We Gotta Thing - A Swinger Podcast

A sexy and healthy approach to the swinging lifestyle!

Episode 136: The Enneagram- Know Your Number! 07/16/2025

Episode 136: The Enneagram- Know Your Number! Join us as Kel from Expansive Connection explains the Enneagram system which offers numerous benefits for personal and professional development by providing insights into motivations, behaviors, and relationships. It helps individuals understand their core personality type, strengths, weaknesses, and how they interact with others. This understanding can lead to improved self-awareness, better communication, stronger relationships, and a better connection with others in the lifestyle! Episode Resources: Books Podcast Series Websites Non-monogamy Coaching /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/37415230

Episode 135: Origin Story- Going Deeper with Kurt & Vicki 07/09/2025

Episode 135: Origin Story- Going Deeper with Kurt & Vicki This 'Origin Story' format episode features our friends Kurt & Vicki and highlights another unique journey into and through non-monogamy. Perhaps their story of working through issues will resonate with those who struggle with things from 'the past' and how previous life experiences can interfere with fully enjoying the lifestyle. Mentioned in this episode: /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/37319905

Episode 134: Facing the "What-ifs" Fears of Non-monogamy 06/27/2025

Episode 134: Facing the "What-ifs" Fears of Non-monogamy Are you considering trying non-monogamy or perhaps learning how to navigate the swinging lifestyle environment? Are you paralyzed by the 'what-ifs?' What if my partner falls in love with someone else? What if I get jealous? What if no one is attracted to me? What if we are outed at swingers? You are not alone! Jason from joins Mr & Mrs Jones to discuss how to better understand and work through these common 'what-if' fears shared by but also overcome by many. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/37055385

Episode 133: 10 Attributes of Successful Swingers 06/20/2025

Episode 133: 10 Attributes of Successful Swingers So you think you've got what it takes to be 'successful' in the swinging lifestyle? From our 11 years of experience, we share what we believe to be the most important attributes a person or couple must have to fully enjoy all the benefits of non-monogamy. We also announce the official opening of a new lifestyle resort in Jamaica simply called (and share a couple of sexy snaphots). Care to join us? /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/36961930

Episode 132: Our Differences Make Us Better 05/28/2025

Episode 132: Our Differences Make Us Better Why do we usually react to the word 'different' as something negative? Our differences can help us to learn more about ourselves which can lead to individual growth as well as strengthen our relationships. Kel from joins us this episode to help us understand how and why we react to something different and gives us tools to help explore them and turn those differences into opportunities for growth! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/36738040

Episode 131: Finding Your Tribe in the We Gotta Thing Community 05/14/2025

Episode 131: Finding Your Tribe in the We Gotta Thing Community What makes the WGT community unique? We are not a dating site. We are not like a Facebook group. Nor are we similar to a Discord server, a Slack channel, a Zoom meeting or a WhatsApp conversation. What are we then? We are a community full of real people in real relationships who are looking to explore, learn, share and interact with others in a safe, non-judgmental and secure virtual environment. What will you gain in one year by joining us? Mastered Communication – You’ll have developed unshakable confidence in open and honest conversations, leading to more trust, deeper intimacy, and fewer misunderstandings with your partner. A Thriving Support System – You’ll be surrounded by a network of like-minded couples who truly get you, offering support, wisdom, and genuine friendship. No more feeling like you’re navigating this journey alone. New & Exciting Experiences – Whether through online discussions, live events, or luxurious getaways, you’ll have explored new facets of your relationship in a way that feels safe, sexy, and fulfilling. Personal & Relationship Growth – You’ll have gained insights from other members and experts, engaged in transformative workshops, and overcome challenges that once seemed overwhelming. Living Authentically –No matter where you are in your journey, you’ll feel empowered to embrace your desires and connections without fear or hesitation. Your relationship will be stronger, your connections deeper, and your confidence stronger than ever. Care to join us? Learn more about the ! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/36548320

