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291: Reframing ADHD for Black Women with Inger Shaye Colzie 01/06/2026

291: Reframing ADHD for Black Women with Inger Shaye Colzie This week on Embracing Intensity, I’m thrilled to finally sit down with the powerful and passionate Inger Shaye Colzie, a therapist and coach working at the intersection of ADHD, identity, and cultural experience. Inger shares her journey of being diagnosed with ADHD later in life, after decades of navigating systems and expectations that didn’t see her neurodivergence—or the unique challenges that come with being a Black woman with ADHD. Together, we dive into her experiences growing up gifted but overlooked, her path to founding the ADHD Black Professionals Alliance, and how she helps others own their fire and intensity without apology. Inger’s insight, humor, and realness make this an episode you won’t want to miss. P.S. We’re planning to bring Inger back for a guest call in the Embracing Intensity Community during the 2026 speaker season—I'd love your feedback on upcoming topics and guests! About Inger Shaye Colzie Inger is a therapist, ADHD coach, and the founder of the ADHD Black Professionals Alliance. Diagnosed later in life, she now uses her lived experience, clinical knowledge, and coaching tools to support other Black women navigating life, work, and relationships with ADHD. Through her practice and community, she creates spaces for healing, advocacy, and unapologetic self-discovery. In This Episode: The experience of being undiagnosed with ADHD well into adulthood—and what finally led her to seek answers Growing up as an intense, passionate child whose energy was often misunderstood Why culturally relevant care is essential for Black women with ADHD The emotional impact of living with ADHD in a world not built for neurodivergent minds How diagnosis and coaching helped her reframe her identity and harness her gifts Creating the ADHD Black Professionals Alliance as a safe and empowering space Turning down the dial—or turning it up with intention The importance of coaching, community, and embracing your whole self Resources & Links: (link to be added) ADHD Black Professionals Alliance: [Website or community link] Whether you’re navigating ADHD yourself or supporting others who are, this episode offers compassion, clarity, and community. Inger’s story is a reminder that it’s never too late to rewrite the narrative—and that when we embrace our fire, we light the way for others. 🎧 Listen now and share with someone who needs to hear they are not broken—just unseen. /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/39623085

290: Executive Functioning with Fizzah Zaidi 12/01/2025

290: Executive Functioning with Fizzah Zaidi Episode 290: Executive Functioning with Fizzah Zaidi In this powerful episode of Embracing Intensity, I’m joined by the insightful and compassionate Fizzah Zaidi, a psychotherapist who specializes in working with neurodivergent individuals. We explore the complexities of executive functioning, and how understanding our brain’s unique operating system can transform how we show up for ourselves and others. Fizzah brings deep experience from her work with high-achieving neurodivergent clients in the tech, medical, and legal fields. Together, we discuss how neurodivergent brains often struggle not because they’re broken, but because they’re functioning differently—and those differences can also be sources of strength. About Fizzah Zaidi Fizzah Zaidi is a Chicago-based psychotherapist with a passion for working with neurodivergent adults. Her practice supports many twice-exceptional individuals in high-demand professions, and her work includes educating organizations on how to better support neurodiverse teams. Diagnosed with ADHD just before entering graduate school, she dove deep into understanding the brain and executive functioning through continuing education and real-world application. In This Episode: Why rest isn’t always about being still—and how energizing activities can also be restorative. The link between executive dysfunction and rejection sensitivity. How big-picture thinkers can better support task initiation and follow-through. Understanding the role of the prefrontal cortex and limbic system in executive functioning. Why complex tasks might be easier than basic ones for some neurodivergent folks. The importance of personalized strategies over one-size-fits-all "fixes." Using self-regulation instead of self-control to support executive function. Shifting the mindset from “fixing” to understanding your operating system. 🔗 Resources & Links /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/39217080

289: Reclaiming Power Through Art w/ Ilima Considine 11/03/2025

289: Reclaiming Power Through Art w/ Ilima Considine In this week’s episode, Aurora sits down with Portland-based multidisciplinary artist and filmmaker Ilima Considine to explore how neurodivergence, art, music, and personal experience intersect to spark powerful creative expression. Ilima shares her journey through long COVID, chronic illness, and how she channels her intensity into film, empowering others in the process. As Ilima prepares to premiere her second feature-length film, Drug Holiday, she talks about the themes of trauma, addiction, and radicalization—and how they resonate with creative and neurodivergent communities. This conversation dives deep into how one artist transforms challenges into bold storytelling. 🎨 About Ilima Ilima Considine is best known as the frontwoman for the Sexbots and a multidisciplinary artist whose work spans music, visual art, and now film. After a severe bout of long COVID altered her career trajectory, Ilima dove headfirst into filmmaking, combining sound, visuals, and narrative to explore themes that are often hard to talk about—like grooming, neurodivergence, and societal trauma. ✨ In This Episode: How chronic illness and neurodivergence have shaped Ilima’s creative process The story behind Drug Holiday, and how it reflects real-life struggles with trauma and radicalization The overlap between neurodivergent traits and the arts—and how Ilima fosters a safe space for collaborators Embracing intensity as a strength in both personal and professional life Why Portland became a haven for embracing eccentricity and creativity The value of harnessing hyperfocus and obsessive attention to detail Using film to bring light to dark topics in accessible, artistic ways Ilima’s philosophy on directing: accommodating individual needs to help artists thrive Her own experiences with burnout, energy management, and the use of stimulants during film production 🔗 Resources & Links: (Premiering Nov. 14th at Mission Theater, Portland) 🎬 Whether you're an artist, a neurodivergent creative, or someone navigating chronic health challenges, Ilima’s story is a powerful reminder that you can channel your fire into something deeply meaningful—and bring others along with you. /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/38900810

288: Tasting the Gifted Rainbow w/ Kaitlin Smith 10/08/2025

288: Tasting the Gifted Rainbow w/ Kaitlin Smith In this deeply insightful guest call, we welcome Kaitlin Smith, a PhD candidate in the history of science at Harvard with a secondary focus in African American Studies. Kaitlin brings a powerful lens to the conversation around giftedness, drawing from her academic research, clinical background, and personal experience as a former support provider for gifted and intense Black adults. This episode explores the intersections of giftedness, race, history, science, and social narratives—inviting us to reexamine what we consider “normal” and how systemic forces shape our understanding of intelligence and identity. A Scholarly Look at Diverse Expressions of Giftedness with Kaitlin Smith Join us for an enlightening session with Kaitlin Smith, MSW -- founder of Our Wild Minds -- in which we will explore diverse lived experiences of giftedness that people have in light of differences in social identity (e.g., race, gender, class, and spirituality). Kaitlin will share insights derived from scholarly research and personal experience, shedding light on how social forces and historical developments influence the recognition and experience of gifted traits. Attendees will engage with ideas that illuminate often-overlooked aspects of your intensities and learn strategies that will help you celebrate your (and others’) multitudes. About Kaitlin: Kaitlin Smith, MSW is a writer, facilitator, and Ph.D Candidate at Harvard in the Department of History of Science where she is developing a dissertation on the history of the field of Black Psychology. Kaitlin is also the former founder of Our Wild Minds which offers online community and in-person experiences for highly creative, intellectually intense, and/or gifted Black adults from all over the world. Kaitlin's research and work with Our Wild Minds is informed by past training and work as a psychotherapist. 🔍 In This Episode: The history of psychological science and its impact on marginalized identities Kaitlin’s personal experience with racism and bias in clinical training How the field of Black psychology emerged in resistance to biased systems Case studies including Oscar Moore and the Larry P v. Riles court case How Donna Haraway’s concept of situated knowledges can inform gifted advocacy The danger of universalizing objectivity in science and education Using historical context to reframe personal experiences of giftedness Opportunities for collective solidarity and support in gifted communities Questions for self-reflection around situated knowledge and identity 📚 Resources: 💬 Access the Extended Discussion in the or ! A rich Q&A on the intersection of giftedness, race, and gender, and how these identities interact in systemic settings Reflections on how trauma and neurodivergence shape each other across personal and collective histories Insightful audience comments on the importance of reclaiming educational and psychological language Exploration of “the gifted rainbow” as a metaphor for the complexity and beauty of diverse gifted identities Practical examples of how to create supportive spaces for gifted and twice-exceptional Black individuals Honest conversation about grief, joy, and the non-linear journey of self-discovery as a neurodivergent person Kaitlin’s take on integrating history, embodiment, and radical curiosity into both academic and personal healing /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/38505325

