Inside My Wardrobe
Conversations on marrying up the person we are on the inside, with the person we are on the outside. Join broadcaster Pipa Gordon taking a rummage through who we are and how we do life.
info_outline 075 Ways To Find Yourself 09/24/2020
075 Ways To Find Yourself Following on with the theme of people pleasing and discovering who we are so that we can have the courage to be our true selves, today’s episode is brimming with ways for you to peel back the layers and release the real you who has been slowly disappearing behind the layers of life that often result in us losing touch with ourselves and what matters to us most. It’s not mid-life crisis, it’s a wonderful time of enlightenment that can be hugely liberating if we are brave enough to go on the journey. Gayle Johnson talks with me during this episode about how writing, as an an act of mindfulness can enable us to condense our worries and anxieties in a powerful way that helps us manage our mental health and day to day lives, be it the requirements of our general hectic lifestyles or something such as depression and anxiety. Reflective and personal writing is equally as powerful during good positive times as much as it is during the more negative and stressful periods of our lives too. It can help with clarity in so many forms, using lists, mind maps, prompts and jumping off points all of which are devices that can trigger the creative mind and access our deeper feelings. The power of writing a letter that you know you’re never going to send is another fantastic way of releasing emotion and resentment and accessing some tricky feelings that ordinarily we might not know how best to process. It’s all very well saying things don’t matter however too an overly positive attitude, toxic positivity, doesn’t do us any favours. We need to learn to accept and be with the things that have happened in life, get understanding and then move forwards – as Anna sang in Frozen 2, what’s the next best thing? The world offers so much to our imagination but as Anthony Robbins says: “You will get there in 10 years, but where is there?” There is so much we can do in life, but it doesn’t mean we can do it all, we need to exercise deliberate consciousness by intentionally and deliberately choosing our next steps. On a scientific note, there is also a neurological pathway between your hand and your brain, so taking pen to paper as an exercise is very helpful not only in accessing emotions and feelings, but also in creative problem solving. We talk about stream of consciousness, lists and mindmaps, writing letters and even using devices such as the Haiku, a form of Japanese poetry that forces us to simplify and consolidate. Writing can be a really helpful way to increase self-awareness, help to identify personal values, the decision making process, why we do what we do, recognise limiting beliefs and negative narrative that we replay to ourselves over and over etc. I hope you enjoy this podcast and are inspired to use the skills of self-work that will enable you to go deeper. Do feel free to reach out to Gayle, I know she will love to hear from you. Her website is here, and you can also find her Facebook group called Finally, remember to sign up for the 2021 news on my website and join in with our Facebook group page COPYRIGHT 2020 PIPA GORDON
info_outline 074 Stop Pleasing and Start Living 2/4 09/17/2020
074 Stop Pleasing and Start Living 2/4 How to feel good about yourself, accept compliments wholeheartedly, feel confident in your decisions and free from the need to be liked. In this episode we talk about how to establish your values and avoid the need for validation from others, or the feeling of being invisible or not important - you are enough as you are!! This is some fundamental life changing stuff - I hope you enjoy! Click here for the COPYRIGHT 2020 PIPA GORDON
info_outline 073 Stop Pleasing and Start Living Part I 09/10/2020
073 Stop Pleasing and Start Living Part I Fed up with people pleasing and feeling like you're not on top of your own life? Constantly scrolling through social media and feeling like you aren't where you should be? The days of following the crowd have to be numbered if we want to embrace and live our own lives and to do that we need to go right back to the beginning and get to know ourselves for who we were born to be. As we come out of lockdown, how do we reintegrate with life and establish a new sense of normal without falling back into our old ways and habits? No amount of self help books and podcasts will help any of us if we can't get this one practise down to a tee! First step starts here ..... Please do come and join our , you can find me on social media, all links are on and the book I read by Glennon Doyle, is called
info_outline 072 A Beginners Guide To The Menopause and HRT 07/30/2020
