Parenting Successful Teens

I ❤️ teenagers and young adults. They bring the kind of chaos into their families that can prompt the best of times and the worst of times (on the same day). With neuroscience + coaching tools + humor, Allie will have you loving parenting as much as you love your kids.

How to Stop Feeling Like an Imposter 06/07/2023

How to Stop Feeling Like an Imposter Imposter syndrome is the FALSE belief that your normal human feelings of anxiety, doubts, etc are because there is something wrong with you. Not true. You're fine. It's the belief that you're not already good enough that is the imposter. Not you. Tune in this week to learn the simple strategies to break the mental habit of feeling like you're not good enough so that you can feel more confident, quit proofreading your emails multiple times, start speaking up, and enjoying your many accomplishments. Let's connect: You can find me on instagram at allie.p.irwin. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/27074982

I Built My Life Around Them 03/27/2023

I Built My Life Around Them The truth of the matter is that, as a Mom, I worked myself out of a job. They will always need my love. And I theirs. But they don’t need me. And there is a grief there that is true. Over the loss of identity. I don’t regret building my life around them. If I had it to do over again, I wouldn’t change a thing. But it's time to both acknowledge the impact I've had on my kids and to pick a new focus. You'll be the first to know about Project Joy and other great stuff. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/26360112

Are Old Stories Holding You Back? 03/18/2023

Are Old Stories Holding You Back? I'm a big fan of maternal intuition (Mom's wisdom). But when are you being guided by intuition and when is it just a brain fart? An old story or unconscious bias? Tune in this week to learn a quick test to sort out when you're getting information that is helpful vs. following an unconscious bias that will hold you back. We spring clean our houses. Empty our closets and sort out things that no longer fit. So let's give our brain the same opportunity to start the spring by letting go of old grudges, stories about our past mistakes and habits that we are ready to change. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/26265390

Getting your kids to spill the beans 03/03/2023

Getting your kids to spill the beans Many parents want my help in getting their kids to tell them what's really going on in their lives. They do this both because they want connection and they see it as a way to keep their kids safe. Tune in this week to find out the secret to getting your kids to talk to you about things that really matter. If you'd like to learn more about how having support could help YOU, we should talk. a time to tell me what's going on and what you'd like to change. We'll talk about how we could make that happen. If you'd like to support the podcast (thank you!!!), . /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/26114748

When to Care What Other People Think 02/23/2023

When to Care What Other People Think Sometimes we get into situations where we feel a little over our heads. Tune in this week to learn 2 strategies to make those situations easier to bear. 1. Relentlessly being your own compassionate witness. 2. Borrowing someone else's belief in you when your own faith in yourself is a little shaky. If you want a coach on your side to help you navigate a challenging situation, we should talk. You'll leave the call with a clear idea of your next steps and feeling like it was time well spent. One of my clients, Emily, said "I thought it would be weird telling a stranger my problems but you were so easy to talk to. I'm so glad we talked and I got the support I needed." /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/26025162

When Play Doesn't Feel Like Fun 02/16/2023

When Play Doesn't Feel Like Fun We live in a world that is more conducive to anxiety than play. So play won’t necessarily feel good enough to entice you away from work until you rewire your brain for more joy. Your brain will say "oh you can go do that when you send that email...finish the dishes..." (get your work done) But your brain is a liar. She's a snake oil salesman. Your work will never be done. It will expand to fit your available time. Tune in this week to find out why play doesn't feel more enticing and what to do about that. Wanna play more? Need help with those pesky, joy-stealing thoughts? Grab my . /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/25958547

You Can Give What You Don't Have 02/10/2023

You Can Give What You Don't Have You can give what you don't have. Moms do it all the time. You read news stories of moms lifting hundreds of pounds when their kid is trapped. Or Ben Carson's mom making Ben and his brother write 2 book reports a week for her, even though she couldn't read! We moms are resourceful and I love that about us. But all that giving causes us to go into a kind of Mom debt. This week, I'll unpack what that is and how to not let Mom Debt spin out of control. Please take advantage of the . /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/25894647