287: The Myth of Work-Life Balance 09/01/2025

287: The Myth of Work-Life Balance Is work-life balance real—or just another unrealistic expectation? In this solo episode of Embracing Intensity, I unpack the myth of work-life balance and share my journey toward something more meaningful: harmony. Drawing from my personal life, this episode dives deep into how neurodivergent people navigate work hours, personal time, and the demands of life in a way that feels aligned, not forced. After a summer of restoration and reflection, I’m back working full-time in the school system—and instead of chasing “balance,” I’m creating sustainable rhythms that honor my energy, creativity, and mental health. About Aurora I’m Aurora Remember Holtzman, host of Embracing Intensity and creator of the Embracing Intensity Community. With years of experience working with gifted, twice-exceptional, and neurodivergent folks, I help people stop beating themselves up for not meeting arbitrary standards and start living in alignment with their core values. My goal? To help you use your intensity as a tool for transformation—without burning out. In This Episode: Why the concept of work-life balance might be doing more harm than good Reframing productivity, especially for different people with unique brain wiring How long hours and unrealistic expectations lead to burnout The power of aligning with your core values instead of external goals How “contaminated time” steals joy from our personal lives Tools like energy audits to help create real work-life harmony Letting go of hustle culture and embracing meaningful work Tips for reclaiming quality time and rest—even with full work hours Why the opposite of life isn’t work—but disconnection 🔗 Resources & Links: 🔥 📘 ✨ ✨ Balance is a myth. Harmony is the goal. Tap into your own rhythm and reclaim your time, energy, and creativity—on your terms. 🎧 /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/38050260

286: Collective Liberation w/ Caroline J. Sumlin 07/01/2025

285: The Power of Mirroring with Sheldon Gay 06/02/2025

284: Breaking Through Burnout w/ Brendan Mahan 04/21/2025

284: Breaking Through Burnout w/ Brendan Mahan This week on the Embracing Intensity podcast, I’m thrilled to welcome back the always thoughtful and illuminating Brendan Mahan, founder of ADHD Essentials and creator of the Wall of Awful. In this free-flowing and deeply relatable conversation, we dive into the realities of ADHD burnout, navigating screen time, and what it really means to rest. Brendan and I both share personally about our own experiences with burnout and recovery, and how we’re learning to work with our neurodivergent brains instead of against them. About Brendan Mahan: Brendan Mahan is a speaker, coach, and host of the ADHD Essentials Podcast. He specializes in helping families, educators, and individuals better understand ADHD through metaphor, structure, and compassion. Brendan is known for his "Wall of Awful" model—a powerful visual metaphor that helps people identify and move through the emotional blocks that make motivation so hard for those with ADHD. He’s currently working on a book titled Overcoming the Wall of Awful, expected to release in 2026. In This Episode: The difference between hard fascination and soft fascination, and why the latter is key for real rest What the Default Mode Network is and how it affects neurodivergent minds How screen time mimics rest but often leads to hard fascination and further mental exhaustion The origins of the Wall of Awful and how it helps people understand motivation challenges Tools Brendan uses to access soft fascination, from walks in the woods to weighted pressure The idea of contaminated time and how it sabotages meaningful rest Navigating professional transitions and creative burnout Letting go of transactional relationships and leaning into transformational connection Using Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs to intentionally rebuild from burnout How embracing your values and regulating sensory input can be powerful tools for recovery Reframing burnout as a “season” and holding onto hope that things can and do change 🎧 Tune in to hear a heartfelt, relatable conversation on burnout, ADHD, and the power of slowing down with intention. Whether you're deep in burnout or on the road to recovery, this episode offers compassionate insights and practical tools to help you find your way back to balance. Resources & Links: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/36254985

283: Empowering Neurodivergent Voices w/ Fizzah Zaidi 04/07/2025

283: Empowering Neurodivergent Voices w/ Fizzah Zaidi In this inspiring episode of Embracing Intensity, I’m joined by the vibrant and insightful Fizzah Zaidi, a psychotherapist based in Chicago who works with adults with ADHD, especially those navigating high-pressure environments like tech and finance. We originally connected at an ADHD conference over boots and breakfast, and I’m so excited to bring her energy and wisdom to the podcast! Fizzah shares her journey from a creative career in animation to becoming a mental health professional, her passion for social justice, and how she uses her intensity to empower her clients. Together, we explore what it means to navigate neurodivergence with curiosity, creativity, and self-compassion. About Fizzah Zaidi: Fizzah is a psychotherapist and former animator who brings her creative flair and social justice focus into her therapeutic practice. Working primarily with high-achieving adults in the finance and tech sectors, she specializes in supporting ADHD and twice-exceptional individuals as they navigate complex challenges in both personal and professional settings. Her approach is multimodal, trauma-informed, and deeply rooted in empathy, humor, and the belief that everyone deserves someone who truly believes in them. In This Episode: How Fizzah uses creativity and multimodal therapy to connect with clients The role of social justice in her personal and professional intensity Navigating cultural stigma around mental health and emotional expression Toning down to survive: childhood masking and fear of judgment Channeling intensity into advocacy: challenging grad school policies while pregnant Why “being kind to yourself” means embracing your human moments The power of curiosity and education in making sense of your neurodivergent brain Executive function myths: the difference between lacking skills vs. activation Building community care, challenging black-and-white thinking, and supporting clients in discovering their fire Conclusion: Fizzah reminds us that intensity can be a powerful force for justice, healing, and growth when it’s supported and expressed authentically. Her story highlights the importance of giving ourselves permission to feel, question, and grow in our own unique ways—and supporting others as they do the same. Whether you’re navigating neurodivergence, embracing your emotional depth, or looking for ways to channel your fire, this episode will leave you feeling seen and inspired. 🎧 Tune in now and discover how you, too, can embrace your intensity and turn it into your greatest strength. Resources & Links: Fizzah Zaidi Psychotherapy Website: Connect with Fizzah via Email: Available through her website Located in Chicago? Reach out and grab coffee with Fizzah! PowerZone Toolkit Challenge (Free & Evergreen): embracingintensity.com/toolkit Join the Embracing Intensity Community: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/36041505

