Divorce and Separation

Hi, I’m Nikki Parkinson, separation strategist, family law expert, mother of three, and divorcee. I’m also the creator of the Divorce and Separation Hub, a resource to show you how to turn a breakup into a breakthrough. On this podcast, I share my expertise from 25 years working in the family law system and my own personal experiences, together with the incredible insight and honesty of guests who have navigated relationship and marriage breakdown and divorce — not only have they survived, they have thrived. Learn the lingo of a lawyer, discover your worth, find your confidence and, most importantly, embrace all your emotions. The Divorce and Separation Hub is your place to feel safe, to feel seen and to find strength, and discover how the Australian family law system works so you can move through it saving legal fees and your sanity. Plus, we don’t charge by the hour! Tune in. Free resources at https://www.divorceandseparationhub.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcehub Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcehub LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thedivorcehub

Parenting | Are Your Kids Walking on Eggshells? Co-Parenting Without Emotional Damage 02/11/2026

Parenting | Are Your Kids Walking on Eggshells? Co-Parenting Without Emotional Damage When parents separate, the focus is often on logistics parenting schedules, property settlements, court orders. But underneath all of that is something quieter. The emotional world of our children. In this episode, I sit down with psychologist Jamie Maserow, author of The Therapist in Therapy, to explore the silent emotional work children often carry during divorce and separation. We discuss how children can slip into people-pleasing patterns, walking on eggshells to avoid upsetting Mum or Dad. We unpack jealousy — whether it’s a child feeling replaced by a new partner, or a parent struggling with their child’s bond with the other parent. And we talk about how to build emotional safety so kids feel secure enough to express what they really think and feel. Jamie shares practical strategies parents can implement immediately, including grounding techniques to manage anxiety during handovers and how to create open conversations without burdening children with adult issues. Resources Mentioned – Jamie Maserow (children’s book referenced in discussion) Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Jaime Maserow, Psychologist and Author of The Therapist in Therapy Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of . This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored. /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/40079325

Self Care & Support | Self-Gaslighting After Separation: When You Stop Trusting Your Own Reality 01/28/2026

Self Care & Support | Self-Gaslighting After Separation: When You Stop Trusting Your Own Reality If you’re separated (or separating) and you keep replaying the past, rewriting conversations, and wondering “Maybe I’m the one who’s wrong…” this episode is for you. One of the most common (and most unsettling) things I see after a breakup isn’t confusion about money, logistics, or parenting schedules. It’s people quietly doubting their own reality. There’s a name for it: self-gaslighting and it can keep you stuck long after the relationship ends. In this short solo episode, I explain what self-gaslighting is, why separation turns up the volume, and how to rebuild trust in yourself safely and slowly. In this episode, we cover: What self-gaslighting is (and how it differs from everyday self-doubt). Why divorce/separation can make your inner critic louder even if leaving was the right call. The “quiet, reasonable” thoughts that slowly erode self-trust. Two real-world examples (Sarah + Tom) and how self-gaslighting shows up differently. Practical ways to start coming back to your reality, your instincts, and your steadiness. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of . This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored. /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/39916920

Parenting | Social Media After Separation: When Milestones Hurt Because the Story Isn’t Yours 01/21/2026

Parenting | Social Media After Separation: When Milestones Hurt Because the Story Isn’t Yours Some of the hardest days after separation aren’t the days where everything falls apart. They’re the days that look “fine” on paper — birthdays, Christmas morning, school milestones, first days back — and yet I still feel that sting afterwards. In this episode, I’m talking about why milestone days can hurt more than you expect, especially when social media tells the story first. Not because a photo is “wrong”… but because the timing, the caption, and the implied narrative can leave you feeling edited out of your child’s life. This isn’t petty. It’s grief meeting visibility. And it’s more common than people admit. In this episode, I cover: Why special occasions after separation can feel heavier than ordinary days; The difference between missing a moment and being missing from the story; How “posting” becomes a proxy fight for identity, belonging, and being seen as a parent; What kids absorb from adult emotion around photos, captions, and visibility; Practical social media boundaries that reduce conflict and protect children. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of . This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored. /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/39809955

