Raising Barbara Jean and Wanda

"Raising Barbara Jean and Wanda" is a captivating and wildly entertaining podcast brought to you by TikTok sensations, Kila Carr and Ashley Lamar. Known for their viral stories, "My Lost and Found Sisters" and "Trailer Park Chronicles," Kila and Ashley have joined forces to bring you a unique podcast experience that's as heartwarming as it is hilarious. The podcast revolves around their unconventional upbringings under the care of their mothers, Barbara Jean and Wanda. Tune in as they delve into a world of hilarious anecdotes, tear-jerking moments, startling revelations, and tales so zany they could only be true. While their mothers' parenting styles may have been far from traditional, the life lessons, love, and resilience they instilled are a testament to their unique brands of motherhood. Kila and Ashley are passionate about sharing stories of those who have discovered family through DNA tests and offering support to those raising children in challenging circumstances. Their stories are a roller-coaster of emotions, peppered with raw honesty and infectious humor, which makes for a podcast experience unlike any other. But remember, only Kila and Ashley are allowed to talk about their mommas like this! Buckle up and get ready for a wild ride as these two ladies share their world with you. Whether you're looking for a good laugh, a cathartic cry, or a bit of unconventional wisdom, "Raising Barbara Jean and Wanda" delivers. Launching on Mother's Day, it's a testament to the fact that there's no one-size-fits-all when it comes to parenting, and that's perfectly okay. After all, it's the wild, crazy, and heartwarming stories that make a family, a family.

The Court System Is A Joke: A True Crime Rant 08/13/2026

The Court System Is A Joke: A True Crime Rant Holly Bobo's retrial had us flip on Zach Adams, plus ADHD time, late-mom chaos, and the night Hagan got stabbed. We open on why last week never got published (turns out we shared too much and it was nobody's business), then get into the everyday hard stuff: CC putting her hands on her back her first day of big-school kindergarten, a first grader looking up like "all right, tell me" while he sounds out letters, firing a client over Ashley being late and her coming right back because she likes her haircut, and showing up 25 minutes late because the cat that never wants to be held finally wanted to be held. Then we get into the Holly Bobo retrial. We watched the whole thing on Case in Trial, went in 100% sure Zach Adams did it, and came out unsure. We walk through the $5 in gas, the ATM footage, the Sonic run, and the 911 call that puts him across town at the same time every officer is already out looking for Holly. Who this is for: moms raising little ones and grown ones at the same time, chronically late people who run on "now and not now," and true crime fans who want a case argued out in plain talk, not big legal words. What you'll get out of it: Our full breakdown of the Holly Bobo retrial and the receipts that never made the first trial Why "you either did it or you didn't" is not how the court system actually works The plea-deal trap: 20 years and live, or trial and the death penalty How we talk to our kids about bullies without telling them to be scared. FAQs this episode answers: 1. What is the Holly Bobo retrial about, and why did Zach Adams get a hearing? Holly Bobo was a nursing student who went missing around 2011, Zach Adams got convicted, and now about 15 years later a local attorney named Douglas is fighting to get him a retrial over evidence that never made the first trial. 2. What evidence was left out of the original Holly Bobo trial? Time-stamped receipts and footage, the $5 in gas, the ATM video, the Sonic run, and a 911 call, all put him across town while every officer was already out looking for Holly, but the ATM video got mislabeled "BP footage" and never got entered. 3. What is the only physical evidence tying Zach Adams to Holly Bobo? It's a single chip of Cajun Shrimp OPI nail polish found in his couch cushions, with no DNA on it, and half the county owned that color back in 2005. 4. Why do so many innocent people take plea deals? Because when you're innocent but broke, taking 20 years and living beats rolling the dice at trial and risking the death penalty with a defense attorney you can't afford. 5. How do you explain bullies to a kid without making them scared? We tell them hurt people hurt people, so instead of being scared you can almost feel sorry for a bully and ask them "who hurt you?" If you have ever sat down 100% sure somebody did it and changed your mind by the end, hit play and argue it out with us. /episode/index/show/barbarajeanandwanda/id/42413175

"Being a Child of an Addict Is Your Superpower" — Breaking the Cycle with Stacee Reed (NACoA) 07/23/2026