282. Navigating Neurodivergent Burnout 03/11/2025

282. Navigating Neurodivergent Burnout After a bit of a break from long-form content, I’m so excited to be back with a solo episode that’s deeply personal and incredibly timely. I’ve missed connecting with you more intimately through the podcast and am looking forward to bringing you more episodes like this in the coming months. Lately, I’ve been diving into the topic of neurodivergent burnout, something I’ve experienced firsthand and that I know many of you can relate to. I’ve written two blog posts on the topic and shared a companion video on YouTube—and even tested out long-form content on TikTok for the first time! This episode is a heartfelt exploration of what burnout can look like for those of us who are gifted, ADHD, autistic, or otherwise neurodivergent, and how we can begin to recover and reconnect with our energy and purpose. About My Experience of Burnout: Over the last three years, I’ve been working through the most intense burnout of my life. It started during the pandemic and lingered far beyond, as I struggled to return to the rhythms of daily life in a world that never truly went "back to normal." Like many neurodivergent individuals, I found myself caught in a cycle of urgency, executive dysfunction, emotional exhaustion, and identity loss—especially as a twice-exceptional adult who spent years masking and pushing through. Throughout this episode, I share how I began healing by shifting my energy focus, consuming more uplifting media, and building out my self-regulation toolkit. These small but impactful steps helped me start to climb out of burnout and reconnect with my values and purpose. In This Episode: What neurodivergent burnout really is and how it differs from general burnout The impact of executive dysfunction, sensory overload, and masking The "gifted kid burnout" problem and how identity gets tangled in achievement How urgency culture creates cycles of burnout and crash Using the “circle of influence” vs. “circle of concern” to refocus energy Shifting media consumption and moving from doomscrolling to hope scrolling The importance of community care and authentic connection Building a personalized self-regulation toolkit for long-term energy balance Learning to ask for help and receive support without guilt A reminder: burnout is not a personal failure—it’s a survival response Burnout is an all-too-common challenge for neurodivergent people, and it often looks very different from what the general population might expect. For autistic people, ADHD burnout, and other forms of neurodivergent burnout, it’s not just about long hours or hard work—it’s about the constant effort of navigating a neurotypical world without adequate support. The neurodivergent mind processes sensory input, social interaction, and executive function tasks in different ways, often leading to sensory processing issues and emotional exhaustion. Many autistic adults and neurodivergent individuals experience a greater risk of burnout due to the compounding effects of chronic stress, loss of skills, and a deep lack of motivation when support systems are not in place. While neurotypical people may recover from burnout with rest alone, a neurodivergent adult often needs more nuanced strategies to heal—ones that take into account their unique neurodivergent traits, sensory experiences, and cognitive abilities. Burnout can also exacerbate mood disorders like anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder. Unfortunately, many family members, employers, and even mental health professionals may overlook these common causes, failing to provide the school accommodations, social support, or safe place needed for recovery. Whether it’s through personal experience, insights from advocates or participation in online communities, it’s clear that understanding the term neurodivergent and how it manifests is crucial. Supporting autistic children, ADHD individuals, and all neurodivergent people in reaching their full potential means meeting human needs, addressing sensory processing issues, and creating an ideal world where burnout is not the norm—but a sign that something deeper must be healed. If you’ve been feeling like you’re constantly pushing through exhaustion, struggling to find balance, or wondering why everything feels so hard—you are not alone. Neurodivergent burnout is real, and it’s not a reflection of your worth or capability. It’s a signal that your needs deserve more care, compassion, and community support. Let this episode be a gentle reminder that your intensity is not too much, your rest is valid, and your healing matters. I’d love to hear from you—what topics would you like me to explore further on the podcast? And if you’re ready to start building your own toolkit for energy balance and self-regulation, check out the PowerZone Toolkit Challenge, now available anytime you need it. 🎧 Listen now and take your next step toward recovery and reclaiming your energy. Resources & Links: Follow on TikTok & Instagram: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/35622620

281: Reclaiming Your Worth & Collective Liberation with Caroline J. Sumlin 02/18/2025

281: Reclaiming Your Worth & Collective Liberation with Caroline J. Sumlin In this episode of Embracing Intensity, host Aurora Remember sits down with Caroline J. Sumlin, author of We’ll All Be Free: How a Culture of White Supremacy Devalues Us and How We Can Reclaim Our True Worth. Together, they explore the intersection of intensity, self-worth, and collective liberation. Caroline shares her journey from feeling like she was “too much” to reclaiming her intensity as a gift. They dive into how societal systems—especially those rooted in white supremacy—fuel perfectionism, hustle culture, and the feeling of never being good enough. This conversation is both deeply personal and action-oriented, offering tools for doing the inner work to break free from these toxic systems and reclaim your inherent worth. About Caroline J. Sumlin: Caroline J. Sumlin is a writer, speaker, and educator whose work focuses on dismantling the toxic cultural messages rooted in white supremacy that tell us we are never enough. She empowers individuals—especially Black women and other marginalized communities—to reclaim their self-worth and reimagine a liberated, fulfilling life. Her book, We’ll All Be Free, blends personal narrative, social commentary, and actionable guidance to help readers break free from perfectionism, self-doubt, and societal pressure. In This Episode: The Never-Enough Culture – How systems of white supremacy drive perfectionism and keep us striving to prove our worth. Intensity as a Gift – Caroline’s journey from being labeled “intense” to recognizing her passion as a source of power. Masking and Cultural Expectations – The pressure on Black women to tone down their true selves and “fit in.” Self-Discovery as Liberation – Why examining how systems shape our beliefs is essential to personal and collective freedom. Finding Outlets for Intensity – How Caroline channels her energy through writing, tennis, acting, and music. The Power of Rest and Reclaiming Time – How rest can be a radical act of resistance in a culture that values productivity over well-being. Navigating ADHD and Giftedness – Caroline’s exploration into her own possible neurodivergence and her daughter’s twice-exceptionality journey. Ripple Effect Change – Why small, intentional actions can lead to lasting, collective transformation. Key Takeaways: Your worth is not tied to your productivity. Systems of oppression benefit from keeping us feeling “not enough.” Intensity is a strength when you learn to embrace and channel it. Rest is a radical act of resistance against hustle culture. Small, personal shifts can ripple outward to create collective change. Resources & Links: Follow Caroline on Instagram & Threads: Book: We’ll All Be Free – Support independent bookstores via /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/35322205

280: Celebrating Neurodivergence and Authenticity with Sheldon Gay 01/19/2025

280: Celebrating Neurodivergence and Authenticity with Sheldon Gay In this episode of Embracing Intensity, I’m thrilled to welcome Sheldon Gay, host of the I Must Be Buggin’ podcast. Sheldon brings his insightful perspective on navigating life as a late-identified gifted and neurodivergent individual. His podcast and work are dedicated to amplifying underrepresented voices and empowering others to embrace their unique identities. We explore the challenges and beauty of being true to oneself in a world that often misunderstands intensity, neurodivergence, and giftedness. Sheldon’s passion for self-discovery, emotional depth, and compassionate communication shines through in this powerful conversation. About Sheldon: Sheldon Gay is the host of the I Must Be Buggin’ podcast, where he delves into topics of identity, giftedness, and neurodivergence through the lens of being Black, underrepresented, and gifted. His mission is to create a space for self-awareness, acceptance, and growth, while helping others see and embrace their unique strengths. Sheldon’s background as a late-identified gifted and neurodivergent individual has fueled his passion for helping others on their journey of self-discovery. He brings a thoughtful, empathetic approach to conversations on identity, culture, and the power of authenticity. In This Episode: Navigating Identity as a Late-Identified Neurodivergent Individual – Sheldon shares his journey of discovering his giftedness and neurodivergence later in life. Ask vs. Guess Culture – A deep dive into communication styles, cultural nuances, and how self-awareness can help bridge differences. The Power of Self-Discovery – Reflections on how shadow work and embracing authenticity can lead to freedom from shame and guilt. Intensity and Emotional Depth – Exploring how Sheldon’s intellectual curiosity and emotional intensity shape his interactions and relationships. Cultural Expectations and Exceptionalism – Discussing the pressures faced by marginalized communities and how giftedness intersects with cultural identity. Truth with Compassion – The importance of sharing truth in ways that create connection and understanding rather than division. Resources & Links: Sheldon’s Website: Listen to the I Must Be Buggin’ podcast Learn more about Sheldon’s speaking engagements Explore his neuroaffirming and anti-racist merchandise Connect with Aurora: Sheldon’s thoughtful reflections and passion for empowering others provide invaluable insights for anyone navigating their own journey of self-discovery and authenticity. Tune in for an engaging and inspiring conversation! Listen now and share your thoughts with us! 🎧✨ /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/34908425

279: The Science of Writing to Heal w/ Nneka Denise 12/17/2024

279: The Science of Writing to Heal w/ Nneka Denise The Science of Writing to Heal with Nneka Denise In this episode of Embracing Intensity, we’re excited to share the Q&A portion of our powerful conversation with Nneka Denise, founder of the Write to Heal Project. This discussion offers timely tools and insights as we reflect on letting go of the past year and preparing for a fresh, intentional start in the new year. Nneka shares her transformative approach to healing through writing, addressing grief not only as it relates to loss but also to life transitions, personal growth, and emotional clarity. Whether you’re navigating stress, seeking emotional release, or exploring creative outlets, this episode provides practical strategies to help you move forward. About Nneka Denise Nneka Denise is the founder of the Write to Heal Project and a trained end-of-life and bereavement doula based in the Portland-Vancouver area. Through journaling, visualization, and somatic practices, Nneka helps individuals process grief, trauma, and life’s emotional challenges. She also runs the New Wellness Center in downtown Portland, a collective of holistic healing practitioners offering vibrational sound baths, Reiki, massage, and emotional wellness support. In This Episode: The Science of Writing to Heal – How writing can help process emotions, grief, and transitions in life. Practical Writing Strategies – Tips for using gratitude journaling, brain dumps, and affirmations to create a daily healing practice. Ceremonial Release – The power of burning or shredding written emotions as a symbolic act of letting go. Affirmations for Healing – How to create affirmations that feel believable and achievable, guiding you toward positive change. Navigating Writing Challenges – Nneka’s advice for those with ADHD, dyslexia, or writing apprehensions, including voice dictation and alternative methods. Resources & Links: Connect with Nneka on Instagram: Contact Nneka via email: nneka.denise@gmail.com Learn about the in Downtown Portland (10th & Morrison) Explore the . Preorder Aurora’s workbook, , available this Friday, December 20th. Nneka’s work offers invaluable tools for self-reflection, healing, and emotional growth through the simple yet profound act of writing. Whether you’re a lifelong journaler or just beginning your healing journey, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you process emotions and step into the new year with intention. Listen now and take the first step toward embracing your own healing process! 🎧✨ /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/34478740

