Bend Don't Break
Bend Don’t Break is a podcast that tells the story of police officers who have overcome significant adversity in their personal and professional lives. Through the power of story, the listener will understand the depth of resilience and personal strength that exists in the men and women who protect our communities 24x7.
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PART TWO. Starlight Casio Shooting - Jordan MacWilliams
02/11/2025
PART TWO. Starlight Casio Shooting - Jordan MacWilliams
On this episode of Bend Don’t Break, your host, Neil Dubord, is joined by Constable Jordan MacWilliams once again, to continue his story from last week’s episode. Jordan has gone through significant events over the last several years — making him the perfect person to discuss the topic of resiliency in the field. His story starts on November 8th, 2012, a fateful night in both his life and work. Having been sent to a dangerous hostage situation at Starlight Casino, Jordan has to make one of the toughest decisions of his life for the safety of his colleagues. In this episode, Jordan outlines the events that followed this event: his court appearances, avoiding the media, and managing his stress, emotions, and feelings around the whole ordeal. He also highlights key factors in how he managed to overcome his struggles surrounding the situation and gives advice on how to get through similar situations. Key Takeaways: [:43] Chief Neil Dubord recaps last week’s episode and Jordan picks up the story where he left it, with the fated phone call. [3:06] Jordan outlines the events following the phone call: getting a lawyer, going to court, receiving bail, and avoiding the media. [7:55] Jordan talks about the internal part of the week after being charged: managing stress and emotions, and his feelings towards the organization. [11:00] Jordan explains how he managed to have a positive outlook on the situation and gives his advice to others. [13:51] Who helped Jordan the most get through this difficult time? And what did they do to make him feel better? [15:57] How Jordan’s 2014 ended (in terms of where he was with the organization). [19:43] The early events in 2015, 30 months after being charged: watching the tape of the incident for the first time, his second court appearance, and hearing the hostage’s side of the story. [24:04] The summer of 2015: the moment Jordan was waiting for that marked his freedom. [26:00] Jordan talks about an important factor in his recovery: choice. [27:47] Jordan reflects on the importance of structure. [29:30] What Jordan considers to be a key component in helping him to overcome his struggle. [32:02] Jordan’s suggestions for how to help others we may not know are carrying silent struggles or burdens. [34:45] Chief Neil Dubord gives his thanks to Jordan for talking about his story. Looking for More Episodes? You can find more episodes of Bend Don't Break on all the major Podcast Channels
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CHARGED WITH MURDER- THE STARLIGHT CASINO SHOOTING
02/04/2025
CHARGED WITH MURDER- THE STARLIGHT CASINO SHOOTING
Today on Bend Don’t Break, it is another one from the archieves and the next two episodes will go over one of the most popular series on Bend Don’t Break. Jordan has gone through significant events over the last several years — making him the perfect person to discuss the topic of resiliency in the field. He’s happily married with two young daughters. Currently, he’s seconded, working at The Lower Mainland District Emergency Response Team. He joined the Delta Police Department as a Reserve Constable back in 2007, graduated in 2009, and then worked Patrol until 2012 when he got onto the Integrated Emergency Response Team. Jordan’s story starts on November 8th, 2012, a fateful night in both his life and work. Having been sent to a dangerous hostage situation at Starlight Casino, Jordan has to make one of the toughest decisions of his life for the safety of his colleagues. In this podcast, Jordan details the event that changed his life; how he dealt with it in the following days, months, and years; his thoughts and emotions during and after; how he persevered through his struggle and was able to maintain his committed and engaged attitude throughout; and whether or not he would have done it all differently if he could do it all again. Key Takeaways: [:59] About today’s show with Jordan. [1:15] Starting off easy, Chief Dubord asks: When was the last time you ate at McDonald’s? [1:35] Jordan’s favourite book and what he’s currently reading. [1:58] Jordan’s current status; life and work-wise. [2:50] Jordan talks about his history working for the Delta Police Department, his family’s lineage within it, and his initial career goals. [4:28] Jordan begins his story, starting with the events that lead up to the fateful Starlight Casino file. [5:55] Continuing his story, Jordan details the events that happened that day. [15:12] Jordan’s thoughts and emotions during the shootout, and the events that followed. [26:33] How the following media coverage impacted Jordan’s life. [28:28] How many days off did Jordan have after everything had happened? What happened when he got back? [32:10] Is there anything the organization could’ve done better for Jordan in this situation? [33:18] Now working in the training unit, Jordan outlines his work in the following months and his wait on more information in the coming years. [37:00] How Jordan dealt with the wait and managed to maintain a committed and engaged attitude during work. [38:25] What Jordan would’ve done differently if he knew what he knows now, going into it all. [40:08] Jordan talks about some of the additional stressors that were in his life at the time. [41:21] Jordan explains what happened for him in 2014. [46:58] A preview of next week’s episode. Tune in next week to hear the rest of Jordan’s story!
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CIA Secrets to Escape
01/07/2025
CIA Secrets to Escape
Former CIA intelligence officer Michele Rigby Assad knows better than anyone what it means to venture into uncharted territory. Michele explains in the Bend Dont Break Podcast her experience to help you embrace the often uncomfortable path to success. She will talk about how to escape your comfort zone and realize your full potential! Michele has played a pivotal role in high-stakes missions both as a counterterrorism official and as a human rights defender in the civilian world, culminating in the 2015 airlift operation and relocation of 149 persecuted Iraqi Christians. Michele also provides security advice to nonprofit organizations working against human trafficking and in support of women rebuilding their lives.
