The Edit with Holly Totten Writing, Editing, Publishing

Your story deserves to be told in your voice, not someone else's. The Edit is the podcast for writers, entrepreneurs, memoirists, and business owners who want to write a book that sounds unmistakably like them. Hosted by nonfiction editor and writing coach Holly Totten, this show explores the space between first draft and final version—the messy, magical middle where clarity, confidence, and authentic storytelling are shaped. If you have ever worried that working with an editor or following conventional writing advice will strip away your personality, flatten your tone, or turn your unique perspective into something forgettable and generic, you have come to the right place. Holly believes that editing is not about making you sound like everyone else. It is about helping you sound more like you, only clearer, tighter, and more powerful. This podcast is not a grammar lecture. It is not a list of rigid rules or a formula for writing what sells. Instead, each episode blends practical, actionable guidance with honest, unscripted conversations about the real struggles writers face: overwhelm, self-doubt, messy drafts, imposter syndrome, and the fear of putting your work out into the world. You will hear from fellow writers navigating the same challenges, and you will leave with tools you can use immediately. Holly brings years of experience as a nonfiction editor and writing coach, but she does not pretend to have all the answers. What she offers is a philosophy: your voice is not a problem to be fixed. It is the entire point. Editing should uncover what is already brilliant, not sand it down until nothing recognizable remains. Across every episode, The Edit covers topics that matter to real writers, including: How to self-edit without deleting your voice or second-guessing every sentence. The difference between developmental editing, line editing, copyediting, and proofreading—and which ones you actually need. Memoir writing prompts that actually uncover your story instead of forcing you into someone else's template. Self-publishing versus traditional publishing: how to choose what is right for your book and your goals. Working with an editor as a creative partner and collaborator, not a critic or gatekeeper. Overcoming perfectionism, finishing your messy first draft, and learning to trust your instincts. Protecting vulnerable, honest moments in your writing from the "Should Monster" that tells you to play it safe. Practical strategies for line-level polishing that sharpen your prose without losing your rhythm. How to record yourself reading your work aloud as a voice check—and why that single habit transforms everything. Whether you are writing a memoir about a difficult season of life, a nonfiction business book to grow your authority, a self-published guide to share your hard-won expertise, or simply gathering notes and ideas for a future project, The Edit meets you exactly where you are. Messy first draft? Half-finished chapter? A notebook full of scribbled ideas and no clear path forward? You belong here. This podcast is for anyone who has ever finished an editing session and thought, "That doesn't even sound like me anymore." It is for writers who refuse to sound like a LinkedIn post, a textbook, or a bland bestseller clone. It is for the entrepreneur who knows they have a book inside them but is terrified of losing their authentic voice along the way. Because here is the truth Holly wants you to remember: your story without your voice is only words. But your story with your voice? That is something the world desperately needs. New episodes typically release weekly. Subscribe now and stop writing like someone else. Start writing like you.

You Don't Have To Remember Everything To Write Your Story 08/12/2026

You Don't Have To Remember Everything To Write Your Story Have you ever thought about writing your story and immediately stopped yourself because you don’t remember enough? Maybe you remember the big moments, but not the dates. Maybe entire years feel fuzzy. Maybe you remember what happened but can’t recall the exact conversation. Or maybe you’ve compared memories with a sibling and discovered the two of you remember the same event very differently. Here’s the good news: You don’t have to remember everything to write your story. In this episode of The Edit With Holly Totten Writing, Editing, Publishing, I’m continuing my series inspired by a listener who asked how to begin writing his story when he simply couldn’t get anything onto the page. This time, we’re talking about memory—and why an imperfect memory doesn’t disqualify you from writing a memoir, personal story, family history, or other nonfiction book. In This Episode, We Talk About: Why memory doesn’t work like a filing cabinet How to start with the moments you do remember Why you shouldn’t stop writing just because you can’t remember a date or detail What to do when someone else remembers an event differently How to write from your own perspective without claiming to know someone else’s thoughts or motivations How to handle dialogue when you don’t remember the exact words Why it’s okay to acknowledge gaps in your memory The difference between reconstructing a scene and inventing details How writing one memory can lead you to another—and another I also share a personal story about witnessing a serious car accident and the surprising realization I had when the police asked me what I had seen. I was there. I was close enough that I thought the speeding car was going to hit me. And yet, I didn’t actually see or hear the moment of impact. Someone standing nearby experienced the exact same event and remembered things I didn’t. That experience is a powerful example of something every personal storyteller needs to understand: Your story is your experience of what happened. You don’t need a perfect recording of your past to tell the truth about your life. You need to be honest about what you remember, what you don’t remember, and what you experienced. So if you’ve been waiting until you remember more before you begin writing, don’t. Start with what you remember. Write it down. Then follow it and see where it leads. Sometimes the memory that seems insignificant is the one that opens the door to everything else. This Episode Is For You If: You want to write a memoir, family story, personal experience, business story, or nonfiction book but worry that you don’t remember enough details to do it well. It’s also for anyone who has ever wondered: What if I get something wrong? What if someone else remembers it differently? And how can I write honestly about something that happened years ago? You can. And you don’t have to remember everything to begin. Opening Quote “Memory is the diary that we all carry about with us.” — Oscar Wilde About The Edit The Edit With Holly Totten Writing, Editing, Publishing is for writers who have a story to tell and want help getting it onto the page, making it stronger, and eventually getting it into the hands of readers—without editing away the voice that made the story theirs in the first place. You can contact Holly at: https://www,writelynotable.com writelynotable@gmail.com Your story without your voice is only words. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/42399195