278: Nonviolent Communication w/ Bob Yamtich 11/25/2024

278: Nonviolent Communication w/ Bob Yamtich In this highly engaging episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, host Aurora Remember Holtzman dives deep into the world of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) with Bob Yamtich, a seasoned practitioner with over 20 years of experience. Bob shares how NVC has shaped his approach to relationships, parenting, and self-understanding, particularly as a neurodivergent individual. This conversation is packed with practical insights and tools for those seeking to enhance their self-connection and interpersonal communication. About Bob Yamtich: Bob Yamtich is a dedicated Nonviolent Communication trainer, therapist, and engineer. His journey into NVC began after his career as an environmental engineer, driven by his desire to contribute to societal change through better communication. Bob’s unique approach integrates empathy with analytical insights, honoring the importance of neurodivergence in his work and personal growth. He is a passionate advocate for using NVC as a bridge between self-awareness and impactful communication. In This Episode: Bob’s personal journey with Nonviolent Communication and how it helped him find balance as a bipolar individual. The core principles of NVC: self-connection, empathy, and honesty. How to distinguish between needs and strategies, and why it matters in communication. The concept of holding multiple needs and strategies simultaneously for resilience and creativity. Balancing analytical insights with empathy in understanding neurodivergence. Practical exercises, including identifying three current needs and corresponding strategies. How NVC fosters community, shared power, and collaborative problem-solving. Bob’s experiences teaching NVC to diverse audiences, including children and incarcerated individuals. The shift from “battle mode” to “build mode” in creating meaningful connections. Links and Resources: Learn more about Nonviolent Communication and its principles . Learn more about ! Explore Aurora’s Neurodivergent Toolbox and other resources at the . Get 25% off Aurora's digital products and memberships with code BIRTHDAY24 (valid until Dec 2). Whether you're new to Nonviolent Communication or a seasoned practitioner, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable strategies for enriching your connections with yourself and others. Tune in for a thought-provoking and uplifting discussion! /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/34145020

277: Navigating Healthy Relationships w/ Heather Boorman-Morris 10/07/2024

277: Navigating Healthy Relationships w/ Heather Boorman-Morris This episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, features a detailed conversation with Heather Borman Morris about understanding narcissistic relationships and how they uniquely affect gifted and neurodivergent individuals. Heather, a clinical social worker, shares her personal experience with narcissistic abuse, providing insights on identifying covert narcissism versus mere intense interest, particularly in neurodivergent or twice-exceptional individuals. The discussion delves into strategies for recognizing and managing toxic relationships, differentiating between narcissism and authentic behaviors, and emphasizes the need for understanding personal boundaries and fostering healthy relationships post-abuse. The episode also introduces Heather's work, including her book 'A Thousand Paper Cuts' and the podcast 'Starting Stronger'. About Heather: Heather Boorman-Morris is a renowned therapist, speaker, and author dedicated to helping individuals heal and thrive after experiencing toxic relationships. With over two decades of experience in the field, Heather specializes in trauma recovery, relationship dynamics, and neurodivergent mental health. She is the founder of Starting Stronger and the author of the acclaimed book Thousand Paper Cuts: Finding Healing in the Aftermath of a Narcissist. Heather’s compassionate approach and deep understanding of complex emotional landscapes make her a sought-after expert in the journey towards healthy, fulfilling relationships. In this episode: Heather joins the podcast to discuss navigating healthy relationships, focusing on narcissistic abuse. Heather shares her experience of being in an abusive relationship and later discovering covert narcissism. Discussion on the targeting of neurodivergent individuals by narcissists, highlighting their traits like empathy and ambition. Differences between overt and covert narcissists are outlined, including their stages of relationship: idealization, devaluation, and discard. Strategies like mirroring used by manipulators in relationships are explained. Emphasis on trusting one's body and intuition as indicators of being in a toxic relationship. Conversation on distinguishing between love bombing and genuine neurodivergent intensity. Importance of taking time to build relationships and recognizing genuine intentions. Discussion about the impact of past trauma and hyper-vigilance when forming new relationships. Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/33368107

276: Neurodivergent Leadership w/ Marc Almodovar 09/16/2024

276: Neurodivergent Leadership w/ Marc Almodovar In this enriching episode, Aurora hosts Marc, who shares his profound insights on neurodivergent leadership. Marc introduces himself by recounting his journey with ADHD, from his early school years to receiving his diagnosis at 16. This pivotal moment spurred him to embrace and understand his unique brain function, leading to his certification as an ADHD life coach. Marc speaks proudly of founding the Men's ADHD Support Group, a 501c3 nonprofit with over 17,000 members, aiming to empower men with ADHD. He emphasizes the importance of leveraging the inherent strengths of neurodivergent individuals rather than conforming to societal norms. Marc's empathetic and mentorship-driven leadership style, rooted in his personal experiences, serves as a testament to the potential and efficacy of neurodivergent leaders. He addresses challenges such as imposter syndrome, the importance of passion in leadership, and strategies for effective communication within his organization. The discussion also touches on the nuances of the ADHD label, stressing a balanced view that acknowledges both strengths and challenges. About Marc: Marc Almodovar Jr. is a neurodiversity advocate and the founder of the ADHD Men’s Support Group, a safe space where men with ADHD can connect with others who share common experiences and challenges. Marc’s personal experience with ADHD led him to feel isolated and misunderstood, and he recognized the need for a supportive community. He believes that by fostering a sense of belonging and acceptance within the group, men with ADHD can advocate for neurodiversity awareness and acceptance within society as a whole. As a mental health advocate, Marc recognizes the stigma surrounding mental illness and strives to create a space where men with ADHD can feel safe and supported regardless of their unique ways of thinking and experiencing the world. He is passionate about raising awareness about neurodiversity and helping people understand the diverse ways in which people experience the world. With a balance of authenticity and positivity, Marc inspires others to embrace their unique strengths and connect with others within the neurodiverse community. In this episode: Marc discusses his experience with ADHD, including his diagnosis at 16 and its impact on his life. He shares how understanding his brain led him to personal development and becoming an ADHD life coach. Founding the Men's ADHD Support Group, a non-profit organization with over 17,000 members. People with ADHD often have strong leadership qualities. Leveraging strengths rather than conforming to societal norms. The importance of mentorship and leading by example. Personal and societal challenges neurodivergent leaders face, such as imposter syndrome and self-criticism. The value of self-affirmations and support systems in overcoming these challenges. Negative feedback and misconceptions about ADHD, especially related to gender. The need for safe spaces for men with ADHD and dispelling myths around the condition. Giving constructive feedback while staying authentic. Using “kind candor” and focusing on team collaboration to improve feedback delivery. Resources available for partners of men with ADHD, including support groups and public content. The debate around viewing ADHD as a gift versus a disorder. Recognizing both the strengths and challenges of ADHD without labeling it strictly as one or the other. Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/33074837

