Overcome Pornography for Good
This podcast is for anyone who wants to overcome pornography for good. It will teach you about your brain and how to completely quit a pornography habit, 100% shame-free. If your ideal life doesn't include a porn habit, then this is the show for you. Visit sarabrewer.com to learn more about overcoming pornography for good.
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215. What's Possible with Ben
03/03/2025
215. What's Possible with Ben
In this powerful episode, Ben shares his story of overcoming pornography and finding true healing and self-acceptance. Through working with coach Jessica in the Overcome Pornography for Good program, Ben discovered the power of grieving, self-compassion, and living authentically. Ben's story offers hope and inspiration for anyone seeking to break free from the chains of unwanted pornography use and find true freedom. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara:
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213. The Most Important Shift You Can Make When Quitting Porn
02/17/2025
213. The Most Important Shift You Can Make When Quitting Porn
As someone who has struggled with pornography, you know firsthand how exhausting it can be to constantly operate from a place of fear and shame. Despite your best efforts, these negative emotions can hold you back and keep you trapped in a seemingly endless loop. But what if there was another way? Discover how shifting your energy from guilt and shame to love and tenderness can revolutionize your journey to freedom from pornography. Learn practical strategies for making this shift and experience the profound impact it can have on your life. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here:
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212. What's Possible with Daniel
02/10/2025
212. What's Possible with Daniel
We sit down with Daniel, a client who has been working diligently with coach Jessica to overcome his pornography habit. Daniel shares his journey of shifting from an accomplishment-based mindset to a growth mindset, and how this has transformed his relationship with himself and others. Join us as we explore the idea that healing from pornography addiction doesn't mean never experiencing urges again, but rather learning to understand and love yourself on a deeper level. Discover how letting go of the "finish line" mentality can open up a world of possibilities and allow you to embrace the richness of life's experiences. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here:
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211. Expand Your Timeline
02/03/2025
211. Expand Your Timeline
I dive into the concept of expanding your timeline and the power of delayed gratification. By focusing on the long-term vision of who you want to become and the life you want to create, you'll find the strength to push through the challenges and stay committed to your goals. Join me as we explore how thinking in years instead of days can revolutionize not only your journey to overcome pornography, but every aspect of your life. Get ready to broaden your perspective, embrace the process, and unlock your full potential. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here:
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210. What to Do When Relapses Suck
01/27/2025
210. What to Do When Relapses Suck
In this episode, I dive deep into the topic of relapses and the intense shame that often follows. I share my insights on why shame is so detrimental to the recovery process and offers practical strategies for navigating those difficult post-relapse emotions. If you've ever struggled with the "relapse shame cycle," this episode is for you. I break down the key steps to support your body through shame, challenge the beliefs that fuel it, and ultimately break free from the grip of pornography for good. Get ready to gain a new perspective on relapses and learn how to approach them with self-compassion and resilience. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here:
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209. Utilizing Learn and Move On
01/20/2025
209. Utilizing Learn and Move On
Do you ever feel like your slip-ups with pornography are holding you back from making real progress in overcoming this habit? What if I told you that these setbacks could actually be transformed into valuable stepping stones on your journey to freedom? In this episode, I introduce a powerful tool called Learn and Move On that will help you do just that. I walk you through the Learn and Move On worksheet and explain how to use it effectively. You'll discover how to challenge shame-producing thoughts, identify helpful grounding techniques, and visualize yourself implementing your key takeaways. Most importantly, you'll learn how to turn the discouragement of a setback into the empowerment of a learning opportunity. Let's dive in! Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here:
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208. New Free Program and Hoʻoponopono Prayer
01/13/2025
208. New Free Program and Hoʻoponopono Prayer
Are you feeling motivated and ready to start the new year, or do you just want to hibernate a little longer like me? I have an exciting announcement today - we've launched a new free program that lays out the beginner basics of everything you need to quit viewing pornography for good in an easy-to-digest format. I also talk about the Hoʻoponopono Prayer from traditional Hawaiian culture, which can be used for forgiveness and healing in your relationships with others or yourself. Tune in this week to discover how you can use this prayer to overcome pornography use. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here:
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207. Sustainable Goals for 2025 and Redefining Overcome Pornography for Good
01/06/2025
207. Sustainable Goals for 2025 and Redefining Overcome Pornography for Good