How To Start Writing Your Story When You Don't Know Where To Begin 08/05/2026

How To Start Writing Your Story When You Don't Know Where To Begin “You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.” — Martin Luther King Jr. You know you have a story to tell. You may have carried it with you for years. You’ve thought about writing it. You may have even told pieces of it to friends or family. But then you sit down in front of a blank page…and nothing comes. In this episode of The Edit, I’m answering a question from listener Jackson, who asked how to begin writing his story when, no matter how hard he tries, he simply can’t seem to get anything onto the page. And Jackson is definitely not alone. Beginning can feel overwhelming because we often sit down to write one story while expecting ourselves to figure out the entire book at the same time. Where should it begin? What should I include? What does it all mean? Will I remember everything correctly? What will other people think? And how do I make any of this sound like an actual book? That’s a lot to ask of yourself before you’ve written a single sentence. So today, we’re making the process much smaller. Because you don’t need to see the entire staircase. You just need to take the first step. In This Episode, We Talk About: Why struggling to begin does not mean you don’t have a story worth telling Why the beginning of your book doesn’t have to be the beginning of your writing process How to choose one vivid moment instead of trying to write your entire life story Why telling your story out loud may help you find the words you can’t seem to write How writing to one person can help your natural voice come through Why a simple list of memories can become the bones of your story Questions you can use to open up memories when “write your story” feels too overwhelming Why you need permission to write a messy, imperfect first version The importance of separating writing from editing How short, focused writing sessions can make a big project feel manageable Why you don’t have to understand what your story means before you begin writing it What to do when fear—not lack of ideas—is keeping you from the page Why writing your story and publishing your story are two separate decisions How to handle memories when you aren’t certain about every detail A Simple Exercise to Help You Begin After listening to this episode, open a notebook, blank document, or the notes app on your phone and write: “The moment I keep coming back to is…” Finish that sentence. Then set a timer for ten minutes and stay inside that one memory. Where were you? Who was there? What could you see or hear? What was said? What did you know then? What do you understand now? Don’t try to explain your whole life. Don’t worry about whether this belongs in Chapter One. And definitely don’t stop to edit it. Just write the moment. When your ten minutes are over, find one sentence or phrase that feels alive to you. That may be the thread that leads you into your next writing session. 10 Sentence Starters for the Blank Page If you still aren’t sure how to begin, try one of these: I’ve told this story many times, but I’ve never written it down. The part I remember most clearly is… Everything changed the day… At the time, I did not understand… I knew something was wrong when… For years, I believed… There’s one conversation I’ve never forgotten. I wish I could go back and tell myself… People often assume…but the truth is… This is not the whole story, but it’s where I need to begin. Choose one. Finish the sentence. Then write the next one. That’s how stories begin—not with the entire path mapped out or with complete confidence, but with one honest sentence followed by another. And to Jackson, thank you for asking the question. Your question is one I know many writers need answered. You don’t have to know the whole book. You don’t have to write it in order. You don’t have to sound polished. You just have to give yourself permission to begin. One memory. One scene. One sentence at a time. You can reach Holly at: writelynotable@gmail.com or If this episode helped you, please consider rating, reviewing, or sharing the podcast with someone who has a story they’ve been trying to tell. And if you have a writing, editing, or storytelling question you’d like me to answer on a future episode, reach out. Your question might be exactly what another writer needs to hear. Remember: Your story without your voice is only words. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/42322690

Sharing Your Story - Why Ordinary Stories Matter 07/28/2026

Sharing Your Story - Why Ordinary Stories Matter "There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you." — Maya Angelou What if the most meaningful part of your vacation wasn't the destination... but the people you met? After returning from Cozumel, Mexico, Holly realized she wasn't thinking about the beaches, the restaurants, or the excursions. She was thinking about the people she met—and the stories they shared. A grandfather whose family grew out of unimaginable loss. A young man whose passion for his hometown reminded her that stories bridge cultures. A hardworking waitress whose quiet determination challenged every first impression. An elderly couple whose love story began with a note passed in third grade. None of them believed they had extraordinary stories. Yet every one of them left a lasting impression. In this heartfelt episode of The Edit, Holly explores why we so often underestimate our own experiences and why ordinary stories are often the ones readers—and people—connect with most. Whether you're writing a memoir, a business book, family history, or simply wondering if your life is "interesting enough," this episode is a reminder that your story doesn't have to be dramatic to matter. Because stories don't just preserve memories. They preserve hope. They preserve wisdom. And sometimes, they remind someone else they aren't alone. In This Episode Why everyone has a story worth telling How ordinary experiences become extraordinary stories Four unforgettable conversations from a trip to Mexico Why readers connect with humanity—not perfection How stories create connection between complete strangers The danger of believing your life is "too ordinary" Why you don't have to wait until your story is finished to begin telling it How sharing your experiences can encourage someone else Memorable Quote "Instead of asking yourself whether your story is worth telling, ask yourself: What part of my story might help someone else?" Mentioned in This Episode Maya Angelou Personal storytelling Memoirs Family history Business books Writing with authenticity Finding your voice The power of ordinary stories Connect with Holly If this episode encouraged you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs the reminder that their story matters. If you're ready to write your story without losing your voice, visit to learn more about writing coaching and editing services. You can find Holly on all social platforms at Holly Totten. If you have a writing question or a topic you would like Holly to answer or talk about, you can email her at writelynotable@gmail.com /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/42246325