072 A Beginners Guide To The Menopause and HRT What is the menopause? When does it start? When does it finish? Is HRT as dangerous as they once said or is it true that the majority of the information was misinformation? We go right back to basics in this episode with Dr Zoe Hodson, GP and menopause specialist who works with Dr Louise Newson on training GPs in how to recognise, diagnose and treat the menopause and more importantly, the peri-menopause which takes up a huge chunk of our lives impacted dramatically by hormone deficiency. I have a feeling we will revisit this topic again but this episode is jam packed with information and advice on where to go and what to do – and why we have been so poorly informed until now …. Other resources: – browse through this site for podcasts with Dr Louise Newson and many experts plus other resources – is the psychologist Dr Zoe referred to, she is on Instagram as @menopausepsychologist and her website is she is well worth checking in to for retreats too Dr Sarah Molly Ball, is the one delving into the WHI study @drsarahmollyball on Instagram and also #makemenopausematter on her other website Then Dr Zoe talked about the new Balance App to track your symptoms which you can The UTI Doctor – Dr Catriona Anderson can be found Books Dr Zoe mentioned were: Me and My Menopausal Vagina by Jane Lewis Why Oestrogen Matters: Why Taking Hormones in Menopause Can Improve Weomen’s Well-Being and Lengthen Their Lives without Raising the Risk of Breas Cancer by Avrum Bluming and Carol Tavris to find out more about your bone health Edinburgh University There is heaps on the You can download the cancer genetics app from Guys and St Thomas And not forgetting, to join in with Dr Zoe Hodson’s community and blog called which you can also find on Instagram Phew! There’s a lot to keep you going there ….we will do more 😊 If you want to come and find me, I am Pipa Gordon on social media or you can visit Enjoy :)
info_outline 070 Healthy Selfish with Mandy Saligari 07/16/2020
070 Healthy Selfish with Mandy Saligari Boundaries, healthy relationships, learning when to say no, self care is NOT naval gazing and so much more with the wonderful Mandy Saligari. See the TED talk "Feelings - Handle Them Or They Will Handle You" here Click here for Mandy's website and resources Click here for the podcast Facebook Group Page Click here for my website or search for Pipa Gordon on social media Thanks for listening and talk to you soon x
info_outline 069 Lower Your Drawbridge 07/09/2020
069 Lower Your Drawbridge As we continue to come out of lockdown and attempt to rebuild a new normal, how do we avoid slipping into old habits? Amazingly, 800 years ago, St Francis of Assissi had some pretty insightful wisdom about what to do as you come away from crisis, he should know, he led his followers through many times of both invasion and crisis, surprisingly, the following points are still as relevant today …. Kindness and generosity – a spirit of service and non-materialism. The strength of community in forging new shared pathways towards a more fulfilling life in times of challenge. Love for and nurturing of nature. Simple and fresh food, with occasional fasting. Supporting the roles of women as compassionate and wise leaders, as embodied in St Francis’s elevation of the role and influence of St. Clare, his childhood friend. A sense of our place in the universe – a celebration of the sun, the moon, and the stars – taking our daily focus to a level beyond the everyday to our place in creation. Transcendence of the mundane is a time-proven means of generating peace and mental well-being. Meditation as a means to achieve and grow this experience. Transcendent music as a means of elevating the heart and soul. Rebuilding the church, as Francis’s visions guided him to do, according to the fundamentals of Christian teaching: love, forgiveness, simplicity, and care for the poor and disadvantaged. Renewal is the opportunity that arises from crisis and these fundamentals, all supported by science as the pillars of mental well-being, will serve us well! Copyright 2020 Pipa Gordon
info_outline 068 The Beauty of Hindsight and Elephants 07/02/2020
068 The Beauty of Hindsight and Elephants Yay us, we have survived 100 days of lockdown!! But if it takes between 18 to 254 days for a person to form a new habit we are in danger of slipping back into our old ways unless we consciously make the effort now to pinpoint those changes and commit to them. So I decided to come up with a checklist to hold myself accountable and remind myself, hence the title, that this year has truly given us the gift of hindsight and we don’t want to forget what we have learned. They say elephants have amazing memories like humans, they mourn their dead – they literally have funerals, they bury them with branches and leaves, they have an incredibly advanced emotional memory as is their ability to problem solve. I don’t want to forget what I have gained from this pandemic which has brought so much trauma and devastation to many lives. Like a war, there is a cost and we remember those who gave their lives – in a similar vein, people have lost their lives to Covid whilst others have had the chance to improve their lives, in so many ways it has been grossly unfair and so rather than wanting everything to go back to normal – which in so many ways can’t happen but at the same time, will happen unless we put the effort in to learn from what we have experienced. Life has continued to be busy for