Finance | Buying Out your Ex After Separation: The Finance Reality 01/14/2026

Finance | Buying Out your Ex After Separation: The Finance Reality Jonathan Kline-Spink, Director at Market Street Finance, unpacks what banks are really looking at when someone is separating and hoping to keep the family home. We talk about the difference between borrowing capacity and affordability, why keeping the family home after separation is often more complex than people expect, and how lenders reassess risk when a joint mortgage becomes a single loan. Jonathan explains how banks consider income, expenses, child support, and property values; why finance approvals fall through, and the importance of having honest, early conversations before negotiating outcomes. We also cover common issues that arise during separation, including credit files, missed payments during high-stress periods, and a broker’s ethical obligation to act in a client’s best interests. This episode is for anyone navigating separation or divorce and trying to work out whether buying out an ex and keeping the family home is financially viable. Related resources: Episode 79 – Legal | Who Keeps the House After Separation? (Christina Salvo) → Lawyer Ready Session → Supported Exit Session → Divorce & Separation Hub – Resources → Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Jonathan Kline-Spink, Mortgage Broker and Director at Market Street Finance Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast’s audio production crafted by Dan at This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored. /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/39722635

Legal | Who Keeps the House After Separation? 12/17/2025

Legal | Who Keeps the House After Separation? Buying out an ex from the family home after separation can feel overwhelming — financially, legally, and emotionally. In this episode, I’m joined by Christina Salvo, CEO and Founder of Simple Separation, to break down how the process actually works and what needs to happen first. We talk through the real sequence involved in buying out an ex — starting with negotiation and mediation, moving into formal agreements, and then looking at finance and title transfer. Christina explains why affordability and borrowing capacity need to be assessed early, what lenders look at when a joint mortgage becomes a sole loan, and why refinancing after separation is often misunderstood. We also cover what happens when both people want to keep the family home, how mediation helps reality-test options, and when court becomes the only remaining pathway. Christina clarifies common misconceptions around stamp duty and spousal transfers, including when exemptions apply for married and de facto couples. Finally, we talk about why every property settlement should include fallback provisions if finance approval falls through, and how having a safety net in place can protect both parties and reduce unnecessary stress. This episode is for anyone navigating separation, negotiating a property settlement, or trying to work out whether keeping the family home is financially viable. In this episode, we cover: Buying out an ex after separation Property settlements and formal agreements Refinancing vs new loans after separation Borrowing capacity and affordability Mediation and negotiation pathways Stamp duty exemptions and spousal transfers What happens if finance isn’t approved Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Christina Salvo, CEO, Simple Separation Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast’s audio production crafted by Dan at This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored. /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/39437490

Self Care & Support | The Habits That Heal: Dr Gina Cleo on Identity, Separation and Starting Again 12/10/2025

Self Care & Support | The Habits That Heal: Dr Gina Cleo on Identity, Separation and Starting Again Dr Gina Cleo joins me for a powerful conversation about the tiny habits that help you steady yourself after separation especially when identity, routine and confidence feel completely shaken. Gina shares openly about her three divorces and the very human process of rebuilding from the inside out. We explore how separation disrupts the “micro-moments” of your day, why habits shape identity, and the difference between having a habit problem versus simply having no capacity left. We also talk about: Small actions that rebuild confidence and clarity Breaking patterns like people-pleasing and overexplaining Co-parenting systems that create emotional safety Why motivation can’t be relied on during grief or overwhelm The one habit she recommends for anyone drowning in stress This episode is gentle, practical and full of hope. If you’re trying to find your feet again, start here — with habits that heal. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Dr Gina Cleo, PhD . Habit Researcher . Speaker . Author . Dietitian Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast’s audio production crafted by Dan at This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored. /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/39359970

Spotlight | When Kids Carry Adult Pain: A Conversation with Tommy Herschell 12/03/2025

Spotlight | When Kids Carry Adult Pain: A Conversation with Tommy Herschell Children feel the impact of separation long before they can explain it and many carry those early wounds into adulthood. In this episode, I’m joined by Tommy Herschell, founder of Find Ya Feet, to explore what can happen for kids during a family breakdown and how those early experiences can shape boys and men for decades. Tommy shares his own story, his parents’ separation when he was 10 years old, the years of self-blame, and the emotional crash in his mid-30s that forced him to face what he’d been carrying. We talk about how unspoken pain shows up in kids’ behaviour, why emotional safety matters, and the patterns that often follow boys into adulthood. We also touch on what parents can do differently during separation, including: – communicating without overwhelming – staying respectful about the other parent – modelling emotional regulation – protecting kids from adult burdens This conversation is raw, grounded, and full of insight about what children feel but rarely say and what it takes to help them find their feet again. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Tommy Herschel Founder of Find Ya Feet Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast’s audio production crafted by Dan at This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored. /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/39247610