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Nearly Losing her Life over a Stolen Chocolate Bar: From Trauma to Triumph
12/31/2024
Nearly Losing her Life over a Stolen Chocolate Bar: From Trauma to Triumph
Episode #80 is a replay of one of the Top 3 downloaded Episodes in the 6 Year history of Bend Don't Break. It was originally played over 65 Episodes ago. Lane Douglas Hunt. Lane has been a member with the Victoria Police Department since 2008. She has spent most of her career on the front lines in patrol where she was on the Greater Victoria Emergency Response Team for 6 years. Currently, she serves as the Explosives Technician, a Detective in the Special Victims Unit, and a member of the Critical Incident Stress Management Team. Outside of work, Lane and her amazing husband, Jeff, are parents to 2 dogs, 50 chickens, a 700-gallon reef tank, and 5 honey bee hives! When they aren't lifting weights or farming they are riding their Harleys on beautiful Vancouver Island together. In this episode, Lane has an amazing story to share that displays incredible resiliency. The incident happened back in 2011 when she was just a junior member at 24 years old with less than 2 ½ years on the job. Her day started off like any other. She spent the morning filing paperwork and was called to a routine call at a 7-Eleven for someone who reportedly stole a chocolate bar. This routine call took a turn for the worst when she was targeted for a spontaneous attack. In this powerful story that Lane shares with listeners, she details out all of the events that took place, what she gained from these experiences, and her advice to others. She also speaks about the post-traumatic stress that came with it, but mostly her post-traumatic growth and how she managed to reduce her stress.
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Episode #79 With Brian Willis
12/17/2024
Episode #79 With Brian Willis
"Insights into Resilience of First Responders" This episode of the Bend Don't Break podcast features a role reversal, with Brian Willis of the Excellence in Training Academy interviewing Neil Dubord, about the lessons and insights gained from the first 70 episodes of Bend Don't Break. The podcast explores the resilience of first responders, touching on critical incidents, mental health challenges, and strategies for overcoming adversity. Key Themes Discussed: Origin of the Podcast: Neil shares how the Bend Don't Break podcast started as a Delta Police Department initiative, inspired by the need to reduce stigma around mental health and tell authentic stories of resilience. The podcast focuses on sharing personal experiences to help others navigate their challenges. Hope and Personal Accountability: A recurring theme across episodes is the importance of maintaining hope during difficult times. Resilience often begins when individuals embrace accountability and take ownership of their journey toward recovery. Phrases like "embrace the suck" and "own it" encapsulate this mindset. Building Support Systems: Peer support emerged as a vital factor in recovery. Simple gestures, such as a text or call, can foster optimism. Neil highlighted the CareTrack program in Delta, which ensures ongoing connection with officers on leave to prevent feelings of isolation. Proactive Resilience Strategies: Establishing wellness plans early in careers, including routines for fitness, financial literacy, and mental health, can prepare individuals for future challenges. Neil emphasized integrating resilience training into regular shifts, advocating for "a little, a lot"—small, consistent doses of training on mental health and personal wellness. Navigating Identity and Transition: Losing the professional identity tied to being a first responder can cause significant mental health struggles. Supporting officers through these transitions, especially those who cannot return to active duty, is essential. Lessons from the Field: Recovery is not linear; it’s filled with ups and downs. Small, incremental goals can lead to significant progress. Spending time in nature, focusing on fitness, and maintaining routines can aid recovery. Addressing Suicide in Law Enforcement: Neil discussed the complexities of addressing suicides within agencies, balancing recognition for service with preventing a contagion effect. He stressed the need for open conversations, support for families, and proactive mental health programs. Work-Life Harmony: Neil challenged the notion of work-life balance, advocating instead for harmonizing priorities and being present in the moment—whether at work or home—without guilt. Takeaways for First Responders and Leaders: Resilience is a Skill: It can be cultivated through habits, support systems, and proactive planning. Peer Support Matters: Strong connections, both formal and informal, are critical for recovery. Small Steps Build Momentum: Daily rituals and incremental progress are more sustainable than lofty, overwhelming goals. Leadership's Role: Leaders must foster open conversations about mental health, provide ongoing support for families, and prioritize wellness throughout careers. Self-Compassion: Officers must learn to be kind to themselves and allow grace during difficult times. Connect with Neil Dubord at neildubord.com or on Linkedin
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Jail Break
12/10/2024
Jail Break
In this episode of Bend Don’t Break, I sit down with Jake Suelzle, a seasoned corrections officer with over a decade of experience, to delve into the challenges faced by those working in one of the most demanding fields. Together, we explore the often-overlooked realities of life behind the fence, the emotional toll it takes, and the resilience required to thrive. Key topics include: Moral Injury and Burnout: Understanding the cumulative impact of administrative pressures, long hours, and difficult policies on corrections officers. Personal Responsibility in Mental Health: Why individual accountability for resilience is as important as organizational support. Leadership’s Role: How fostering a culture of care and trust can transform the workplace for corrections staff. Actionable Steps for Resilience: The importance of peer support, daily routines, and finding resources tailored to individual needs. Jake offers raw, unfiltered insights into the realities of corrections work, emphasizing the need for both systemic change and personal empowerment. This conversation is a call to action for corrections officers to share their stories, foster community, and prioritize their well-being. Key Takeaways: Moral injury is a silent killer in corrections, rooted in feelings of betrayal and lack of support from institutions. Personal resilience starts with small, consistent actions like seeking peer support and engaging in activities that clear the mind and body. Leadership accountability is critical—leaders must prioritize staff well-being and foster trust through genuine engagement. Community and peer support can break the isolation many officers feel, creating solidarity beyond the workplace. A human approach to corrections is needed to address the unique challenges officers face, moving beyond buzzwords to meaningful actions.