me, but I have been massively impacted by the change in pace and vibe around me – I have been really fortunate as we have all been free from illness so I’ve been really lucky to enjoy the benefits that I’ve been able to draw from this time - its felt peaceful in so many ways. So, I have used the word PEACE as an acronym to remind me of the ways I have benefitted from slowing down and I intend to use it so that I can continue to embrace peace in my life, rather than become super busy again: P – PAUSE – just stop, read, listen to music, lie down and look at the sky. Even 3 minutes here and there in the day makes a huge difference E – ENGAGE with the moment. Listen, hear, talk, stop rushing to the next thing A – ADMIRE the world around you. Seeing the good around you, admire means “to feel respect and approval” so whether that’s family members, colleagues, friends, your home etc. I’ve been admiring trees and flowers like never before and it does something internally when we see good – like the law of attraction, you find what you are looking for. C – CREATE – you may not feel artsy, but I believe we are all creative in some way and there is something about being in touch with our creativity that gives a sense of wellbeing and fulfilment. Elizabeth Gilbert’s BIG MAGIC is a great book to encourage this, whether it’s baking, painting, sewing, writing, redecorating ….find your inner creative! E – EMBRACE – love on each other, cherish those who matter, spend time together, connect with our community – walking, talking, board games, sending letters, making gifts, sharing tomato plants and tray bakes – giving of ourselves to each other rather than closing our doors at the end of the day – an Englishman’s house is his castle – actually (metaphorically) keeping our bridges down and our doors open to one another And like the elephants, their leader is normally the oldest in the pack. They live up to 60/70 years and they pass on their wisdom – we can glean wisdom from those who have been here before Socrates 400BC Greek Philosopher “Beware the barrenness of a busy life.” “He is richest who is content with the least, for contentment is the wealth of nature.” Plato: 400BC “The greatest wealth is to live content with little.” SENECA “True happiness is… to enjoy the present without anxious dependence on the future.” I heard something this week, a quote from the wonderful Wayne Dyer who I was very lucky to work with on a number of occasions whilst he was still alive. I always loved his wisdom as it was so simple, outside of religious constraints and beyond ancient scripts, he just made a lot of sense to me. One of the things I remember him saying was that when you squeeze an orange, you get orange juice, and when you squeeze a lime, you get lime juice ….and when we are squeezed by the inevitabilities of life, what is on the inside is what oozes out from us. We have heard that hard times bring out the best and the worst in us ….we have seen both haven’t we? We are not just body and mind, we are body, mind and soul/spirit, depending on which you choose to call it. It’s easy to focus on the body first, it’s what we see. We understand about physical health, physical surroundings and physical environment that affects how we feel. We are slowly getting our heads around mental health, as the pressure of life has become more intense over the years with the onset of working 24/7 and technology, we’ve begun to realise the importance of maintaining our health at that level too. Then there’s the other bit, the bit we don’t tend to like to talk about as much because it can then tip into the territory of religion and let’s face it, not everyone has had positive experiences there – however, that doesn’t mean that there isn’t another part of us, there’s this spiritual side that also warrants care and I definitely think that is something we have all become more in touch with during this pandemic – if only just by going for more walks and slowing down a bit, we’ve allowed ourselves to discover this deeper connection with what I call our spirit self, not our physical body, not our mind, something deeper that connects with something bigger – when we slow down and uncomplicate our lives, we find we are able to get in touch with that other part of us that so often gets neglected. The Year of less – how I stopped shopping, gave away my belongings and discovered life is worth more than anything you can buy in a store – by Cait Flanders 12 months – only bought groceries, toiletries and petrol – alng the way she challenged herself to consume less of many other things besides shopping, she decluttered her home, got rid of 70% of her belongings, learned how to fix things rather than throw them away, researched the zero waste movement and even completed a television ban – at every stage she learned that the less she consumed, the more fulfilled she felt. I think we have all touched on this over the last 100 days – but the question is, what lessons have we learned and what are we prepared to continue to work on? Enjoy x Links And as always, come and find me and stay in touch, either via or by searching for Pipa Gordon on Social Media Back next Thursday!
