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Raise those middle fingers up high because perfect is an effing myth! Gather ‘round for badass guests, empowering conversations, and plenty of room to be our bold, imperfect selves brought to you by two proud recovering perfectionists, Jenna + Ashley of Eff Perfect.

What To Do When Nothing’s Working Redux 11/06/2023

What To Do When Nothing’s Working Redux You know that feeling. The one where nothing is working, no matter what you try — or how hard. Nothing helps. Nothing shifts. Nothing makes it any easier, makes you feel any better. You feel hopeless. Helpless Anxious Scared And you don’t know what the hell to do about it. Before you scream or tear your hair out (Well, scream if you need to.), let’s take half an hour to ride the waves together. HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “Maybe there isn’t an answer." — Ashley “There is no perfect answer. There’s only our imperfect best response." — Jenna “Awareness is about expansion." — Ashley “The fact that no one moment will last forever is the one piece of comfort that we can hold onto." — Jenna WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… All about that feeling when nothing is working When we’re most likely to feel that nothing is helping Our go-to strategies when all else fails How to deal when you just can’t Bringing awareness to our hopelessness and helplessness LINKS with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/28494149

Quiet Leadership with Adria Sophia 10/09/2023

Quiet Leadership with Adria Sophia Leadership doesn’t have to be loud. 📣 Contrary to what we’re often taught in Western culture, there’s no single “right” way to be a leader, and today’s guest certainly embodies that ethos. We are so excited to welcome Adria Sophia back to the show to talk about the power of quiet leadership and what becomes possible when quiet leaders unmask and claim their spots in the collective. If you’ve ever felt like you don’t quite fit the mold of what a leader is “supposed” to be… If you don’t want to yell over the noise to have your voice heard… If you’re ready to call yourself forward to step into your own unique expression of leadership… …then this is the episode for you. Welcome, quiet leader. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… How Adria’s business and life have evolved since she was last on the show in April 2020 Energetic differences between “pushing” and “calling yourself forward” The importance of understanding your neurotype and unmasking as a quiet leader Pathfinding versus planning and following the sparks ✨ The revolutionary power of viewing your work from an animus perspective of co-creation Quiet leadership as a rebellion in itself LINKS with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/28259999

Knowing When It’s Time To Let Go 09/11/2023

Knowing When It’s Time To Let Go In this time of change — back to school, a new season, etc. — are you finding yourself going with the flow or holding onto the status quo for dear life? On today’s episode, Ashley and I (Jenna 👋) are talking about the process of letting go: what it is, how to tell whether we’re ready for it, why it can feel so damn hard, and how to make it a bit easier. If you’ve found yourself sitting in the fear of what’s on the other side of letting go, this episode is meant for you. HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “We would rather have the familiarity of suffering than the uncertainty of what comes after letting go." — Ashley “What are you already losing by not letting go?" — Jenna “Realizing that you’re not yet ready to let go is just as valuable as the process of letting go." — Jenna WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… What it means to let go Letting go versus letting be When we choose to hold on and why it can be so hard to let go How to know when it’s truly time to let go — and what’s on the other side Ashley’s signature letting go process of recognition, acceptance, willingness, rewiring, and action LINKS with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/27987561

Savoring Summer 07/31/2023

Savoring Summer While every season has its unique pleasures, for many of us, summer is the time of year we just can’t get enough of. The sun The longer days The slower pace There’s so much to love about summertime, and too often, it flies by so quickly that we’re not able to fully enjoy and appreciate it. So, consider this your official invitation to savor every moment of summer on the horizon. You’ve got 53 days left in this amazing season. How will you spend them? WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… What’s on our summer bucket lists for 2023 Our favorite things to savor in the summer as well as our favorite memories so far this summer All about those unique pleasures you can only experience in the summer What brings us the most summertime joy How we most want to feel throughout the rest of the summer LINKS with Join Ashley’s Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/27601875

Finding Your Freedom and Fun 07/03/2023

Finding Your Freedom and Fun Who doesn’t want to have fun and feel free? No one, right? But what it means to have fun and feel free is not fixed. It varies from person to person and changes over time. How each of us defines these key aspects of our lives shifts as we grow. So, how do we realize when our definitions of fun and freedom have evolved, and what do we want fun and freedom to look like right now? WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… How we experienced fun and freedom in the past When those definitions changed for us What fun and freedom look like and mean to us now How to proactively change your definitions of fun and freedom through our Fun + Freedom Values Inventory Our #1 fun and freedom activities for the month ahead LINKS with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/27326037