Book Publishing, Editing, and Protecting Your Voice 07/21/2026

Book Publishing, Editing, and Protecting Your Voice "You are the actor or actress in your story... but it's not just for you." — Lesley George Last week, bestselling publisher and confidence coach Lesley George reminded us that every person has a story with power, a voice with purpose, and a message that can create movement. This week, we continue that conversation by exploring what happens after you decide to write. We talk about the publishing journey, the fears many writers carry into the editing process, and why the right publishing team should protect your voice—not replace it. One of the most powerful moments in this conversation comes when Lesley shares a childhood experience with a teacher and a red pen that shaped the way she now works with authors. As a former English teacher, I found myself deeply connecting with her story because it reinforces something I have believed for years: Editing should never make a writer feel smaller. It should help their story become clearer while keeping their voice completely intact. We also explore legacy, community, authenticity, and why the stories we choose to share today may impact generations we will never meet. Whether you're writing your first book or wondering if your story is worth telling, this conversation is a reminder that your experiences matter—not only for you, but for the people whose lives may be changed because you chose to share them. In this episode, we discuss: Common misconceptions about working with a publisher Why your story is already worthy before anyone else reads it Building trust between authors and publishers The danger of self-editing too early What makes a manuscript truly connect with readers The importance of protecting an author's authentic voice Lesley's unforgettable story about the red pen that shaped her philosophy as a publisher Why stories build community and preserve legacy How sharing your perspective can impact people you'll never meet Why your story isn't just for you Memorable Quotes "Your story is already worthy." "Stories are legacy builders." "Stories build community." "Your perspective is your story." "You don't need permission for your perspective." "One rock thrown into a lake creates a ripple effect." "You are the actor or actress in your story... but it's not just for you." Connect with Lesley George Lesley George is a bestselling publisher, confidence coach, speaker, author, and founder of Mosaic Publishing. Website: Social Media Handles: Lesley George email: lesley@themosa8inc.com She is passionate about helping authors share their stories with confidence while protecting their authentic voices throughout the publishing process. You can also listen to her podcast: Mosaic Sparks with Lesley George If this conversation encouraged you, I'd love for you to follow The Edit, leave a rating and review, and share this episode with another writer who needs the reminder that their story matters. And remember... Your story without your voice is only words. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/42171435

Authentic Storytelling, Writing Confidence, and Finding Your Voice with Lesley George 07/14/2026

Authentic Storytelling, Writing Confidence, and Finding Your Voice with Lesley George "Every person has a story with power, a voice with purpose, and a message that can create movement when it is used with courage and clarity." — Lesley George What gives us permission to tell our stories? For many writers, it isn't a lack of ideas that keeps them stuck—it's a lack of confidence. We question whether our stories matter, whether anyone will care, or whether we're qualified to write the book that's been on our hearts. In this first half of my conversation with bestselling publisher, confidence coach, and founder of Mosaic Publishing, Lesley George, we explore the connection between confidence and storytelling, why authentic voice matters more than perfection, and how sharing our stories can create a ripple effect far beyond what we ever imagine. Lesley shares the philosophy behind her movement, The BRAGG—Be Responsible for Amplifying God's Gifts—and explains why celebrating the gifts we've been given isn't arrogance at all. It's stewardship. We also discuss writing, publishing, authenticity, the role of AI, and why every writer deserves the freedom to tell their story in their own voice. Whether you're just beginning your first manuscript or wondering if your story is worth sharing, this conversation is a reminder that your voice matters. In this episode, we discuss: Why confidence is one of the biggest obstacles writers face The meaning behind Lesley's BRAGG philosophy: Be Responsible for Amplifying God's Gifts Why every person's story has value How authenticity creates deeper connections with readers Why authors should resist sharing early drafts with too many people The difference between confidence and arrogance How AI fits into the writing process—and where authentic voice can never be replaced Why your book should still sound like you when you stand on a stage years later Building a legacy through honest storytelling How writing your story gives others permission to share theirs Memorable Quotes "Be Responsible for Amplifying God's Gifts." "BRAGG has nothing to do with being arrogant. It's about showing up as who God created you to be." "Your story needs to come from you." "Authentic voice means you can get up anywhere in the world and be yourself." "When you write a book, you're leaving a legacy." Connect with Lesley George Podcast: Mosaic Sparks with Lesley George Website: Social Media Handles: Lesley George email: lesley@themosa8inc.com Follow Lesley on social media to learn more about her work as a publisher, confidence coach, speaker, and bestselling author. Coming Next Week... This conversation was simply too good to fit into one episode. In Part Two, Lesley and I continue our discussion by exploring what writers often misunderstand about publishing, why every story is already worthy, how to build a publishing relationship based on trust, and the childhood experience that forever shaped the way she works with authors today. You won't want to miss it. If you enjoyed today's episode, I'd love for you to follow The Edit, leave a rating and review, and share this episode with another writer who needs the reminder that their story matters. And remember... Your story without your voice is only words. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/42066925

How To Read Your Book Like an Editor 07/07/2026

How To Read Your Book Like an Editor "Easy reading is damn hard writing." — Nathaniel Hawthorne Finishing your first draft is a huge accomplishment—but it's not the finish line. It's the beginning of revision. In last week's episode, we celebrated typing The End. This week, we're opening that manuscript again and answering one of the biggest questions every writer eventually asks: "Where do I even start?" The answer may surprise you. Most writers immediately begin fixing grammar, rewriting sentences, and polishing paragraphs. But that's like choosing paint colors before you've decided whether the walls belong where they are. In this episode of The Edit, Holly walks you through a simple five-pass editing process that helps you step back, see your manuscript the way an editor does, and revise with confidence instead of overwhelm. Whether you're writing a memoir, nonfiction book, business book, or novel, these strategies will help you focus on the right things in the right order—saving time, reducing frustration, and creating a stronger book. In This Episode Why most writers start revising in the wrong place The "remodeling a house" analogy that changes the way you'll think about editing How professional editors learn to see the big picture before fixing the details Why trying to edit everything at once leads to overwhelm A practical five-pass revision process you can use with every manuscript How to protect your authentic voice throughout revision Why clarity is always more powerful than sounding impressive The difference between polishing words and strengthening your message The Five Revision Passes Pass One: Read Like a Reader Resist the urge to edit. Simply experience your manuscript as your readers will. Notice what works, what drags, what surprises you, and where your attention begins to wander. Pass Two: Look at the Big Picture Examine the structure of your book. Does every chapter serve a purpose? Is your message clear? Are ideas in the right order? This is where you strengthen the foundation before worrying about the details. Pass Three: Protect Your Voice One of the most important questions you can ask is: "Does this still sound like me?" During revision, it's easy to become more formal, over-explain ideas, or accidentally edit away the personality that makes your writing unique. Your readers connected with your perspective—don't lose it while trying to sound more "writerly." Pass Four: Read Through Your Reader's Eyes Shift your focus from yourself to the person holding your book. Ask: Where might they become confused? Where do they need another example? Where will they feel encouraged? Where are they most engaged? Does every chapter move them forward? Every chapter should take your reader somewhere emotionally, mentally, practically—or all three. Pass Five: Now It's Time to Edit Only after you've strengthened the structure, protected your voice, and improved the reader's experience is it time to polish: Grammar Word choice Sentence flow Transitions Readability Final proofreading Editing matters—but only after the book itself is solid. A Thought to Remember Revision isn't about making your writing sound smarter. It's about making your writing clearer. Sometimes the strongest revision isn't adding more words—it's removing the ones that don't serve the reader. Simple writing isn't shallow. Simple writing builds trust. Key Takeaways Read before you revise. Fix the big picture before the small details. Protect your authentic voice. Think like your reader. Save grammar and polishing for last. Connection matters more than perfection. Favorite Quote from This Episode "Your first draft proved that you could write the book. Your revisions are where you shape that book into something your readers will remember." Resources If this episode encouraged you, share it with another writer who has just finished a first draft. Chances are, they're asking the same question: "What do I do now?" You don't have to revise perfectly. You just have to know where to begin. Connect with Holly Totten Website: Email: writelynotable@gmail.com Podcast: The Edit – Writing Your Book Without Losing Your Voice If you're enjoying The Edit, please consider following the show, leaving a review, and sharing it with another writer. It helps more storytellers discover the podcast and reminds them that they don't have to navigate the writing journey alone. And remember… Your Story without Your Voice is Only Words. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41993585

