Love On Command
Helping professionals end chronic single-itist & manifest love on command with proven scientific techniques without uncertainty and disappointment!❤
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Coffee Over Dinner: The High-Value Woman’s First Date Rule
04/15/2025
Coffee Over Dinner: The High-Value Woman’s First Date Rule
In this episode, I’m breaking down why FaceTime and dinner dates are not enough—and how too many women are unknowingly setting themselves up to be consumed like a buffet instead of being savored like fine dining. I’m walking you through the psychology, the energetics, and the strategy behind holding your value from the very beginning. Because here's the truth: if you're giving him access to all of you too soon—your time, your energy, your body—you're killing the very desire you're trying to build. We’re talking about setting a standard that says you are high-ticket, high-value, and not everyone gets the privilege of your presence. I'm also diving into the six phases of a relationship, the science behind male attraction, and what actually creates that magnetic pull that keeps him thinking about you long after the date ends. If you've ever wondered why he pulled back after dinner, why he stopped putting in effort after you gave him your time, or how to cultivate real feminine power without chasing or overgiving—this episode is your blueprint. Listen in, take notes, and let this be the last time you show up to a first date hoping to be chosen. From now on, you are the one doing the choosing.
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Mastering Your Feminine Energy
04/08/2025
Mastering Your Feminine Energy
In this episode, we’re diving deep into the fascinating world of dating, relationships, and personal empowerment. I’m Shay your love Diva, and today we’ll be exploring how your unique love archetype impacts your dating life and how you can harness this understanding to attract healthier, more fulfilling relationships. We’ll cover everything from the science behind attraction to the six key phases of a relationship. Plus, I’ll be sharing some powerful insights from my work with women across the globe—helping you identify and break free from the patterns that may be holding you back in love. By the end of this episode, you’ll have the tools to better understand your love archetype and the confidence to navigate the dating world with clarity and grace. So, get comfortable and let’s dive in—your love life is about to transform!
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Unlocking Love: Overcoming Subconscious Blocks and Attracting the Right Relationship
04/01/2025
Unlocking Love: Overcoming Subconscious Blocks and Attracting the Right Relationship
In this episode of Unlocking Love, I’m diving deep into the subconscious blocks that may be sabotaging your love life. I’m going to help you uncover the hidden patterns you may not even know are holding you back—from generational influences to the subtle messages you're unknowingly sending. I’ll break down the science of attraction and why knowing your love archetype is key to attracting the right partner. If you’ve been dating with insecurities, struggling to heal from past traumas, or wondering why you keep attracting the wrong men, this episode is for you. I’m sharing powerful insights and strategies to help you break free from old patterns and open the door to healthy, high-value relationships. Let’s transform your love life together and set you up for lasting, meaningful connection.
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Top 5 Mistakes Keeping You Single — And the #1 Secret to Attracting Love
03/11/2025
Top 5 Mistakes Keeping You Single — And the #1 Secret to Attracting Love
Hey love, in this episode, I’m breaking down the top 5 mistakes that might be blocking you from finding the relationship you deserve. I’ll share the sneaky ways we self-sabotage, why being “too busy” is hurting your chances at love, and the truth about feminine energy that no one talks about. Plus, I’m spilling the #1 mistake I see high-achieving women make that keeps them stuck in a cycle of heartbreak. If you’re ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally attract your romantic best friend, this episode is for you. Let’s dive in!
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How to Attract a High-Value Man
12/03/2024
How to Attract a High-Value Man
In this episode, I’m breaking down the science of attraction and how to call in a financially successful man who matches your energy and ambition. You’ll learn how to tap into the power of your feminine energy, navigate the six phases of a relationship, and avoid the traps that keep women stuck in cycles with emotionally unavailable men. I’m sharing my personal experiences from my dating journey, including what I learned from dating successful men and how I attracted my husband, who still makes me blush after 10 years! Tune in to discover the biochemical processes that shape attraction and bonding, and how you can use them to your advantage in dating. This episode is packed with tips, insights, and real talk to help you level up your love life—don’t miss it!
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Why Over-Giving Pushes Men Away
11/26/2024
Why Over-Giving Pushes Men Away
Hey loves, it’s Shay here! In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into why giving too much in a relationship can actually make men less interested. It might seem like you’re showing love and care, but sometimes, over-giving can cause imbalance and even push someone away. I’m sharing insights on how to find the perfect balance of giving and receiving and how to keep your energy aligned to attract the right kind of attention. Trust me, you won’t want to miss this! Let’s talk about how you can love yourself and set boundaries without losing your power. Tune in!