In this episode, I reflect on the successes and challenges of the past year for the Overcome Pornography for Good community. From the major rebrand to building an incredible team, it's been a time of growth and transformation behind the scenes. I also dive into the key question: How can we create sustainable goals for quitting porn that align with our values and redefine what "overcome pornography for good" really means? Discover a powerful perspective shift that will set you up for lasting success. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here:
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206. 5 Tips to Make 2025 the Year You Quit Porn
12/30/2024
206. 5 Tips to Make 2025 the Year You Quit Porn
Do you struggle to stick with your New Year's resolutions, especially when it comes to quitting porn? The surge of motivation and energy that comes with a new year can quickly fade, leaving you feeling discouraged and ready to give up. But what if there was a way to harness that energy and create lasting change? If you're ready to make this the year you finally quit porn for good, this episode is a must-listen. I share the tools and mindset shifts you need to create sustainable change and become the person you want to be in 2025. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here:
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205. Chronic Shame and Fear of Accountability
12/23/2024
205. Chronic Shame and Fear of Accountability
If you're ready to break free from the cycle of chronic shame and embrace accountability with confidence, this episode is for you. By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of how to recognize and work through chronic shame. Learn practical strategies for shifting your mindset around mistakes, separating your actions from your identity, and even learning to love and appreciate your shame. Dive deep into the topic of chronic shame and how it affects your ability to be held accountable. We explore how shame is different from guilt, and how it can subtly influence our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in ways we might not even be aware of. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with Sara: Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here:
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204. What to Do When You’re Overwhelmed
12/16/2024
204. What to Do When You’re Overwhelmed
I dive deep into the topic of overwhelm and how it can impact your journey to stop using pornography. By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear roadmap for navigating overwhelm and staying on track with your goals. Discover exactly where your overwhelm is coming from, and what you can do about it. You’ll learn some powerful tools and strategies for managing overwhelm, including understanding our triggers, breaking things down into tiny baby steps, and focusing on just 1% growth at a time. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me: Sara is now recording podcast episodes LIVE (via the internet) and taking your questions in real-time! These events are free, and an amazing way to get more help. If you’d like the links and schedules to attend, sign up here:
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203. Over-Desire: What to Do About It
12/09/2024
203. Over-Desire: What to Do About It
Do you ever feel strong urges to view pornography, tied to specific patterns, times, or emotions? I call this "over-desire" - and it's something many people struggle with. But here's the good news: just like the scientist Pavlov trained his dogs to stop salivating at the sound of a bell, we can train our brains to overcome these compulsions too. I explain the science behind over-desire and share real-life examples of how people have successfully reconditioned their brains. I also share the importance of understanding the difference between over-desire and an addiction, and introduce the concept of mindfulness as a key tool in the process of building a healthier relationship with your sexuality. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me:
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202. It's Not Weakness: The Real Reason Behind Unwanted Pornography Use
12/02/2024
202. It's Not Weakness: The Real Reason Behind Unwanted Pornography Use
Something you may have been told before about your unwanted porn use is that you don’t have a moral compass and that you lack self-control. This simply not true. The reason you view porn isn’t weakness or a lack of righteousness, so listen in to learn the real reason behind unwanted pornography use. Tune in this week as I try something new on the podcast. I conducted a live stream, inviting listener questions, talking directly to listeners just like you. I dive deep into the real reason behind your unwanted pornography use, and I give you the foundations for making real progress toward quitting porn. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me:
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201. The Grip of Shame and Apathy Unraveled
11/25/2024
201. The Grip of Shame and Apathy Unraveled
In this episode, I introduce a concept called the shame-apathy trap. This insidious cycle causes unnecessary pain and suffering, often without us even realizing it. I walk you through how it manifests in our lives and share actionable tips to help you break free. If you’ve ever felt like you’re not doing enough to overcome pornography, or if apathy is creeping in and amplifying your shame, this episode is for you. I show you why trying to care more or do more isn’t the solution and where your focus truly needs to be instead. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me:
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200. You Are Not Your Thoughts
11/18/2024
200. You Are Not Your Thoughts
Do you find yourself believing every negative thought that pops into your head? As humans, our brains are programmed to keep us safe, but that often means defaulting to negative thinking patterns. We may not even realize how much our thoughts are running our lives, causing shame, frustration, and keeping us stuck in old patterns that we want to change. Discover how infusing your thoughts with love and compassion can help you break free from negative cycles and access your highest self. By practicing this mindset shift, you can transform your relationship with your thoughts, so you can love and guide your human body in the way you really want to. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me:
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199. I’ll Eventually Give In
11/04/2024
199. I’ll Eventually Give In
In this episode, I share a powerful clip from a recent coaching call where a client and I dive deep into this "I'll eventually give in" mentality. We discover that this persistent thought often stems from a younger, wounded part of ourselves that needs love and healing, not just a mindset shift. We explore how doing this deeper inner healing work is not separate from the process of quitting pornography, but an essential part of finding lasting freedom. Learn why shaming yourself or relying on willpower alone won't lead to the change you seek, and how healing your inner wounds can make the journey so much easier. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me:
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198. Thought Suppression
10/28/2024
198. Thought Suppression
I dive into the research behind thought suppression and explore why trying to fight off or ignore sexual thoughts can actually make them more intense and lead to out-of-control behavior. If you've struggled with thought suppression around sexuality, this episode will give you a new perspective. Learn the research behind thought suppression, and why learning the skill of allowing versus suppression is vital for you to navigate unwanted sexual thoughts and feelings. I explain why acceptance, mindfulness and non-judgment are more effective tools and provide some practical tips you can start using today to Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me:
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197. Stop Fearing Feelings (Replay)
10/21/2024
197. Stop Fearing Feelings (Replay)
When we stop fearing and resisting our emotions, a whole new world of possibility opens up. Imagine being able to go after your biggest goals and dreams without being held back by the fear of failure, embarrassment, or rejection. Mastering the skill of feeling your feelings is the key to living an amazing life and overcoming pornography for good. Discover the seven steps I teach my clients to help them process their emotions in a healthy way. By learning to name, locate, and relax into our feelings, we can start to see our emotions for what they really are: temporary vibrations in the body that don't have the power to hurt us, and that don’t need to be distracted with pornography. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me:
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196. Hunter's Story
10/14/2024
196. Hunter's Story
Hunter is our new coach and program ambassador at the Center for Overcoming Pornography. He facilitates our welcome calls, support group calls, and is generally the point of contact for anyone considering joining the program. His goal is to make sure everyone feels hopeful, connected, and knows what their next steps are, and he’s here today to share his story with you. Join us this week as Hunter shares his own journey with pornography and how joining the program two years ago changed his life. We dive into the tragedy that is the shame he experienced keeping this a secret for years, how finally sharing his story with his family turned things around for him, and the concepts and tools that helped him the most. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me:
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195. Heart vs. Head Learning
10/07/2024
195. Heart vs. Head Learning
Understanding the difference between head versus heart learning has been a crucial part of my own growth. The truth is, we don’t find answers in our heads. We find them in our heart. And when we find the answers in our heart, we can create real change in our lives. Tune in this week to discover the important differences between head and heart learning. I share my experience of shifting from learning with my head to learning from the heart, and you’ll learn how to use heart learning to free yourself from pornography. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me:
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194. What's Possible with Gabe
09/30/2024
194. What's Possible with Gabe
What is quitting porn really like and what has to change for you to be able to quit for good? Tune in this week to hear from Gabe about what’s really possible when you decide to quit porn and take action in pursuit of that goal. We discuss faith, shame, growth, and repentance, and Gabe shares the lessons he’s learned since deciding he wanted to quit viewing pornography. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me:
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193. Dead People Goals
09/23/2024
193. Dead People Goals
Have you ever set a goal for yourself that felt impossible to achieve? Maybe you told yourself, “I'm never going to view porn again,” only to feel discouraged and ashamed when you couldn't live up to that standard. Join me this week as I explore the concept of "dead people goals" and why they’re harmful to your progress in overcoming pornography. I share examples of common dead people goals and show you how they can damage your relationship with yourself, and you’ll also learn how to reframe your goals in a healthier, more achievable way. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: If you’re ready to do this work and start practicing unconditional commitment towards quitting your porn habit, sign up to work with me:
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192. 5 Biggest Mistakes When Quitting Porn
09/16/2024
192. 5 Biggest Mistakes When Quitting Porn