275: The Healing Power of Music w/ Princess Fortier 08/12/2024

275: The Healing Power of Music w/ Princess Fortier This week on the Embracing Intensity podcast, host Aurora discusses the transformative power of music with guest Princess Fortier. Princess shares her personal journey of using singing to alleviate her chronic migraines, which began at the age of 13. Despite initially pursuing neuroscience to find a medical cure, she discovered that singing provided significant relief from her symptoms. Aurora and Princess delve into how music can relax, heal, and foster emotional well-being, particularly for those with neurodivergent traits like ADHD and autism. They also explore the importance of community in musical healing practices and offer practical advice for using music and singing as therapeutic tools. Tips for finding and creating musical communities are discussed, along with the benefits of engaging in sound baths and circle singing. About Princess: Princess Fortier is a dynamic musician, speaker, and advocate for mental health and neurodivergence. With a rich background in using music as a therapeutic tool, she has dedicated her career to helping others find healing and self-expression through creative outlets. Princess's work emphasizes the emotional and psychological benefits of music, drawing from her personal experiences and professional expertise to inspire and empower her audience. She is known for her engaging and heartfelt presentations, making complex topics accessible and relatable to diverse audiences. In this Episode: Princess shares how music has helped her understand and process emotions, learn about love, and find healing. Aurora introduces the "Embracing Intensity" podcast, aimed at gifted, creative, twice-exceptional individuals. Moving to a single monthly episode improved downloads. Princess discusses her journey studying neuroscience to find a cure for her migraines. Singing during a migraine attack unexpectedly relieved her symptoms. Aurora opens up Q&A, asking Princess about factors contributing to music helping with migraines. Princess explains the potential of music to relax and align with one's purpose, influencing mental and physical well-being. Community involvement in singing and music is encouraged for healing and creativity. Practical suggestions for engaging in music, such as joining choirs or attending sound bowl classes. Discussion on how specific songs and types of music can be personalized for therapeutic benefit. Auroras' philosophy: using her platform to allow others to share their voices. Princess's invitation to explore creating and experiencing music for personal therapy. Closing remarks emphasize continuing conversation and participating in the Embracing Intensity community. Aurora concludes with invitations to join the community for support and access to tools for self-regulation. Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/32507672

274: Restful Rest 07/15/2024

274: Restful Rest In this solo episode, I delve into my personal journey of overcoming a prolonged burnout to explore the concept of truly restful rest. I discuss the five areas of energy balance—physical, emotional, mental, social, and connection—from my 'Balancing Your Time and Energy' workbook. Through my experience, including the importance of joy-driven activities, social connections, and the INCUP (Interest, Novelty, Challenge, Urgency, and Passion) framework, I provide practical advice on how to replenish energy reserves effectively. Also, discover the value of doing an energy audit to identify draining versus energizing activities. Learn more about my strategies for achieving genuine rest and explore my workbook collection for further guidance. In this Episode: Experiencing burnout and the importance of restful rest. Five Areas of Energy Balance: Physical, Emotional, Mental, Social, and Connection. Physical Rest: Emphasizes the importance of activities that truly relax the nervous system, like going for walks. Mental Rest: Stresses shifting focus to activities driven by joy rather than duty to avoid energy drain. Emotional Rest: Highlights the significance of assertive actions over anxiety-driven actions. Social Rest: Explains how spending time with comfortable social connections can be energizing. Connection: Discusses the importance of feeling connected to oneself, others, and the world. Motivation Factors: INCUP - Interest, Novelty, Challenge, Urgency, and Passion - as motivational strategies. Urgency: Talks about creating a sense of urgency through public accountability to stay motivated. Challenge: Transforming tasks into challenges to stay engaged and motivated. Interest: Recommends revisiting previous interests to reignite passion. Novelty and Passion: Encourages switching things up to maintain novelty and passion in tasks. Join our upcoming community call on the healing power of music! Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/32133137

273: Exploring Self-Connection w/ Bob Yamtich 06/03/2024

273: Exploring Self-Connection w/ Bob Yamtich In this episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, host Aurora Remember Holtzman interviews Bob Yamtich about his journey with intensity, nonviolent communication (NVC), and self-connection. Bob shares his personal experiences with bipolar disorder and hypomania, the importance of shared reality, and his passion for self-connection. He discusses his work, including his self-connection coloring book, and provides insights into the practice of NVC for both self-awareness and enhancing interpersonal communication. Aurora and Bob also delve into the challenges and rewards of forming in-person connections and the role of intensity in their lives. The episode concludes with Bob's emphasis on the foundational role of self-connection in his approach to NVC and a preview of his upcoming live discussion on the topic. About Bob: Bob Yamtich is a therapist and Nonviolent Communication trainer. He completed his Bachelor’s in Civil Engineering in 2003, the BayNVC Nonviolent Communication Leadership Program in 2007 (assisting in LP08), and his Master’s in Counseling Psychology in 2011. He earned his Marriage and Family Therapist license in California in 2014. He was a founding member of the Da Vinci Center for Gifted Children in Alameda, CA, and Genesis Innovation Academy in Atlanta, GA. Bob currently lives in Indiana and offers phone coaching and in-person training. He can be followed on Twitter @BobYamtich. In this episode: Introduction by Bob about trusting intensity based on shared reality and positive contributions. Aurora introduces Bob Yamtich, mentioning his upcoming talk on Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and their mutual appreciation for NVC. Bob expresses gratitude for being on the podcast. Aurora asks Bob about what he is intensely passionate about; Bob mentions his role as a dad and his professional passion for developing self-connection, highlighting his self-connection coloring book. Discussion on how NVC helps both with self-connection and interpersonal communication. Bob speaks about overcoming hypomania and psychosis, emphasizing the need for stability and shared reality. Bob shares his journey with bipolar disorder and the importance of medication alongside therapeutic practices. Aurora asks about the impact of intensity during Bob's upbringing; Bob shares how his extreme passion led to feelings of guilt and loneliness. Bob mentions his gifted program experience and the importance of having passionate friends. Bob discusses how nonviolent communication helped him rebuild his life and manage his intensity. Aurora and Bob talk about the challenges and benefits of connecting with others in person versus online. Bob reflects on the shadow side of his intensity, including an episode where he buried treasure and was not in touch with shared reality. Emphasis on the importance of self-connection in managing intensity and understanding one's needs. Bob shares a final blessing of self-connection and invites listeners to explore this concept along with empathy and honesty in nonviolent communication. Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/31589047

272. Creativity as Self Care w/ Sharon Burton 05/13/2024

272. Creativity as Self Care w/ Sharon Burton This week on Embracing Intensity, we share part of our call with Sharon J. Burton on "Creativity as Self-Care." Sharon delves into a chapter from her upcoming book "Creative Sparks" that explores how embracing creativity can be a powerful form of self-care. Through affirmations, inspiration, and practical tips, Sharon will guide attendees on how to use their creative talents to nurture their well-being, reduce stress, and cultivate a more mindful and fulfilling life. Join us for an enlightening discussion on the transformative power of creativity in self-care practices. Join us for an engaging discussion with Sharon, a creativity coach, visual artist, teaching artist, yoga nidra guide, meditation guide, poet, and soon-to-be author. Sharon shares her journey back to art after pursuing a traditional career path and emphasizes the importance of creativity as self-care. The conversation covers themes such as the challenges and joys of embracing creativity at midlife, especially for those who may not have received encouragement earlier in life due to societal pressures towards more conventional careers. Sharon introduces her upcoming book, 'Creative Sparks: 21 Affirmations and Inspirations for Creativity at Midlife,' aimed at inspiring people to reconnect with their creativity. The discussion also explores the significance of creativity for personal growth, mental health, and cultural expression, particularly within the African American community. Additionally, it addresses overcoming common obstacles like the inner critic, imposter syndrome, and societal expectations, encouraging listeners to give themselves permission to explore their passions and creative impulses fully. About Sharon Sharon J. Burton is a visual artist, art curator, poet and certified creative coach and Founder of Spark Your Creative Coaching. Since 2016, she has focused on helping people in "creative recovery"... those looking to revive or jump start their creativity through group and individual coaching, workshops, her blog and as the host of Spark Your Creative Podcast which features artists and other creatives who are using their unique talents to create more mindful communities and a safer world. Sharon is a certified creativity coach through the Creativity Coaching Association. She completed requirements for the professional certificate in Art Business from New York University and a certificate in Art History through the Smithsonian. a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration and a Master of Public Administration. Sharon is also a Level II, Reiki Certified practitioner and received her Breath Work + Meditation Teacher Certification. Sharon infuses her creativity coaching with wellness practices to help her clients break through the blocks that prevent them from fully engaging in their creative potential. In this episode: Aurora welcomes Sharon Burton to the "Embracing Intensity" podcast to discuss creativity as self-care. Sharon reflects on reconnecting with Aurora after years and discusses the importance of creativity in her life and others'. Aurora mentions the podcast's start in 2016, noting Sharon's early appearance in its second year. Sharon introduces herself as a creativity coach, visual artist, yoga nidra and meditation guide, and soon-to-be author. The discussion pivots to Sharon's upcoming book, "Creative Sparks: 21 Affirmations and Inspirations for Creativity at Midlife," focused on encouraging creativity in midlife individuals. Sharon shares her journey from pursuing a practical business degree to rediscovering her artistic side, emphasizing the challenge and reward of returning to creativity. A chapter from Sharon's book is shared, highlighting how creative practice can serve as a powerful form of self-care and aid in stress reduction, self-expression, self-discovery, boosting self-esteem, and promoting physical well-being. Aurora and Sharon discuss the societal pressures that often discourage creative pursuits and share personal insights on recognizing and affirming one's creativity. The conversation includes questions from the audience, exploring challenges faced by multi-talented individuals and ways to prioritize creativity amidst life's demands. Discussion on where creativity comes from, suggesting it can originate both from within the mind and beyond the physical body. The dialogue transitions to a discussion segment, where Sheldon joins to emphasize the unique experiences of creativity within the Black community and the impact of cultural and societal expectations. Sharon responds by highlighting the evolving opportunities for creative expression enabled by technology and the importance of embracing creativity at any life stage. Aurora wraps up by summarizing key takeaways: understanding one's creative "why," giving oneself permission to prioritize creativity, and inviting listeners to explore Sharon's upcoming book as a resource for inspiration and empowerment. Sharon concludes with details about her book launch, her podcast, and how to connect with her online for more insights into fostering creativity. Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/31276032