You Finished Your First Draft - Now What? 06/30/2026

You Finished Your First Draft - Now What? Finishing your first draft is one of the biggest accomplishments in a writer's journey. Yet for many writers, those two words—The End—don't bring relief. They bring uncertainty. Now what? Do you start editing immediately? Rewrite the first chapter? Send it to beta readers? Hire an editor? Or quietly close the document because you're afraid of what you'll find? In this episode of The Edit, Holly walks you through what should happen after your first draft is complete—and why the space between finishing your manuscript and beginning revisions may be one of the most valuable parts of the entire writing process. You'll learn why stepping away from your manuscript is not procrastination, why your first revision should focus on the big picture instead of grammar, and how to know when you've reached the end of what you can effectively self-edit. If you've recently typed "The End" or hope to someday, this episode will help you approach your next steps with confidence instead of anxiety. In This Episode You'll Learn: Why finishing your first draft deserves to be celebrated The surprising reason you shouldn't begin editing immediately How distance helps you become a better editor What to do while your manuscript "rests" How to read your own manuscript like a reader instead of a writer The biggest mistake writers make during their first revision What to focus on before worrying about grammar and punctuation Why polishing too early often wastes valuable time How to know when you've reached the limits of self-editing The true role of a professional editor—and why good editors strengthen your voice instead of replacing it Key Takeaways Your first draft and your revisions have two completely different jobs. The first draft exists to capture your story. Revision exists to communicate that story as clearly and effectively as possible. Trying to do both at the same time often leads to frustration, perfectionism, and stalled progress. Instead: Celebrate your accomplishment. Step away long enough to gain a fresh perspective. Read your manuscript before changing it. Fix the structure before polishing the sentences. Invite outside feedback when you've reached the limits of your own objectivity. Most importantly… Your story deserves thoughtful revision—but it also deserves to sound like you. Memorable Quote from This Episode "A first draft isn't the finish line. It's the beginning of turning your story into the book your readers were meant to experience." Featured Quote "The first draft is just you telling yourself the story." — Terry Pratchett Resources Mentioned Self-editing Revision strategies Beta readers Professional editing Protecting your authentic writing voice Connect with Holly If this episode encouraged you, share it with another writer who's wondering what comes after typing "The End." And if you're enjoying The Edit, please subscribe, leave a review, and help more writers discover how to write, edit, and publish their stories without losing their voice. Email Holly at OR visit her website Remember: Your story without your voice is only words. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41902720

What a Third-Grade Story Stand Taught Me About Writing, Editing, and Voice 06/23/2026

What a Third-Grade Story Stand Taught Me About Writing, Editing, and Voice What can two third-grade girls, a card table, and a stack of handwritten stories teach us about writing? More than you might think. In this episode of The Edit, Holly shares a childhood memory that helped shape her beliefs about storytelling, editing, and authentic voice long before she knew those words would become part of her career. Back in the 1970s, Holly and her best friend, Anne Marie, opened a "Story Stand" in their neighborhood. Instead of selling lemonade, they sold stories—fiction, nonfiction, poems, and even custom-written tales based on customer requests. Looking back, Holly realizes that one simple summer taught her some of the most important lessons she's carried into her work as a writer, editor, and writing coach. In this episode, you'll discover: Why writing is ultimately about connection The real purpose of editing—and what it should never do Why not every reader is the right reader How encouragement can shape a writer's confidence Why your authentic voice is your greatest writing asset Whether you're writing a book, a blog, a memoir, or simply trying to tell your story more clearly, this episode is a reminder that the lessons that matter most are often the ones we learn long before we realize we're learning them. Quote Featured in This Episode "What one loves in childhood stays in their heart forever." — Mary Jo Putney In This Episode Lesson 1: Writing Is Meant to Connect People Stories create connection Writing doesn't require permission, credentials, or publication The power of sharing one human experience with another Lesson 2: Editing Should Strengthen a Story, Not Replace a Voice What childhood story-sharing taught Holly about editing The difference between improving a story and changing a writer Why preserving voice matters Lesson 3: Not Every Reader Is the Right Reader The baby bird story that never made it to the Story Stand Understanding audience and reader reactions Why criticism isn't always a sign that your writing failed Lesson 4: Encouragement Matters The story of Mazie the Magical Horse The importance of people who believe in our stories How a single encouraging voice can change a writer's path Lesson 5: Your Voice Is Your Greatest Asset Why sounding like yourself matters more than sounding like anyone else The value readers truly connect with The foundation of Holly's editing philosophy Memorable Takeaway "The thing that makes your writing valuable isn't that it sounds like a bestselling author. It's that it sounds like you." Connect with Holly If this episode resonated with you, please follow the podcast, leave a rating and review, and share it with another writer who needs the reminder that their voice matters. For writing coaching, editing services, and resources, visit: Writely Notable You can email Holly at Final Thought Your story without your voice is only words. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41738485

