Help! My Spouse Can’t Leave Work at Work

In today’s episode, we explore how constant connectivity and work stress can quietly invade our marriages. When work becomes all-consuming, it can turn into an idol and create emotional distance between spouses. We discuss why learning to leave work at work is a spiritual discipline and how true support means walking alongside your spouse, not having all the answers. You’ll hear practical wisdom on setting boundaries together, sharing burdens, and seeking counsel early. Marriage is about more than success—it’s about not facing struggles alone.

 

Episode Highlights: 

• Technology has blurred our boundaries between work and home. 
• Learning to leave work at work is a spiritual discipline.
• Being supportive doesn’t mean you have to all the answers- it means you’re walking alongside your spouse.
• The pace of modern culture doesn’t allow proper mental closure.

 

Quotes from Today’s Episodes:

• A lot of people in the workplace feel the expectation to be available 24/7/365
• Work problems begin to feel like personal problems- like they need immediate attention.
• Our ultimate identity is not in our professional performance. 
• Work stress can be like an invisible third person in your marriage.
• When work becomes all consuming it shifts into an idol.
• Our marriages are about something bigger than career success.
• Marriage is about sharing burdens- not just the good stuff. 
• Trying to handle stress alone creates distance in the marriage.
• There’s something spiritually significant about not facing struggles alone. 
• The most effective boundaries are the ones you create together.
• They need to know your concern comes from a place of care not criticism.
• The earlier you involve wise counsel the more effectively you can address issues before they become entrenched patterns. 

Questions for Discussion:

• Do you currently have any transitional rituals in place? If not, what rituals can the two of you agree to implement? 
• Do you currently implement any device free times/ zones?
• Are you using technology to connect with your spouse in healthy ways? (encouraging text, midday phone call)

 

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