271: The Importance of Play w/ Boontarika Sripom 04/29/2024

271: The Importance of Play w/ Boontarika Sripom Join us in a profound exploration of fun, creativity, and self-care in our latest Embracing Intensity Podcast episode with special guest Boontarika Sripom. Dive deep into the significance of play in nurturing personal growth and bringing joy into our lives, especially for the intensely creative and gifted. Boontarika, a life coach with a passion for play and a background in clinical psychology and human development, shares her insights on how engaging in playful activities can foster innovation, relieve stress, and support our overall well-being. Discover the psychological foundations of play, its role in human development, and how to incorporate more playful moments into your daily routine. Whether you're seeking ways to rejuvenate your creative spirit or find balance in your intense life, this conversation is a reminder of play's transformative power. For the creative, differently wired, and divergent thinker, play can be as natural as breathing. For some of us, there are layers of shame or uncertainty that inhibit playing across the lifespan. We may be separated from an essential part of maintaining authenticity. This conversation will explore the power of play, sprinkle archetypal journeys within play and fandoms, and encourage listeners to honor their inner children by playing. To those who continue playing: My inner child honors yours. I just waved at you across the playground. :) About Boontarika: Boontarika Sripom, MA is a therapy-informed life coach. Her work focuses on coaching using archetypes and understanding the cognition of the differently wired, specifically highly sensitive, creative, and gamer folks. She believes knowledge, guidance, and compassion leads to insights, individual acceptance, and empowerment to change. Boonie is a former preschool teacher, paraprofessional in special education, Outreach Counselor Intern, and College Counselor for creative students. She earned her Master’s in Clinical Psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology. Her favorite games are Age of Empires, World of Warcraft, and Minecraft. She is currently playing Fortnite, Roblox, and The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild. In this episode: Rejuvenating rest and exploring creativity as self-care with Sharon Burton's upcoming book release. The significance of play, especially for intense, gifted, creative individuals. Boontarika introduces her talk on play's importance, touching on her background in clinical psychology and love for video games. Discussion on the psychological aspects of play, highlighting its components like being purposeless, voluntary, and having inherent attraction. Mentions of Stuart Brown and the National Institute of Play, and their work on defining the components of play. Boontarika shares personal anecdotes and illustrations to explain concepts of play. Exploration of play's therapeutic and developmental benefits, including combating depression and fostering a sense of community. Reference to Jane McGonigal's works on how games can improve our lives and the role of gamification. Emphasis on the therapeutic aspects for neurodivergent individuals and how play serves as a safe space. Reflection on societal pressures, adulthood's responsibilities, and the overall decline in play. Discussion turns to practical ways to reintegrate play into life and its broader benefits. Concluding thoughts on the cultural and personal importance of play, inviting the audience to explore their own playful nature. Integrating play into educational settings and acknowledging the varying definitions of play. Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/31007598

270: Intensity & Harmony w/ Princess Fortier 04/08/2024

270: Intensity & Harmony w/ Princess Fortier In this engaging conversation, Aurora sits down with the multi-talented Princess Fortier, a beacon of inspiration in the journey of embracing one’s intensity. Princess shares her remarkable story, from neuroscientist to singer and model, highlighting how music became her tool for healing and transforming her life. Together, they delve into the themes of harnessing personal intensity, pursuing passions beyond conventional boundaries, and the power of gratitude journaling. Princess's insight provides a riveting exploration of living life unbounded and the beauty of connecting deeply with one's passions. Join us as we uncover the synergy between harmony and intensity, and discover how embracing your full self can lead to a fulfilling and impactful life. Discover how Princess overcame intense migraines through her passion for singing, marking a pivotal shift in her life that not only cured her physically but also steered her towards a fulfilling career in music. Throughout the episode, Princess shares her multifaceted experiences, from her challenges with perfectionism and navigating cultural expressions to engaging deeply with neurodiversity and entrepreneurship. Aurora and Princess delve into the significance of embracing one's intensity, using personal fire for positive impact, and the liberation found in gratitude and self-expression. This episode is a testament to the strength found in vulnerability, the beauty of pursuing one's passions, and the value of community support. Tune in to be inspired, find connection, and discover how to channel your own intensity into a force for good. This episode not only celebrates Princess's remarkable contributions to the field of music and arts but also sheds light on how embracing one's intensity can lead to groundbreaking discoveries and personal healing. Listen in as Princess shares her thoughts on perseverance, the significance of music in her life, her battle against perfectionism, and her spirited advocacy for journaling and gratitude as tools for navigating life's challenges. In this episode Princess is an inspiring figure who transitioned from a neuroscientist to a singer/model and has been featured in shows like Abbott Elementary and All American. Princess shares her unique story of how singing cured her chronic migraines, leading her to pursue a full-time music career. The power of journaling, especially gratitude journaling, as a tool for self-reflection and goal setting. Princess discusses the challenges and benefits of embracing one's intensity, including her resistance to being limited by societal expectations and finding freedom in diversity. The dialogue touches on topics like neurodivergence, perfectionism, the importance of setting boundaries, and the impact of cultural and familial pressures. Aurora and Princess share experiences of dealing with rejection sensitivity and the internal struggle of wanting to be liked and approved. They explore the concept of using one's 'fire' for good, including sharing knowledge, setting examples for others, and creating transformative art. Princess discusses how engaging in multiple passions, such as music and entrepreneurship, has allowed her to express her intensity in various domains. Aurora emphasizes the importance of self-care and taking breaks to prevent burnout, acknowledging her own past of working on urgency. The conversation also covers strategies for harnessing one's intensity and sensitivity, with Princess highlighting the power of gratitude practices. Princess encourages the audience to let go of perfectionism and embrace their passions. Both speakers reflect on personal growth, the importance of authentic self-expression, and supporting others in their journey to embrace their intensity. Princess shares ways to connect with her and learn more about her journey and work, including her website and upcoming appearances. Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/30738338

