding, or a divisive topic in 'woke' culture? Join us for an enlightening conversation that promises to be as informative as it is thought-provoking. Tune in, join the dialogue, and let's explore these questions together. About Professor Jamel Donnor: Jamel K. Donnor, Ph.D. is a socio-legal scholar in the School of Education with faculty affiliations in Arts & Sciences and William & Mary’s Law School. His primary area of research examines race and its relationship to American law and educational institutions—centering on legal actors, ideas, and the life opportunities of Black people in the United States. His areas of expertise include: race and inequality in American education systems, intercollegiate athletics, American conservativism, the conservative legal movement, education law and policy, and intercollegiate athletics. Social media links: /
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Finding the Right Match: Communication Keys in Business and Romance
01/08/2024
Finding the Right Match: Communication Keys in Business and Romance
In our fast-paced lives, we're all juggling tasks and responsibilities. Whether it's work, personal commitments, or the never-ending attempt to balance it all, time always seems to be in short supply. Is technology the ultimate solution? Not necessarily. This complexity extends into the realms of dating, hiring, and recruiting. Here, the challenge isn't just about being busy; it's about mastering the art of connection. Many struggle with the required skills, patience, and time to navigate these intricate processes effectively. In the upcoming episode of “Stop Telling and Start Listening,” I delve into an enlightening conversation with seasoned matchmaker Andrea LaRosa (). In this episode we explore the intricate world of dating, focusing on how Andrea's methods for fostering connections align with the principles of effective, respectful, and attentive communication. Join us as we uncover surprising parallels between forming successful relationships in both the romantic sphere and the broader contexts of business and community. Discover insights that could revolutionize your approach to building meaningful connections, regardless of the setting.
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Navigating New Beginnings: Reflection, Vision, and Change
01/01/2024
Navigating New Beginnings: Reflection, Vision, and Change
As we usher in another year, our approach to this fresh chapter can vary significantly. While many embrace the tradition of New Year’s resolutions, others prefer a continuous journey, implementing plans without the symbolic restart of January 1st. For these individuals, there's nothing magical about the calendar flipping; they're already in the midst of enacting life changes, having spent time reflecting and planning. In today's episode, we welcome Kate Turner, a coach for driven professionals. She specializes in helping them carve out the necessary space to pursue what truly matters, while encouraging them to shed the overwhelming burden of 'doing it all.' This allows them to fully embrace and enjoy the life they've always wanted. Join Kate and me as we delve into the art of reflection, the power of visioning, and the dynamics of change. Listen in as Kate shares her unique approach, guiding her clients to discover their own paths to fulfillment. This conversation promises to be a thought-provoking exploration of creating the space needed to identify and achieve the life we aspire to. It's not just about the destination but also the journey and the mindset needed to embark on it. Kate’s contact information:
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Talking Politics Beyond Creative Sound Bites and Partisan Noise
12/04/2023
Talking Politics Beyond Creative Sound Bites and Partisan Noise
In a world filled with manipulated media sound bites and elusive politician responses, I'm sure many of us can relate to the frustration.
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Reacting vs. Responding: Building Bridges, Not Barriers
11/13/2023
Reacting vs. Responding: Building Bridges, Not Barriers
Have you ever found yourself caught in the whirlwind of a hasty reaction, only to regret it later? Or perhaps, you've hastily drawn conclusions, realizing afterward that you lacked the full information needed for a wiser decision? Don't worry; we've all been there. In this upcoming episode of Stop Telling and Start Listening airing on Monday, November 13th at 11AM PT and 2PM ET on Voice America, we're diving deep into the captivating world of reactive versus responsive behaviors. Join us as we unravel the profound impact these two approaches can have on the outcomes we experience in life. Discover how these seemingly simple words can lead to vastly different results and how you can steer clear of those outcomes that haunt us with regret. We'll not only explore how to recognize these situations but also provide you with the actionable steps needed to transform or redefine future outcomes. In a world where tensions run high, this discussion promises to be your compass for improving relationships and decision-making, reducing the stress and tension in your life, and ultimately steering clear of those regrettable moments that linger in our memories. Mark your calendar and join me for this enlightening conversation, because on Monday, November 13th, we're set to embark on another enlightening journey on Voice America. Don't miss it!