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Brain Health For First Responders
12/03/2024
Brain Health For First Responders
In this powerful episode of Bend Don’t Break, I sit down with Dr. Nolan Beise, neuroscientist and CEO of Circle—a groundbreaking Canadian neurotechnology company. Dr. Beise shares how first responders can proactively strengthen their brain health using innovative brainwave sensing technology. Drawing parallels to physical fitness, Dr. Beise explains how measurable, actionable insights can transform mental resilience and prevent the neurological injuries often caused by high-stress careers. First responders will learn: How to identify early signs of mental strain before it becomes a crisis. The critical link between brain health and peak performance. Practical, self-directed tools to build long-term resilience without stigma. Whether you’re a first responder or a leader in policing, corrections, or firefighting, this episode introduces a game-changing approach to mental wellness. Discover how Circle's technology equips you to face the toughest challenges, stay mentally sharp, and redefine what "normal" can look like. 🎧 Don’t miss this chance to revolutionize how you care for your most essential tool—your brain.
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Episode #76 Jessica Flores
11/26/2024
Episode #76 Jessica Flores
On this episode of "Bend Don't Break," Neil speaks with Jess Flores, a former police officer who has navigated the challenging journey from law enforcement to becoming a transition coach. Jess shares her gripping story of near-death experiences on the job, her struggle with injury, and the painful reality of losing her law enforcement identity. Listeners will hear how Jess battled feelings of betrayal, isolation, and hopelessness before finding a new purpose in helping other officers transition out of policing. Jess also dives into how fitness and personal development saved her and inspired her to start "Next Shift" – a coaching service for law enforcement officers finding a new path. This conversation is filled with raw insights into the mental struggles of policing and powerful lessons on resilience, growth, and rediscovery.
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Bend Don't Break Episode #75 Brian Murphy
11/19/2024
Bend Don't Break Episode #75 Brian Murphy
Strength in the Face of Trauma - BRIAN MURPHY In this compelling episode of Bend, Don’t Break, host Neil Dubord sits down with Lieutenant Brian Murphy, a survivor of the Oak Creek Sikh Temple shooting. On August 5, 2012, Brian responded to a distress call, confronting a gunman who had already claimed multiple lives. Despite being shot 15 times, Brian refused to back down, displaying unwavering resilience as he continued to assist his fellow officers. Brian opens up about his recovery, the challenges faced by his family, and the importance of mental strength in law enforcement. He sheds light on the value of accepting support and stresses that seeking help is a courageous choice. Brian’s journey serves as a striking testament to resilience, illustrating how personal strength and a strong support system can guide one through the darkest times.
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Episode #74 with Jim Nixon
11/12/2024
Episode #74 with Jim Nixon
In this powerful episode, host Neil Dubord sits down with Jim Nixon, a seasoned community safety professional from the UK, to explore the deep and personal challenges that first responders and law enforcement officers face. Jim opens up about his journey from 20 years in policing to his current role, sharing the mental health battles he’s endured along the way, including his experiences with PTSD and moral injury—a sense of betrayal by the system that many officers will relate to. Jim and Neil discuss the complexities of leaving a profession that becomes part of your identity and the courage it takes to make changes for one’s mental health and family. They delve into essential strategies for resilience, including reaching out for support, building self-awareness, and the importance of checking in with colleagues—a simple “How are you really?” can make all the difference. With honesty and hope, Jim’s story serves as a reminder that there is life after policing, and taking control of your journey is a strength, not a weakness. Don’t miss this inspiring conversation on resilience, growth, and the courage to change paths. Tune in and share it with those who may need this message—there is hope, and Jim’s journey is proof that it’s never too late to prioritize well-being.
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The Thin Ice of Policing
11/05/2024
The Thin Ice of Policing
Join us for an eye-opening conversation with Jeff Wenninger, a former LAPD veteran and law enforcement consultant, as he dives into the heart of police culture and the challenges of creating resilient, well-rounded officers in today’s world. Jeff shares his own journey from experiencing police misconduct firsthand to dedicating over three decades to transforming policing from within. Discover his bold insights on mental resilience, officer wellness, and the untold power of higher education in reducing force incidents. If you're ready for a fresh perspective on what it takes to improve law enforcement and strengthen community trust, this episode is a must-listen!"
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Forgotten Civilians
10/29/2024
Forgotten Civilians
This episode of the Bend Don't Break podcast features Katie West, a civilian transcriptionist for the RCMP, who opens up about her journey through chronic stress and PTSD. Often overlooked, civilian staff like transcriptionists and 911 operators are regularly exposed to traumatic content, yet lack the same mental health support systems available to front-line officers. Katie shares her deeply personal experiences with PTSD, detailing the toll of listening to traumatic cases for hours on end and the difficulties she faced when seeking help. She discusses the systemic gaps in mental health support for civilian roles, her challenges with WorkSafe, and the need for greater understanding and resources for "trauma-exposed professionals." Through her story, Katie advocates for change and sheds light on the unseen struggles of those working behind the scenes in law enforcement, urging for a more inclusive approach to mental health care for all first responder staff.
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The Scars of Policing
10/22/2024
The Scars of Policing
In this powerful episode of the Bend Don't Break podcast, we sit down with Daniel P. Smith, a seasoned journalist and author with deep personal ties to law enforcement. Daniel shares intimate stories from his life growing up in a family of Chicago police officers and explores the emotional toll the job takes on those who serve. From tragic incidents that forever change officers’ lives to the ripple effects on their families, this conversation reveals the unseen struggles and resilience of first responders. Daniel's unique perspective sheds light on the trauma and triumphs of law enforcement, offering hope, understanding, and a powerful call for empathy.