Episode 130: All About 'Swolly' Relationships 04/24/2025

Episode 130: All About 'Swolly' Relationships Catherine from joins us to help define that 'squishy' term that is a result of some combination of 'swinging' and 'polyamory.' She then discusses pro's and con's of what to expect when creating your own brand of 'swolly' and then shares tips on how to successfully communicate and navigate along the way. Resources mentioned during this episode: /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/36197750

Episode 129: Taming the Voices Inside My Head 03/21/2025

Episode 129: Taming the Voices Inside My Head You're awake again at 3:00am. You can't go back to sleep. You calculate how much sleep you'll have if you go back to sleep right now. Then, while staring at the ceiling, a voice inside your head decides to make up a (absolutely truthful and believable) story about a missed opportunity with another couple and why they aren't responding to your messages to meet again.... Sound familiar? In this episode Meshai from Expansive Connection helps us to understand where that voice is coming from, how to recognize the lack of logic in that voice and how to redirect the conversation to something more logical and accurate. Also, you are not the only one experiencing these very convincing voices! Learn more about Expansive Connection coaching services and while you're there be sure to subscribe to their newsletter! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/35746330

Episode 128: Enough With the Pineapples! How to Make Connections in the Wild 02/17/2025

Episode 128: Enough With the Pineapples! How to Make Connections in the Wild We are contantly bombarded with lifestyle symbols and the promises they bring of attracting lifestyle couples to us in our day-to-day lives! From upside down pineapples in the grocery store, to black rings on the right ring finger, to white rocks at the end of the driveway, to wearing jewelry that brings special powers. Some content creators, lifestyle businesses and marketers exploit our collective desire to stay anonymous while at the same time magically attracting others into our secret lives with little or no effort at all. In this episode we discuss how to both pick-up on a send those sexy vibes in ways that require a bit of work on our part but often lead to meaningful connections with others regardless of the setting. It's all about being noticeable and creating enough curiousity and intrigue to draw others in and then knowing how to engage and progress in a natural way. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/35314960

Episode 127: Trust- What It Is Not 01/29/2025

Episode 127: Trust- What It Is Not What is trust not? Trust is not a feeling that someone else creates in us with their actions. Some of us think we can trust people only when they are doing what we want them to do so we don't feel uncomfortable things we don't want to feel. Additionally, trust is not using other people as our emotional security blankets. Our brains love predictability and safety so when someone doesn't behave in the ways we want them to we can feel unsafe, or in others words, we may 'freak out' a bit! Kel from joins Mr Jones this episode to help us understand what trust is, what trust is not, and how to work through what appear to be trust issues with your partner. Resources: /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/35068185

Episode 126: The Many Flavors of Jealousy 12/31/2024

Episode 126: The Many Flavors of Jealousy Fearing or experiencing jealousy is one of the biggest reasons couples either don't try the lifestyle or don't last in the lifestyle. Why is that? It's more complex than we realize! Join us as Catherine from helps us to understand the many flavors of jealousy to include envy, comparison, performance insecurities, fear of abandonment and many more. Download the complete list of the here! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/34646220

Episode 125: A Live Celebration of 10 Years Podcasting! 12/11/2024

Episode 125: A Live Celebration of 10 Years Podcasting! Please join us in celebrating 10 years recording the We Gotta Thing podcast! This is a very special episode recorded live with a group of our closest friends at the Desire Pearl resort. We thank all of our listeners and community members for the steadfast support and look forward to recording many more episodes in the years to come! Cheers! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/34291245

Episode 124: Handling Rejection in the Lifestyle 11/30/2024

Episode 124: Handling Rejection in the Lifestyle Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us as we dive into the topic of being rejected in the lifestyle. We all experience the negative emotions when rejected by others and Meshai helps us to understand why we feel this way and how to process and respond to these feelings. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/34210580

Episode 123: The Many Meanings of 'Connection' in the Lifestyle 11/07/2024

Episode 123: The Many Meanings of 'Connection' in the Lifestyle Why do we want to connect with others? What are some ways we connect with others? What types of connections may we experience? How do we stay connected? What happens if we become disconnected with others? We explore possible answers to these questions to better prepare ourselves for what we may face as we explore the lifestyle and engage with others. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/33778702