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Am I Doing Enough? Exploring Your Inner Drive
11/06/2023
Am I Doing Enough? Exploring Your Inner Drive
Have you ever found yourself intensely focused on a goal or achievement, only to question if you're truly doing everything you can to reach it? Or perhaps you've looked at someone else's success and wondered what secret actions they're taking that you're missing out on. In the upcoming episode of 'Stop Telling and Start Listening,' join hosts ShaRon Rea and me as we delve into the driving forces that fuel our ambitions. We'll investigate the emotions that propel us forward and examine whether they are healthy, reasonable, or truly inspiring. This episode will be a deep dive into the world of success, seeking approval, craving affirmation, yearning for recognition, and battling fears. We'll explore how these diverse drivers can either empower or hinder our performance, and how they can either fill our lives with joy or steal it away. Tune in for an insightful conversation that will help you better understand your inner motivations and the impact they have on your journey towards success.
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Speaking Out Against Stigma: A Tribute to Triumph over Trauma
10/30/2023
Speaking Out Against Stigma: A Tribute to Triumph over Trauma
Join me on the next episode of “Stop Telling and Start Listening” for an inspiring conversation with Tomay Douglas, a trauma survivor and fierce advocate for survivors, as she challenges harmful narratives.
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Growth Beyond the Trauma: An inspiring transformational journey
10/23/2023
Growth Beyond the Trauma: An inspiring transformational journey
Join us on an inspiring episode of “Stop Telling and Start Listening” as we welcome a very special guest, Keelin Washington.
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Amplifying Unheard Voices: Messages of Hope from Dark Origins
10/16/2023
Amplifying Unheard Voices: Messages of Hope from Dark Origins
On the next episode of "Stop Telling and Start Listening" we will be shedding light on the power of storytelling and amplifying voices often unheard.
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Fear: An Unhealthy Distraction to an Inspired Life
10/09/2023
Fear: An Unhealthy Distraction to an Inspired Life
Are you tired of fear holding you back from the life you've always dreamed of? Good news! My next radio show episode, Fear: An Unhealthy Distraction to an Inspired Life, will transform the way you view fear and experience its impact on your journey to fulfillment. Join ShaRon Rea and me as we embark on a profound journey into the depths of fear's influence in our lives. Through our candid discussion, personal experiences, and insightful comments, we'll explore the psychology of fear, shining a light on how it can hinder our productivity, steal our dreams, and stand between us and the life we truly desire. In this episode, you'll discover practical strategies and empowering insights that will help you not only overcome fear but also turn it into a powerful force for inspiration, purpose, and meaning. Don't miss out on this transformative podcast, airing live on Monday, October 9 at 11AM PT and 2PM ET. It's time to conquer your fears and start living the life you've always imagined!
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Exploring Truths, Beliefs, and Subjective Realities
11/27/2023
Exploring Truths, Beliefs, and Subjective Realities
In today's polarized and argumentative climate, many people often get truth and belief confused. The confusion, combined with a determination to win the argument, only increases the frustration in an intense "discussion.
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Resonating Voices: Stopping the Silence
09/25/2023
Resonating Voices: Stopping the Silence
It's incredibly important to recognize that trauma is indeed a deeply personal experience. What may be traumatic for one person might not be the same for another.
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Living your values: Unpacking the power of personal principles
09/18/2023
Living your values: Unpacking the power of personal principles
Values are principles or beliefs that guide our behavior and decision-making.
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Habit forming - finding and managing your time
09/11/2023
Habit forming - finding and managing your time
Time is a commodity - you either invest it or you use it.
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Sonic Intricacy: Exploring the Layers of Listening
08/28/2023
Sonic Intricacy: Exploring the Layers of Listening
While I have never really thought about this before, there are multiple ways to listen.
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The Four Pillars of Personal Leadership
08/21/2023
The Four Pillars of Personal Leadership
Join host David Cooke for a discussion on personal leadership and the four pillars or principles behind effective personal leadership.
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The Intellectual Mind and Listening Tension
08/14/2023
The Intellectual Mind and Listening Tension
When intellectuals believe they are right, it's often due to their confidence in the thoroughness of their analysis, research, and understanding of a subject.
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Behind the Badge: The other story
08/07/2023
Behind the Badge: The other story
Behind the Badge: The other story
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Listening and Citizenship
07/31/2023
Listening and Citizenship
Democracy or Republic – what is the United States? What does that really mean anyway? How important is the distinction for us, as citizens? What are our rights AND responsibilities as citizens? No, this is not a civics class, or a discussion on government. My guest, ShaRon Rea and I are going to engage in a discussion about citizenship and what that means in terms of rights, responsibilities, and freedoms. When so many of us are engaged in divisive conversations about these buzzwords we raise the questions: 1. What obligations to we have as citizens of this country to our fellow citizens? 2. How do we define the actions and behaviors relating to responsible citizenship? 3. If we listen, learn, and understand the views of others, what are the possibilities for this country and we battle each other over legal, moral, value and belief related issues? Even though we are not supposed to talk about religion and politics, ShaRon and I know how to do this and have a healthy outcome? Want to hear how its done, Join us…
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