Anatomy of Divorce | How to Filter the Noise During Divorce 11/17/2025

Anatomy of Divorce | How to Filter the Noise During Divorce If your mind feels loud but your heart has gone quiet, this episode is for you. If you’re navigating divorce or separation and feel overwhelmed by everyone’s opinions, this episode will help you tune back into your voice. In this instalment of The Anatomy of Divorce, I explore The Ears — the part of the process where discernment, boundaries, and self-trust matter most. During separation, it can feel like you’re drowning in advice from friends, family, lawyers, social media, and your own inner critic. But not every voice deserves airtime. I share how this played out during my own divorce and how to recognise the difference between helpful guidance and harmful noise. You’ll learn how to filter opinions, balance emotion with strategy, and rebuild trust in your own internal compass. This episode is for anyone struggling with decision-making, second-guessing themselves, or feeling confused by the competing voices around them. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of . This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored. /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/39092440

Anatomy of Divorce | Let Go, Let Them, and Find Real Peace After Separation 11/10/2025

Anatomy of Divorce | Let Go, Let Them, and Find Real Peace After Separation This episode is part of The Anatomy of Divorce segment, I unpack one of the most overlooked skills in separation - perspective. When life turns upside down after divorce, your brain goes into survival mode. You loop old arguments, replay stories, and grip tightly to being understood. But sometimes the shift you need most isn’t fixing them - it’s seeing them differently. I share how understanding your biology, practising perspective-taking, and embracing Let Them Theory can help you calm your nervous system, make clearer decisions, and protect your peace. You’ll also learn my six-step Perspective Check, a simple, science-backed tool to help you step out of reactivity and back into clarity. This is an episode for anyone who’s ready to stop explaining, start exhaling, and find real freedom after divorce. In this episode, I talk about: Why your brain goes into survival mode after separation; How looping thoughts keep you trapped in pain; The psychology of perspective taking and how it helps regulate emotions; A six-step framework to widen your lens without losing your boundaries; The 90-second de-flare technique for calmer communication; What the Let Them Theory can teach us about emotional release and self-preservation; The difference between letting go and giving up; Why peace comes from perception, not permission. Resources: Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of . This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored. /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/38975390

Finances | Divorce in the Workplace: The $101 Billion Blind Spot with Andrew Tomich 11/03/2025

Finances | Divorce in the Workplace: The $101 Billion Blind Spot with Andrew Tomich Separation and divorce cost the Australian economy $101 billion every year but behind that figure are real people quietly trying to hold their lives, families, and jobs together. In this episode, I’m joined by Andrew Tomich, Director at , to explore how divorce impacts the workplace from leadership and productivity to culture and wellbeing. Andrew shares what happened when a senior colleague went through a complex separation and how empathy, flexibility, and communication became the foundation for getting through it together. We talk about the ripple effect personal crises have inside organisations, why traditional leave policies fall short, and how initiatives like “Life Leave” are changing the way businesses support their teams. It’s a conversation about leadership that sees the person behind the role and why humanising the workplace isn’t just good for people, it’s good for business. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Andrew Tomich, Founder & Director A&Co Recruuitment Partners Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast’s audio production crafted by Dan at This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored. /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/38891210

Anatomy of Divorce | Beyond the Pain (The Heart) 10/27/2025

Anatomy of Divorce | Beyond the Pain (The Heart) This episode is part of The Anatomy of Divorce segment, where we explore the emotional, physical and psychological layers of separation through the whole person body, mind and heart. Today, we move into The Heart the space where pain lives first. If you’re in that place where everything feels raw, where your chest feels tight and your thoughts loop endlessly, this one’s for you. In this episode, I’m speaking directly to that tender part of you that’s trying to make sense of the ending the part that wants to heal but still feels stuck in the ache. I share my own experience of heartbreak when my marriage ended and I couldn’t see beyond the grief and how I began to shift from surviving to slowly rebuilding. We’ll talk about: Why emotional pain narrows your world and how to gently widen your view again; How the brain protects us in the middle of heartbreak (and when it’s time to move from protection to possibility); The moment I realised my pain had changed shape from breaking to becoming; What it means to truly “let go” without losing yourself; How to use gentle curiosity and journaling to reconnect with your heart and your future. This isn’t about pushing past the pain it’s about understanding it, honouring it, and learning what it’s trying to show you. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of . This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/38791125

