Gumball Love Podcast
Ever had a guy ghost you? He’s into you and suddenly he pulls away or cheats? Does he leave and come back into your life? This is a Gumball Guy. Gumball Love is attention addiction. Attention is just like a Gumball, temporarily intense and sweet but soon the effect is gone. Guys addicted to the “Gumball" (any flavor of attention), get a high from the excitement, adoration and validation. During this cycle they appear to be falling in love. When the high is gone they pull away, ghost or cheat leaving you feeling confused, rejected and heartbroken. I'm your host, Melissa Leger, professional relationship coach, creator of Gumball Love and the Back to You Academy. If you're ready to stop the cycle of toxic men, get through the break up once and for all, and finally get back to YOU, you are in the right place. This journey is about healing your heart, and you are encouraged to take the pace that is just right for you. In the process, you will build a foundation of confidence and strength that will make you unshakable, I promise. So get ready to level up your mindset and your lifestyle, as you awaken the seeds of greatness that are waiting to burst into full bloom. Let's do this! Find Melissa Leger at www.GumballLove.com Instagram: @TheMelissaLeger Email: [email protected] Facebook group: Gumball Love VIP Clubhouse
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EPISODE 142: DANCE YOUR WAY TO LOVE! - The biggest collaboration I have ever done!
10/18/2024
EPISODE 142: DANCE YOUR WAY TO LOVE! - The biggest collaboration I have ever done!
I didn’t realize how low my confidence still was until I began ballroom dancing. Looking back, I was showing up for dates dressed up, with my hair and makeup done, but I still felt heavy and uncomfortable in my own skin. Until I overcame this, I never knew how obvious this was to others. The day I stepped into the dance studio, I had no idea how much my life was about to change. I had already done a lot of work on myself, but the transformation I experienced was truly a catalyst for reaching the next level and gave me the confidence I needed to feel aligned with the man that became my husband. I am so excited to offer you a once-in-a-lifetime experience to combine both relationship coaching and ballroom dancing with my World Champion Coach Kairat Algadaev at Danznik Studios in Times Square, New York City. Even if you think you could never do something like this, take a listen anyway. Dance into LOVE Registration: BOOK A CALL WITH MELISSA to apply: What is your type? Take the Gumball Love Romantic Quiz Here: Take the NON-Romantic Quiz here: Website: Email Melissa:
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EPISODE 141: The Gumball Love PODCAST IS BACK! - Why I left podcasting after getting married.
10/17/2024
EPISODE 141: The Gumball Love PODCAST IS BACK! - Why I left podcasting after getting married.
I am so excited to be back, and I have so much to share. This podcast is like a phone call between you and me. I tell you what happened, why I stopped podcasting, why I did not want to share my relationship online. I also have a huge announcement and introducing a project I've been working on for a long time. It is FREE: Listen to the podcast and then come back and click the links below! The Gumball Love ROMANTIC QUIZ: The Gumball Love NON-ROMANTIC QUIZ: Website: Email Melissa: Instagram: @melissajaneroberts Private Facebook Group:
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Brittany Found Love After 8 Months of Self Discovery: Client Story
10/17/2022
Brittany Found Love After 8 Months of Self Discovery: Client Story
Are you nervous to take that step to TRULY be single, totally off the dating apps, and just focus on getting to know and love yourself? My past client Brittany is the perfect example of why doing this is SO important. Tune in to find out how Brittany went from having no idea who she was, to being secure and confident in herself, plus happily married with two kids! We discuss what drew Brittany to working with me, what things she did during her break from dating, how she knew her husband was the one, advice to offer anyone in a similar position, the different benefits of therapy vs. coaching, and more! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Will a Guy Without Kids Understand? Courtney's Story
10/10/2022
Will a Guy Without Kids Understand? Courtney's Story
Courtney was a single mom with two kids, divorced for six years, single for five, who was successful in all other areas of her life like friendships, career, and health...but her love life suffered. Until she met her boyfriend, but he'd never had kids before. Does it work out? Tune in to find out! Courtney worked with me a few years ago doing one-on-one and group coaching. We chatted to see what she learned through that process, and where she's at now. We discuss: What was going on in her life when she decided to work with me How she struggled with self confidence and being triggered after the trauma of her divorce What was different about her new love, Michael How the struggles of her past relationships taught her lessons moving forward How and when she decided to introduce Michael to her 12 and 10 year old kids Michael didn't have kids..was he understanding about her situation? and more! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Do You Really Need a Dating Coach? Kristy's Story