info_outline 067 There's More Than One Way with Bibi Lynch 06/25/2020
067 There's More Than One Way with Bibi Lynch Being single, childless, navigating online dating, face yoga, threesomes, fear of another recession, losing parents and dealing with grief alone – we go everywhere and believe it or not, manage to laugh our way through a chunk of it! So This episode comes off the back of one of your suggestions earlier in the year about living an alternative life, not getting married or having children – so I invited an old friend and colleague of mine, journalist Bibi Lynch on as she regularly writes about this in magazines and newspapers …. We actually cover a huge amount of ground, she talks about how the recession in 2008 wrecked her life, the early loss of parents, how she’s not had the chance to have children, she's had abusive neighbours, a real 10 year slog …and then the pandemic hits and how you deal with all these things when you’re on your own – we talk a lot about being single and how society still doesn’t make space for the 25% of women who will never have children, we talk about online dating, face yoga, we talk about the concerns of what life is going to look on the other side of all this and we somehow find ourselves talking about sex and threesomes too … Journalist Bibi Lynch has been called one of the funniest women on twitter, she’s often controversial and never fails to make you think. We first met when working together at BBC London Radio just over 10 years ago, she currently hosts 2 radio shows, one for Soho Radio and the other for BBC Sussex, she also hosts a podcast called Good Sex Bad Sex, she writes for the likes of The Telegraph, The Guardian and Stella, over the years has been columnist to various magazines such as Marie Claire and Elle, she’s co-wrote various TV shows, hosts monthly panels at The Groucho Club – she’s unstoppable! The importance of being kind to each other isn’t just a notion, it’s a necessity – we don’t know what is going on in each other’s lives, we don’t know what wounds are being carried or battles are being played out I think we’ve seen with the “black lives matter” movement, even with “me too” a couple of years ago, that it’s easy to turn and look the other way when we feel uncomfortable or that we don’t understand but I really hope that we are learning that when we do that, we increase the pain being suffered and if we can be brave enough to allow one another’s pain to come into the light, it might just get the chance to heal so that they can move on One of the things that I really hope for our new normal, is that we begin to make way for each other more, where we become better at listening, where we become more open to hear and slower to judge. Links: Bibi on Twitter and Instagram: @bibilynch Join the page Come and find me on social media or via
info_outline 066 Everything Is On The Menu with Natalie Roy 06/18/2020
066 Everything Is On The Menu with Natalie Roy Finding ourselves, properly discovering who we are, deep beneath the surface is the very beginning of an awakening to life so much fuller than we may have ever imagined. In fact I imagine this will be one of those episodes that we revisit and listen to again and again as it’s a treasure trove of much wisdom. To hear more from Natalie, to try her meditations or classes, you can visit or you can listen to her podcast called In a nutshell, we hear a LOT of thought provoking things in this episode, we talk about the impact of life before lockdown and why we often felt so empty and unfulfilled and how if we are willing to, we can learn to expand into ourselves so that we can feel more deeply, listen to and connect with our instincts and that inner voice more regularly, Natalie talks about how to truly find ourselves so that we can BE ourselves, there’s so much in here that I know you’ll love! is a Canadian actress and brings such a rich conversation to this episode. I invited her on last year after hearing her speak on our emotional anatomy and instantly knew she was someone we would enjoy hearing more from. We had talked about doing something around last Christmas but it didn’t pan out which looking back, I’m really glad about as I think the timing is so much better now as I think we are all that much more open to discover or at least consider that deeper connection within ourselves with the hopes of finding peace from within, because calming the storm on the inside is surely the only way to survive the storm on the outside – and boy does it feel like we are in the midst of one at the moment! So Natalie is an actress who lives in New York, you might recognise her from Law and Order, The Affair or Finding Erica, she’s an author, a fellow podcaster and most importantly is someone who embraces all aspects of what it means to be human – she’s a teacher of yoga and meditation and has some