Legal | Parenting Plans vs Parenting Orders with Eliza O'Sullivan 10/20/2025

Legal | Parenting Plans vs Parenting Orders with Eliza O'Sullivan Parenting after separation doesn’t come with a manual but it does come with options. In this episode, I sit down with Eliza O’Sullivan, Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner at Simple Separation, to unpack one of the most confusing and emotional parts of separation: how to make parenting work when the relationship ends. Eliza brings calm, clarity, and deep understanding to a topic that so often overwhelms parents. We explore what a Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner (FDRP) actually does, when to use mediation, and how to create a child-focused parenting plan that protects your kids and supports both parents. Together we discuss: The real difference between a Parenting Plan and a Parenting Order Why the best time to create a plan is before you think you need it The must-have clauses every parenting plan should include How to keep communication child-focused when emotions run high What a child’s voice really means (and how to be their advocate, not their messenger) When to formalise your arrangements through the court system and when not to This episode is your practical guide to making co-parenting simpler, calmer, and truly centred on your child’s needs. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Eliza O'Sullivan, FDRP, Simple Separation Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast’s audio production crafted by Dan at This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there’s another topic you’d like explored. /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/38642225

Self Care & Support | The Psychology of Safe Love: What Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does with Phoebe Rogers 10/13/2025

Self Care & Support | The Psychology of Safe Love: What Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does with Phoebe Rogers Have you ever felt your gut warning you about someone but your head talked you out of listening? In this episode I sit down with clinical psychologist and author Phoebe Rogers to explore the psychology of safe love and why rebuilding self-trust after separation starts in your body, not your brain. We dive deep into what happens when you begin healing after separation, why so many of us keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, and how schema therapy can help you break free from the old relationship patterns that hold you back. Together, we unpack: The link between your nervous system and emotional safety in relationships; Why learning to trust yourself again after divorce is the foundation for love after divorce; What to look for when you’re dating after divorce and how to know when you’re ready; How your body often senses red flags before your mind catches up; Why healthy, safe love begins with reconnecting to yourself Because true healing after divorce doesn’t make you harder to love it makes you better at it. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Phoebe Rogers, Clinical Psychologist and Author of When Will It Happen For Me? Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast’s audio production crafted by Dan at This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/38561605

Anatomy of Divorce | Using Your BRAINS: Calm, Confident Choices in Divorce. 10/06/2025

Anatomy of Divorce | Using Your BRAINS: Calm, Confident Choices in Divorce. Feeling stuck or second-guessing every decision during your divorce? You’re not alone. In the The Anatomy of Divorce segment of the podcast, I share the B.R.A.I.N.S method a calm, psychology backed decision making framework designed to help you find clarity when emotions run high. You’ll learn how to: Overcome divorce decision fatigue and emotional overwhelm. Shift out of survival mode and make grounded, values-based choices. Avoid the 3 biggest decision making mistakes people make during separation. Use the B.R.A.I.N.S method (Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Intuition, Nothing, Support) to create calm and confidence through chaos. Whether you’re navigating separation, co-parenting, or your next chapter this episode will help you reclaim your clarity, confidence, and power. Grab your free BRAINS printable and keep this tool close when you need it most. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of . This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at . /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/38476120

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Self Care & Support | It Begins With You: Healing, Growth & Love After Divorce with Jillian Turecki 01/22/2025

Self Care & Support | It Begins With You: Healing, Growth & Love After Divorce with Jillian Turecki Divorce is one of the hardest things you’ll ever go through. The loss, the uncertainty, the fear of what’s next, it can feel overwhelming. But what if this was also an opportunity to rediscover yourself? In this episode, I’m joined by Jillian Turecki, Certified Relationship Coach, Teacher, Author, and Host of the Podcast, Jillian On Love. We have a raw and honest conversation about what it really takes to heal after a breakup, why self-acceptance is more important than self-love, and how to rebuild trust, both in yourself and in future relationships. Jillian also shares insights from her new book, It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life, and we dive into the lessons we’ve learned from our own breakups, the moments that made us question everything, and the unexpected freedom that comes when you finally let go. If you’re struggling to make sense of your divorce or separation, feeling stuck in the heartbreak, or wondering how you’ll ever move forward, this episode is for you. What We Talk About The first thing you need to do after a breakup; How to stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting your decisions; Why choosing yourself doesn’t mean disregarding others; The truth about financial independence and why it matters in relationships; How to embrace freedom after divorce instead of fearing it; What a healthy relationship actually looks like; Why heartbreak makes us feel crazy and how to manage those emotions. This is one of those conversations that will stay with you. This episode is brought to you by . For a stress-free, transparent approach to navigating separation, book a free consultation with their team today. Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Host: Nikki Parkinson The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Jillian Turecki, Certified Relationship Coach, Teacher, Author, and Host of the Podcast, Jillian On Love Connect with JILLIAN TURECKI | (2.2M) | (176.7K ) | | Book order link: Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/34953840