And We’re Back: Celebrating 6 Years Together 06/05/2023

And We’re Back: Celebrating 6 Years Together We are so pumped to be back in your earbuds today with a brand-new episode! If you can believe it, this month marks our 6-year anniversary for Eff Perfect and the Middle Finger to Perfection podcast. 🤯 So, grab a beverage and settle in for a journey down memory lane of our most epic moments together plus all the personal and biz updates you’ve been craving. We’ve missed you so much and can’t wait to catch up! WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… Where we’ve been during our hiatus Our latest and greatest personal and biz updates Celebrating alllllll the highlights of the past 6 years together What’s ahead for us, the podcast, and the Eff Perfect Fam LINKS with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/27040311

Quantum Boundaries with Megan Reed 03/13/2023

Quantum Boundaries with Megan Reed For us people pleasers, boundaries can be one of the toughest things to navigate in our lives and relationships, so much so that setting them can feel nearly impossible. Enter Megan Reed, confidence coach, boundaries expert, and this week’s guest who just might change your entire way of thinking about boundary setting. Get ready to have your mind blown by Megan’s framework around Quantum Boundaries and what becomes possible when we embody the boundary we want to set. What if your energy could communicate your boundaries for you without you having to say a word? Sounds pretty freaking good, right?! Pop in your earbuds and get ready to harness the power of Quantum Boundaries now! WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… All about Megan’s work as a confidence coach and boundaries expert The meaning behind Quantum Boundaries and the framework that Megan created around them Using your energy to set boundaries for you without having to say a word The importance of knowing who you are – and who you aren’t – when setting boundaries How Megan puts herself out there and embodies her main character energy LINKS with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/26203776

Needy with Mara Glatzel 01/30/2023

Needy with Mara Glatzel While being “needy” isn’t traditionally an aspirational identity for many of us, today’s guest and her unique perspective on needs and neediness just might change your mind. We are thrilled to welcome Mara Glatzel back to the show for another mindblowing conversation. Mara is an intuitive coach, writer, and podcast host who helps humans stop abandoning ourselves and start reclaiming our sovereignty by embracing our needs and honoring our natural energy rhythms. Through this interview and her forthcoming book, Needy, Mara teaches us how to shift from self-abandonment to self-partnership and meet our needs like never before. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… Knowledgebomb after knowledgebomb from Mara, i.e. why we’re so excited to have her back on the show Mara’s journey as a perfectionist, people pleaser, conflict avoider, and approval + worthiness seeker in recovery Moving from self-abandonment to self-partnership How to release judgment and negativity around having needs and being “needy” The relationship between sovereignty and getting our needs met LINKS with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/25766046

Best of 2022 01/02/2023

Best of 2022 Welcome to 2023, fam! We’re so excited to start this new year with you and so grateful that you’re part of the recovering perfectionist family. 🙏 As we enter the new year, we’re taking an intentional moment to look back on all that 2022 brought us. By reflecting on what was, we can get even clearer on what is and what’s to come. We invite you to ask yourself… What dreams came true for you in 2022? What surprised you most? What are you proudest of? Hit the highlight reel right along with us, and let us know what you want to see on your best of 2023 list. 📝✨ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… Biggest adventures, accomplishments, and manifestations Best days, memories, and investments of the year Faves, including podcast episodes, photos, and new finds – plus old finds that made a return in 2022 The most unexpected surprises of the past year Exactly what we want to be on our best of 2023 list LINKS with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/25477014

‘Tis the Season…of Rest 12/05/2022

‘Tis the Season…of Rest Amid the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, rest may seem like an especially counterintuitive choice. And yet, we’re approaching an ending, the end of 2022. We’re approaching nature’s season of rest, winter. We’re conserving our energy for the seasons of growth and rebirth to come. Because of this, rest is the most natural choice we can make for ourselves as we step into the last 26 days of the year. So, pop in your earbuds and join us for a nourishing, restful pause. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… Why now is the season of rest 6 essential types of rest What each type of rest can look like Why each type is important Our favorite ways to rest The easiest, hardest, and most needed types of rest in our lives LINKS with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/25220658

From People Pleaser to Soul Pleaser with Tracy Secombe 10/31/2022

From People Pleaser to Soul Pleaser with Tracy Secombe Today, we are joined by self-worth coach and best-selling author, Tracy Secombe. Tracy helps people pleasers step fully into their power by reconnecting with their true selves and becoming soul pleasers. In this episode, Tracy blows our minds many times over and reminds us of our soul’s true purpose. Pop in your earbuds and join us for a conversation that’s bound to uplift you, make you think + reflect, and put a smile on your face. HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “Our souls never told us we weren’t good enough. — Tracy Secombe “If you make joy your priority, you will find the practices that are going to create your own alignment. — Tracy Secombe WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… Tracy’s journey from people pleaser to soul pleaser What it means to be a soul pleaser Tracy’s favorite soul pleaser practices Challenges Tracy sees people pleasing creating in relationships – and how to overcome them How people pleasers know when we are finally living in our purpose LINKS with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/24837651