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Redemption - From Charges to Chief
10/15/2024
Redemption - From Charges to Chief
In this episode, we sit down with Chief Chad Martin to explore a powerful story of resilience, redemption, and leadership. From overcoming a turbulent childhood and the scars of early trauma, Chad’s journey is one of perseverance in the face of adversity. He shares candidly about his military and early law enforcement career, where unresolved personal challenges surfaced, leading to setbacks, including addiction and job loss. After hitting rock bottom, Chad had to rebuild his life and career from scratch, enduring multiple failures before finding his footing again. His path back into law enforcement, rising unexpectedly to the position of chief, highlights the power of self-reflection, humility, and faith in personal growth. Chad also dives into his innovative approaches to leadership, especially in building peer support programs and focusing on officer wellness. His commitment to creating a positive environment for his team reflects his belief in the importance of internal strength. This episode is a testament to the power of resilience and hope, showing that even after significant setbacks, success and redemption are possible with dedication and support. Tune in for a story that will inspire you to face your own challenges head-on and rise stronger than ever.
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Beneath the Badge Episode #69
10/04/2024
Beneath the Badge Episode #69
In this gripping episode of "Bend, Don't Break," we delve into the unspoken truths of trauma, resilience, and recovery within the world of first responders. Join us as we listen to the story of Diane Taylor, a former victim turned victor, who faced unimaginable loss and battled the depths of despair before reclaiming her life. Diane shares her profound experiences of grief and survival, including three suicide attempts, and the powerful journey that gives us all hope. Through candid conversations, we explore how the culture of toughness in policing often overlooks the essential need for self-care and emotional healing. Can vulnerability be a strength in a profession that demands resilience? Discover how first responders can break free from the stigma surrounding mental health, embracing their struggles as stepping stones rather than setbacks. This episode is not just about surviving but thriving in the face of adversity. Tune in for a raw, enlightening discussion that will challenge your perceptions and inspire a new narrative around mental health in the first responder community. Join us and learn how to find strength in vulnerability and transform pain into purpose.
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Blue Grit Wellness: Balancing Duty, Family and Health
07/23/2024
Blue Grit Wellness: Balancing Duty, Family and Health
Summary In this conversation, police commander Eric Tung discusses the importance of wellness and resilience in law enforcement. He shares his personal journey of recognizing the need to address sleep issues, chronic stress, and mental health in order to optimize his performance as a police officer. Eric also talks about the role of his podcast, Blue Grit Radio, in promoting wellness practices and building bridges between law enforcement and the community. The conversation covers topics such as organizational culture, leadership support, and the importance of living outside the 'blue world' to maintain a balanced perspective. The conversation revolves around the themes of personal responsibility, setting boundaries, and the importance of seeking support. Eric and Chief Dubord discuss the challenges of work-life balance and the importance of setting boundaries to prioritize different aspects of life. Eric also highlights the significance of talking to someone, whether it's a psychologist or a trusted friend, to navigate personal and professional challenges. Takeaways Recognizing the importance of wellness and resilience in law enforcement is crucial for optimizing performance and maintaining mental health. Living outside the 'blue world' and engaging with the community helps maintain a balanced perspective and prevents the formation of an echo chamber. Organizational culture and leadership support play a significant role in promoting wellness practices and removing barriers to self-care. Regular blood work and monitoring personal health are individual responsibilities that contribute to overall well-being. Building bridges between law enforcement and the community through open dialogue and transparency helps foster trust and understanding. Take ownership of your well-being and make choices that align with your values and purpose. Set boundaries to prioritize different aspects of life and maintain work-life balance. Seek support from psychologists or trusted friends to navigate personal and professional challenges. Embrace positivity and optimism to contribute to a positive culture in the law enforcement profession. Chapters 00:00 Recognizing the Need for Wellness and Resilience 06:29 Hitting Walls and Figuring Things Out 09:24 Promoting Wellness Practices and Removing Stigma 13:58 The Journey to Resilience: Not One Singular Event 19:16 Living Outside the 'Blue World' 22:11 Individual Responsibility for Health and Well-being 23:11 Taking Ownership of Your Well-being 25:24 Setting Boundaries for Work-Life Balance 29:15 The Power of Seeking Support 37:13 Embracing Positivity in Law Enforcement
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Blue Grit Wellness: Balancing Duty, Family and Health
07/23/2024
Blue Grit Wellness: Balancing Duty, Family and Health
Watch the video episode on YouTube: Summary In this conversation, police commander Eric Tung discusses the importance of wellness and resilience in law enforcement. He shares his personal journey of recognizing the need to address sleep issues, chronic stress, and mental health in order to optimize his performance as a police officer. Eric also talks about the role of his podcast, Blue Grit Radio, in promoting wellness practices and building bridges between law enforcement and the community. The conversation covers topics such as organizational culture, leadership support, and the importance of living outside the 'blue world' to maintain a balanced perspective. The conversation revolves around the themes of personal responsibility, setting boundaries, and the importance of seeking support. Eric and Chief Dubord discuss the challenges of work-life balance and the importance of setting boundaries to prioritize different aspects of life. Eric also highlights the significance of talking to someone, whether it's a psychologist or a trusted friend, to navigate personal and professional challenges. Takeaways Recognizing the importance of wellness and resilience in law enforcement is crucial for optimizing performance and maintaining mental health. Living outside the 'blue world' and engaging with the community helps maintain a balanced perspective and prevents the formation of