10/04/2022
Do You Really Need a Dating Coach? Kristy's Story
Coaching results, 4 years later! Kristy didn't want to get a coach. She said, "I'm smart, I am successful, I should be able to figure this out." When her best friend told her, "We can't keep having this conversation, you need to talk to someone" It was a sign. Kristy is a total badass, finance guru (paid off over $400K in debt in 18 months), and single mom of her gorgeous teenage daughter. We sat down to talk about "Where are things now? and Do the results last?" We also discuss: What was the breaking point when she knew it was time to leave her marriage even though she had a one and a half year old daughter with him How she decided it was finally time to invest in a coach What benefits she got from coaching What she would say to someone considering coaching but on the fence How her life is now, four years later Work with Kristy: Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Lauren Took a Year Long Dating Break at 40: A Client Success Story
09/26/2022
Lauren Took a Year Long Dating Break at 40: A Client Success Story
Like many women approaching their 40's and still single, Lauren was feeling anxious, lonely, and grieving the fact that she may never get married or have kids. She was stuck in a pattern of dating the same time of guy over and over, always ending up with a broken heart...all while grieving the loss of her father. Until she decided to commit to herself and give herself a year off from dating to focus solely on herself. That's when she started to truly see her worth and value, and now she is in a happy, healthy relationship! Tune in to hear: How Lauren found out about Gumball Love and what made her decide it was time to stop the cycle and work with Melissa The moment Lauren knew it was time for a change The type of Gumball Guy Lauren was going after What Lauren did during her year long break from dating to discover herself and her worth How her relationship now is different from in the past (healthy vs. Gumball Love) What advice Lauren would give to someone struggling to find love and dating later in life How one-on-one coaching and group coaching with Melissa helped Lauren and more! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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I Got Married! Wedding Details and How to Know if He's the One
09/13/2022
I Got Married! Wedding Details and How to Know if He's the One
I am officially Mrs. Melissa Roberts!! After 20 years of searching for the right one and the trials and tribulations of dating many WRONG ones, I'm so proud to be a first time bride at 45. So many of you were asking for the wedding details, so here they are! But if you're in a place where it's too painful or sad to hear about someone else's wedding, I TOTALLY get it because I was the same way, so don't press play if you think it'll put you in a bad mood. It's not just about the wedding though, I also talk about: How to know if he's the right one A successful client case study What it's like to work with me in the 1-1 Level Up for Love program and group coaching Other exciting announcements about where I'm going next with Gumball Love! You also get exclusive access to taking the beta version of the Gumball Love quiz, which will only be released for purchase once it's live! Take it now ! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Three Pillars to Grow Confidence from Within with Christina Lecuyer
09/05/2022
Three Pillars to Grow Confidence from Within with Christina Lecuyer
Are you struggling with self worth, self love, and confidence? Christina Lecuyer was a beautiful professional golfer who seemed to have everything going for her..looks, fame, money, a relationship..but behind closed doors she was struggling far more than anyone knew. By DECIDING to be happier, she turned her life around, and you can too! Christina shares helpful strategies for anyone wanting to up-level their mindset, confidence and life. Today we discuss: How Christina went from professional golfer, hiding an eating disorder, to loving herself and creating an abundant life The falsity of "I'll be happy when.. X happens" What she did in the very beginning to start growing confidence Christina's top tips for growing self confidence Christina's secret to her happy, successful marriage and more! Connect with Christina: Instagram: Podcast: Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Not Settling Makes You Stronger
07/18/2022
Not Settling Makes You Stronger
The right thing to do is often the harder thing to do. I'm celebrating a client this week who decided it's time to choose herself and stop settling. I know making this kind of decision often doesn't feel like celebrating though. There is a lot of grief and heartbreak when letting go of someone you bonded with, and even loved. Today I'm talking about why the grief and tears make you stronger. Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Does He Have Ambivalent Attachment Style?
06/20/2022
Does He Have Ambivalent Attachment Style?