"Being a Child of an Addict Is Your Superpower" — Breaking the Cycle with Stacee Reed (NACoA) Ashley is flying solo this week (Kila's on vacation, back next week!) and this one hits close to home. She sits down with Stacee Reed, Director of Innovation at the National Association for Children of Addiction (NACoA), for an honest, funny, and deeply personal conversation about what addiction does to the kids in the room — and how we break the cycle for good. As a child of an addict herself — dad sober 31 years and running a recovery house, a brother still in active addiction, and two babies she and her husband recently adopted out of the system — Ashley brings lived experience to Stacy's 15 years in the field. Together they unpack the shame, the science, and the small things that actually help. In this episode: - Why addiction is a disease, not a choice — "nobody wakes up and says I'm going to be a crappy parent today" - The Seven C's every kid needs to hear: you didn't cause it, can't cure it, can't control it - The casserole problem: why we bring meals for cancer but gossip for addiction - Person-first language, and how to be a safe adult a kid can talk to - The ACE study — how adverse childhood experiences raise the odds, and why they're not your destiny - Family roles (the hero, the clown, the perfectionist) and carrying them into adulthood - Ashley's raw take on the foster/DCS system and the resources families never get - Why first responders and teachers need training to see the children at the scene "We don't shame people for getting cancer, but we do shame people for being an addict. It's not a moral failing — it's a disease." If you grew up around addiction, love someone who did, or work with kids who do — this one's for you. You're not alone, and it was never your fault. 📌 Resources: National Association for Children of Addiction — free parent, caregiver, and children's toolkits, the Children's Program Kit, and the Seven C's at nacoa.org. Family support through Al-Anon. September is Recovery Month. 🎙️ Raising Barbara Jean & Wanda is part of the Spread The Positive Network — new episodes weekly. Like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs to hear it. /episode/index/show/barbarajeanandwanda/id/42196870

ChatGPT Read Us Like a Book | Willie's, Big Backs & Fat Little Legs 07/09/2026

Cotton Candy Pickles & a Snake at the Swimming Hole 06/25/2026

A "Willie" Good Episode 06/18/2026

Bullies Ain't Sh*t, Concert Drama, & "Snitching" 06/11/2026

Three Years of Crazy: Family Karen's. ADHD Time, & CBD Disasters 05/28/2026

Delta 8, Drug-Induced Psychosis & a Wheelchair Bidding Spree 05/14/2026

3% Chance, 10 Years of Waiting & a Miracle Baby | Ashley Talks with Kay McNabb 04/16/2026

Introducing Hood Therapist! Real-Life Advice, Easter Memories & a Sneak Peek at Ashley’s New Book 04/02/2026

We're Back! Danae Hayes at the Ryman, Hollywood Lizard People & Cassie's Going Away Party 03/27/2026

Healing Childhood Trauma, Hot Mess Life Updates & Our Usual Shenanigans 03/12/2026

6-Year “Sisterversary” with Dixie 02/12/2026

6-Year “Sisterversary” with Dixie In this special episode of Raising Barbara Jean & Wanda, Kila and Ashley are celebrating something BIG — the 6-year anniversary of Kila and her sister Dixie finding each other. 🥹💛 It’s their “sisterversary”, and the vibes are emotional, hilarious, and very on-brand. Dixie joins the show as they look back on: 💌 How they first connected and the day Dixie found Kila 🗓️ Why it feels like it’s been both a lifetime and “only three years” 💬 How quickly “strangers” became family, group chats, inside jokes, and all Of course, it wouldn’t be an RBJ&W episode without some chaos and side quests: 🚐 Dixie’s RV Life – moving out of the house and into the RV, adjusting with two big dogs, and figuring out what “home” looks like now 🌪️ Storm Panic & Power Outages – Kila prepping for the worst with firewood and backup plans, realizing she actually has gas heat, and talking about folks who went 11 days without power 💇‍♀️ Julie’s Hair vs Todd’s Chick-fil-A – the ongoing saga of poor Julie not getting her hair colored while Todd is out here living his best life eating Chick-fil-A weekly 🥴 “Do you need a kidney or something?” – when Dixie suddenly wants to come stay with them for a month, the girls jokingly question her motives in true sister fashion Underneath all the laughter and nonsense is something really beautiful: This episode is about chosen family, late-in-life siblings, and what it means when someone goes from a stranger… to “my people” in just a few years. If you love: Real-life reunion stories Sister banter Southern chaos and storytelling Tangents about weather, RVs, hair, food, and everything in between …you’re gonna love this one. 🎧 Listen now on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share—especially with someone who’s ever dreamed of finding missing pieces of their family. /episode/index/show/barbarajeanandwanda/id/40082485

Caught in the Con Part 4: Daniel Martin Warrants, New Victims w/ Jessica Reynolds & Jason Bennett 01/22/2026