8 Lessons in Writing, Editing, and Publishing 06/19/2026

8 Lessons in Writing, Editing, and Publishing In this special bonus episode of The Edit: Writing Your Book Without Losing Your Voice, Holly takes a step back from her conversation with author Hadley Kibbe to explore the writing, editing, and publishing lessons hidden within Hadley's story. While Hadley's books were inspired by ranch life, motherhood, faith, and her son, the lessons behind her writing journey apply to every writer—whether you're working on a children's book, memoir, devotional, business book, blog, or personal story. Holly breaks down eight powerful lessons that every writer can use to create more authentic, meaningful work without getting trapped by perfectionism or self-doubt. If you've ever questioned whether your story matters, struggled to find your voice, or worried your writing isn't "good enough," this episode is for you. In This Episode Why writing what you know is often the strongest place to start The importance of knowing exactly who you're writing for How your voice stays consistent even when your audience changes Why perfection is often fear in disguise The difference between writing with purpose and chasing polish How ordinary life experiences become meaningful stories Redefining success beyond sales, reviews, and rankings Why sometimes, the best advice is simply: "Write the words" Key Takeaways ✔ Your life already contains stories worth telling. ✔ Specific writing connects more deeply than writing for everyone. ✔ Your voice can adapt to different audiences without losing authenticity. ✔ Perfect writing doesn't exist—but meaningful writing does. ✔ Purpose should guide every writing decision you make. ✔ The stories you consider ordinary may be exactly what someone else needs to hear. ✔ Success isn't always measured by numbers. ✔ Confidence comes after writing—not before it. Memorable Quotes from This Episode "The challenge isn't finding the story. The challenge is recognizing that your story really is enough." "When writers try to write for everybody, they often end up connecting with nobody." "Voice isn't about using the same words or even the same tone. Voice is about sounding like yourself regardless of who you're speaking to." "Perfection isn't the goal. Clear is the goal. Authentic is the goal. Meaningful is the goal." "Unfinished work can't help anyone." "The stories that feel ordinary to you may be extraordinary to someone else." "Success isn't always external. Success is sometimes the person you become while writing it." "Your story doesn't have to be extraordinary. It doesn't have to be perfect. It doesn't have to sound like anyone else's. It just has to sound like you." "Your story without your voice is only words." Mentioned in This Episode Hadley Kibbe Children's book writing Devotional writing Writing for a specific audience Author mindset Self-editing Perfectionism in writing Authentic voice Purpose-driven storytelling Connect with Holly If this episode resonated with you, please consider sharing it with another writer, leaving a rating and review, and subscribing so you never miss an episode. If you're working on a book and want help preserving your voice while strengthening your message, visit for editing and writing coaching services. Rate & Review Shout-Out A special thank you to JenRoseRyan for the five-star review and for letting us know you're hooked on the show. Your support helps The Edit reach more writers and storytellers who need encouragement to share their voices with the world. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41699400

Writing From The Heart: Faith, Family, And Finding Your Voice 06/16/2026

Writing From The Heart: Faith, Family, And Finding Your Voice What happens when a ranch-raised cowgirl, rodeo competitor, songwriter, photographer, wife, mother, and follower of Jesus decides to write books for her son? In this heartfelt conversation, Holly sits down with Hadley Ann Kibbe, a former student-turned-author whose life is deeply rooted in faith, family, and the Western way of life. Together, they explore the stories behind The Cow Kid Series, the lessons motherhood has taught her, and why perfection should never stand in the way of sharing your story. Hadley shares how her experiences growing up on a ranch, competing in rodeo, becoming a mother, and trusting God's plan shaped both her life and her writing. She also offers powerful encouragement to writers who feel called to share a story but are afraid it isn't ready, polished, or perfect. This episode is a reminder that the stories that matter most often come from the ordinary moments we live every day—and that your voice matters more than perfection ever will. In This Episode Growing up in the Western lifestyle and how it shaped Hadley's values The role faith plays in creativity, storytelling, and purpose How songwriting and photography became forms of ministry Competing in collegiate rodeo while pregnant and returning to competition as a new mother Why motherhood taught her to slow down and appreciate life's fleeting moments The inspiration behind The Cow Kid Series Writing books to help children learn both academics and faith The challenge of keeping your authentic voice while writing Letting go of perfection and trusting the purpose behind your words Building a legacy through stories that future generations can hold in their hands Advice for writers who feel called to share their story Memorable Quotes "There's never a perfect time. When God puts something on your heart, He's not looking for perfection. He's looking for you to follow your purpose." "The Lord's not looking for perfection. He's looking for purpose." "Writing those stories is never perfect because you weren't perfect in the moment." "If you're chasing perfection too much, you're getting in the way of the Lord's calling." "Just write the words." "When God puts something on your heart, He needs the story to be told." "It doesn't matter if it's told perfectly." What This Episode Teaches Many writers believe they need to be experts, have extraordinary experiences, or write perfectly before they share their stories. Hadley's journey shows the opposite. The stories that connect most deeply often come from everyday life—raising children, learning difficult lessons, honoring family traditions, and living faithfully through ordinary moments. When we stop chasing perfection and focus on purpose, our voice naturally comes through on the page. Whether you're writing a book, journaling your experiences, sharing your testimony, or simply trying to preserve family stories for future generations, this episode offers encouragement to trust the process and tell the story only you can tell. About Our Guest Hadley Ann Kibbe is a wife, mother, collegiate rodeo coach, songwriter, photographer, and author. Raised on a ranch and immersed in the Western lifestyle from childhood, she uses storytelling to share faith, family values, and the lessons learned from ranch life with the next generation. She is the author of: The Cow Kid Devotional The Cow Kid Alphabet The Cow Kid Counter Together, known as Connect with Hadley Hadley can be found through Facebook and TikTok, where she shares updates about her books, music, photography, and life. Holly has included links in the episode description for listeners who would like to connect with her or purchase her books. Facebook TikTok Connect with Holly If today's conversation encouraged you, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who has a story to tell. You can reach Holly at writelynotable@gmail.com OR Remember: Your story without your voice is only words. Thank you for listening to The Edit: Writing Your Book Without Losing Your Voice. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41659875

