EP 124: An Audio Adventure: Oldies But Goodies
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Release Date: 07/29/2020
EP 29: Serving Hottie Sauce, Auntie Vibes & Labor Glam
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Hey friend, it’s me, Carla! 💋 This week on So What Now, we’re giving flowers (and maybe some biscuits) to our Woman of the Week—Megan Thee Stallion—for opening her own Popeyes franchise and dropping that delicious “Hottie Sauce”! I LIVE for a business-savvy baddie, okay?! 💅🔥 Now, let’s talk “auntie”... because Dex is still not over it. We get into what it really means when people start calling you that—respect, shade, or both? After some laughs (and a little dragging), Dex might be warming up to the title—as long as nobody expects her to be a role model, LOL. We...
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EP 28: Birthday Blues & Ride-or-Die Red Flags
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Hey y’all, it’s Carla! My birthday’s coming up, and let’s just say I’ve been in my feelings. In this episode I shared how I’ve been mourning parts of my younger self and wishing I could go back and change a few things. Dex reminded me that aging isn’t just loss — it’s also growth and new beginnings, and honestly, I needed to hear that. We also unpacked a wild episode of Dear Future Wifey where a pastor’s wife said she used to iron her man’s clothes so he could go see his side chick. Yes, you read that right. She said it was her calling from God to support him — and...
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EP 27: Did We Self-Love Ourselves Into Loneliness?
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Hey friend, it’s Dex, and we’re back with another episode of So What Now? — where the convos are deep, the laughs are loud, and the side-eyes are always earned. This week, we kicked things off with a little life catch-up. I ran a Hyrox race (yes, me — running, sweating, questioning my life choices), while Carla was out here being the hostess with the mostess for Easter. Deviled eggs were served, auntie gossip was flowing — it was fabulous. Then we got into that trending Traci Ellis Ross interview. Traci said, “I grieve the things that I thought would be and that are not.”...
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EP 26: The Truth About 50/50 Love and Trauma Bonds
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Hey friends, it’s Carla and this week’s episode of So What Now was a whole mix of “wait, what?” and “absolutely not.” We kicked things off with Ayesha Howard, who recently responded to the backlash around her decision to keep her baby. And listen… her response didn’t move me. At all. I said what I said, and I still feel the same way. Then we got into this Florida city trying to roll out a 4-day school week, which sounds cool until you realize... parents still work 5. So who’s watching the kids on that fifth day? Make it make sense. Policies like this just make parenting even...
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EP 25: Dex Is a Liar & Carla’s in Denial — 25 Questions for 25 Episodes!
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
We made it to 25 episodes, y’all! Our little podcast baby is all grown up, and to celebrate, Carla and I decided to do something fun (and slightly chaotic): 25 questions to help you get to know us on a whole new level. No rules, barely any filters—just vibes, hot takes, and some lowkey oversharing. Carla went in on cancel culture, mental health, and the whole open relationship thing 👀. I opened up about monogamy, childhood stuff, and a few things I’ve been too scared to try (yet). It’s been a wild ride getting here, and whether you’ve been with us from day one or just hopped...
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EP 24: The Parenting Debate "Do Kids Need Their Own Room?" + Friendship Breakups? We Went There!
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Hey Friend! Quick update: Carla’s allergies are finally under control, and I’m feeling better too—my back’s on the mend, so no more grandpa groans when I bend over. Small wins, y’all. Now, onto the episode. We dive into a topic that’s real for any of us with kids who split time between two homes—should children have their own bedroom at the non-custodial parent’s house? Carla, with her money grows on trees mentality, thinks it’s a must. Like, we all have the luxury of giving each kid their own room, right? But I’m out here saying, a kid can still feel welcome...
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EP 23: Ozempic Regrets, Disney Trips Without Kids, and Why Moms Can’t Win
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Hey Friend! First of all, let me just say Ozempic had me in a chokehold, and for what? We kicked off this episode talking about the shortcuts we’ve tried on the road to health and how most of them left us worse off than when we started. And yes, I fully admit I was out here thinking a shot would do what discipline and patience are supposed to. 😩 Meanwhile, Ruthie’s out here running half marathons like a champ, and our pastor had the nerve to call us out mid-sermon about our lifestyle choices. Rude but also accurate. Then we slid right into mom territory because whew, the judgment...