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How to Win at Love and Relationships!
10/08/2024
How to Win at Love and Relationships!
In this episode, we're diving into the dynamics of attraction and the science behind why some women find themselves in unfulfilling relationships. Join me as I share personal experiences and insights, revealing how understanding male psychology can empower you to attract the right partner. Discover the essential rules of the game, learn how to shift your energy, and understand the types of men to look out for. Get ready to take control of your love life!
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Are You Really Ready to Date?
10/01/2024
Are You Really Ready to Date?
Welcome to Love on Command Podcast, where we dive deep into the intricate dance of love, relationships, and self-discovery. In this episode, I unpack the essential steps you must take before jumping back into dating—because if you're still healing from heartbreak, battling insecurities, or facing financial challenges, it’s time to pause and prioritize your healing journey. Join me as I share insights on the importance of recognizing your love blocks, understanding the different faces of a man—from his public persona to his secret self—and how your past can shape your present relationships. I’ll guide you through the transformative process of healing, empowering you to attract the right partner who truly aligns with your worth. Get ready for a candid conversation that challenges societal norms and encourages you to value your time and emotional well-being. It’s time to step into your power, embrace your femininity, and attract the love you deserve. Tune in and let’s end the cycle together!
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The 3 Faces of Every Man: Are You Really Seeing Him?
09/24/2024
The 3 Faces of Every Man: Are You Really Seeing Him?
Do you really know who you're dating? In this episode, we dive deep into the psychology behind men's behavior and uncover the 3 faces every man has: public, private, and secret. I break down why rushing into a relationship or marriage too quickly can prevent you from truly getting to know who you're with. Learn the importance of taking your time, vetting his character, values, and intentions to avoid toxic relationships and heartbreak. We also discuss how unhealed love blocks may cause you to attract the wrong men over and over again—and how to break the cycle. Tune in to discover why proper discernment in relationships is crucial, just like any other major life decision, and how you can start attracting the love you deserve. If you're ready to stop the pattern of attracting narcissists and want to find a man who truly loves and values you, this episode is for you!
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10 Ways to Stay Single Forever!
09/10/2024
10 Ways to Stay Single Forever!
Ready to stay single forever? In this playful yet insightful episode, I'm flipping the script to reveal 10 surefire ways to keep attracting toxic relationships and living a life of mediocrity. Using a little reverse psychology, I’ll show you how the mind resists change and how you can use that to your advantage. From dating the wrong types to staying stuck in old patterns, we’re diving deep into the self-sabotaging behaviors that keep you from the healthy love you deserve. So, do I have permission to be your coach today? Tune in, and let's trick your brain into choosing better! Perfect for women ready to break free from dating disasters, this episode is your guide to decoding your patterns and turning them around for good.
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Are You Choosing the Right Partner?
09/03/2024
Are You Choosing the Right Partner?
Did you know that female eagles put their potential mates through a series of challenges to prove they’re worthy partners? In this episode, I dive into the fascinating world of eagle mating rituals and uncover what they can teach us about modern dating. Why are so many women still trying to qualify themselves for men who haven’t earned their place in their lives? It’s time to shift the narrative, ladies. Stop settling and start raising your standards. Learn how to embody the strength of an eagle and choose a partner who truly matches your worth and vision for the future. 🔥 In This Episode: The inspiring eagle mating process and its lessons for dating today How to stop proving yourself to those who aren’t worthy Identifying a partner who truly aligns with your values and goals Hit play and transform how you approach love and relationships! It’s time to set boundaries, understand your worth, and never settle for less than you deserve.
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The Science of Attraction!
08/27/2024
The Science of Attraction!
Ever wondered why some relationships thrive while others falter? In this compelling session, I’ll break down the biochemical and psychological factors that drive romantic connections. Discover how understanding your own and your partner's hormones, like vasopressin, can empower you to attract the love you desire. With over 180,000 women transformed through my unique approach, I’ve turned heartbreak into happy endings, offering insights from my personal journey of overcoming adversity to mastering the dating game. I’ll share my incredible story—from aspiring pediatric cardiologist to dating guru. I’ll reveal how I conducted groundbreaking experiments, dating 100 men in just over three months, to uncover the secrets of successful relationships. Learn how to avoid common pitfalls, understand the rules of the dating game, and harness your feminine energy to attract the right partner. My advice isn’t just theory—it’s a roadmap to real results. Whether you’re dealing with love blocks, recovering from a toxic relationship, or seeking to enhance your dating strategy, this session is packed with actionable insights to transform your love life. Join me and discover how you can use the science of attraction to create the relationship and life of your dreams.