How to Tell Your Kids You're Separating with Bella Duncan, A Kid With Two Homes 12/16/2024

How to Tell Your Kids You're Separating with Bella Duncan, A Kid With Two Homes Talking to your kids about divorce can feel overwhelming. It may be one of the hardest conversations that you will have. How do you deliver life-changing news without breaking their hearts? How do you reassure them that they are loved, secure, and not responsible for what’s happening? In this episode, I’m joined by Bella Duncan, founder of A Kid With Two Homes. Bella brings an incredibly important perspective, one that she’s lived through with her her parents divorce. Together, we explore how to approach this delicate conversation with love, honesty, and compassion. Bella shares not just the emotional side of this experience, but also practical tips for parents who may be struggling to find the right words or the right time. If you’ve ever worried about how to protect your children while navigating divorce, this episode is a must-listen. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: 1. Why the conversation matters so much. 2. Timing and age-appropriate communication. 3. Delivering the news as a team. 4. What kids really want to know. 5. Why you must say, “This is not your fault”. 6. Ongoing conversations, this is not a not one-and-done conversation. 7. Breaking the stigma of “broken families. 8. Practical tips for helping kids adjust. Resources & Next Steps: Bella and I have collaborated and created a program for you, How to Tell Your Kids You're Separating. You can join at the introductory price . Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments — you’re not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Host: Nikki Parkinson The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Bella Duncan, A Kid With Two Homes Connect with Bella here Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her and on Instagram . /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/34483400

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Decluttering Your Finances with Melissa Browne 12/02/2024

Decluttering Your Finances with Melissa Browne I am welcoming back Melissa Browne onto the podcast to help you "Declutter Your Finances". We are sharing with you how to unravel the mystery of financial clutter and offer practical strategies to simplify, prioritise, and take control of your finances — no spreadsheets required. Whether you're adjusting to a new financial reality or just looking to feel more in charge, this episode is packed with actionable advice. What You’ll Learn: Face the Numbers, Face the Truth: Understand why knowing exactly what you earn, owe, and spend is the foundation of financial freedom—and why most people avoid it. Declutter in Bite-Sized Chunks: From food budgets to electricity bills, Melissa’s methodical approach helps you tackle financial clutter one step at a time. Break Free from Bad Habits: Discover how small unconscious actions, like using credit cards or buy-now-pay-later services, could be silently sabotaging your goals. The 30-Day Detox for Your Wallet: A game-changing exercise that resets your relationship with money and empowers you to spend with intention. Dealing with Debt, Made Simple: Melissa demystifies the four types of debt, how to handle each, and why not all debt is created equal. Forget Budgets — Build a Plan That Works: Learn how to create a lifestyle-first approach to managing money that feels achievable and sustainable. Shifting Mindsets Around Money: Strategies to reduce financial anxiety, build resilience, and create a financial future that aligns with your values. Inspiring Insights: - Why financial modeling for your kids isn’t just important — it’s a legacy. - How acting “counter-culturally” can free you from the relentless pressure of consumerism. - The truth about financial resilience: It’s not about having it all; it’s about living a life aligned with your core values. Free Resources from Melissa: 50+ Ways to Find $10K in 12 Months: Creative ideas to generate extra income, from pet sitting to strategic savings — no second job required. . Melissa’s Financial Courses: Gain clarity and confidence with Melissa’s practical, approachable programs designed for real life. . Let’s Keep the Conversation Going: Visit to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments — you’re not alone in this. How to Tell Your Kids You Are Separating Buy . This episode is brought to you by . For a stress-free, transparent approach to navigating separation, book a free consultation with their team today. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Host: Nikki Parkinson The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Guest: Melissa Browne Melissa Browne, is an ex-accountant, ex-financial advisor & ex-working till she drops. Melissa Browne Melissa Browne Melissa Browne Melissa Browne Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her and on Instagram . /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/34258700