You've likely heard of the three attachment styles: secure, anxious, and avoidant, but we don't hear enough about the fourth: Ambivalent Attachment. If your guy seems really intense in the beginning, pursuing you, showering you with love and gifts, but then can turn cold on a time or seems really needy, but like whatever you give him is never enough...he likely has ambivalent attachment style. Tune in to learn: What ambivalent attachment style is and what causes it Examples and red flags of this attachment style Why you might fall for someone with this attachment style Your own work you need to do Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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My Unpopular Opinion on Feeling Butterflies
06/13/2022
My Unpopular Opinion on Feeling Butterflies
A lot of coaches out there will tell you feeling butterflies around a new guy is a bad sign, because it means your nervous system is recognizing danger. This just isn't totally true, butterflies CAN actually be a good thing, as long as they're not overtaking your ability to spot the potential red flags. In this episode, I'm breaking down: What the sensation of butterflies actually is from a physiological perspective Why, from a physiological perspective, butterflies aren't always a bad thing My personal experience with butterflies and how it's gone both good and bad When feeling butterflies becomes a bad thing How you can distinguish between when the butterflies are a warning sign vs. just excitement Feeling uncomfortable on dates, like you have to perform, be someone you're not, anxious wondering what he's thinking of you? I help my clients feel totally confident in their skin on dates, and to know how to spot the red flags. You don't have to be currently dating to work with me, in fact, it's great if you're not currently dating! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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He's a Nice Guy, but is he The One?
06/06/2022
He's a Nice Guy, but is he The One?
This episode was inspired by a listener who messaged me about her situation. She says the guy is not a Gumball Guy, he's nice and he loves her, but there's other issues...she noticed he has anxious attachment style and has been unwilling to get the help he needs, their core values are misaligned, and their levels of motivation and work ethic are different. She's wondering if it's worth it to stick with him, or if he's not the one. I share in this episode what questions to ask yourself to know if you should continue dating someone, even if they're not a Gumball Guy, or if it's best to move on. If you're stuck in this situation, I can help! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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How to Find the One By Reverse Engineering
05/09/2022
How to Find the One By Reverse Engineering
Are you dating with a sense of urgency and a timeline? If you ask any happily married couple if they had a sense of urgency to find the one when they met each other, most of them will probably say no. When you're dating with this mentality, it's like you're starving, and so ANYTHING to eat looks good. It clouds your judgement, and you'll either miss the red flags or rationalize them to keep things moving along. In this episode, we reverse-engineer dating by looking at what causes divorces, and what happy marriages have in common, so you can know what to look for and what to avoid. If you're having trouble moving out of that "urgency" mentality, especially if you're dating after 30, I can help! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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How to Stand Out on Your Dating Profile
05/02/2022
How to Stand Out on Your Dating Profile
Not attracting the quality men you're looking for on the dating sites? In this episode, I give you my proven top tips for improving your online dating profile and the first couple interactions to collapse your timeline and find your high-quality man faster. We talk about: How to make sure your profile isn't generic and stands out from the crowd while staying true to who you are Red flags to look out for in the initial text messages with a guy so you can filter through the duds faster and save loads of time How soon you should move away from texting and move to phone/video call or in-person meet up How to grow your self-worth so you no longer settle for Gumball Guys Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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27 Reasons Why You Might Not Be Getting a Second Date
04/25/2022
27 Reasons Why You Might Not Be Getting a Second Date
This episode might sting a little to hear but I'm gonna be that SUPER honest friend right now who just tells it to you straight...here are the things you might be doing that could be a major turn off for people. Do you have bad breath? Bad body odor? Crooked teeth? What kinds of things do you talk about on a date...do you complain, or gossip? These are just a few of the things. Tune in to hear the full list! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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How to Get Over a Break Up and Move On ASAP
04/11/2022
How to Get Over a Break Up and Move On ASAP
Fresh out of a break up? Even if you're months or even years out and still not over your ex, here are my top 34 things to do to get over a break up (non of which include binge drinking or drowning your sorrows in ice cream!) These are healthy, productive methods that actually work to help you move on. Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Why Professional Women Struggle to Find Love
04/04/2022
Why Professional Women Struggle to Find Love