You Will Never Be Perfect 10/03/2022

You Will Never Be Perfect What happens when you fully accept that you’ll never be perfect? It’s one thing to say that perfection is a myth, but it’s another to own that you (I, we) will never be perfect. Literally never. We will always do things imperfectly. We will always mess up. We will always make mistakes. We will always hurt someone (hopefully) unintentionally, probably someone we care about and love. Even if we feel our intentions are “perfect” and pure, our outcomes never will be. How do we live with that? And how do we not get defensive, self-critical, and judgmental in the face of that reality? If you’ve ever asked yourself these questions or would love to know the answers, pop in your earbuds now and join us for a juicy conversation. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… Our first reactions to being called out on our mistakes and imperfections Where we’re still holding onto the myth of perfectionism – and where we’ve been able to release it What helps us let go of the hope of perfectionism Our biggest goals right now when it comes to releasing perfectionism Why shooting for a B+ still makes our recovering perfectionist skin crawl LINKS with Ashley’s /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/24555369

Awaken Your Joy 09/05/2022

Awaken Your Joy In today’s episode, Ashley and I (Jenna 👋) take time out to connect with our joy, thanks to Ashley’s Awaken Your Joy journal prompt deck. We are both committed to intentionally creating more joy in our lives these days, and Ashley’s practical, actionable prompts help to facilitate that process. Join us as we pull three cards from the deck and explore what’s possible right now when we awaken our joy. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… What joy looks like for us right now How gratitude is showing up these days What it means to decide to be happy – and how much our own happiness is within our sphere of influence Steps we can take toward healing ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually The power of taking time for self-reflection through journaling LINKS with Ashley’s Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/24265059

The Magic of Microdosing with Julie Hagen 08/01/2022

The Magic of Microdosing with Julie Hagen Today, we welcome our guest, Julie Hagen, a former Type A lawyer who shares a unique approach to recovering from perfectionism that many of us might not have considered: microdosing. Julie has transformed her own life from stressed and anxious attorney to balanced coach through the combination of microdosing and holotropic breathwork. Join Ashley and I (Jenna 👋) as we ask Julie all about perfectionism and spirituality, worthiness and letting go of control, and our fears and misconceptions about microdosing. Press play ▶️ on this fascinating conversation now. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… Julie’s journey from working as a lawyer to finding her passion for holotropic breathwork combined with microdosing What balance really means and how the combination of breathwork + microdosing can help you find your unique version of it Julie’s advice for those of us who are scared to try microdosing for the first time How to avoid the influence of perfectionism on our spiritual practices Tips for letting go of control and not-enoughness LINKS with Ashley’s journaling and - Use the code LOVE222 for 22% off any of Julie’s offerings! Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/23910156

Emergency Self-Care 07/04/2022

Emergency Self-Care Self-care when self-care feels like the hardest and most impossible thing but is the first thing we all need ➡️ that is emergency self-care. And if now isn’t a time for emergency self-care, we don’t know when is. So, take a few moments for yourself and join us as we explore how best to care for ourselves on all levels right now – mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual. We are all in this together, fam, and we’ve got you. Let us know how we can support you in your own emergency self-care. 🙏 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… How each of us is getting through right now Tending to your mental self-care by curating your consumption Maintaining emotional self-care through identifying your source of release The differences between rest and restoration when it comes to physical self-care Why connection is essential in spiritual self-care LINKS with Ashley’s journaling and Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/23628938

Being A “Good Human” with Dawn Hammer 05/30/2022

Being A “Good Human” with Dawn Hammer Today’s guest has been in a lifelong love affair with self-discovery and is endlessly fascinated by the inner workings of the human mind. Needless to say, she’s our kind of people. Dawn Hammer is the author of The Good Human: 9 Radical Practices to Smash Your Ego, Unleash Your Authentic Self, and Foster Connection in a Divided World, and she is fiercely devoted to untangling the thoughts, ideas, and ideologies that keep us stuck and fearful. Pop in your earbuds and crank up the volume ASAP because you’re going to want to catch every minute of this incredible conversation! WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… What it truly means to be a “good human” Why being “good” is a living practice How releasing perfectionistic expectations for others can help us release unrealistic expectations for ourselves Elevating the good without falling into the trap of perfectionism Using our breath to reconnect with goodness and gratitude LINKS with Ashley’s journaling and Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/23265752