an echo chamber. Organizational culture and leadership support play a significant role in promoting wellness practices and removing barriers to self-care. Regular blood work and monitoring personal health are individual responsibilities that contribute to overall well-being. Building bridges between law enforcement and the community through open dialogue and transparency helps foster trust and understanding. Take ownership of your well-being and make choices that align with your values and purpose. Set boundaries to prioritize different aspects of life and maintain work-life balance. Seek support from psychologists or trusted friends to navigate personal and professional challenges. Embrace positivity and optimism to contribute to a positive culture in the law enforcement profession. Chapters 00:00 Recognizing the Need for Wellness and Resilience 06:29 Hitting Walls and Figuring Things Out 09:24 Promoting Wellness Practices and Removing Stigma 13:58 The Journey to Resilience: Not One Singular Event 19:16 Living Outside the 'Blue World' 22:11 Individual Responsibility for Health and Well-being 23:11 Taking Ownership of Your Well-being 25:24 Setting Boundaries for Work-Life Balance 29:15 The Power of Seeking Support 37:13 Embracing Positivity in Law Enforcement
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Behind the Shield: A Journey from Undercover Ops to Mental Health Advocate
07/09/2024
Behind the Shield: A Journey from Undercover Ops to Mental Health Advocate
Watch the video episode on YouTube: Summary Bob Stenhouse, a former undercover police officer, shares his journey from undercover work to being a whistleblower and the impact it had on his mental health. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining balance, avoiding cynicism, and surrounding oneself with good people. Stenhouse also highlights the need for wise leadership in policing, with a focus on emotional intelligence, psychological safety, and accountability. He encourages young officers to be trauma-informed, compassionate, and empathetic. Stenhouse's story serves as a reminder that taking responsibility for one's mental health and creating a respectful workplace are crucial for the well-being of police officers. Takeaways Maintain balance, avoid cynicism, and surround yourself with good people in order to thrive in the police profession. Wise leadership is crucial in creating a respectful and psychologically safe workplace for police officers. Take responsibility for your own mental health and well-being, and seek therapy if needed. Be trauma-informed, compassionate, and empathetic towards others, including those who may be engaging in negative behavior. Create a workplace culture that supports and holds officers accountable while also providing support for mental health challenges. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 03:01 Bob Stenhouse's Career and Transition to Corporate Investigations 05:19 From Small Town Drug Enforcement to International Undercover Work 06:42 Bob Stenhouse's Experience in the Counterintelligence Team 08:36 Working on Project KISS and Dealing with the Hell's Angels 11:43 The Whistleblowing Incident and Career Trajectory Change 23:26 The Impact of Workplace Culture on Stress Levels 25:43 Finding a New Identity and Pursuing Personal Growth 31:07 Advice for Young People Entering the Police Profession 33:31 Creating a Respectful and Psychologically Safe Workplace
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Behind the Shield: A Journey from Undercover Ops to Mental Health Advocate
07/09/2024
Behind the Shield: A Journey from Undercover Ops to Mental Health Advocate
Summary Bob Stenhouse, a former undercover police officer, shares his journey from undercover work to being a whistleblower and the impact it had on his mental health. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining balance, avoiding cynicism, and surrounding oneself with good people. Stenhouse also highlights the need for wise leadership in policing, with a focus on emotional intelligence, psychological safety, and accountability. He encourages young officers to be trauma-informed, compassionate, and empathetic. Stenhouse's story serves as a reminder that taking responsibility for one's mental health and creating a respectful workplace are crucial for the well-being of police officers. Takeaways Maintain balance, avoid cynicism, and surround yourself with good people in order to thrive in the police profession. Wise leadership is crucial in creating a respectful and psychologically safe workplace for police officers. Take responsibility for your own mental health and well-being, and seek therapy if needed. Be trauma-informed, compassionate, and empathetic towards others, including those who may be engaging in negative behavior. Create a workplace culture that supports and holds officers accountable while also providing support for mental health challenges. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 03:01 Bob Stenhouse's Career and Transition to Corporate Investigations 05:19 From Small Town Drug Enforcement to International Undercover Work 06:42 Bob Stenhouse's Experience in the Counterintelligence Team 08:36 Working on Project KISS and Dealing with the Hell's Angels 11:43 The Whistleblowing Incident and Career Trajectory Change 23:26 The Impact of Workplace Culture on Stress Levels 25:43 Finding a New Identity and Pursuing Personal Growth 31:07 Advice for Young People Entering the Police Profession 33:31 Creating a Respectful and Psychologically Safe Workplace
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Surviving The Unthinkable: A Journey of Healing and Hope
06/25/2024
Surviving The Unthinkable: A Journey of Healing and Hope
Summary Constable Josh Harms shares his experience of being shot while on duty and his journey to resilience and mental health. He discusses the court process and the challenges he faced in seeking justice. Josh emphasizes the importance of accessing mental health resources and creating a supportive community for police officers. He also highlights the role of faith and forgiveness in his healing process. Josh encourages listeners to be open to seeking help and to validate the experiences of others. Takeaways Accessing mental health resources is crucial for police officers who experience trauma and stress. Everyone's journey to resilience is different, and it's important to be open to seeking help and support. Creating a community that supports mental health and validates experiences is essential. Faith and forgiveness can play a significant role in the healing process. Being self-aware and recognizing one's own feelings and reactions is key to managing mental health. Having a wellness plan in place, including a list of professionals to reach out to, can be helpful in times of need. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Overview 03:07 Constable Josh Harms' Background and Shooting Incident 14:06 Returning to Work and Dealing with the Court Process 27:35 Finding Healing and Moving Forward 31:21 A New Incident and Reflecting on Resilience 36:04 Current State and Final Thoughts