Are you killing it at your professional live, but struggling to find the man of your dreams? Most clients who come to me are much more confident and comfortable walking in to a board room than walking in to a first date, so if that's you, you're not alone! In this episode, I give you the top reasons my clients were struggling to connect with high-quality men, and how I help them stop the cycle of toxic love, discover their worth, and find true love. Work with Melissa If you're done dating man babies and ready to find a lasting, true connection, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, 10 coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Love Is Blind Season 2 Analysis
03/21/2022
Love Is Blind Season 2 Analysis
For those of you who geeked out on the Netflix show Love is Blind (season 2), this episode is for you! Yes, it's reality TV which doesn't have the best rep for being...well...real...but we can actually learn A LOT from observing these singles and couples. In this episode I give my personal analysis of the individuals in the cast, as well as their relationships. Like, why did Nick and Danielle appear so toxic in the dating stages and they ended up being one of the only couples to actually make it even a year later? I fan girl over Deepti and Natalie and what we can learn from both of them as single women. We discuss why Shane is a Gumball Guy (if you couldn't tell already), and why Mallory and Sal appeared like such a cute couple but it didn't work. If you've gained value from this podcast, please share this episode on your social media, and leave a rate and review with what you've learned from this podcast so that more people can find it. Thank you! Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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How to Stop the Cycle of Pain and Rejection
03/14/2022
How to Stop the Cycle of Pain and Rejection
In this episode we're talking about why you're in the cycle of rejection and pain, why that pain of rejection is so great, and how to stop the cycle. If you continue to find yourself meeting guys who seem great in the beginning, and then with no explanation they disappear or they turn out to be not who you thought they were, and then you're stuck in what appears to be a never-ending funk of sadness and anxiety about what the future holds for you, this one is for you! It is all a simple mindset shift that you can start implementing today to immediately feel content about your present moment, no matter the circumstances. Work with Melissa Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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I'm Engaged! What it Feels like to Know for Sure
03/01/2022
I'm Engaged! What it Feels like to Know for Sure
I'M ENGAGED!! I know how it can kinda stink to hear these engagement stories when you're still single, trust me I was there for a long time. I'm sharing this story with you because I KNOW it's possible for you. Whether you're single, dating or in a committed relationship, this episode is meant to help you understand what it feels like (for me, and I know for many others) to know for sure that this is the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. I'll also give you the behind the scenes story of how Iain proposed! Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? There are currently two ways to work with me: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Should You Try Again With Your Ex?
02/07/2022
Should You Try Again With Your Ex?
He's constantly on your mind...the one in your past who you wonder if he's grown up at all. You day dream about what it would be like to reconnect with him, and if things would be different this time. Should you reach out? Maybe he already reached out and you're wondering if you should revisit the relationship. In this episode, I'm sharing my personal experience with this exact scenario and what you can do to make this decision. Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? There are currently two ways to work with me: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Does He Make You Feel Like You're "Too Much"?
02/02/2022
Does He Make You Feel Like You're "Too Much"?
Do you ever feel like you're too much, and at the same time, not enough for a guy? If you've ever wondered..."Should I tone it down"? Should I not bring this Michael Kors purse to the date? Maybe I shouldn't wear these heels, I'm too tall..." Girl, this episode is for YOU! The right guy for you will NOT make you second guess, question and doubt yourself. Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? There are currently two ways to work with me: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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What Really Makes a Couple Compatible?
01/24/2022
What Really Makes a Couple Compatible?
We all love to watch the fantasies and the happily ever afters..but what about the reality that over 50% of marriages end in divorce? Most people know this fact, but have you ever stopped to investigate what actually led to women deciding to divorce? We're over here thinking single life is terrible and just wanting what those married couples (seem) to have, but then why do so many women choose to divorce or wish they could? They're fantasizing about the single life! In this episode we get in to WHY so many marriages end in divorce. And here's a little spoiler, it's typically not marriage itself that leads to divorce..often it was doomed from the very beginning, long before the "I do's". Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? There are currently two ways to work with me: The one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or, The Resources Mentioned in this episode: Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Is Unresolved Trauma Keeping You From Finding Love?
01/10/2022
Is Unresolved Trauma Keeping You From Finding Love?