We Won’t Remember What Happened 01/31/2023

We Won’t Remember What Happened You don't have a photographic memory and neither do I. But we still place a lot of stock in our memories to be reliable and it turns out they are not. Memory is a creative process. We change our memories, every time we think about them. Tune in this week to find out how memory REALLY works and how to use this information to your advantage. To take advantage of the 30 minute free session offer, do one of these 3 things by midnight, February 5th. 1. Rate the podcast on Apple and a screen shot to 2. Write a couple sentence review of what you like about the podcast or why someone should listen to it and send me a screen shot. 3. Join my Patreon community here at any level and Patreon will send me a notification. Then I'll send a scheduling link so you can find a time that works for you. Easy peasy 😊 /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/25791909

Look How Far We've Come 01/25/2023

Look How Far We've Come My family had a recent "hiccup" that turns out is very common mishap with the young adult crowd. And it showed me how far we've come. So often parents come to me thinking that I'm going to take their problems away. Nope. I would if I could but that's not real life. I'm going to teach you how to stay connected to your own wisdom so that you can do what YOU know needs to be done. Sounds worse, but I promise it's better. If you'd like to support the show through Want to learn more about what having me in your corner with 1:1 personal support? /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/25720236

How to Make Being a Parent Better 01/06/2023

How to Make Being a Parent Better Many times parenting just feels too hard for too little reward. So this week I share the framework I use to figure out where I'm out of balance so that I can get back to enjoying my family. That’s what I want for you. I want you to LOVE this phase of your life. And the next one, and the next one. I want you to be happy now. And if you want that too, where we will sort out what’s going on for you and make a plan. And if this podcast helped you think about parenting in a new way, please subscribe so that YOU don’t miss an episode and share it with a friend. They'll be glad you did. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/25520961

Are You Getting Good Advice 12/30/2022

Are You Getting Good Advice How can you tell, before you click, if an article is going to be helpful to you? Or will it just leave you feeling worse? Listen this week as I deconstruct 2 articles in real time that purport to answer the same question - Why do kids of good parents struggle? Both articles leave their reader worse off but in completely different ways. By deconstructing them, I'll show you the tricks they use to get you to click, lull you into a sense of safety and then gut-punch you with guilt. If you are looking for support in 2023 to become more confident and have more fun with your family, . This is a link to have a free conversation with me about what is going on with your family and what you'd like to create instead. Together we'll make a plan that will get you there. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/25465794

Listener Questions: fun + serious 12/21/2022

Listener Questions: fun + serious Serious listener question: I feel like I don't matter that much to my kids, now that they're teens. What do I do? Recommendations + fun questions: * Biggest Pet Peeve. * Favorite Parenting Book * Favorite Holiday Tradition If you'd like to learn more about how to put the podcast ideas into action by working together, or if you'd like to work on something we haven't covered, schedule a free, no obligation call by clicking this link. These calls are free, fun, and feel like a conversation with a wise friend. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/25324755

Best Move for the Long Term 12/13/2022

Best Move for the Long Term When it comes to parenting teenagers, your best move is to do things because you want to do them, not because you're banking on things like appreciation or even polite attendance as the expected outcome. Because no one knows what outcome will happen. So your best bet long term is to learn to pair activities that you can genuinely find joy in doing with your goals. Want my personal help in figuring out how to do that for your family? to find out more about how having personal support could benefit you. The call is free and you'll leave seeing new possibilities for your family and with a clear best next step. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/25316805

How to Talk to Your Teens 12/06/2022

How to Talk to Your Teens Improving your communication skills has long lasting effects on your kids. When they become adults, their perception of their own social skills is influenced by how they communicate with you. As parents, we can use the teen & young adult years to improve our relationship through better communication plus lay the foundation for our adult relationship. If you'd like to learn more about how to put these ideas into action by working together, schedule a free, no obligation call by clicking this link. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/25242447

What Parenting Style Is Best? 12/02/2022

What Parenting Style Is Best? Psychologists say that there are basically only 4 parenting styles - permissive, authoritative, neglectful and authoritarian. Which one are you and which one is best? Tune in this week to find out. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/25206021