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Surviving The Unthinkable: A Journey of Healing and Hope
06/25/2024
Surviving The Unthinkable: A Journey of Healing and Hope
Watch the full video episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/gNpSNM4k754 Summary Constable Josh Harms shares his experience of being shot while on duty and his journey to resilience and mental health. He discusses the court process and the challenges he faced in seeking justice. Josh emphasizes the importance of accessing mental health resources and creating a supportive community for police officers. He also highlights the role of faith and forgiveness in his healing process. Josh encourages listeners to be open to seeking help and to validate the experiences of others. Takeaways Accessing mental health resources is crucial for police officers who experience trauma and stress. Everyone's journey to resilience is different, and it's important to be open to seeking help and support. Creating a community that supports mental health and validates experiences is essential. Faith and forgiveness can play a significant role in the healing process. Being self-aware and recognizing one's own feelings and reactions is key to managing mental health. Having a wellness plan in place, including a list of professionals to reach out to, can be helpful in times of need. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Overview 03:07 Constable Josh Harms' Background and Shooting Incident 14:06 Returning to Work and Dealing with the Court Process 27:35 Finding Healing and Moving Forward 31:21 A New Incident and Reflecting on Resilience 36:04 Current State and Final Thoughts
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Post-Traumatic Growth and Survival Through Support
06/11/2024
Post-Traumatic Growth and Survival Through Support
Watch the video episode and subscribe on YouTube: https://youtu.be/B9zCnbZzBdU Summary Brad Savage, a police officer, shares his journey of resilience and self-care after experiencing traumatic incidents. He discusses the challenges of seeking help in a profession where there is a stigma around mental health. Brad emphasizes the importance of taking care of oneself and seeking support, even if it means challenging the belief that asking for help is a sign of weakness. He highlights the impact of participating in peer-to-peer programs and attending courses like the Trauma Resiliency Program and Save a Warrior. Brad encourages others to prioritize their well-being and not neglect their own needs. Takeaways Seeking help for mental health is important, even in professions where there is a stigma around it. Taking care of oneself is crucial for resilience and well-being. Participating in peer-to-peer programs and attending courses can be transformative in one's journey of healing and growth. Prioritizing self-care is not selfish, but necessary for being able to help others effectively. Continual learning and reflection are essential for personal growth and maintaining balance in life. Chapters 00:00 - Traumatic Incident: A Gun Pointed at Me 04:41 - Challenges and Dark Places in Policing 08:26 - Stigma and Access to Mental Health Support 12:47 - Another Critical Incident: Routine Traffic Stop 28:49 - Taking Control of Self-Care and Wellness 39:11 - Post-Traumatic Growth and Continued Learning
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Post-Traumatic Growth and Survival Through Support
06/11/2024
Post-Traumatic Growth and Survival Through Support
Summary Brad Savage, a police officer, shares his journey of resilience and self-care after experiencing traumatic incidents. He discusses the challenges of seeking help in a profession where there is a stigma around mental health. Brad emphasizes the importance of taking care of oneself and seeking support, even if it means challenging the belief that asking for help is a sign of weakness. He highlights the impact of participating in peer-to-peer programs and attending courses like the Trauma Resiliency Program and Save a Warrior. Brad encourages others to prioritize their well-being and not neglect their own needs. Takeaways Seeking help for mental health is important, even in professions where there is a stigma around it. Taking care of oneself is crucial for resilience and well-being. Participating in peer-to-peer programs and attending courses can be transformative in one's journey of healing and growth. Prioritizing self-care is not selfish, but necessary for being able to help others effectively. Continual learning and reflection are essential for personal growth and maintaining balance in life. Chapters 00:00 - Traumatic Incident: A Gun Pointed at Me 04:41 - Challenges and Dark Places in Policing 08:26 - Stigma and Access to Mental Health Support 12:47 - Another Critical Incident: Routine Traffic Stop 28:49 - Taking Control of Self-Care and Wellness 39:11 - Post-Traumatic Growth and Continued Learning
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Overcoming Tragedy Through Mental Health Advocacy
05/21/2024
Overcoming Tragedy Through Mental Health Advocacy
Summary Jodie Baulkham, a survivor of the loss of her police officer husband, shares her journey of overcoming grief and supporting another first responder with PTSD. She emphasizes the importance of personal growth, effective communication, and mental health awareness. Jody encourages listeners to reflect on their own lives, assess their feelings, and set goals for the future. She shares her story through her memoir and invites others to share their stories as well. Takeaways Personal growth and resilience are essential in overcoming grief and trauma. Effective communication and emotional intelligence are key in supporting relationships with those experiencing mental health challenges. Seeking help early and often, and being open about mental health, can save lives. Reflection and goal-setting are important for personal growth and motivation. Sharing stories and connecting with others can provide support and inspiration. Chapters 00:00 Overcoming Grief and Supporting First Responders 29:14 The Power of Personal Growth and Resilience 31:34 Effective Communication and Emotional Intelligence 34:23 Seeking Help and Raising Mental Health Awareness 39:41 Reflection and Goal-Setting for Personal Growth 40:06 The Impact of Sharing Stories and Connecting with Others Guest Biography Jodie is a licensed teacher, professional coach and certified Leader Character practitioner who focuses on cultivating character, igniting passion, and fortifying resilience for herself and others. She is a leadership and mental health curriculum design specialist, trainer and advocate. Jodie has trained and coached thousands in the first responder community and beyond. She recently released her memoir Choosing My Tomorrow: Surviving Murder, Navigating Mental Health, and Harnessing the Power of Choice which reached best-seller status on Amazon. She lives in Alberta with her husband, daughter, and mini goldendoodle.