Editing While Writing vs. Editing After The Story Is Written 06/09/2026

Editing While Writing vs. Editing After The Story Is Written Have you ever sat down to write and spent more time deleting words than actually putting them on the page? You're not alone. In this episode of The Edit, Holly explores one of the most common habits that keeps writers stuck: editing while they write. While it may feel productive, constantly revising, rewriting, and second-guessing every sentence can quietly prevent a story from ever being told. Holly discusses the difference between writing and editing, why trying to do both at the same time creates frustration, and how inviting your inner editor into the process too early can lead to fear, perfectionism, and self-doubt. Drawing on her experience as a writer and an editor, Holly shares a personal story about the role her mother played in helping her recognize when she had overthought her writing and lost her authentic voice. You'll learn: • Why writing and editing require different mindsets • How self-editing during drafting can create fear and hesitation • What first drafts are actually supposed to accomplish • The true role of a professional editor • Why many writers mistake editor overload for writer's block • A simple exercise to help you write more freely If you've ever felt stuck, frustrated, or unable to move forward with your manuscript, this episode will remind you that messy writing isn't bad writing—it's often where the best stories begin. Featured Quote "Start writing, no matter what. The water does not flow until the faucet is turned on." — Louis L'Amour Key Takeaways Writing is creation; editing is refinement. First drafts are meant to be messy. Self-editing too early can silence your authentic voice. Perfectionism often disguises itself as productivity. A good editor strengthens your message without changing who you are. Blank pages can't be edited, but messy pages can. The strongest stories often begin with the freedom to write imperfectly. Voice Check Ask yourself: Am I trying to discover the story right now… or polish it? Those are two very different jobs. This Week's Writing Challenge Set a timer for five minutes and write without: Rereading previous paragraphs Fixing grammar Changing wording Hitting backspace Just write. Then ask yourself: Was it easy or difficult? Did anything surprise you? Did your writing feel different when you stopped editing? Connect with Holly Enjoying the show? Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with another writer who may be stuck in the editing loop. Because your story deserves the chance to breathe before it gets polished. Email Holly at writelynotable@gmail.com or go to her website Remember Your story without your voice is only words. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41582560

Am I Struggling To Write, Or Is It Impostor Syndrome? 06/02/2026

Am I Struggling To Write, Or Is It Impostor Syndrome? Have you ever sat down to write and found yourself wondering if you're actually a writer at all? In this episode of The Edit, Holly tackles a question that stops countless writers before they ever finish a manuscript: Am I having trouble writing—or am I dealing with impostor syndrome? While writing challenges and impostor syndrome can feel similar, they're actually very different obstacles. One is about the craft of writing. The other is about questioning whether you're qualified, experienced, talented, or "enough" to tell your story in the first place. Holly explores the difference between these two struggles, why so many writers—especially memoirists, nonfiction authors, entrepreneurs, and storytellers—battle feelings of inadequacy, and how to recognize when self-doubt is becoming the real obstacle. You'll also learn four practical strategies for overcoming impostor syndrome and continuing to write the story only you can tell. Because the world doesn't need another version of someone else's story. It needs yours. In This Episode, You'll Learn: The difference between a writing problem and impostor syndrome Why so many writers question whether their stories matter How comparison steals momentum and confidence Why readers connect to honesty more than expertise Four practical ways to overcome impostor syndrome How to build confidence through consistent writing Why your unique voice matters more than credentials Key Takeaways Writing Problems Sound Like: "I don't know where to start." "I can't figure out the structure." "I know what happened, but I don't know how to tell it." These are craft issues—and they can be solved. Impostor Syndrome Sounds Like: "Who am I to write this?" "Nobody cares about my story." "Someone else could tell this better." "I'm not a real writer." These thoughts aren't about the manuscript. They're about your worthiness to write it. And that's a completely different challenge. Four Ways to Combat Impostor Syndrome 1. Recognize What You're Actually Experiencing Determine whether you're struggling with the writing itself or questioning your right to tell the story. 2. Build a Writing Community Surround yourself with supportive writers who understand the journey and can provide honest, constructive feedback. 3. Celebrate Small Wins Track your progress and acknowledge each completed chapter, scene, outline, or writing session. 4. Keep Writing The most powerful way to quiet impostor syndrome is to continue showing up for your work. Writing confidence comes from writing. Quotes Featured in This Episode Opening quote - "The only definition for a ‘real’ writer is ‘someone who is writing.’" "The real writer is someone who writes." — Marge Piercy "Don't be a writer, be writing." — William Faulkner "People who struggle with impostor syndrome believe that they're undeserving of their achievements. They feel they aren't as competent or intelligent as others might think, and that soon enough people will discover the truth about them." — Adapted from a description shared by George Michelsen Foy, referencing Psychology Today "The stories people hesitate to tell are often the ones someone else needs the most." — Holly Totten "Readers don't connect to the person with the most dramatic story. They connect to the person who tells the truth of their story." — Holly Totten "Your story does not have to be the biggest story in the room to be the story someone needs to hear." — Holly Totten "There may be hundreds of books on the very topic you have to share, but nobody has your voice." — Holly Totten "People don't connect because of the information. They connect because of the way you tell it." — Holly Totten "Your story without your voice is only words." — Holly Totten Resources Mentioned George Michelsen Foy's blog: Shut Up and Listen Psychology Today (impostor syndrome definition discussed in the episode) Connect with Holly Email Holly at Or visit her website If this episode encouraged you, share it with another writer who may be struggling with self-doubt. And if you're enjoying The Edit, please take a moment to follow, rate, and review the show. It helps more writers find the encouragement they need to tell their stories. Remember: Your story without your voice is only words. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41504660