Wordle Can Help Your Parenting 11/22/2022

Wordle Can Help Your Parenting I created a garbage strategy* for Wordle and still got good at it pretty fast because I was having fun. It was a completely different garbage strategy than I'd been using for Duolingo that has kept my streak going for almost 3 years and 2 languages. In this week's episode, I break these garbage strategies* down, because creating your own garbage strategies is going to make parenting your teens so much easier and more fun. * garbage just means so simple that on my worst day and I feel like garbage they still work. If you'd like to learn more about how to put these ideas into action by working together, schedule a free, no obligation call by clicking this link. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/25100166

Time to Bust Teenage Myths 11/16/2022

Time to Bust Teenage Myths Raging hormones? Immature Brains? Terrible time of misery only to be "gotten through" or endured with wine? None of that is true. Tune in this week to find out what the latest research has to say about teenage brains. If you'd like to learn more about how to put these ideas into action by working together, schedule a free, no obligation call by clicking this link. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/25043778

Easier Way to Say No 11/12/2022

Easier Way to Say No As a recovering people pleaser, I developed an unconventional approach to make saying no or speaking up easier for me. By easier I mean I made it possible for me to do without having to majorly psyche myself up. If you have trouble saying no to your kids, their teachers, you boss, the lady that wants you to help with the holiday fair...this episode is for you. After you listen to this episode, let's talk about putting this into action in your family. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24987735

Your Maternal Instinct Is Better Than Magic 11/03/2022

Your Maternal Instinct Is Better Than Magic Society bills maternal instincts as a sort of magical knowing that all moms have that tells them the right thing to do in any situation. So when moms feel confused or conflicted or don’t know what to do, it feels like something has gone wrong. Like their maternal instincts have let them down. Or they probably suck. Tune in this week to find out what maternal instincts actually are and how to build yours up in ways that will actually guide you. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24900024

How to Set Parenting Goals 10/27/2022

How to Set Parenting Goals Today I share my "borrowed from a business book" approach to setting parenting goals. This is the process that set me free during the years when I truly struggled as a parent. Take a listen and feel free to email me your parenting goals so that I can celebrate with you! [email protected] /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24824742

Noone is a Better Mom Than You! 10/20/2022

Noone is a Better Mom Than You! I thought I was listening to good parenting advice this morning until I heard this one little phrase. It was like a dog whistle for triggering mom shame. Sounds innocuous on the surface, but loud and clear for its intended target. If you've heard something that made you feel like crawling into a hole, tune in this week to feel way, way better. Ready to really heal mom shame? to see what having private support could do for you and your family. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24753156

What Is Your Definition of Success 10/12/2022

What Is Your Definition of Success How do you define success for your family? If you haven't explicitly thought about it, you are most likely following a definition of success set by elite colleges - good grades, lots of extracurriculars, maximum post-college earnings, etc. Unfortunately, that definition sets most kids up for struggle rather than success. (Even the kids elite colleges accept because they end up defining themselves by those external measures.) So this week, I'll share my unconventional approach to defining success so that you can create your own values-aligned definition and truly set your kids up for success. Got questions? email me at Ready to get started putting this podcast into action with your family? /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24660192

When Good Advice Triggers You 10/07/2022

When Good Advice Triggers You Sometimes even "good" advice can trigger us. We read a book all our friends loved or an inspirational post, and instead of getting great ideas, we feel worse about ourselves as moms. In this week's episode, I'll deconstruct some "good" advice that triggered me so that you can learn the tools of spotting and rejecting advice that doesn't work for you. Plus I offer some fun historical examples from top parenting experts that turned out to be terrible advice. What are you waiting for? If you've got stuff going on in your family, I want to help. to talk about what's going on and what you want to be happening instead. I'll give you a big picture perspective of what's happening and then we'll talk about ways to shift that. Moms just like you love these calls even if we don't end up working together! /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24614904