Episode 122: Non-monogamy Takes Work- How Much Are You Willing to Invest? 10/29/2024

Episode 122: Non-monogamy Takes Work- How Much Are You Willing to Invest? Jason from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us this month to discuss the 'non-quantifiable' work involved in exploring non-monogamy. Based on our WGT episode 100 in which we discuss the quantifiable work, we now dig in to consider things like being intentional, being present, staying engaged, investing ourselves and our time and much more. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/33667792

Episode 121: Origin Stories- Mark and Beth Canuck 10/04/2024

Episode 121: Origin Stories- Mark and Beth Canuck Listen in as our friends Mark and Beth share their unique journey into and exploration of non-monogamy! We also review our Virgin Cruise out of Barcelona and discuss our first local lifestyle meet and greet since our big move south. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/33330527

Episode 120: The Benefits and Challenges of Non-monogamy with Expansive Connection 09/16/2024

Episode 120: The Benefits and Challenges of Non-monogamy with Expansive Connection Kel from Expansive Connection coaching joins us to discuss some of the benefits and challenges one may encounter when choosing to explore the non-monogamous lifestyle. Kel shares from her perspective of being a certified relationship coach and also from her experience being non-monogamous with her partner. Resources mentioned: We Gotta Thing : "How the Lifestyle Strengthens our Relationship" We Gotta Thing : "A Licensed Counselor (and swinger) Breaks Down Jealousy" Sex and Psychology by Justin Lehmiller- : "Dealing in Differences in Relationships" /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/33046767

Episode 119: The Value of Counseling in the Non-monogamous World 08/21/2024

Episode 119: The Value of Counseling in the Non-monogamous World Having experienced counseling ourselves over the past few months, we invite Catherine from to talk with us about how those in non-monogamous relationships benefit from getting guidance from professionals. Also, we share some exciting news about the future of the We Gotta Thing podcast! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/32657867

Episode 118: Desire Riviera Maya and a Life Less Vanilla 07/30/2024

Episode 118: Desire Riviera Maya and a Life Less Vanilla Listen in as we review the brand new "The Eden" section of Desire Riviera Maya! We also enlist the help of many of our friends in a live recording from the resort to share how they challenged themselves to become a bit 'less vanilla' during our recent group trip. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/32331697

Episode 117: Non-Monogamy is an Adult Activity 06/20/2024

Episode 117: Non-Monogamy is an Adult Activity Most of us have mastered being 'adult-like' in all aspects of our lives. We are experienced at life. We are parents, spouses/partners, coaches, employees, teachers, leaders and friends. We've become accustomed to situations that require a mature and thoughtful response (most of the time anyway!). However, when engaged in non-monogamy we can experience new things and perhaps even some new feelings. We are sharing ourselves and our partners initmately with others. Our relationship is now at risk so the stakes are high. Situations will arise that invoke strong emotions in a way we may not have experienced before and it can be difficult not to act out in ways that may hurt others or push them away. In this episode Catherine, a licensed therapist from talks about what is happening inside our brains and how we might be able to anticipate and respond 'like adults' when things don't go as we expect. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/31808847

Episode 116: How Vulnerability Enhances Your Lifestyle Journey 05/09/2024

Episode 116: How Vulnerability Enhances Your Lifestyle Journey Being vulnerable is not easy and may not come natural for some, espcially when exploring the lifestyle. We tend to wall off our personal lives because we're worried about people knowing too much about us. We don't want to be known. We're here just to have some sexy fun, right? In this episode we talk about how being vulnerable has led to some amazing friendships as well as a lot of sexy fun with people who care. The more we share the more we gain confidence, become more attractive to others and most importantly discover our authentic selves! Join our community and here! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/31175777

Episode 115: Are You Too Nice? 03/26/2024

Episode 115: Are You Too Nice? Are you the type of person who puts the feelings of others above of your own? Do you want to have a stronger voice when someone suggests something you don’t necessarily want to do? You are not alone! Listen in as we discuss how and why this happens in a non-monogamous lifestyle and what the potential fallout, consequences and sometimes benefits can be! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/30534788