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The Truth About Men & Monogamy
08/20/2024
The Truth About Men & Monogamy
Are men truly wired for monogamy? In this episode, we delve into the biological and biochemical factors that influence a man's commitment. From the surge of testosterone to the vital role of vasopressin and dopamine, we break down how science drives male bonding and the instincts behind monogamy. Join us as we uncover the signs of a man who’s genuinely committed versus one who's just playing games. This episode offers empowering insights for women navigating relationships, highlighting the importance of recognizing true commitment and knowing when it’s time to move on. Tune in for essential relationship advice and truths you won't want to miss!
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Why Men Pull Away (& What To Do)
08/13/2024
Why Men Pull Away (& What To Do)
In this episode, we dive deep into the "Pull Away Phase" in relationships, often referred to as the "Rubber Band Phase," as explained by Dr. John Gray in his book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. This phase can be confusing and frustrating, but understanding it can significantly affect how you handle it. We explore: The biochemical reasons behind why men pull away. How this phase typically occurs around 2.5 to 3 months into the relationship. The importance of confidence and independence in navigating this phase. Common mistakes women make during this phase, like sending long texts or trying to force commitment too soon. The role of testosterone and cortisol in a man's behavior during this phase. The dangers of rushing into relationships, including the risk of attracting narcissists. The importance of patience and vetting your partner before making long-term commitments. If you're struggling with understanding your partner's behavior or want to strengthen your relationship, this video offers valuable insights. Resources: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by Dr. John Gray Dr. Leanne Brizendine's research on the male brain Dr. Don Maslar's studies on human attraction
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Inside South African Romance: The Secrets Behind Courtship, Marriage & Lobola Revealed!
08/06/2024
Inside South African Romance: The Secrets Behind Courtship, Marriage & Lobola Revealed!
Hey there, beautiful Divas! Join me on a fabulous wine tour in Cape Town with our charming guide, Gray, as we sip and chat about the ins and outs of love, dating, and relationships. In this episode, we dive into the heart of South African romance, exploring everything from the traditional Lobola (bride price) to the modern dynamics of dating. Gray shares his unique insights on how men choose their partners, what makes someone "marriage material," and the cultural nuances that shape relationships in South Africa. Curious about the real deal behind marriage proposals and relationship expectations? Tune in to hear Gray’s take on what it means to be a man in love, how education and financial stability play a role, and why commitment matters. Get ready for a heartfelt conversation that breaks down barriers and offers a fresh perspective on love. Don’t miss this chance to enrich your understanding of global romance and gain valuable relationship advice! Subscribe now and let’s discover love together!
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Why Coffee Beats Dinner for a First Date
07/30/2024
Why Coffee Beats Dinner for a First Date
In this episode, we’re diving deep into the intriguing science behind first dates and why a dinner date might be the worst choice if you're looking for a long-term relationship. We explore how the dinner date can inadvertently sabotage your chances of finding a committed partner by focusing on curiosity, anticipation, and polarity. Learn why setting boundaries and making strategic choices about your time can significantly impact how a potential partner perceives you. From the animal kingdom to modern dating practices, we break down the psychology of attraction and the importance of maintaining your feminine energy. You can tune in to find practical advice on navigating dating with intention and setting yourself up for a successful and fulfilling relationship.
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How to Date So He Craves You
07/23/2024
How to Date So He Craves You
Join me as we dive deep into why some women find themselves doing it all in relationships, only to get minimal effort in return. We’ll uncover the science behind true emotional connection and how biochemical responses play a role in commitment. Learn the secrets to distinguishing between genuine affection and mere manipulation. Plus, I’ll reveal why it’s crucial to set high standards and truly vet potential partners. Tune in for insights that could transform your approach to love and relationships!
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The 5 Phases of Love & How to Master Them!
07/16/2024
The 5 Phases of Love & How to Master Them!
Welcome to The Love on Command podcast, where we decode the mysteries of relationships with sass and wisdom! Join me as I spill the tea on navigating love phases, dodging red flags, and reclaiming your power. From attracting quality partners to avoiding heartbreaks, we're diving deep into what makes love work. Get ready to laugh, learn, and boss up in your dating life with me, your host, delivering truth bombs straight to your earbuds!
