We Gotta Thing - A Swinger Podcast

A sexy and healthy approach to the swinging lifestyle!

Episode 152: Managing Anxiety in the Lifestyle 04/01/2026

Episode 152: Managing Anxiety in the Lifestyle There are no shortage of lifestyle sitiuations that will cause us some anxiety! Visiting a club for the first time, going on a first date, being rejected by others, wondering if our partner will 'find someone better,' performance issue worries....and so on. What is actually going on in our brains when we feel anxious or depressed? How can we recognize what's really happening and deal with it in a healthy way? Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us as we help to address some of these very common concerns. Spoiler Alert: You are not alone in dealing with these feelings and emotions! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/40681160

Episode 151: The Resort- A Gateway to Ethical Non-Monogamy 03/19/2026

Episode 151: The Resort- A Gateway to Ethical Non-Monogamy In this episode we review our trip to 'The Resort' which was first introduced by George in episode 137. The Resort is a new opportunity to step into ethical non-monogamy in a new format and market. This property is set on the cliffs of western Jamaica and is absolutely stunning! The views, the service, the food, the entertainment, the sensual vibe and of course the sexy people were all amazing! Spoiler alert: you won't be disappointed.... Mentioned in this episode: for a WGT community promo code /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/40530945

Episode 150: Is the Lifestyle Addictive? 03/05/2026

Episode 150: Is the Lifestyle Addictive? Can the lifestyle become an addiction? Well, it can if we don't recognize what's going on in our brains. In this episode with Catherine from Expansive Connection, we break down the key components at play including New Relationship Energy (NRE), Novelty, Desensation, the 'Pleasure Paradox' and how all of this shows up in our relationships. Of course we also discuss ways to recognize and respond when armed with this new knowledge! Discussed in this episode: /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/40299340

Episode 149: How to Be a Power Couple in the Lifestyle 02/11/2026

Episode 149: How to Be a Power Couple in the Lifestyle What does it take to be 'successful' as a couple in the world of non-monogamy? In this episode we discuss waht we believe to be the four most important characteristics of a power couple in the lifestyle: Be Connected Be Curious Be Confident Be Approachable Important Links: to request a WGT community trial discount promo code Get access to the free collection of resources in the lifestyle about non-monogamy STD Hero Follow us on and /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/39995425

Episode 148: Reframing Christian Faith and the Lifestyle 01/28/2026

Episode 148: Reframing Christian Faith and the Lifestyle Do you struggle with your understanding of how non-monogamy reconciles with a life of faith? Join us for a thought provoking conversation with Dr Mitch G, the newest member of the Expansive Connection coaching team. His training, experience, and specialization in religion and theology provides a helpful framework and understanding for those with religious backgrounds who find themselves struggling with their belief systems or plagued by shame, guilt, and fear over what they’ve been taught or once believed. Dr Mitch's Education and Certifications B.A in Religion Master's degree in Theology Doctoral degree in Holistic Health Postive Psychology & Well-being Coaching Certification Resources supporting this episode: (Cascade Books, 2020) by Peter Enns, PhD (Harper One, 2019) by Rachel Held Evans (Nelson Books, 2018) by Zack W. Lambert (Brazos Press, 2025) with Jennifer Bird, PhD (Podcast - The New Evangelicals) by Jennifer G. Bird, PhD (Rowman & Littlefield, 2023) by Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD (Routledge, 2017) by Glen Farell (Love Done Right, 2024) or their podcast "" with Glen & Lydia Farell by Nadia Bolz-Weber (Convergent, 2019) by Matthias Roberts (Fortress Press, 2020) by Hillary McBride, PhD (Brazos Press, 2021) NG Podcast - "" 9/10/2024 Casual Swinger Podcast - " 12/16/2019 /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/39820455

Episode 147: Safer Sex with STD Hero 01/16/2026

Episode 147: Safer Sex with STD Hero One of the most common concerns for those in the lifestyle or considering non-monogamy is the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection or disease. We invited Alan Brock, CEO, and Dr William Budd, Scientific Advisor from Better Life Sciences and STD Hero testing to discuss the realities, myths, modern testing practices and services available today. We believe awareness and education along with affordable and accessible testing services comprise the most important aspects to create the best opportunity for safer sex for all in today's world. Mentioned in this episode: STD Hero Free Access to request a WGT community trial discount promo code Follow us on and /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/39741865