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EP22: She Had the Baby Anyway—Was That a Mistake? Plus Too Old for Nudes, Too Grown for Bad Baby Daddies?
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
First of all, we are old. Like, what is happening?! My allergies are out here fighting for their life, and Dex’s back is giving up on her. If y’all have any remedies for allergies that don’t involve me living in a bubble, let me know because I am struggling. But let’s get into it—this week, we had a very heated debate over Ayesha Howard and Anthony Howard. Listen, I just have questions—like, is it okay to still be making major mistakes at 38 when choosing who to have a baby with? Because at some point, shouldn’t we be making better decisions? Meanwhile, Dex is over here...
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EP21: Casey Anthony the Advocate?! Girl, Be Serious
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Alright y’all, this week’s episode is a rollercoaster. First up, Carla has big feelings about Casey Anthony’s latest rebrand as a legal advocate. Yea, you read that right. And let’s just say, she has some thoughts. Then, we get into Gayle King going to space with Jeff Bezos’ wife. Carla thinks it’s cool. Me? Absolutely not. Why are rich people so obsessed with space? It’s not like you can actually get out and explore. Somebody make it make sense. And speaking of nonsense, Omarion is out here saying he doesn’t take women on dates—he takes them on gatherings. You know I’m...
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EP20: Why You’re Always Tired, Craving Chocolate, Gaining Weight, and Coach Netra on PCOS
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Ooooh, friend, buckle up ‘cause this episode is packed with Aha! moments and truths that'll hit you straight in the chest. We had our second-ever guest, the fabulous Coach Netra, a lifestyle and nutrition coach who’s all about women’s health. And you KNOW we had a ton of questions for her. Now, who remembers when we could hit the gym for just a week in our 20s and come out snatched? Yeah, baby… those days are long gone. I’m over here tryna figure out why I crave chocolate around my cycle, and Carla’s out here wondering if it’s okay to keep breaking her water fast with a 7-Eleven...
info_outlineThis week, we take an audio adventure back to some older episodes. I used the word adventure intentionally! You won't want to miss this!
EP 39: 35-Year-Old Virgin, & Recovering from Porn Addiction "Life After Freedom" ft Melodia Shekia:
We dive into a conversation with Melodia Sheika about her book titled Life After Freedom. When I first read that title, I initially thought she was "free" from jail. However, I was surprised to discover she was referring to her freedom from her former porn addiction.
EP 85: Foreplay Objects, Nude Rules, & Penny Flights feat Lex & Drea:
In this clip you'll hear Lex P & Drea Nicole from Pour Minds Podcast talk about the craziest items they've used for foreplay. TRUST ME, YOU WON'T WANT TO MISS THIS! We also chat about the protocol while sending nudes. There are some hidden gems on ways to enhance and repurpose your nudes lol.
EP 92: Do You Have a Condom? feat WaxKyng & MandiiB:
This is the episode when Wax & I finally decided to go public! Wow, time really flies. In this clip, I am joined by my bestie who loves to debate with me, Mandii B host of the Whoreible Decisions podcast and Wax from Bully and the Beast podcast. We give you all the play by play of how Wax finally professed his love for me!
EP 98: "The Other Woman" A Story of Growth and Forgiveness:
Have you ever dated a married man? At some point in your life you will either know someone who has or you will have experienced this BUT will you ever sit across from her and talk about how you felt during this time and what led to it? In this episode, I am joined by Vyky to tell our stories from 7 years ago when I was "The Other Woman". It takes one hell of an incredible woman to agree to come on this show and tell HER story which is one of Strength, Growth, & Purpose!
EP 111: Therapy, Celibacy, & Healing feat Hey Fran Hey:
This episode was a special one for me! Not only do I love Hey Fran Hey from The Friendzone Podcast, but I am also very intrigued by her discipline towards abstaining from sex for the past 4 years. Tune in to hear why she choose abstinence!
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