Do you feel stuck in a cycle of trying to quit porn, only to slip up and feel like a failure? Have you tried willpower, counting days, and shame tactics, but nothing seems to work long-term? If so, you're not alone. Join me this week to discover the five biggest mistakes people make when trying to quit pornography. Whether you've struggled for decades or are just starting your journey, you’ll learn the tools and insights you need to finally break free and create the life you desire. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: Register for my free live class, The New, Revolutionary Way to Quit Porn for Good, September 19, 2024. A shame-free, sex-positive methodology that is guaranteed to help you overcome pornography for good:
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191. What’s Possible with Sam (Replay)
09/09/2024
191. What’s Possible with Sam (Replay)
Have you struggled to overcome pornography for years or even decades? Do you feel out of control, ashamed, and hopeless that you'll never be able to quit for good? If you resonate, today’s powerful episode will show you what's truly possible when it comes to breaking free from your porn habit. Tune in to hear the breakthroughs Sam experienced that allowed him to finally quit porn for good after 20 years of failed attempts. He shares how overcoming his porn habit improved every area of his life, from his marriage to his career, and his thoughts on the long-term impact of investing in yourself. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here:
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190. ADHD and Porn Use with Kersti Spjut
09/02/2024
190. ADHD and Porn Use with Kersti Spjut
This week, I’m joined by Dr. Kersti Spjut, a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in sexual health and perfectionism. With years of experience running programs at BYU for people conflicted about their porn use, she brings a wealth of knowledge and practical strategies to help navigate the unique challenges that come with having ADHD while trying to change sexual behaviors. Tune in this week as Kersti dives deep into the connection between ADHD and porn use. She offers her insights on the shame and stigma surrounding ADHD, why those with ADHD may be more drawn to the ‘stickiness’ of porn, and her top recommendations of interventions that have helped people with ADHD manage their porn use. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here:
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189. No More Band-Aid Solutions
08/26/2024
189. No More Band-Aid Solutions
One of the biggest misconceptions about having a porn habit is that if you’re experiencing unwanted pornography use, you’re lacking strength, willpower, or spirituality. This misleading belief is not only false but often leads to avoidance techniques I call Band-Aid solutions. In this episode, I show you how to stop relying on these quick fixes and how making tiny changes in the way you cope with emotions can change everything. Discover what Band-Aid solutions can look like in practice and why they don’t work long-term. Learn why buffering and numbing out prevents you from processing emotions in a healthy way, and how to stop the cycle of turning to porn every time life gets challenging so you can finally experience true freedom. Get full show notes and more information here:
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188. Abusive Attitudes and Behaviors with Lindsay Poelman
08/19/2024
188. Abusive Attitudes and Behaviors with Lindsay Poelman
To dive into abusive attitudes and behaviors, boundaries, and worthiness wounds, I’m joined by Lindsay Poelman this week. Lindsay started as a betrayal trauma coach for women whose husbands view porn and is now a facilitator for Trauma-Informed coaches. She’s here to shed light on how worthiness wounds can contribute to abusive attitudes and behaviors, and what you can do to start the healing process. Discover the emotional wounds that often contribute to abusive dynamics in relationships. Lindsay and I explore examples of how abusive attitudes and behaviors can manifest, why you’re more likely to exhibit abusive tendencies if you have deep worthiness wounds, and Lindsay’s brain hacks for setting boundaries and creating a sense of self-safety. Get full show notes and more information here:
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187. Worthiness Wounds Part 2: Protect and Provide
08/12/2024
187. Worthiness Wounds Part 2: Protect and Provide
To protect and provide is a beautiful energy that can be used for so much good in our world, regardless of gender. However, in the presence of worthiness wounds, these values can quickly turn toxic, and I show you how in this episode. Hear what worthiness wounds are, why they hurt, and how they might be showing up for you if you identify with the value of protecting and providing. Learn how this role turns toxic if you haven’t healed your worthiness wounds, why this conditioning is often enmeshed with toxic masculinity, and examples of how you can use this value of protecting and providing in healthy and honorable ways instead. Get full show notes and more information here:
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186. Working Backwards
08/05/2024
186. Working Backwards
The working backwards process is all about figuring out what you’re buffering from. The value lies in going further back than you might typically be used to, to get to the root of why you self-sabotaged. By uncovering the root cause of your self-sabotage, you unlock the keys to building lasting change. I walk you through the keys to using the working backwards process effectively, and share an example from my own life of how I use this technique to understand myself better and replace self-judgment with self-compassion. Get full show notes and more information here:
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185. Shame-Free Commitment
07/29/2024
185. Shame-Free Commitment
Let’s talk about shame-free commitment. Whether your goal is to quit viewing porn completely, view it a couple of times a week, or heal your sexual shame, the why behind it is an essential component of your journey to quitting porn. Your feelings are the fuel for your quitting journey. I show you how to ditch the shame and focus on building shame-free commitments that empower you to live your best life. Get full show notes and more information here:
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