Episode 114: Is a Kiss Just a Kiss? 01/31/2024

Episode 114: Is a Kiss Just a Kiss? We explore the perceptions and realities of what, exactly a kiss can mean to those in the lifestyle community. Does granting a kiss commit me to a sexual experience? Why do some couples have a 'no kissing' rule? How do I gain consent to give a kiss? Can giving someone a kiss send the wrong message? A kiss may sound like a simple thing but it's anything but that to those exploring and experiencing the world of non-monogamy. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/29718978

Episode 113: The Realities of Clothing Optional Resorts 01/05/2024

Episode 113: The Realities of Clothing Optional Resorts Listen in on our live recording from Desire Pearl where our guests discuss their unique perspectives, perceptions and realities of the term 'clothing optional.' Most of us struggle with self-confidence and have body-image issues so the idea of being naked in front of others can cause anxiety and fear. After hearing stories from other 'real people' we can better understand what it's all about and how it can help us discover and grow into our real selves. Being naked is a good thing! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/29349228

Episode 112: An Origin Story- Scott & Kelly 11/09/2023

Episode 112: An Origin Story- Scott & Kelly Join Mr & Mrs Jones and they interview "Scott & Kelly." This couple's journey into the lifestyle sounds like many other origin stories but then takes a bit of a turn when a family member shares some unexpected news. In another suprising twist the lifestyle community jumps in for a big assist to help and support them work through an interesting dilemma. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/28559423

Episode 111: Finding Who You Weren't Looking For 10/11/2023

Episode 111: Finding Who You Weren't Looking For As newbies we started our lifestyle journey looking for people to connect with and then explore sexually. Back then it was all about the excitment, the taboo nature of the lifestyle and a boost to our sex lives. Something we would just keep at arms distance on the very periphery of our lives. Then we started to meet some of the most amazing humans on the planet. Now we are surrounded by a warm and caring community and some of the best (pants-off and pants-on) lifelong friends a couple can possibly have. We came for the sexy fun and we stayed for the awesome friendships! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/28280612

Episode 110: An Origin Story- Chris and Nancy 08/28/2023

Episode 110: An Origin Story- Chris and Nancy Chris and Nancy share their amazing and unique story of finding the lifestyle through a period of intense emotional exploration after being together for more than 20 years. We've learned that no relationship journey into the lifestyle is the same but we so all experience our own twists and turns. We hope you enjoy listening to them tell their story! /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/27867321

Episode 108: Navigating Vacation Playtime 06/30/2023

Episode 108: Navigating Vacation Playtime Many couples ask about how to 'successfully' navigate a clothing optional resort. How do we find couples like us? How do we socialize with others without them thinking it's an invitation to play? How do we let couples down if we don't want to play? How do we interact with couples the day after we play? Listen in as we discuss our own experiences and how we see others managing this very common dilemma. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/27339066

Episode 107: Our Temptation Grand Miches Experience 05/23/2023

Episode 107: Our Temptation Grand Miches Experience In advance of our group trip to Temptation Grand Miches in the Dominican Republic we visited the resort to experience it ourselves. Through construction delays, supply chain disruptions, hurricanes and normal growing pains the resort is now open for business! Listen in as we describe what we enjoyed and what we think still needs to be improved upon to bring it up to par with the Desire Pearl and Riviera Maya resorts in Mexico. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/26915109

Episode 106: Navigating Cliques in the Lifestyle 03/28/2023

Episode 106: Navigating Cliques in the Lifestyle We hear story after story about the difficulties many (and mostly newer) couples in the lifestyle experience when encountering 'cliques' while attending events, visiting clubs or attending parties or meet and greets. Are they really cliques or could it be our perception of others based on things we observe or the feelings we experience at such events? Will they really reject us or ignore us if we have the courage to approach them or could this a predisposed fear of rejection? Join us as we dig deeper into what cliques really are and how to manage and navigate groups in an unfamiliar and sexually charged environment. /episode/index/show/wegottathing/id/26359587

We Gotta Thing - A Swinger Podcast

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