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Understanding the Biochemistry of Masculine and Feminine Energy
07/09/2024
Understanding the Biochemistry of Masculine and Feminine Energy
Welcome to this episode where we explore the intriguing dynamics of masculine and feminine energies in relationships, all through the lens of biology. Drawing from my experience in science and pharmaceutical sales, we'll uncover how a man's behavior directly impacts his biochemistry, influencing everything from testosterone levels to stress responses. I'll highlight why embracing masculine energy is crucial for fostering healthy connections, and we'll dissect the consequences of feminizing men in modern relationships. Join me to discover why mutual investment and self-respect are pivotal in creating and sustaining meaningful partnerships.
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Are Love Blocks Keeping You from Finding True Love?
07/02/2024
Are Love Blocks Keeping You from Finding True Love?
Welcome to the Love on Command Podcast, where we dive deep into understanding and overcoming love blocks to attract the relationships you truly deserve. Join us as we explore powerful strategies, insights, and stories from over 20 years of experience, helping women heal, activate their feminine energy, and become an irresistible magnet for love. Get ready to transform your love life and unlock the secrets to attracting the partner who is perfect for you. Tune in, and let's start your journey to finding true, lasting love.
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How Healing Your Love Blocks Transforms Relationships!
06/25/2024
How Healing Your Love Blocks Transforms Relationships!
Welcome to the Love on Command Podcast, where we delve into relationships, exploring how masculine and feminine energies influence dating and attraction. Discover why being in your masculine energy might hinder finding the right partner. We'll decode the science—from biochemistry to subconscious patterns—shedding light on why some effortlessly attract great relationships while others struggle. Join us for strategies to heal past wounds and embrace your authentic feminine energy. Whether you're navigating dating, strengthening connections, or curious about personal growth, we're here to empower you. Let's transform your approach to relationships, uncovering insights, inspiration, and actionable steps to cultivate meaningful connections and unlock your true magnetic potential. Tune in for a deeper, more fulfilling love life.
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Why Successful Women Choose the Wrong Men and How to Break Free
06/18/2024
Why Successful Women Choose the Wrong Men and How to Break Free
In this episode, we delve into the profound impact of love on our lives, emphasizing its status as a vital human need rather than a mere want. We explore how love, beyond emotional desire, becomes a core element of our existence, influencing us on both biological and spiritual levels. Through personal stories and insightful revelations, we challenge the common dismissal of love, advocating for its transformative power. We celebrate the beauty of genuine, nurturing partnerships while debunking misconceptions about relationships. Join us as we navigate the complexities of attraction, relationships, and self-discovery, urging listeners to seek wisdom in their pursuit of love. With a blend of wisdom, humor, and heartfelt sincerity, we redefine the narrative surrounding love, empowering listeners to embrace its profound gift.
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Understanding Men and Building Strong Relationships!
06/11/2024
Understanding Men and Building Strong Relationships!
Welcome to the Love on Command Podcast, your ultimate guide to mastering the intricacies of love, dating, and relationships. In this episode, we're diving deep into the heart of romantic connections, offering invaluable insights and advice that you won't want to miss. Join us as we explore the unique dynamics between men and women, drawing on expert advice from relationship coach Alison Armstrong. Understand how men and women differ fundamentally and how this knowledge can work to your advantage. We'll discuss the different stages men go through in their lives and relationships, and how recognizing these stages can help you better navigate your own love life. Learn how to identify a man's intentions, avoid being a placeholder, and ensure you are treated with the respect and love you deserve. We'll also cover the importance of setting standards and maintaining them, the power of feminine energy, and the art of timing in communication. Whether you're single and looking to start a relationship or married and seeking to strengthen your bond, this episode is packed with powerful strategies to help you understand and connect with your partner on a deeper level. Tune in and transform your approach to love and relationships with the Love on Command Podcast. Stay tuned, beautiful boss divas, for a full and powerful episode that will change the way you view and handle your love life!
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Secrets to a Happy Marriage!
06/04/2024
Secrets to a Happy Marriage!
Join me as I dive into the secrets of creating lasting love and fulfilling relationships. With over two decades of experience helping successful women find their perfect partners, I share practical tips and transformative insights on embracing your feminine energy, attracting high-quality men, and maintaining a loving, supportive partnership. Whether you're single, dating, or married, discover how to become the best version of yourself and build a relationship where love flourishes. Tune in for empowering advice, real-life stories, and strategies to make your love life thrive.