Episode 146: How Relationships Change Over Time 12/30/2025

Episode 146: How Relationships Change Over Time We all know that all relationships, monogamous and non-monogamous, will change over time. Many of those changes will lead to the relationship ending. But does it have to end? Why can't the dynamics of a relationship change while preserving the friendship through it's next phase? Kel from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us to discuss how to navigate these changes in a way that can preserve and often grow the relationship! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/39459500

Episode 145: Ask Us (And Our Friends) Anything 12/16/2025

Episode 145: Ask Us (And Our Friends) Anything This 'ask us anything' episode was recorded live at our 9th annual group trip to Desire Pearl. Not only did we answer questions but our friends helped us out by contributing as well. Use Promo Code: WGT100 to receive $100 off our annual between now and January 4, 2026. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/39387085

Episode 144: Lifestyle Coaching in the Aftermath of Loss 11/26/2025

Episode 144: Lifestyle Coaching in the Aftermath of Loss As a follow up to our episode 142, we hear from Catherine about how the ending of her marriage is affecting her coaching business at Expansive Connection. Will her clients still trust her as a coach? Has this loss made her job more difficult when discussing non-monogamy with her clients? Does she feel like a bit of an imposter? Will this experience make her a better coach? Would you see a coach who has lost her marriage after becoming non-monogamous? Listen in to find out! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/39166470

Episode 143: Swinging & Polyamory- Are We More Alike than We Think? 11/12/2025

Episode 143: Swinging & Polyamory- Are We More Alike than We Think? We are joined by Dedeker, Emily and Jase from the Multiamory* podcast to discuss the similarities and differences between the swinging lifestyle and polyamory! We also talk about what exactly New Relationship Energy (NRE) is and how we can recognize and navigate those strong feelings and emotions when they hit you or someone you love. *Multiamory centers multiple forms of love- everything from monogamy to nonmonogamy, casual dating to queerplatoni partnerships, married couples living separately to those who are single by choice, and everything in between. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/38980540

Episode 142: Catherine's Story- "My Marriage Fell Apart" 10/28/2025

Episode 142: Catherine's Story- "My Marriage Fell Apart" This episode gets very real and very personal. Catherine, from Expansive Connection Relationship Coaching, tells her story of how her marriage fell apart while engaged in a non-monogamous relationship with her husband. Many couples fear this type of loss when considering and moving into and through non-monogamy. Catherine courageously shares her story so that others may benefit and be fully prepared for making such an important relationship decision. We Gotta Thing Episode 41- Making Polyamory Work Episode- Normalizing Non Monogamy- Jen Hatmaker- WGT Space /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/38793010

Episode 141: What Newbies Need to Know and Veterans Need to Remember 09/25/2025

Episode 141: What Newbies Need to Know and Veterans Need to Remember Join us and Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching as we discuss the six most important things those new to the lifestyle need to know and us veterans of the lifestyle need always to remember: Radical Honesty as the Starting Point Shifting Mindsets: From Specialness to Uniqueness Navigating Jealousy and Compersion with Conscious Awareness Boundaries, Agreements and People-Pleasing Navigating Different Paces in the Journey Co-Creating Evolving Agreements /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/38342900

Episode 140: Back in the Swing of Things 09/11/2025

Episode 140: Back in the Swing of Things None of us are immune from having 'real life' issues disrupt our relationship or our current life plans and goals. Health issues, family responsibilities, career changes and relocations are just a few of the things that we can expect to encounter in life that will change our priorities. After just over a year of not playing with others in the lifestyle we are happy to announce we are back in the game! Listen in to learn why we stopped, what we had to work through as a couple, what we learned and how we decided to reengage with others at this time. Mentioned this episode: Promo Code: WGT930 (expires September 30, 2025) in Athens, Greece November 15-22, 2025 /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/38168735

Episode 139: Our Enneagram Coaching Session 08/27/2025

Episode 139: Our Enneagram Coaching Session In Kel, from Expansive Connection Coaching explained all nine Enneagram personality types and motivations. Listen in on this real-time coaching session as Kel reveals the Enneagram results of Mr & Mrs Jones and helps them understand their types and how to better value and understand each other as life partners. Episode Resources: Books Podcast Series Websites Non-monogamy Coaching /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/37864980

Episode 138: Describing the Lifestyle- Respectful, Pervy, Cool-Ass People 08/14/2025