The Danger Of Writing For Everyone 05/26/2026

The Danger Of Writing For Everyone In this episode of The Edit: Writing Your Book Without Losing Your Voice, Holly explores one of the biggest mistakes nonfiction writers make: trying to write for everyone. What starts as a desire to reach more people often leads to writing that feels watered down, overly polished, and disconnected from the heart of the message. Holly shares a real conversation with a writer whose manuscript was technically strong—but lacked clarity about who it was truly for—and explains why identifying your ideal reader changes everything. This episode dives into: Why writing for “everyone” weakens your voice How fear causes writers to over-explain and dilute their message Why specificity creates stronger emotional connection The difference between content and connection How business owners and entrepreneurs often lose their natural voice trying to sound “professional” What “content crossover” means and why authentic stories resonate universally Why your ideal reader should feel like a real person—not a demographic Holly also discusses how authentic nonfiction writing allows readers to see themselves in your story, even when their circumstances are completely different. When stories are told honestly and emotionally, connection happens naturally. If you’ve been struggling to sound like yourself on the page—or if your writing feels flat despite being technically correct—this episode will help you refocus on the people who truly need your story. Because the goal isn’t to make everyone like your writing. It’s to make the right people feel something. Memorable Quote from This Episode: “When you speak to everyone, you speak to no one.” — Margaret Hill And as Holly reminds listeners: “Your story without your voice… is only words.” Connect with Holly: For writing coaching, nonfiction editing, or to submit a podcast topic/question, visit: Or email Holly at writelynotable@gmail.com If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to share, rate, and review the podcast to help it continue reaching the writers, entrepreneurs, and storytellers who need it most. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41423805

What Writing A Hard Story Really Teaches You 05/22/2026

Finding My Voice Again 05/19/2026

Finding My Voice Again Finding My Voice Again with Deborah Griffiths “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” — Maya Angelou What happens when writing your story becomes part of your healing? In this deeply honest and emotional episode of The Edit: Writing Your Book Without Losing Your Voice, Holly sits down with bestselling author, speaker, life transition coach, and podcast host Deborah Griffiths for a powerful conversation about trauma, healing, storytelling, and reclaiming your voice. Deborah shares the story behind her book, Torched Burnt by a Gaslighter, and opens up about surviving years of narcissistic abuse, the emotional process of writing about trauma, and how storytelling ultimately became part of her healing journey. Together, Holly and Deborah discuss: Writing through pain and emotional trauma Why keeping your authentic voice matters in memoir writing The difference between surviving and healing How editing can strengthen—not silence—a writer’s voice The emotional challenges of revisiting difficult memories Why sharing your story may help someone else find hope The subtle warning signs of toxic and emotionally abusive relationships The healing power of podcasting, coaching, and storytelling This conversation is raw, compassionate, hopeful, and full of wisdom for anyone who has ever felt silenced, invisible, or afraid to share their story. In This Episode How Deborah knew it was finally time to write her story. Why she chose to fictionalize the characters in her book. The role editing played in helping her tell the story more honestly. What surprised her during the writing process? The emotional impact of hearing readers say, “That happened to me too.” How trauma stays in the body—and the healing work she continues to do. Why finding your voice again changes everything. Mentioned in This Episode Torched Burnt by a Gaslighter by Deborah Griffiths Broken to Boldness Bent Not Broken: Starting Over After Divorce/Post Divorce The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Klok Domestic Violence Awareness Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE Motivation Champs Publishing with Dominick Domasky The Edit Season 1- published 4/11/23 “I’m Working on What I Can Do Better with Debbie Griffiths” Connect with Deborah Griffiths Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deborahgriffiths7/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debbie.griffiths.77 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@brokentoboldness LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborah-griffiths/ Email Address: Deborah@brokentoboldness.com Connect with Holly Totten Website: writelynotable.com If this episode resonated with you, please follow the show, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs the reminder that their voice matters. Because your story without your voice is only words. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41345430

Why Your Story Matters (Even If You Think It Doesn't) 05/12/2026

Why Your Story Matters (Even If You Think It Doesn't) Episode 3: Why Your Story Matters (Even If You Think It Doesn’t) Opening quote is very powerful and by Michelle Obama—"Your story matters—but if you don't see that, chances are no one else will either." So many people believe their story isn’t “important enough” to tell. But often, behind those words are stories filled with resilience, grief, reinvention, courage, healing, and survival. In this episode of The Edit, Holly talks about why ordinary stories are often the ones that matter most—and why your voice may be exactly what someone else needs to hear. This episode explores the power of honest storytelling, the emotional impact of shared experiences, and why authenticity creates a deeper connection than perfection ever could. Whether you’re writing a book, sharing your story in business, journaling privately, or simply trying to find your voice again, this conversation will remind you that your story has value—not because it’s polished or dramatic, but because it’s real. In This Episode: * Why people often minimize their own stories? * The emotional power of “me too.” * How storytelling helps us process and understand our lives. * Why authentic stories create stronger business connections. * The importance of preserving family stories, memories, and legacy. * How sharing honestly gives others permission to do the same. * Why your story matters even if it never becomes a published book. Memorable Quote: “Your story without your voice is only words.” Mentioned in This Episode: * The importance of authentic storytelling * Writing through healing, grief, and growth * Human connection through nonfiction writing * Preserving stories for future generations * Storytelling in business and personal branding Connect with Holly: As a nonfiction editor and writing coach, Holly helps writers, entrepreneurs, and business owners share meaningful stories without losing their authentic voice in the editing process. Learn more at https://www.writelynotable.com Enjoying The Show? If this episode resonated with you: * Follow the podcast * Leave a rating and review * Share this episode with someone whose story deserves to be told Because your story matters. And someone out there may need to hear it exactly the way only you can tell it. And remember…Your story without your voice is only words. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41261150

