Episode 153: Your Insecurity is Your Issue
We Gotta Thing - Exploring Non-Monogamy
Release Date: 04/16/2026
Episode 160: More Than Monogamy Documentary- An Interview with the Creators
We Gotta Thing - Exploring Non-Monogamy
Sexuality is complex. Sexuality is diverse. Sexuality is More Than Monogamy. More Than Monogamy is a feature-length documentary film about non-monogamy, polyamory, open relationships, swinging, kink, and ethical non-monogamy. The film explores the many relationship structures that exist beyond traditional monogamy, often referred to collectively as “The Lifestyle.” Combining real-life experiences with expert insight, this sexuality and relationships documentary is designed to be both educational and entertaining, offering clear explanations of modern relationship dynamics. The film...
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Episode 159: So You Think You Want to Kink?
We Gotta Thing - Exploring Non-Monogamy
Kink is often misunderstood, wrapped in myths, stereotypes, and cultural taboos that obscure what it's really about. In this episode, we unpack what kink is—and just as importantly, what it isn't. From broad definitions of BDSM and the idea that kink is simply "whatever is taboo for you," we explore why modern media often gets it wrong by focusing on shock value while overlooking the foundations of communication, consent, negotiation, safety, and aftercare. We'll also challenge common misconceptions that kink is abusive, anti-feminist, or only about pain. Theresa from Expansive Connection...
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Episode 158: Taking One for the Team
We Gotta Thing - Exploring Non-Monogamy
The phrase "taking one for the team" is often treated as a hard boundary in ethical non-monogamy, but we think the reality is far more nuanced. For us, attraction is rarely determined by physical appearance alone. Decisions about whether to pursue a connection are influenced by a combination of factors including chemistry, personality, intelligence, behavior, relationship dynamics, safety, sobriety, and sometimes that unexplainable "ick" factor. We also discuss whether there are times when "taking one for the team" can actually be a positive experience. When you feel emotionally and...
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Episode 157: Erotic Compatibility and Non-Monogamy
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What if the key to greater pleasure, connection, and fulfillment is understanding your unique erotic wiring? In this episode, we explore the Erotic Blueprints™, a framework developed by somatic sexologist Jaiya that helps explain the different ways people experience desire, arousal, and intimacy. We unpack the five Erotic Blueprints—Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter—and explore how each type experiences pleasure differently. We also share how this framework has become a valuable tool for relationships and individuals. Time and again, we've watched people experience...
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Episode 156: Opening the Circle
We Gotta Thing - Exploring Non-Monogamy
In this episode, Dr Mitch from Expansive Connection joins us as we explore the powerful idea of “Opening the Circle” — the human need to feel welcomed, included, and connected. We talk about how the first question most people ask when entering any new environment isn’t “What’s going on here?” but “Do I belong here?” From friendships to community to ethical non-monogamy, creating spaces where people feel seen and valued can change lives. We also share personal stories from our own journey in the lifestyle and the people who intentionally “opened the circle” for us...
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Episode 155: Redefining the Swinging Lifestyle
We Gotta Thing - Exploring Non-Monogamy
In this episode we are reframing the traditional concept of “swinging” by moving away from labels that feel intimidating or misleading and instead embracing the broader concept of ethical non-monogamy. While the term “swinger” often implies casual sex with others and the word “lifestyle” is vague and overused, ethical non-monogamy better captures what you actually explore: intentional relationships with open boundaries that prioritize your primary partnership while allowing varying levels of intimacy with others. This shift reflects how modern relationships are evolving and...
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Episode 154: Why Comparison is the Thief of Joy
We Gotta Thing - Exploring Non-Monogamy
In this episode, Kel from Expansive Connection discusses the pervasive issue of comparison, its roots in human evolution, and practical tools to manage it. The conversation explores how comparison impacts self-esteem, relationships, and the lifestyle, offering actionable strategies to foster self-acceptance and joy. Key Topics The evolutionary roots of comparison and negativity bias How comparison distorts self-image and relationships Practical tools for managing comparison and envy The importance of self-awareness and evidence-based self-love Strategies for building confidence and connection...
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Episode 153: Your Insecurity is Your Issue
We Gotta Thing - Exploring Non-Monogamy
We've talked about jealousy, we've talked about body image. We've discussed learning to flirt and being corageous in the lifestyle. But beneath the surface we all have insecurities about ourselves at the root of all these things! In this episode we share what we beleive are the causes of our insecurities, how they manifest themselves in our lifestlye journey and share tools to help overcome them to find freedom in being yourself and enjoying others! Mentioned in this episode: on Spotify (Music used with Permission) for a promo code to try our WGT Community Join our Follow us on ...
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Episode 152: Managing Anxiety in the Lifestyle
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There are no shortage of lifestyle sitiuations that will cause us some anxiety! Visiting a club for the first time, going on a first date, being rejected by others, wondering if our partner will 'find someone better,' performance issue worries....and so on. What is actually going on in our brains when we feel anxious or depressed? How can we recognize what's really happening and deal with it in a healthy way? Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us as we help to address some of these very common concerns. Spoiler Alert: You are not alone in dealing with these feelings and...
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Episode 151: The Resort- A Gateway to Ethical Non-Monogamy
We Gotta Thing - Exploring Non-Monogamy
In this episode we review our trip to 'The Resort' which was first introduced by George in episode 137. The Resort is a new opportunity to step into ethical non-monogamy in a new format and market. This property is set on the cliffs of western Jamaica and is absolutely stunning! The views, the service, the food, the entertainment, the sensual vibe and of course the sexy people were all amazing! Spoiler alert: you won't be disappointed.... Mentioned in this episode: for a WGT community promo code
info_outlineWe've talked about jealousy, we've talked about body image. We've discussed learning to flirt and being corageous in the lifestyle. But beneath the surface we all have insecurities about ourselves at the root of all these things! In this episode we share what we beleive are the causes of our insecurities, how they manifest themselves in our lifestlye journey and share tools to help overcome them to find freedom in being yourself and enjoying others!
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