Episode 138: Describing the Lifestyle- Respectful, Pervy, Cool-Ass People When we hear the word 'swinger' or 'lifestyle' the first time we may think of key parties, sleezy sex clubs, orgies with strangers and lots of perverted people who will have sex with anyone. With how non-monogamy is portrayed in some movies and television shows it's not surprising that many of us have this perception! During our most recent trip to Desire Riviera Maya we asked the couples to tell us how they would describe the world of non-monogamy to others and how that description has changed from their pre-lifestyle perceptions. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/37806130

Episode 137: 'The Resort'- A New Concept for Lifestyle Vacationers 07/31/2025

Episode 137: 'The Resort'- A New Concept for Lifestyle Vacationers Join us as we chat with the founder of a brand new lifestyle vacation spot in Jamaica- 'The Resort.' This upscale venue gives lifestyle travelers an additional and much needed option for a sexy vacation as ethical non-monogamy becomes more mainstream around the world. for more details and information about membership and booking! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/37608290

Episode 136: The Enneagram- Know Your Number! 07/16/2025

Episode 136: The Enneagram- Know Your Number! Join us as Kel from Expansive Connection explains the Enneagram system which offers numerous benefits for personal and professional development by providing insights into motivations, behaviors, and relationships. It helps individuals understand their core personality type, strengths, weaknesses, and how they interact with others. This understanding can lead to improved self-awareness, better communication, stronger relationships, and a better connection with others in the lifestyle! Episode Resources: Books Podcast Series Websites Non-monogamy Coaching /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/37415230

Episode 135: Origin Story- Going Deeper with Kurt & Vicki 07/09/2025

Episode 135: Origin Story- Going Deeper with Kurt & Vicki This 'Origin Story' format episode features our friends Kurt & Vicki and highlights another unique journey into and through non-monogamy. Perhaps their story of working through issues will resonate with those who struggle with things from 'the past' and how previous life experiences can interfere with fully enjoying the lifestyle. Mentioned in this episode: /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/37319905

Episode 134: Facing the "What-ifs" Fears of Non-monogamy 06/27/2025

Episode 134: Facing the "What-ifs" Fears of Non-monogamy Are you considering trying non-monogamy or perhaps learning how to navigate the swinging lifestyle environment? Are you paralyzed by the 'what-ifs?' What if my partner falls in love with someone else? What if I get jealous? What if no one is attracted to me? What if we are outed at swingers? You are not alone! Jason from joins Mr & Mrs Jones to discuss how to better understand and work through these common 'what-if' fears shared by but also overcome by many. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/37055385

Episode 133: 10 Attributes of Successful Swingers 06/20/2025

Episode 133: 10 Attributes of Successful Swingers So you think you've got what it takes to be 'successful' in the swinging lifestyle? From our 11 years of experience, we share what we believe to be the most important attributes a person or couple must have to fully enjoy all the benefits of non-monogamy. We also announce the official opening of a new lifestyle resort in Jamaica simply called (and share a couple of sexy snaphots). Care to join us? /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/36961930

Episode 132: Our Differences Make Us Better 05/28/2025

Episode 132: Our Differences Make Us Better Why do we usually react to the word 'different' as something negative? Our differences can help us to learn more about ourselves which can lead to individual growth as well as strengthen our relationships. Kel from joins us this episode to help us understand how and why we react to something different and gives us tools to help explore them and turn those differences into opportunities for growth! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/36738040

Episode 131: Finding Your Tribe in the We Gotta Thing Community 05/14/2025

Episode 131: Finding Your Tribe in the We Gotta Thing Community What makes the WGT community unique? We are not a dating site. We are not like a Facebook group. Nor are we similar to a Discord server, a Slack channel, a Zoom meeting or a WhatsApp conversation. What are we then? We are a community full of real people in real relationships who are looking to explore, learn, share and interact with others in a safe, non-judgmental and secure virtual environment. What will you gain in one year by joining us? Mastered Communication – You’ll have developed unshakable confidence in open and honest conversations, leading to more trust, deeper intimacy, and fewer misunderstandings with your partner. A Thriving Support System – You’ll be surrounded by a network of like-minded couples who truly get you, offering support, wisdom, and genuine friendship. No more feeling like you’re navigating this journey alone. New & Exciting Experiences – Whether through online discussions, live events, or luxurious getaways, you’ll have explored new facets of your relationship in a way that feels safe, sexy, and fulfilling. Personal & Relationship Growth – You’ll have gained insights from other members and experts, engaged in transformative workshops, and overcome challenges that once seemed overwhelming. Living Authentically –No matter where you are in your journey, you’ll feel empowered to embrace your desires and connections without fear or hesitation. Your relationship will be stronger, your connections deeper, and your confidence stronger than ever. Care to join us? Learn more about the ! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/36548320