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Overcoming Tragedy Through Mental Health Advocacy
05/21/2024
Overcoming Tragedy Through Mental Health Advocacy
Watch the video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/dxpq4bkQeI0 Summary Jodie Baulkham, a survivor of the loss of her police officer husband, shares her journey of overcoming grief and supporting another first responder with PTSD. She emphasizes the importance of personal growth, effective communication, and mental health awareness. Jody encourages listeners to reflect on their own lives, assess their feelings, and set goals for the future. She shares her story through her memoir and invites others to share their stories as well. Takeaways Personal growth and resilience are essential in overcoming grief and trauma. Effective communication and emotional intelligence are key in supporting relationships with those experiencing mental health challenges. Seeking help early and often, and being open about mental health, can save lives. Reflection and goal-setting are important for personal growth and motivation. Sharing stories and connecting with others can provide support and inspiration. Chapters 00:00 Overcoming Grief and Supporting First Responders 29:14 The Power of Personal Growth and Resilience 31:34 Effective Communication and Emotional Intelligence 34:23 Seeking Help and Raising Mental Health Awareness 39:41 Reflection and Goal-Setting for Personal Growth 40:06 The Impact of Sharing Stories and Connecting with Others Guest Biography Jodie is a licensed teacher, professional coach and certified Leader Character practitioner who focuses on cultivating character, igniting passion, and fortifying resilience for herself and others. She is a leadership and mental health curriculum design specialist, trainer and advocate. Jodie has trained and coached thousands in the first responder community and beyond. She recently released her memoir Choosing My Tomorrow: Surviving Murder, Navigating Mental Health, and Harnessing the Power of Choice which reached best-seller status on Amazon. She lives in Alberta with her husband, daughter, and mini goldendoodle.
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Breaking The Silence: Transforming Mental Health in Law Enforcement
05/07/2024
Breaking The Silence: Transforming Mental Health in Law Enforcement
Summary In this conversation, Mark Bouchard discusses the importance of addressing mental health and stigma within the police force. He shares his personal experience with psychological injury and emphasizes the need for proactive action and individual responsibility in maintaining mental health. Bouchard also highlights the concept of suicide by cop and the challenges faced by officers in making lethal force decisions. He calls for a shift in the understanding and treatment of officers involved in such incidents. In this conversation, the Delta Police Department discusses the importance of educating the public and themselves about the realities of police work. They also explore the psychological challenges faced by officers, including the decision to use lethal force and the impact of suicide by cop incidents. The conversation highlights the need for organizations to address mental health and wellness within their ranks, including providing resources and support for officers. The guests emphasize the importance of creating a culture that reduces stigma around mental health and encourages officers to seek help when needed. Takeaways Police officers need to be taught about their own psychology and humanity to better handle the challenges they face and keep the public safe. Individuals should take proactive action and be active participants in their own mental health. The stigma surrounding mental health in law enforcement needs to be reduced to encourage officers to seek help. Lethal force decisions are complex and officers need more training and support to navigate these situations. Society needs to differentiate between non-culpable homicides and murder in cases of suicide by cop. Educating the public and police officers about the realities of police work can lead to better outcomes in incidents and help officers process traumatic experiences. The decision to use lethal force is a difficult one for officers, but they can find solace in knowing they are keeping their community safe. Incident commanders and leaders need to be prepared to make critical decisions, and training in instant command and critical thinking is crucial. Addressing mental health and wellness within police organizations is essential, as officers face higher rates of mental health disorders and suicide. Creating a culture that reduces stigma around mental health and encourages officers to seek help is important for their well-being and the well-being of the organization. Officers can develop healthy coping strategies and find meaning in their experiences to promote post-traumatic growth and resilience. Chapters 00:00 Addressing Mental Health and Stigma 11:41 Proactive Action and Individual Responsibility 24:31 Reducing Stigma and Providing Support 25:26 Educating the Public and Police Officers 28:04 The Weight of the Decision: Using Lethal Force 28:31 Preparing Incident Commanders 29:24 Addressing Mental Health and Wellness 35:38 Reducing Stigma and Encouraging Help-Seeking 43:19 Finding Meaning and Promoting Resilience Guest Biography Mark Bouchard grew up in Delta, and joined the Delta Police Department as a police officer in 2007, after a few years as a volunteer in the Delta Police Reserve Program. Mark worked primarily in patrol and on the Emergency Response Team, prior to his departure in 2020 for the RCMP. Since then, Mark has continued to work patrol and Emergency Response, until his recent promotion into the RCMP'S National Tactical Medicine Program. He has also completed a master's degree in leadership with a focus on police culture and the impacts on police officer mental health. Mark has combined his experiences and research into a book that he published on Amazon in 2023. It is called Setting My Sights on Stigma: Thoughts From an Injured Mind, where he shares what he learned as he recovered from his PTSD diagnosis, with a goal to help other people.