Caught in the Con Part 4: Daniel Martin Warrants, New Victims w/ Jessica Reynolds & Jason Bennett The Daniel Martin saga just keeps getting wilder. In this latest episode of Raising Barbara Jean & Wanda, Kila and Ashley are joined once again by Jessica Reynolds and Jason Bennett for another jaw-dropping update on one of Middle Tennessee’s most notorious con men. Jessica — who’s now taken her story to the news — walks everyone through the latest developments, while Jason helps break down the legal side of this ever-growing mess. From civil judgments to criminal warrants, this episode is packed with details that sound like a movie… but sadly, it’s all real. Here’s what they get into: 🧾 Million-Dollar Judgment & Prior Victims They revisit one of Daniel’s earlier victims — a woman who invested around $300,000 and won a $1.3 million judgment against him for fraud, theft, and emotional damage. Even though she never saw the money, that judgment proved what he was doing long before Jessica’s story began. 🏕️ The Camper, the Harley & the Lies Jessica shares more about how Daniel moved her and her kids into a camper she later learned wasn’t even his. On top of that, there’s the Harley he swore he was making payments on — right up until someone knocked on Jessica’s door looking for it. She’s got ring camera footage of the guy coming to repossess it, and it’s just one small piece of a much bigger scam trail. ⚖️ Warrants, Court Dates & Extradition Talk Jason breaks down: How multiple counties and states (including McMinnville, Shelbyville, and Kentucky) are now involved The difference between civil judgments, arrest warrants, and bench warrants How and why law enforcement sometimes can’t find someone who keeps moving and using different addresses Why it’s so important that every victim files a report, even if they don’t think anything will happen They talk about how at one point, law enforcement literally couldn’t find him to serve him, and how he finally got picked up coming back through customs in Miami after a Mexico trip. 💔 More Women, More States, Same Pattern Jessica shares that she is STILL getting messages from women across multiple states — Tennessee, Kentucky, and beyond — who are dealing with the same man, the same lies, and the same financial and emotional damage. They talk about: How he isolates women How he love bombs, lies, and then drains everything Why so many women feel embarrassed or ashamed and don’t want to come forward And most importantly, they stress this: IT. IS. NOT. YOUR. FAULT. 💬 A Message to Anyone Affected This episode isn’t just about the drama — it’s about helping people: Encouraging victims to document everything File police reports, small claims, or civil suits where possible Understand that even if they never see the money, having paper trails and records can stop people like this from hurting more people As always, Kila and Ashley bring their signature mix of humor, outrage, and heart, reacting in real time to some of Jason and Jessica’s latest updates and stories. If you’ve been following the Daniel Martin story, are into true crime meets real life, or just want to hear how women are standing up, speaking out, and trying to stop a serial conman — this episode is a must-listen. 🎧 Listen on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms. 👉 Please share this episode, especially if you’re in Middle Tennessee or know someone who might have crossed paths with Daniel Martin. The more eyes and ears on this, the better chance there is of getting justice for everyone he’s hurt. /episode/index/show/barbarajeanandwanda/id/39819470

Paranormal TikTok & Daniel Martin Warrants: Spirit Boxes, Book Talk & Calling Out a Con Man 01/15/2026

Paranormal TikTok & Daniel Martin Warrants: Spirit Boxes, Book Talk & Calling Out a Con Man On this episode of Raising Barbara Jean & Wanda, Ashley and Kila are back with a mix of true crime chaos, personal growth, and their signature unfiltered storytelling. First up: 🕵️‍♀️ The Latest on Daniel Martin If you’ve been following the Daniel Martin saga, you know this dude is a full-blown con man with a trail of wreckage behind him. The ladies dig into: What they’ve found digging through public records How arrest warrants generally don’t expire and can remain active indefinitely The absolutely ridiculous claim he made involving Jerry Jones (yes, the Dallas Cowboys’ Jerry Jones) Why they’re honestly surprised Jerry hasn’t hit him with a defamation of character lawsuit They also talk about how Jessica is still getting messages from people all over the place who’ve crossed paths with Daniel, and how truly insane and disturbing the pattern is. Then the episode takes a more personal and powerful turn: 📖 Ashley Is Writing Her Memoir Ashley opens up about starting to write her own story—not just about Daniel, but about her life, everything she’s been through, and the person she’s become through it all. She shares: How it feels to finally put her life on paper Why her first draft felt like a “4.7 out of 10” The balance between being honest, being vulnerable, and not sugarcoating anything The healing (and heaviness) that comes with revisiting old wounds and turning them into something meaningful Throughout the episode, Kila and Ashley also touch on: The importance of sticking to facts when talking about real people and real situations Advice from their lawyer on how to protect themselves while still telling the truth Using humor, honesty, and community to work through trauma And because it wouldn’t be Raising Barbara Jean & Wanda without it, you’ll also get: Jail and courtroom side stories Dark humor in all the right (and wrong) places The ongoing reminder: 👉 “We can talk shit about our mammas, but nobody else can.” If you’re into real-life scam stories, women taking their power back, and raw, hilarious, honest conversation, this episode is absolutely for you. 🎧 Listen now on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share—especially with someone who’s ever said, “One day I’m gonna write a book about all this…” and meant it. /episode/index/show/barbarajeanandwanda/id/39748825