fantastic insight into what it means to be human, we cover a lot of ground from the spiritual to the practical, to how to go about creating our new normal to be one that serves us well, understanding why we meditate and that 3 minutes really is enough, we touch on the quantum realm, holding loss and fear at the same time as growth and opportunity – there is so much ahead and I really hope that you enjoy listening. If you’d like to check out some of those meditations or courses that Natalie spoke about, go to and don't forget the podcast I think a great take away from this is being curious about the evidence we are collecting and I’d love to hear how that impacts how you feel going forwards so please do reach out to Natalie and also do continue with conversations on our . My or you can find me on social media by searching for Pipa Gordon. Thank you for listening
info_outline 065 Where Do We Go From Here? 06/11/2020
065 Where Do We Go From Here? The world feels as though it has been turned upside down and shaken to its core and with everything tumbling around at our feet how do we move forwards? When everything seems as if it can never be the same again, how do we do our part in creating a change? Climbing out of a hole involves hard work and determination and by taking one step at a time, we will get there. We take wisdom from the cupboard under the kitchen sink, being lost in Paris, Anthony Robins, Dory, Elizabeth Gilbert, a tapestry, knitting, ladders and even the Incredible Hulk in order to discuss further so that post pandemic, we embark upon a period of curiosity and change that allows us to be more understanding and connected to our humanity and nature so that this world can become a better place for us all. Quotes during the episode: Elizabeth Gilbert “I will not punish myself for the process” Anthony Robbins on taking control of the shoulding thoughts “I will decide” Dory “Just keep swimming” This is the link to our or if you want to get in touch with me, just search Pipa Gordon or head to
info_outline 064 Let's Talk About Racism 06/04/2020
064 Let's Talk About Racism Racism, both conscious and unconscious, needs to stop, everywhere. It’s not enough to say be kind, we need to do better at talking about it, looking under the surface, educating ourselves, listening to the roots and speaking up. Silence is violence. With all the events going on across the world following the murder of George Floyd, I have realised there are conversations we need to be having, here's one ....
info_outline 063 – Self Work: Indulgent or Invaluable? Featuring Mandi Saligari 05/28/2020
063 – Self Work: Indulgent or Invaluable? Featuring Mandi Saligari Self-care and self-work are two very different things, does the latter fall into indulgence though or is it an invaluable part of our journeys to emotional and mental health? Addictions therapist Mandy Saligari says “your ability to be comfortable in your own skin is fundamental as to whether you might need to self-medicate later” and you will be surprised to hear, self-medication is not just drugs and alcohol!
info_outline 061 So I Stayed In The Car ALL Night 05/14/2020
061 So I Stayed In The Car ALL Night So what ended up being a night on the driveway whilst watching the stars go to bed and the sun rise, I got a glimpse into the monastic routine of rising at 3am, enjoyed memories of Zanzibar and the Indian Ocean and pondered further on connection with life beyond language and logic, outside the machine we live in and acknowledging the importance of hanging on to peace!
info_outline 060 GOING SOLO, WHAT CAN I OFFER THE WORLD 05/07/2020
060 GOING SOLO, WHAT CAN I OFFER THE WORLD This week, we talk business! It is being said that because of the corona lockdown, 1:5 businesses will never open their doors again which means there is a LOT of change ahead, but also plenty of opportunity too. In this episode we bounce around from knowing when to follow your instincts, spot opportunities, investment, when to be brave, the importance of failure and having courage for when it comes to stepping out and going it alone!
info_outline 059 Captain Tom, Yoga and A Jigsaw 04/30/2020
059 Captain Tom, Yoga and A Jigsaw Well this one’s a bit of a from the heart episode if I’m honest. I don’t know about you but I feel like I’ve travelled a fair non-physical distance over these last few weeks that has taken me deeper, taught me lessons about myself and I’ve observed some fundamental truths of life. Here’s what I’ve learned through Captain Tom, yoga, and doing a jigsaw …..
info_outline 058 LOVE WINS 04/23/2020
058 LOVE WINS Why do we wait for a disaster in order to show our true colours? What is love anyway? Universal laws v laws written by man, unconditional love, ants that torture boys, shinrin yoku, the Truman Show, the green and the blue - its amazing what fits into 30 mins!