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Type A Women: The 'Ruby' Personality
05/28/2024
Type A Women: The 'Ruby' Personality
In this episode, we dive into the attraction phase of relationships, exploring how different personality types draw specific kinds of partners. For Type A women, known as "rubies," their career-driven, masculine energy often attracts men in their feminine energy. This dynamic can lead to increased stress and exhaustion, as these women typically have lower estrogen and higher cortisol levels. We’ll discuss how this energy imbalance draws in "feminized" men or narcissists, who further drain their energy. We also examine other personality types, such as "amethysts" and "citrines," who have faced extreme trauma. These individuals often attract partners who recognize and exploit their pain, resulting in abusive and manipulative relationships. The importance of healing to break these destructive patterns and attract healthier partners cannot be overstated. Additionally, we debunk the romanticized idea of love at first sight, explaining that initial attraction is driven by biochemical reactions, particularly the triggering of a man's testosterone. By understanding these dynamics, women can recognize and address their love blocks, ultimately transforming their attraction patterns to find fulfilling and balanced relationships. Join us as we explore these insights and empower you to create healthier relationship dynamics.
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Stop Leaking Sexual Energy and Attract True Love and Abundance!
05/21/2024
Stop Leaking Sexual Energy and Attract True Love and Abundance!
In this episode of our podcast, I dive deep into the transformative potential of feminine and sexual energy. We explore how societal norms often lead women to feel used and disconnected from their true power. Drawing from historical sources and modern insights, we discuss reclaiming feminine energy as a potent force for manifesting love, wealth, and health. Addressing issues of sexual trauma and societal conditioning, we offer practical guidance on harnessing sexual energy to heal and create the life you desire. Join me for an empowering conversation on reclaiming your feminine power and stopping the leakage of your sexual energy.
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Embracing Transformation: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Empowerment
05/14/2024
Embracing Transformation: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Empowerment
In today's episode, we explore Sarah's remarkable journey through Diva University, a transformative experience that saw her overcoming deep-seated fears, dismantling limiting beliefs, and reclaiming her self-worth. Join us as we follow Sarah's courageous steps towards personal growth, which not only empowered her but also led to positive changes in her relationships and overall life. Through dedication, guidance, and perseverance, Sarah exemplified the importance of investing in oneself and seeking support systems conducive to healing and growth. Listen in as Sarah's story serves as a beacon of hope, encouraging listeners to trust the process, embrace vulnerability, and prioritize their personal development. Through her journey, Sarah reminds us of the power we hold to rewrite our narratives, break free from the past, and create fulfilling futures filled with love and possibility.
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Understanding Your Unique Love Archetype and Dating Phases!
05/07/2024
Understanding Your Unique Love Archetype and Dating Phases!
In this episode, I'll be diving deep into the intricate science of attraction and the six essential phases that define every relationship journey. Drawing from my extensive experience as a master certified love strategist, I'll introduce you to five distinct love archetypes—ruby, amethyst, onyx, diamond, and creme—crafted over my two-decade-long career dedicated to helping women heal and discover their ideal romantic partners. Throughout our conversation, I'll unveil how each archetype approaches the realm of dating, attracts potential partners, and navigates the intricate landscape of relationships. From shedding light on trauma responses to unraveling subconscious patterns, I'll share invaluable insights aimed at empowering women to embark on a journey of transformation in their love lives. So, buckle up and get ready to embark on a journey toward understanding and harnessing the power of love in its myriad forms.
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The Truth About Dating and Relationships!
04/30/2024
The Truth About Dating and Relationships!
Join me for an insightful discussion on the crucial importance of self-value in relationships and dating. I passionately advocate for women to prioritize their time and avoid freely giving it away. Excessive phone calls and early dinner dates can inadvertently signal low self-worth. Instead, I propose coffee dates as a practical means to vet potential partners and establish mutual respect and compatibility. With an emphasis on dating with intention, I share personal anecdotes and illuminating insights supported by scientific research. Let's delve into how nurturing a healthy, supportive relationship can positively impact various facets of life, from career success to overall well-being. Tune in for a thoughtful exploration of finding lasting love and building a fulfilling partnership.
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Unveiling the Seven Stages to True Love and Fulfillment!
04/23/2024
Unveiling the Seven Stages to True Love and Fulfillment!
In this episode, we will cover the profound reasons behind the dissatisfaction experienced by many women in their relationships, whether they are single, dating, or married. Join us as we explore how societal expectations and misconceptions have led women astray, leaving them drained and disconnected. We'll delve into the science of attraction and relationship dynamics, uncovering the secrets to fostering genuine connections and deepening intimacy. Learn about the stages of healing, activating feminine energy, and embracing your authentic self to attract the love you truly deserve. Discover practical strategies and transformative insights that will empower you to navigate the dating landscape with clarity and intention. This episode is a roadmap for women seeking to reclaim agency in their love lives and cultivate relationships rooted in mutual respect, joy, and fulfillment.
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