Getting Your Kids to Tell You 10/02/2022

Getting Your Kids to Tell You How do you get your kids to tell you what's going on in their lives? You love them + you're curious + you want to help. But if they don't tell you anything, how can you help? Because there is no amount of good parenting that lets your kid's skip "the hard parts", the best way to handle them is to know about them. And this week we'll break down how to create an atmosphere where kids feel comfortable telling you their "stuff". Love these podcasts but struggle putting them into practice with your family? That means you are ready to think about the next step. Working with me is the best investment you can make towards strengthening your family + not losing your mind during these crazy years. ❤️ to set up a call to learn more about what that could look like for you. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24556530

It's Okay if You Hate Change 09/20/2022

It's Okay if You Hate Change Our human bodies hate change. They work hard to keep us at a stable temperature, blood pressure, etc. Otherwise, we'd pass out whenever we stood up or went outside on a hot summer day. Similarly, we resist changes in our family relationships. Adjusting as our kids grow older and more independent is hard work. And that work isn't made easier by the familiar adage "everyone goes through it." In this week's episode, we'll look at what DOES make changing relationships easier to navigate. If you could use some help navigating the changes happening in your household, we should talk. about what's going on and explore what having support could look like. Moms just like you love this time to have a judgment-free set of eyes looking at their situation and offering a fresh prespective. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24437112

Why Difficult Kids Make You Lucky 09/14/2022

Why Difficult Kids Make You Lucky Parents of difficult children are the luckiest parents. Difficult kids give us get so many great opportunities to practice mental flexibility, unconditional love, live their values and become judgement proof. I feel sorry for parents with "easy" kids because they miss out on so much. You get a front row seat to a creative mind, even if their creativity is not used for the purposes you prefer! Check out this week's episode, it's a love letter to help parents see why difficult kids are so fantastic. If you'd like to talk about what having personal support could do for your family, You'll tell me what's going on. What you wish was happening instead. And then we'll map out a plan to get you there. Even if we choose not to work together, you'll still think this was time well spent. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24377871

How to Make the Right Decision 09/09/2022

How to Make the Right Decision Being a mom is an endless string of decisions. Both the number of decisions we have to make (5 before breakfast 😂) and the high-stakes nature of decisions at this age can create a lot of pressure to "get it right". So how do you know which decision is the right one? In this week's episode, I will share the 3 foundational pieces to making decisions you can feel good about. I call it the Unicorn Decision Making Process. If you'd like a pdf summary you can get one by . (Don't be thrown...it used to be called something boring like "stop second guessing yourself".) If you'd like to talk about how to get support building this foundation for you and your family, to schedule a free, no obligation call. Moms like you love them! /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24324456

Screen Time: Comfort vs. Just Zoning Out 08/29/2022

Screen Time: Comfort vs. Just Zoning Out So many Moms are worried about how much time their kids spend on screens. But what they don't understand is all the roles that screens play in a kid's life. Connection, comfort and much needed time to just zone out or numb out. This week we are going to talk about the differences between comfort and zoning out as a way to help our kids spend less time on their screens. And like all of the epsidoes we are going to help our kids by helping ourselves first. Because truth be told, you can't tell a teen anything that you aren't role modeling yourself. Want help applying this week's episode to YOUR family? /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24201978

Not Like My Mom Did 08/16/2022

Not Like My Mom Did Do you want to raise your kids differently than the way you were raised? In this week's episode, we'll talk about how to keep the good parts and not let avoiding the bad parts become a trap. /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24072825

Your Brain Is a Crockpot of Thoughts 08/09/2022

Your Brain Is a Crockpot of Thoughts Our unconscious mind acts a lot like a crockpot. Other people's ideas about how we should be get put in there when we are little, and those ideas simmer for decades. Much like ingredients in a crockpot. In this week's episode learn how situations that trigger us today are based on thoughts that have been simmering in our unconscious minds for decades. Identifying these links with help you be less triggered by stuff your kids say and do AND take the pressure off your current day self to "get it right". /episode/index/show/parentingsuccessfulteens/id/24005493

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