Episode 130: All About 'Swolly' Relationships 04/24/2025

Episode 130: All About 'Swolly' Relationships Catherine from joins us to help define that 'squishy' term that is a result of some combination of 'swinging' and 'polyamory.' She then discusses pro's and con's of what to expect when creating your own brand of 'swolly' and then shares tips on how to successfully communicate and navigate along the way. Resources mentioned during this episode: /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/36197750

Episode 129: Taming the Voices Inside My Head 03/21/2025

Episode 129: Taming the Voices Inside My Head You're awake again at 3:00am. You can't go back to sleep. You calculate how much sleep you'll have if you go back to sleep right now. Then, while staring at the ceiling, a voice inside your head decides to make up a (absolutely truthful and believable) story about a missed opportunity with another couple and why they aren't responding to your messages to meet again.... Sound familiar? In this episode Meshai from Expansive Connection helps us to understand where that voice is coming from, how to recognize the lack of logic in that voice and how to redirect the conversation to something more logical and accurate. Also, you are not the only one experiencing these very convincing voices! Learn more about Expansive Connection coaching services and while you're there be sure to subscribe to their newsletter! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/35746330

Episode 128: Enough With the Pineapples! How to Make Connections in the Wild 02/17/2025

Episode 128: Enough With the Pineapples! How to Make Connections in the Wild We are contantly bombarded with lifestyle symbols and the promises they bring of attracting lifestyle couples to us in our day-to-day lives! From upside down pineapples in the grocery store, to black rings on the right ring finger, to white rocks at the end of the driveway, to wearing jewelry that brings special powers. Some content creators, lifestyle businesses and marketers exploit our collective desire to stay anonymous while at the same time magically attracting others into our secret lives with little or no effort at all. In this episode we discuss how to both pick-up on a send those sexy vibes in ways that require a bit of work on our part but often lead to meaningful connections with others regardless of the setting. It's all about being noticeable and creating enough curiousity and intrigue to draw others in and then knowing how to engage and progress in a natural way. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/35314960

Episode 127: Trust- What It Is Not 01/29/2025

Episode 127: Trust- What It Is Not What is trust not? Trust is not a feeling that someone else creates in us with their actions. Some of us think we can trust people only when they are doing what we want them to do so we don't feel uncomfortable things we don't want to feel. Additionally, trust is not using other people as our emotional security blankets. Our brains love predictability and safety so when someone doesn't behave in the ways we want them to we can feel unsafe, or in others words, we may 'freak out' a bit! Kel from joins Mr Jones this episode to help us understand what trust is, what trust is not, and how to work through what appear to be trust issues with your partner. Resources: /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/35068185

Episode 126: The Many Flavors of Jealousy 12/31/2024

Episode 126: The Many Flavors of Jealousy Fearing or experiencing jealousy is one of the biggest reasons couples either don't try the lifestyle or don't last in the lifestyle. Why is that? It's more complex than we realize! Join us as Catherine from helps us to understand the many flavors of jealousy to include envy, comparison, performance insecurities, fear of abandonment and many more. Download the complete list of the here! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/34646220

Episode 125: A Live Celebration of 10 Years Podcasting! 12/11/2024

Episode 125: A Live Celebration of 10 Years Podcasting! Please join us in celebrating 10 years recording the We Gotta Thing podcast! This is a very special episode recorded live with a group of our closest friends at the Desire Pearl resort. We thank all of our listeners and community members for the steadfast support and look forward to recording many more episodes in the years to come! Cheers! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/34291245

Episode 124: Handling Rejection in the Lifestyle 11/30/2024

Episode 124: Handling Rejection in the Lifestyle Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us as we dive into the topic of being rejected in the lifestyle. We all experience the negative emotions when rejected by others and Meshai helps us to understand why we feel this way and how to process and respond to these feelings. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/34210580

Episode 123: The Many Meanings of 'Connection' in the Lifestyle 11/07/2024

Episode 123: The Many Meanings of 'Connection' in the Lifestyle Why do we want to connect with others? What are some ways we connect with others? What types of connections may we experience? How do we stay connected? What happens if we become disconnected with others? We explore possible answers to these questions to better prepare ourselves for what we may face as we explore the lifestyle and engage with others. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/33778702

We Gotta Thing - A Swinger Podcast

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