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Breaking The Silence: Transforming Mental Health in Law Enforcement
05/07/2024
Breaking The Silence: Transforming Mental Health in Law Enforcement
Watch the video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ojl-vQVxWrA Summary In this conversation, Mark Bouchard discusses the importance of addressing mental health and stigma within the police force. He shares his personal experience with psychological injury and emphasizes the need for proactive action and individual responsibility in maintaining mental health. Bouchard also highlights the concept of suicide by cop and the challenges faced by officers in making lethal force decisions. He calls for a shift in the understanding and treatment of officers involved in such incidents. In this conversation, the Delta Police Department discusses the importance of educating the public and themselves about the realities of police work. They also explore the psychological challenges faced by officers, including the decision to use lethal force and the impact of suicide by cop incidents. The conversation highlights the need for organizations to address mental health and wellness within their ranks, including providing resources and support for officers. The guests emphasize the importance of creating a culture that reduces stigma around mental health and encourages officers to seek help when needed. Takeaways Police officers need to be taught about their own psychology and humanity to better handle the challenges they face and keep the public safe. Individuals should take proactive action and be active participants in their own mental health. The stigma surrounding mental health in law enforcement needs to be reduced to encourage officers to seek help. Lethal force decisions are complex and officers need more training and support to navigate these situations. Society needs to differentiate between non-culpable homicides and murder in cases of suicide by cop. Educating the public and police officers about the realities of police work can lead to better outcomes in incidents and help officers process traumatic experiences. The decision to use lethal force is a difficult one for officers, but they can find solace in knowing they are keeping their community safe. Incident commanders and leaders need to be prepared to make critical decisions, and training in instant command and critical thinking is crucial. Addressing mental health and wellness within police organizations is essential, as officers face higher rates of mental health disorders and suicide. Creating a culture that reduces stigma around mental health and encourages officers to seek help is important for their well-being and the well-being of the organization. Officers can develop healthy coping strategies and find meaning in their experiences to promote post-traumatic growth and resilience. Chapters 00:00 Addressing Mental Health and Stigma 11:41 Proactive Action and Individual Responsibility 24:31 Reducing Stigma and Providing Support 25:26 Educating the Public and Police Officers 28:04 The Weight of the Decision: Using Lethal Force 28:31 Preparing Incident Commanders 29:24 Addressing Mental Health and Wellness 35:38 Reducing Stigma and Encouraging Help-Seeking 43:19 Finding Meaning and Promoting Resilience Guest Biography Mark Bouchard grew up in Delta, and joined the Delta Police Department as a police officer in 2007, after a few years as a volunteer in the Delta Police Reserve Program. Mark worked primarily in patrol and on the Emergency Response Team, prior to his departure in 2020 for the RCMP. Since then, Mark has continued to work patrol and Emergency Response, until his recent promotion into the RCMP'S National Tactical Medicine Program. He has also completed a master's degree in leadership with a focus on police culture and the impacts on police officer mental health. Mark has combined his experiences and research into a book that he published on Amazon in 2023. It is called Setting My Sights on Stigma: Thoughts From an Injured Mind, where he shares what he learned as he recovered from his PTSD diagnosis, with a goal to help other people.
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Resilience and Strength: Navigating Through Grief
04/23/2024
Resilience and Strength: Navigating Through Grief
Watch our video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VWYOjcfSfb4 Summary Constable Peggy MacConnell shares her experience of losing her husband in a tragic accident and how she coped with the grief and trauma. She emphasizes the importance of being your own advocate and doing what feels right for you. Peggy found support from the RCMP and her family, and she prioritized her physical fitness and mental well-being. She returned to work and embraced a routine to maintain a sense of normalcy. Peggy's resilience and positive outlook have helped her navigate through the challenges and continue to live a fulfilling life. Takeaways Be your own advocate and do what feels right for you Surround yourself with a strong support network Prioritize your physical fitness and mental well-being Embrace routine to maintain a sense of normalcy Maintain a positive outlook and take control of your own situation Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 08:13 The Organ Donation Process 14:43 Support from Family and the RCMP 26:13 Overcoming Judgment and Staying Resilient 35:44 Returning to Work and Helping Others
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Resilience and Strength: Navigating Through Grief
04/23/2024
Resilience and Strength: Navigating Through Grief
Summary Constable Peggy MacConnell shares her experience of losing her husband in a tragic accident and how she coped with the grief and trauma. She emphasizes the importance of being your own advocate and doing what feels right for you. Peggy found support from the RCMP and her family, and she prioritized her physical fitness and mental well-being. She returned to work and embraced a routine to maintain a sense of normalcy. Peggy's resilience and positive outlook have helped her navigate through the challenges and continue to live a fulfilling life. Takeaways Be your own advocate and do what feels right for you Surround yourself with a strong support network Prioritize your physical fitness and mental well-being Embrace routine to maintain a sense of normalcy Maintain a positive outlook and take control of your own situation Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 08:13 The Organ Donation Process 14:43 Support from Family and the RCMP 26:13 Overcoming Judgment and Staying Resilient 35:44 Returning to Work and Helping Others
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The Transcendental Power of Meditation for First Responders
04/09/2024
The Transcendental Power of Meditation for First Responders
Summary In this episode of the Bend Don't Break Podcast, retired police chief Les Sylven and Garry Foster discuss the benefits of transcendental meditation (TM) for first responders. They explain that TM is a simple and easy practice that can help reduce stress and build resilience. They share research studies that show the effectiveness of TM in reducing PTSD symptoms and improving overall well-being. The conversation emphasizes the proactive nature of TM, highlighting its ability to enhance concentration, conflict management, and relationships. They encourage listeners to explore TM as a tool for self-care and mental wellness. Takeaways Taking care of our minds is just as important as taking care of our bodies, especially for first responders who experience significant trauma. Transcendental Meditation (TM) is a simple and effective practice for reducing stress and building resilience. Research has shown that TM is effective in reducing PTSD symptoms and improving overall well-being. TM is a proactive measure that can improve job performance, relationships, and overall quality of life. Anyone can learn TM, and it can be practiced anywhere, making it a convenient tool for self-care. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 02:45 The Importance of Taking Care of Our Minds 06:08 Transcendental Meditation: A Simple Tool for Stress Reduction 08:59 Research on Transcendental Meditation and its Benefits 10:52 TM as a Proactive Measure for First Responders 24:02 Improving Job Performance and Relationships through TM Would you like to learn more about Transcendental Meditation? Contact Garry Foster at [email protected].
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