My love said it best, "If you've got unresolved trauma, you can't be intimate with yourself. And when you can't be intimate with yourself, you can't be intimate with someone else." A lot of people are walking around with unresolved trauma and expecting to find "the One" who will turn their whole life around. Most people haven't done "the work" to truly heal, and are bringing a lot of baggage in to the relationship that prevents them from being able to connect deeply with someone else. If you suspect this is you, you'll wanna tune in to this episode. Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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I Did This Before I Found Love
12/20/2021
I Did This Before I Found Love
In this episode, I want to share with you all the things I did to level up my life that I believe prepared me for the love I'm experiencing now. And I'll let you in on a secret..it has nothing to do with dating, or having the right pictures and words on your profile to attract the right person..it all has to do with going back to YOU and curating your ideal life. Not only did this help prepare me for this relationship, but it also helped me to not lose myself in this relationship. This is a problem I had in the past, and a theme I see with my clients...losing yourself so much in a relationship that it's so difficult to break out of because you don't know who you are without this person. So tune in for some awesome, practical tips you can start incorporating right away into your life in order to be grounded in who you are and prepare you to meet the love of your life! Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Why Are We Attracted to People Who Aren't Good for Us?
12/13/2021
Why Are We Attracted to People Who Aren't Good for Us?
We're bringing back my love Iain Roberts for another episode to give his perspective on Gumball Love, and how so many of us became attracted to Gumball People. When we think about our childhoods and the books we read, the movies we watched, the characters we idolized...a lot of these fantasies weren't very healthy expectations. These expectations are what keeps us in an endless cycle, but we're so IN it that we can't always objectively see the behavior patterns. That's what the Gumball Love Assessment and "Level Up for Love" coaching package is for! We talk all about the assessment and coaching package in this episode as well and exactly what to expect and how it can help you.
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Live Coaching Session: There Was So Much Chemistry, What Happened?
12/06/2021
Live Coaching Session: There Was So Much Chemistry, What Happened?
On this episode we bring on Khyara, a listener of the podcast, for a LIVE hot seat coaching session🔥🔥 Khyara was dating a guy for a month and a half and things were going well, there was a lot of sexual chemistry, until things started feeling..off. At a time when Khyara really emotionally needed him, he dropped the ball. Plus, he stopped prioritizing time for them to hang out. Tune in as Melissa and Khyara break down what happened using Khyara’s quiz results to see which flavors of attention this guy craved. If you’ve been wondering what a coaching session is like, here’s your chance to get a taste! Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Introducing Iain Roberts and Our Love Story!
11/29/2021
Introducing Iain Roberts and Our Love Story!
FINALLY! It's here..the moment you've all been waiting for..I am introducing my love, Iain on to the show to share our story and how he has been and will continue to be helping out with Gumball Love moving forward! We get into... How he almost lost me because he cancelled our first date to MC a chicken wing eating contest... What our first two dates were like, how we were both feeling, and why we didn't end up meeting again for another 5 years How we ended up finally getting re-connected 5 years later and fell in love without even being able to see each other in person during the pandemic What Iain's thoughts on Gumball Love were then and now How Iain will continue to be involved in Gumball Love It's a longer episode than usual but I really wanted you to get a sense of our dynamic. NOT that every healthy couple dynamic will look and sound exactly like ours, this is just one example. If you have any topics or questions you'd like us to cover together on the podcast, please email us at . Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Is it Anxiety or Gut Instinct?
11/22/2021
Is it Anxiety or Gut Instinct?
Wondering how to tell the difference between anxiety, your gut instinct, and anxious attachment style? This episode is for you! Often times our gut instinct is SPOT ON...telling us to GTFO of a sketchy situation or to not go on the date with that guy. But sometimes, our anxiety or anxious attachment style overruns our instincts. In this episode, we'll cover: What is anxious attachment style and how to know if you have it How to tell the difference between anxiety, anxious attachment style and gut instinct How to self soothe when your anxieties are taking over Positive signs to look for if you're in a relationship with a guy that mean you (probably) have nothing to worry about Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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Are You Marrying Him Before You Meet Him?
11/15/2021
Are You Marrying Him Before You Meet Him?
You come across a profile online...he's so cute, his dog is cute, you share the same hobbies and interests, you're hitting it off in the DM's, next thing you know you're fantasizing about your wedding and how you'll become bffs with his sister and wondering if you'll have Thanksgiving with his family or yours. Like WOAH that went from 0-100 real quick😂 This episode is to remind you to PUMP THE BREAKS girl. Otherwise, you end up building up this whole fantasy in your head, putting him on a pedestal, and then miss out on the red flags that are in reality. Tune in to this episode of Gumball Love to learn how to shift your mindset BEFORE you go on the date and get out of "fantasy land". Work with Melissa Book a call with Melissa: Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: Follow Melissa on Instagram:
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