A Divorce Story: How to Break Up Well with Sarah Catherall 11/18/2024

A Divorce Story: How to Break Up Well with Sarah Catherall It started with "I do" and ended with "It's over". I sit down with Sarah Catherall, journalist and author of "How to Break Up Well: Surviving and Thriving After Separation" to talk about her "Chapter 2" and life after separation and divorce. Sarah shares her experiences of navigating the end of her marriage, raising her children, and creating a fulfilling new chapter in her life. Key Takeaways: The Reality of Separation: Sarah discusses the moment her marriage ended and how she coped with the unexpected changes. She reflects on how the pressures of parenting, work, and life contributed to the breakdown of her relationship. Talking to Children About Divorce: Practical advice on preparing for and having the conversation with children about separation. Rebuilding After Divorce: Tips for maintaining connections with extended family and finding new ways to co-parent effectively. Dating and Repartnering: Sarah reflects on her early dating missteps after divorce and what she learned about introducing a new partner to her children. Advice for taking it slow and respecting your children’s feelings during this transition. Can you Break Up Well? Absolutely you can! Resources Mentioned: Sarah Catherall’s Book: How to Break Up Well: Surviving and Thriving After Separation. Buy in Australia . Buy in New Zealand . How to Tell Your Kids You Are Separating Buy . This episode is brought to you by . For a stress-free, transparent approach to navigating separation, book a free consultation with their team today. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Host: Nikki Parkinson The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub The Divorce and Separation Hub Join our Divorce and Separation community . Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids You're Separating Program" . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Sarah Catherall Connect on Instagram . Connect on Sarah's Website . Connect on LinkedIn . Connect on Sarah's Substack . Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her and on Instagram . /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/33982452

Giving Kids a Voice: Despina Mavridou on Divorce and it's Emotional Toll 11/11/2024

Giving Kids a Voice: Despina Mavridou on Divorce and it's Emotional Toll I sit down with Despina Mavridou, author of "Mum, Dad, Can You Hear Me?", about her personal experience growing up in the middle of her parents’ high-conflict divorce. Despina shares her powerful story from being a child used as a messenger between her parents to becoming a mediator and advocate for kids in similar situations. Key discussions: Despina opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of being caught in her parents' conflict and the toll it took on her as a child. The devastating effects of using children as messengers and the impact it has on their sense of responsibility and guilt. How parents can better support their children during separation by being mindful of their emotional needs and avoiding placing them in the middle of conflicts. Despina shares how her childhood shaped her adult relationships, including her fear of abandonment and the impact of divorce on her own marriage. Practical advice for parents navigating separation, including seeking help before mediation and focusing on the kids’ well-being. Despina’s hope that her book will give children a voice and help parents understand the long-lasting effects of divorce on their kids. If you're navigating your own separation and wondering how to help your children through this difficult time, this conversation is a must-listen. You can find Despina's book *Mum, Dad, Can You Hear Me?* on Amazon, in English, Portuguese, and Greek. Resources: - by Despina Mavridou - Divorce and Separation Hub: Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here Join our Divorce and Separation community . Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids You're Separating Program" . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Despina Mavridou Connect on Instagram Connect on Facebook . Buy "Mum, Dad, Can you Hear Me?" . Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her and on Instagram . /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/33876997

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A Divorce Story: Over the Back Fence with Diana Edwards and Nicola Dale 09/23/2024

A Divorce Story: Over the Back Fence with Diana Edwards and Nicola Dale Grief, healing, new beginnings, and the transformative power of separation and divorce — this episode covers it all. Nikki sits down with best friends Diana Edwards and Nicola Dale from the "Over The Back Fence" podcast. These two powerhouse women share their personal experiences through their separation and divorce. In 2024, with 'grey divorces' on the rise, the question often asked is "What do you do when a long-term marriage comes to an end?" With decades of wisdom behind them, Di and Nicola share their lessons from ending their 36 and 25 year marriages. Di opens up about the end of her 36-year marriage, sharing her two-year grieving process. 'I’ve closed that door on my past marriage, and I’ve walked through another into my new life,' she reflects. Nicola talks about the end of her 25-year marriage, how she navigated the heartache, found freedom and joy in being single, and eventually found love — only to face the pain of a public breakup after a high-profile, four-year relationship. How did she survive? With grace, integrity, and a wealth of insights that she shares with you in this episode. Divorce and Separation Podcast offers valuable insights and practical tips for individuals navigating the challenges of separation, making it a resourceful guide for those seeking support during this emotional journey. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. Connect with Nikki Parkinson here Join our Divorce and Separation community . Sign up to "How to Tell Your Kids you are Separating Program" Waitlist . Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk . Guest: Di Edwards and Nicola Dale, Over the Back Fence Podcast Connect on Instagram . Listen to Over The Back Fence Podcast . Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her and on Instagram . This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation. You can find our more about Simple Separation . /episode/index/show/thedivorceandseparationpodcast/id/33166252

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