Keep Your Voice In Your Writing 05/12/2026

Keep Your Voice In Your Writing Episode 2: Keep Your Voice in Your Writing The quote at the beginning of the podcast is, "Finding your voice is mostly having the courage to speak and letting it be enough." This came from an article by Dan Cumberland on the website , which is an interesting read. If you are interested, you should check it out. In this episode of The Edit: Writing Your Book Without Losing Your Voice, Holly talks about one of the most important parts of nonfiction writing: keeping your authentic voice intact through the editing process. Too often, writers polish and edit their work until it no longer sounds like them. In this conversation, Holly shares why readers connect more deeply with honest, human writing than perfectly polished sentences, and how overediting can quietly erase the very thing that makes your story powerful. Through personal insight, practical examples, and real editing experiences, Holly walks listeners through three simple but powerful ways to protect their voice while still creating clear, meaningful writing. In This Episode: Why readers remember emotion more than perfect wording The difference between natural writing and sloppy writing How reading your work out loud helps you hear your true voice Why writers tend to overexplain—and how it weakens impact A real-life editing example involving a wellness coach’s website copy Why simple, honest writing creates stronger connection The importance of protecting the most human parts of your writing How vulnerability and authenticity help readers trust you Key Takeaways: Write like you speak first Stop explaining everything three different ways Protect the parts of your writing that feel most like you Memorable Quote: “Your voice is not the problem. Your voice is the reason people connect to your story in the first place.” Mentioned in This Episode: Authentic storytelling in nonfiction writing Editing without losing your voice Writing for connection instead of performance The role of vulnerability in meaningful writing Why clarity matters more than sounding impressive Connect with Holly: Holly Totten is a nonfiction editor and writing coach who helps writers, entrepreneurs, and business owners tell meaningful stories without editing themselves out of the process. Learn more at https://writelynotable.com Enjoying The Show? If this episode encouraged you, please: Follow the podcast Leave a rating and review Share it with someone who needs help finding their voice again And remember: “Your story without your voice is only words.” /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41261135

The Edit That Changes Everything 05/12/2026

The Edit That Changes Everything The Edit: Episode 1“The Edit That Changes Everything” Holly starts this podcast season with a powerful quote by Joseph Kanon, "When you're editing, you want to be the perfect appreciator, not another writer." Holly tells us that this quote changed her perspective on editing and made her fall in love with helping others share their stories. What happens when editing starts to erase the very thing that makes your story powerful? In this very first episode of The Edit: Writing Your Book Without Losing Your Voice, Holly Totten shares why so many writers unintentionally polish the humanity right out of their work — and why keeping your authentic voice matters more now than ever. This episode explores the difference between writing that is technically correct and writing that truly connects. Holly talks about the pressure many writers feel to sound more professional, more polished, or more impressive… and how that pressure can slowly pull us away from the truth we originally wanted to share. You’ll also hear a deeply personal story about the loss of Holly’s mother and the experience of writing a memorial piece with her brother. What began as an honest tribute slowly turned into something over-edited, overworked, and emotionally disconnected — until they stepped back and remembered what really mattered. This episode is a reminder that readers are not looking for perfection. They’re looking for honesty. For connection. For something that feels real. Because your story without your voice is only words. In This Episode: Why writers often lose their voice during editing The difference between correctness and connection Why readers connect more deeply to honesty than perfection The danger of over-editing emotional or personal stories Why storytelling matters in both books and business How fear and self-doubt can flatten your writing The personal story that inspired the heart behind The Edit Memorable Quote: “We can become so focused on the technical side of writing that we allow correctness to overshadow connection.” About The Edit The Edit: Writing Your Book Without Losing Your Voice is a podcast for writers, entrepreneurs, creatives, and business owners who want to tell meaningful stories without sounding like everyone else. Through storytelling, writing insight, and honest conversations, Holly explores how to write with clarity while still sounding fully like yourself. If this episode resonated with you, please follow the show, leave a review, and share it with someone who’s writing something important right now. And until next time… Keep your voice in the story. And remember...Your story without your voice is only words. /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41261100

Share Your Story - Write Your Story: The Transition 05/07/2026

Share Your Story - Write Your Story: The Transition This episode explores the transition from Teaching Yourself to Learn to The Edit: Writing Your Book Without Losing Your Voice through the lens of storytelling, nonfiction writing, and finding your authentic voice. If you've ever struggled with writing your story, editing your work, or feeling like your words don't sound like you anymore, this podcast will resonate. In Teaching Yourself to Learn, I talked to so many amazing women who shared stories about approaching what I like to call the "third-half" of life. We learned so much as these women discussed moving forward after retirement, divorce, illness, the death of a partner, becoming an empty-nester, and so much more. But as I really started to listen to these stories, I began to realize that 'how' a story is told is just as important as the story itself. I noticed that people are sometimes afraid to reveal too much because that can be frightening. But when we feel free to really share, our stories are stronger and can carry the weight needed to help others in their transformations. This comes from telling your story in your voice. Not a watered-down or over-edited way, but in a true-to-who-you-are version. Knowing how to tell your story with clarity and confidence, whether you're writing a book, sharing experiences in your business, speaking on stage, or simply putting your life into words in a meaningful way, is very powerful. The transition from Teaching Yourself to Learn to The Edit feels very natural to me. We will talk about how to share your stories in your voice, have real conversations, and begin to understand what purposeful editing really is, and we will still hear some amazing stories along the way. Because the challenge isn't having a story; it's keeping your voice as you share it. If you've ever over-edited, second-guessed your writing, or felt disconnected from your own words, this podcast will help you understand that rethinking the writing and editing process in a way that feels honest and aligned is doable and worth the effort. The Edit is about shaping your story without losing yourself. Because your story without your voice is only words. The quote at the beginning of this episode is by Alan Watts, and it just felt like the words I needed to hear to be able to move forward with my podcast in a new way - a way that can help you, my listener, share your story in the way that only you can. Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review. A nice review on Apple Podcasts will help this show grow and reach more people. I appreciate you! /episode/index/show/teachingyourselftolearn/id/41200330