Confessions of a Journaling Junkie 05/02/2022

Confessions of a Journaling Junkie What is the big deal about journaling?! Do you count yourself as one of our fellow journaling junkies, a newbie just dipping your toes into the journaling pool, or a conscientious objector to the whole journaling thing? Even experienced journalers may not realize all of the scientifically proven benefits of journaling, so today, we’re sharing a few of the top positives of journaling, how to overcome your objections to journaling, and our best advice for novice and pro journalers alike. Grab a pen and paper, your favorite app, or a fresh Google doc, and let’s go! WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… Why everyone is so obsessed with journaling What journaling can do for us Overcoming objections to journaling Our greatest shifts through journaling Our best advice for newbie and experienced journalers LINKS with Ashley’s journaling and Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/22965491

You Are Your Best Investment 03/28/2022

You Are Your Best Investment Choosing to invest in ourselves is never a simple process for us recovering perfectionists and people pleasers – even though investments in self and self-care don’t have to involve spending any money. Investing in ourselves can often feel selfish and trigger discomfort, fear, and scarcity due, in part, to the relevant cultural and familial messages we’ve internalized over time. Nonetheless, it is essential to invest in ourselves, and there is a way to know when it’s time to do so. Pop in your earbuds now to find out how to invest in yourself without all the angst. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… The types of investments we can make in ourselves – besides time and money Cultural and familial beliefs about investment How to know when it’s time to invest in yourself Thoughts, emotions, and sensations around investing in ourselves The parts of our lives in need of the biggest investments right now LINKS - Use code DREAM25 to save 25%. with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/22590338

Burnout, Boundaries, and Red Flags 02/28/2022

Burnout, Boundaries, and Red Flags If you’re anything like Ashley and I (Jenna 👋), you’ve likely found yourself speeding down life’s highway watching boundaries fly by so fast that you don’t even realize how many boundaries you’ve passed until the next sign you see reads “Last exit before Burnout.” Pop in your earbuds, crank up the volume, and let’s take that offramp before you find yourself in Burnout City, Population Y-O-U. HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “Getting into integrity with our boundaries is key to shifting out of burnout. — Jenna + Ashley WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… Why burnout is everywhere right now Boundaries red flags Signs you might be entering burnout Why burnout is a sneaky bitch How to know when you’re in — or out of — integrity with your boundaries LINKS with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/22276118

Are You Dreaming Big Enough? 01/31/2022

Are You Dreaming Big Enough? Ashley and I (Jenna 👋) are definitely dreaming big in 2022, but are we dreaming big enough? And how will we know if we are? Today, we’re diving into all things dream-related. Do we have what it takes to pursue our biggest dreams? Pop in your earbuds and find out! ☁️☁️☁️ HERE'S A SNEAK PEEK OF THE GOODNESS… “Dreams are the inspiration, and goals are the implementation that helps and supports us in getting there. — Jenna “The duality of dreams is that they can exist in fear and excitement at the same time. — Ashley “No dreams are wrong or right. They’re just wrong or right for you. — Jenna WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE… The difference between goals and dreams What gets in the way of going after our dreams What it takes to pursue our big dreams How to know if you’re dreaming big enough Our biggest dreams for 2022 LINKS with Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe! And because we’re in this together, be sure to . /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/21944762

Awaken to 2022 01/03/2022

Awaken to 2022 As we awaken to a new year, we reflect on what has passed. /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/21655484

Slow Down 11/29/2021

Slow Down At a time of year when nature tells us to slow down and go within, our social calendars often tell us to speed up and go, go, go. /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/21304991

Transformational Gratitude 10/30/2021

Transformational Gratitude As we enter into a new month and Thanksgiving nears in the US, thoughts of gratitude become even more prominent. /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/20993813

Living Seasonally 10/04/2021

Living Seasonally Living in harmony with the natural world teaches us essential lessons, and the change of seasons provides a built-in opportunity to reflect and shift into ease for the months ahead. /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/20684150

Intuition Revolution with Emma Bronaugh 08/30/2021

Intuition Revolution with Emma Bronaugh What if there were a single key to all the guidance you could ever need? Sounds too good to be true, right? But, it’s not. Because there’s really only one way to get the answers we seek, and that’s from within. From our intuition /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/20294957

The Power of Play 08/02/2021

The Power of Play What makes something worth doing? /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/19990358

Embodying Freedom 07/05/2021

Embodying Freedom Freedom is in the air, fam. /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/19697750

July is the New New Year 05/31/2021

July is the New New Year Orange is the New Black /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/19287695

You Are Not Alone 05/03/2021

You Are Not Alone There’s nothing quite like the power of being understood and validated by a group of like-minded souls. /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/18940655

From Stuckness to Possibility 04/05/2021

From Stuckness to Possibility Ash and I (Jenna 🤗) could not be more pumped to dive into this time of possibilities with you — the possibilities of spring, the end of the pandemic in sight, a refresh for the podcast, and so much more! /episode/index/show/nourishingrealtalk/id/18599855

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