We Survived the Holidays and Are Ready for 2026 01/08/2026

We Survived the Holidays and Are Ready for 2026 Kila and Ashley are BACK for the first Raising Barbara Jean & Wanda episode of 2026, and of course it’s pure holiday-debrief chaos in the best way. 🎙️✨ This episode is a hilarious, real, and super relatable recap of: 🎄 Christmas & Holiday Madness The ladies catch up on how Christmas really went down— • One of the kids officially moved into her first apartment (hello adulting 👏) • Christmas gifts turned into crockpots, cleaning supplies, and stuff that screams: “I’m grown now” • Stockings, spending, and wondering if they’re nailing it as moms or totally winging it 🧝‍♂️ Elf on the Shelf Drama They go all in on: • Why Elf on the Shelf is a personal attack on moms • How nobody warned them they needed to shove wire inside the elves to make them pose • Last-minute elf hacks like Velcro hands and pure desperation If you’ve ever forgotten to move the elf until 6am, this one’s for you. 🏰 Disney vs Universal & The Big Trip Reveal The kids’ big Christmas surprise? A trip to Disney and/or Universal. Kila and Ashley break down: • Universal vs Disney – which is better for teens, big kids, and chaos • The pressure of giving your kids “magical memories” while your bank account is screaming • How different it feels raising kids now vs growing up on layaway and one big tree gift 💸 “Y’all Are Rich” – When Kids See Your Life Differently The funniest moment? A little cousin comes over, sees the pool, stairs, and TVs and declares: “I want to live here. Y’all are RICH.” Meanwhile, Kila and Ashley are like, “We’re just tired and on payment plans.” They talk about: • How kids define being “rich” • The weird guilt of doing better than how you grew up • Remembering that what feels normal now would’ve felt like luxury back then 🧹 Officially Old & Loving It They also confess their favorite gifts this year were: • A fancy green carpet shampooer • A heat gun • And a pink mini fridge If cleaning gadgets and home stuff excite you more than jewelry at this point—you’re in the right place. This episode is funny, honest, and the perfect New Year kickoff for anyone trying to juggle kids, money, expectations, and a little bit of magic (with a lot of sarcasm). 🎧 Listen now on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share with a friend who’s ever been called “rich” by a kid while checking their bank app in panic. 💀 /episode/index/show/barbarajeanandwanda/id/39665085

Delilah, Tupac, TikTok Moms & Cassie’s Wedding Recap 11/20/2025

Delilah, Tupac, TikTok Moms & Cassie’s Wedding Recap On this episode of Raising Barbara Jean & Wanda, Kila and Ashley are in full storytelling mode with an episode that’s equal parts hilarious, nostalgic, disgusting (you’ll see 👀), and downright sweet. They kick things off talking about Delilah – yes, the late-night radio legend – and how her voice was the emotional soundtrack of the 90s. That memory throws them straight back into childhood: long car rides, fireworks on bridges, “crying, loving, or leaving” on 95.5, and even remembering exactly where they were the day Tupac died. It’s a deep dive into those oddly specific core memories that never leave you. From there, the conversation hits all over: • 🎙️ Delilah, radio nights & 90s nostalgia – calling in for love advice, listening to strangers air out their relationships, and wondering how in the world she just went viral on TikTok now. • 🧠 Mom guilt & judgment – talking about how quick people are to judge moms (especially online), from smoking to how they parent, while never offering real help or support. • 📱 TikTok creators vs real-life memories – unpacking the weirdness of people filming everything for content instead of just living in the moment, and the pressure it puts on “regular” moms who are just trying to survive the day. • 🤢 The most disgusting bus story ever told – featuring the greenest, longest booger and a man on the verge of throwing up. If you’ve got a weak stomach, consider this your warning… but also, it’s absolutely hilarious. • 👑 Pageant life & little girl wins – a sweet story about helping a little girl get ready for a competition, doing her hair and makeup, nerves and all—and her priceless reaction to winning “two of them stick things and some flowers” (aka TROPHIES). • 💒 Cassie’s wedding chaos – Kila’s sister Cassie is officially a married woman, and the recap does not disappoint. From getting ready at the event space, doing hair and makeup, hyping Cassie up like the queen she is, to all the emotional, funny, and chaotic moments only a family wedding can bring—this segment is pure gold. They close things out with some holiday talk—being grateful, dealing with family, and of course the great debate: stuffing vs dressing (spoiler: it’s dressing around here 🦃). If you love: • Southern storytelling • Real talk about motherhood & mental load • 90s nostalgia (Tupac, Delilah, radio love lines) • TikTok culture critiques • Wedding chaos & family comedy …this episode is absolutely your vibe. 🎧 Listen now on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Make sure to subscribe, rate, and share with someone who remembers Delilah and Tupac days—or someone who’s planning a wedding and needs a laugh. /episode/index/show/barbarajeanandwanda/id/39105735