269: Dismantling Patriarchy Through Play w/ Jeff Harry 03/18/2024

269: Dismantling Patriarchy Through Play w/ Jeff Harry In this thought-provoking podcast episode, Jeff and Aurora delve deep into the topic of dismantling patriarchy through play. They explore the impact of societal norms on individuals, the role of neurodivergence in challenging the status quo, and the importance of celebrating uniqueness. Through personal anecdotes and insightful discussions, they highlight the power of embracing one's intensity and fostering connections through play. Stay tuned to gain valuable insights on creating a more inclusive and empathetic world through intentional actions and meaningful engagement. The podcast discussion delves into the intersection of play, patriarchy, neurodiversity, and societal norms. Jeff and Aurora explore the impact of patriarchy on both men and women, emphasizing the importance of men becoming allies to women and the need to challenge traditional gender roles. They highlight the power of play in fostering connection, breaking free from societal expectations, and celebrating neurodiversity. The conversation encourages embracing uniqueness, challenging the status quo, and fostering a sense of community and connection through play. About Jeff Jeff Harry, the founder of Rediscover Your Play, runs an organization dedicated to making work more enjoyable through play and positive psychology. With a strong belief that play can heal workplaces and communities, Jeff emphasizes the importance of embracing intensity and connecting with others authentically. He advocates for celebrating neurodivergence and challenging societal norms to create a more inclusive and empathetic world. Jeff's work focuses on dismantling patriarchy by encouraging allies to women and fostering deeper connections through play. In this episode: Jeff emphasizes the importance of play in healing workplaces and communities. Play is discussed as a tool for challenging the status quo and encouraging connection. Aurora and Jeff share stories about the power of play to bring people together. Celebrating neurodivergency and uniqueness is highlighted as a way to dismantle patriarchy. Remote companionship is discussed as both beneficial and limited in replacing in-person connections. The impact of societal norms on neurodivergent individuals and the need for acceptance and celebration. Historical examples like the 54th during the Civil War are used to showcase the ripple effects of small actions. The concept of the "cathedral effect" is introduced, encouraging individuals to make a difference even if they may not see the immediate results. The Embracing Intensity community is promoted as a supportive space for intense and gifted individuals to connect and grow. Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/30427528

268: Embracing the Power of Emotional Intensity with Christine Fonseca 03/04/2024

268: Embracing the Power of Emotional Intensity with Christine Fonseca This week on Embracing Intensity, we share an enlightening conversation with award-winning author and licensed educational psychologist, Christine Fonseca. In this episode of our podcast, our host, Aurora, delves into an enriching conversation with Fonseca, exploring her insights on emotional intensity, mental health, giftedness, and our inherent human complexities. Fonseca, a gifted adult herself, opens up about her experiences, passions, and various interests that set her apart. The discussion probes the depths of dealing with intense emotions, overcoming personal challenges, and handling burnout. The highlight of the conversation is Fonseca's perspective on the full spectrum of human emotions and the importance of dissecting, understanding, and accepting them as part of our unique individual journeys. She also talks about the necessity of open cross-disciplinary communication within the fields of mental health and related sciences to facilitate a more comprehensive understanding of the human condition. Join us for these compelling insights and much more in our podcast of a treasured conversation with Christine Fonseca! In this Episode: Unpacking Christine Fonseca's journey from being an educational psychologist to an international speaker, author, and gifted adult Discussion on the influence and inspiration behind the podcast Unveiling Christine's multi-faceted interests including owning a lifestyle shop and being a fiber artist Emphasizing the importance of not fitting in a box and cherishing one's unique identity Navigating the nuances of social interactions and their impact on mental health Exploring the connection between emotional intensity and the nervous system dysregulation Introduction to the ROAR protocol, a technique to understand and mitigate anxiety Christine's personal journey through overcoming burnout and the strategies she employed Deep dive into the conversation of societal pressures, the pursuit of constant happiness and its paradoxical impact on mental health The untapped power of holistic communication across different disciplinary silos in the healthcare and mental health sector Embracing the beauty and complexity of being intensely human and the power of acceptance. Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/30224793

267: Building Confidence & Resilience w/ CoCo Leary 02/19/2024

267: Building Confidence & Resilience w/ CoCo Leary In this episode of the Embracing Intensity Podcast, we bring you an inspiring conversation with Cosette "Coco" Leary. Coco’s gripping story takes us on a journey from her days as a welfare recipient to eventually becoming a celebrated motivational speaker and entrepreneur. Her story is laced with determination, resilience, and overcoming adversity to redefine herself on her own terms. Join us as we delve into Coco's remarkable life journey. Coco candidly shares her life from being a welfare recipient to ascending to the realms of high-profile activism and motivational speaking. We learn about her early struggles with poverty, systemic barriers, and personal hurdles that conditioned her resilience and determination to achieve her dreams. Coco speaks passionately about her staunch belief in the power of perseverance, community, education, and self-belief. She beautifully illustrates how she transformed a life limited by societal expectations into a path teeming with promise and endless potential. Coco’s inspiring story delivers a powerful message about fighting for one’s dreams despite being in the face of adversity. This episode is a testament to the power of resilience, the quest for education, and the determination to change the narrative regardless of one's background. Tune in for a dose of intense inspiration! In this episode: Coco shares the pivotal role desperation played in building her resilience. Her brave initiative to pen a letter to a CEO that opened new avenues in her life. The importance of having a support system and the role sisterhood played in Coco's life. How her children’s unmet needs in public schools led her to homeschooling, and the benefits thereof. The impactful experience of her stint in Capitol Hill in D.C which led her to establish her empire. Coco’s vision for transforming societal norms through increased social connection and community support. Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/30020563

266: Navigating Intensity Through a Cultural Lens w/ Kaitlin Smith 02/06/2024

266: Navigating Intensity Through a Cultural Lens w/ Kaitlin Smith In this episode of the Embracing Intensity Podcast, host Aurora interviews Kaitlin Smith, a scholar, facilitator, and founder of Our Wild Minds. Kaitlin shares her journey as a gifted BIPOC individual, her work in supporting gifted adults, and her research on the history of mind sciences. Join Aurora and Kaitlin as they explore the intersections between intensity, cultural dynamics, and personal growth. In this interview, Aurora and Kaitlin delve into Kaitlin's experiences as a gifted BIPOC individual, the challenges she faced growing up, and the cultural factors that affected her self-expression. They discuss how Kaitlin uses her intensity to make a positive impact and navigate the complex dynamics of the workplace. Kaitlin also shares her insights on harnessing the power of intensity and helping others do the same through her community platform, Our Wild Minds. Join Aurora and Kaitlin as they delve into the complexities of intensity and its transformative potential in this thought-provoking episode of the Embracing Intensity Podcast. In This Episode: Kaitlin's journey as a scholar, facilitator, and founder of Our Wild Minds. The intersections between the history of mind sciences and African American studies in Kaitlin's research. The challenges Kaitlin faced growing up in a predominantly white suburb and the conflicting expectations placed upon her as a gifted Black individual. The impact of cultural dynamics on expression and the pressure to conform to societal expectations. How Kaitlin uses her fire for good through various roles, including her work as a PhD student, teaching fellow, and community builder. The importance of clarity, deprogramming, and prioritizing values in harnessing the power of intensity. Kaitlin's insights on creating space for connection, introspection, learning, manifestation, and giving back through Our Wild Minds. The empowering message that it's never too late to embrace authenticity and live a life aligned with your true self. Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/29815908

265: Play as a Tool for Decolonizing Neurodivergence w/ Dr. Kimberly Douglass 01/22/2024