info_outline 057 A New Normal 04/16/2020
057 A New Normal This week we threw open the floor to everyone on the Facebook group page to talk about how we are all doing at this stage of the Corona lockdown and with lots of struggles alongside lots of wins, there’s a real mixed bag of emotions and experiences afoot so join my daughter and I as we navigate our way through cabin fever, anxiety, less laundry and lots more …..
info_outline 056 How Do We Hold On 04/09/2020
056 How Do We Hold On A marathon runner trains for the long race both physically and mentally and when we are in the midst of the marathons that life throws our way, such as the corona virus lockdown, there are some tools that help. So like a long distance athlete, we can find ways to keep going, with a sense of hope, peace and belief in a world that heals.
info_outline 055 The House Of Cards 04/02/2020
055 The House Of Cards As the dust begins to settle on our new normal, the emotions start to rise and as we are flung into social distancing, we crave connection more than ever before. The rise of the individual has pulled us apart so it’s time to start being human again, feeling the full spectrum of our emotions and reconnecting with the essence of what it means to be human
info_outline 054 Finding Inner Resilience When Life Throws a Giant Curve Ball In Your Path 03/26/2020
054 Finding Inner Resilience When Life Throws a Giant Curve Ball In Your Path We all respond differently at a time of crisis and this is where we really find out the stuff we are made of. As TS Elliot said, “If you aren’t in over your head, how do you know how tall you are?” I am joined by author and speaker Cathy Madavan in this episode to talk about resilience and adaptability when life gets tough, the timing of her book Irrepressible couldn’t have been more perfect!
info_outline 053 Comfort During A Time of Change 03/19/2020
053 Comfort During A Time of Change “I wish it need not have happened in my time” said Frodo “So do I” said Gandalf “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us”
info_outline 051 Mountains and Molehills, managing expectations, disappointment and heartache 03/05/2020
051 Mountains and Molehills, managing expectations, disappointment and heartache How do you manage expectations or recover from disappointment and heartache? In some cases, severe disappointment can lead to depression so if we can set a life habit in place that enables us to manage these inevitabilites as they come, which they will, how much more resilient and prepared are we going to be when the big ones hit.
info_outline 050 What Gets Your Goat 02/27/2020
050 What Gets Your Goat In this episode we talk about passion and purpose. Nobody gets to get through life unscathed and the more we are ok with the fact that it’s the journey that counts, the less likely we are to stay down when we fall. You will fall, I will fall, we will all face obstacles that say “this road is closed” but that doesn’t mean we stop, it means we find another way. I guess what matters most is knowing what matters – what is it that gets you out of bed in the morning, what is it that gets your goat?
info_outline 049 Still Smiling Through Grief, Sadness and Depression 02/20/2020
049 Still Smiling Through Grief, Sadness and Depression In this episode we talk about managing sadness, grief and depression with my friend Tanya Leary. She talks about how the sudden death of her father when she was just 7 years old has impacted her life; how she copes with holding that sadness whilst also experiencing the joys of parenthood, whilst at the same time also keeping her head above water having suffered depression on and off throughout her adult life by prioritising mental health with selfcare.
info_outline 048 Disconnected in a Connected World 02/13/2020
048 Disconnected in a Connected World The health implications of loneliness are shocking and the greatest irony is that in a world so connected, we are feeling increasingly disconnected. It’s not about the quantity of friends we have, it’s all about the quality.
info_outline 047 Hamster Wheels, 2020 and Sunshine 02/06/2020
047 Hamster Wheels, 2020 and Sunshine It's been quite the hectic week so having literally just finished editing an interview with one of the most influential authors on family life, the fabulous Steve Biddulph, I'm reminded of the importance of balance! Setting goals is all very well but if we don't give ourselves the chance to rest and recover, we will burn out - I'm saying it to myself too!! So, here we go, hamster wheels, 2020 and sunshine!!
info_outline 046 What Makes A Good Life 01/30/2020
046 What Makes A Good Life We are all guilty of either over working or being over busy, over eating or over drinking, over cleaning, over obsessing, over thinking, over pleasing - the snowball effect causes us to feel out of control so pulling back, breathing and reconnecting with ourselves and each other, grounds us and brings us back to now, to living in the moment - not rocket science is it? If we want to manage our mental health and quality of life, we need to simplify, slow down and switch off a bit more.