265: Play as a Tool for Decolonizing Neurodivergence w/ Dr. Kimberly Douglass In this age of rapid and overwhelming information, how does one choose what is important to learn? Opportunities to play are opportunities to learn. Play allows us to imagine ourselves in different realities, in different worlds where the rules are different, where we can be different. In these alternate worlds, we can demand more for ourselves. In these worlds, we can identify our needs and build rules and systems to meet our deepest needs. Just as someone imagined the world you see around you right now; the one in which neurodivergent needs go largely unmet - through play, we can imagine a world in which neurodivergent needs are met. In this episode of the Embracing Intensity Podcast, host Aurora and Dr. Kimberly Douglas discuss the power of play in decolonizing neurodivergence. Dr. Douglas shares her insights on the relationship between play, imagination, and decolonization, and how they intersect in the context of gaming and world building. They discuss the power of immersion, imagination, and safety in fostering a state of play, and how play can be a catalyst for expanding thinking and problem-solving. They explore the connection between play and power dynamics in society, particularly within the context of colonization. Dr. Douglas also shares her perspective on the need to decolonize neurodivergence and challenge oppressive systems that limit the expression of neurodivergent identities. The conversation concludes with a reflection on the possibilities and challenges of embracing play and creativity as tools for personal and societal transformation. Stay tuned for this insightful conversation on play, decolonization, and embracing neurodivergent identities. Make sure to check out Dr. Kimberly Douglas' work and follow her on social media for more valuable insights. About Kimberly: Dr Kimberly Douglass is coach/consultant to Neurodivergent Adults. Dr Douglass is currently constructing the first design studio of its kind, run by AuDHDers, for AuDHDers. Dr Douglass became a full-time coach after working as staff, peer-reviewed researcher, faculty and administrator in higher education for over 17 years. She began the neurodivergence advocacy work over 13 years ago when she became the chief advocate for her Son who is neurodivergent. She has since gotten more in touch with her own neurodivergence. Dr Douglass is married to Dean Tate and lives in Tennessee. In this episode: Dr. Douglas shares her background and expertise in working with neurodivergent individuals. The importance of safety and immersion in fostering a state of play. Play encourages imagination, ideation, and thinking outside the box The relationship between play and imagination, and the role of play in expanding thinking and problem-solving. How neurodivergence challenges societal expectations and the worker role The connection between play and power dynamics in society, and the need to decolonize neurodivergence. Why decolonizing neurodivergence requires understanding larger systems of oppression The possibilities and challenges of embracing play and creativity as tools for personal and societal transformation. Permission to play and decolonize can bring up grief but also opens up possibilities Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/29602963

264: Overcoming Perfectionism: Building Self-Compassion for Gifted and Neurodivergent Adults 01/09/2024

264: Overcoming Perfectionism: Building Self-Compassion for Gifted and Neurodivergent Adults Are you a gifted or neurodivergent perfectionist struggling to overcome the damaging effects of perfectionism? In this episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, host Aurora Remember Holtzman invites special guest Aileen Kelleher, a therapist and life coach, to delve into the topic of overcoming perfectionism. Together, they explore the intersection between perfectionism and giftedness and discuss the various ways in which perfectionism can impact our lives. From high expectations and low self-esteem to time limits and parental expectations, Aurora and Aileen shed light on the challenges faced by perfectionists and provide practical strategies for managing perfectionistic tendencies and fostering self-compassion. Join the Embracing Intensity community at embracingintensity.com to dive deeper into understanding and overcoming your own perfectionism. Gain access to courses, tools, and support from like-minded individuals who appreciate and celebrate the power of high personal standards. You can also, explore the free self-regulation workbook for gifted and neurodivergent adults, titled "Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity," which offers a practical guide for overcoming perfectionism and embracing your unique abilities. Visit the show notes or embracingintensity.com for more information and resources. In this episode: - The definition and negative impact of perfectionism, including its association with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. - Overlaps between perfectionism and giftedness, such as high expectations, sensitivity, and self-criticism. - The unhealthy coping mechanisms often employed by perfectionists, such as procrastination and avoidance. - Strategies for managing perfectionism, including incremental steps, setting realistic goals, and practicing self-compassion. - The importance of recognizing and embracing the messy nature of overcoming perfectionism and learning new skills. - The role of self-compassion and cultivating present-moment awareness in overcoming perfectionism and achieving high performance. - The damaging effects of perfectionism on daily life, relationships, and emotional well-being. - Practical tips for parents and educators to support gifted children and help them navigate the pressures of perfectionism. - The unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in managing perfectionistic behaviors and finding balance in their lives. By addressing the problem of perfectionism and providing practical strategies for overcoming it, this episode offers valuable insights and guidance for high achievers, gifted individuals, and neurodivergent adults who struggle with the damaging effects of perfectionism in their own lives. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of perfectionism and learn how to cultivate self-compassion and embrace your unique abilities. Resources: & /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/29396638

263: Navigating Intimacy and Neurodivergence: A Conversation with Catieosaurus 12/05/2023

263: Navigating Intimacy and Neurodivergence: A Conversation with Catieosaurus In this episode of the "Embracing Intensity" podcast, host Aurora brings on a special guest, Cate Osburn, better known on social media as Catieosaurus. As a certified sex educator with an emphasis on neurodivergency and intimacy, Cate sparks much-needed conversations, tackling topics others often shy away from. With her unique insights drawn from personal experiences and her role as a sex educator, she brings a nuanced understanding of how neurodivergency can interact with intimacy and sex. Throughout the episode, Cate and Aurora, among other topics, delve into the intersection of neurodivergence and intimacy, discuss the impacts of societal norms on sex and relationships, and provide tangible strategies to navigate through intimacy issues. Cate advocates for self-advocacy, shedding light on the importance of open and honest communication within relationships. In a world that rarely discusses the intersection of intimacy and neurodivergence, this conversation with Catieosaurus is a breath of fresh air providing valuable insights, strategies, and reassurance that you are not alone in your struggles. Catch up on this enlightening conversation today. Use the link in the podcast description to join our Embracing Intensity community to access our courses and tools designed to help you use your own intensity without getting burned! Explore different podcast episodes, meet like-minded individuals, and enjoy self-paced learning to better understand and grow from your experiences. In this episode: The relationship and challenges between neurodivergence and intimacy. Tips for navigating sensory issues during sexual activities, such as using tools like headphones. An examination of problematic gender dynamics that can play out in intimate relationships. Ways to manage relationship satisfaction amidst the challenges of neurodivergency. How to distinguish between drama and passion in relationships. The importance of self- advocacy, allowing for the fulfilling and authentic expression of our needs. The concept of "Ask culture" versus "Guess culture" and the effects on relationships and intimacy. Resources: /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/28932018

262: Burnout Recovery 07/31/2023

262: Burnout Recovery This week on Embracing Intensity, I share my experience with the physical and emotional exhaustion that comes with severe burnout. In this episode, I share updates on my personal life that have contributed to burnout, dive into my recovery process and discuss how to overcome burnout symptoms. I also share a preview of what I have coming up as I recover from burnout this summer! Burnout can affect every aspect of your life, from your job to your personal relationships. It's important to recognize the signs of burnout early on and take the necessary steps to address it. Whether it's through improving your work-life balance, seeking social support, or making small changes to your daily routine, there are ways to recover and find relief from burnout. Recent research has shown that burnout is not just a result of long hours and excessive stress, but also a combination of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion. It can take a toll on your physical health, immune system, and even your mental well-being. That's why it's crucial to prioritize self-care and engage in activities that promote relaxation and rejuvenation. Join Me In this podcast, we'll explore various burnout recovery techniques, such as incorporating physical activity, spending quality time with friends, and getting enough sleep. We'll also discuss the importance of spending time on things we love, seeking professional help when needed, and finding support from friends, family members, and colleagues. Join me as we navigate the journey of burnout recovery together. I'll share my personal experiences, as well as insights from experts in the field, to help you create a burnout recovery plan that works for you. Whether you're a busy professional, a parent, or someone struggling with burnout in any area of your life, this podcast is here to provide guidance and support. So, grab a cup of tea, find a cozy spot, and let's embark on the path to burnout recovery. Remember, you're not alone, and there is hope for a full recovery. Let's get started. In this episode: I discuss my recent absence from content creation due to burnout and chronic headaches. Factors that have contributed to my burnout including work-related stress and big life changes. Updates on what’s been happening for me this year personally. Giving myself permission not to be productive has been helpful in my burnout recovery. Reconnecting with friends and reaching out for support has been beneficial, as many friends are also struggling after the isolation of the pandemic. Engaging in activities that bring joy and relaxation, such as floating in a pool, can help with relaxation and letting go of stress. Incorporating movement, such as going for walks, and seeking body work and acupuncture can aid in burnout recovery. I am working on catching up on content for the planner club and developing neurodivergent-friendly planners for travel and relationships. I’m open to taking requests for specific planner content to make it more neurodivergent-friendly. I plan to create a printed planner using the disk bound system for customization. Adding a new course to my membership called "Befriending Your Brain, Self Assessment Course." Members of my course membership will have access to upcoming calls, guest speakers, call recordings, and new content. I have many creative ideas and plans for the future, but I also need to honor my own burnout and recovery cycles. Our next monthly call about writing to heal takes place on the third Saturday of the month at 10:00 AM Pacific time. /episode/index/show/embracingintensity/id/27609645

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