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Controlling the Controllable

Own Your Choices Own Your Life

Release Date: 11/19/2021

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Own Your Choices Own Your Life

In this episode I wanted to share a simple concept that I learned from another coach that hit home. It all comes down to the HOW, and wanting to have the perfect plan in place before we start anything.

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Own Your Choices Own Your Life

Today we are speaking with Author and Public Speaker, Erin Paterson. Erin is a Canadian author and public speaker who tested gene positive for Huntington’s Disease (HD). Shortly after she started suffering from depression, then received more crushing news, she was infertile. Despite those diagnoses she was determined to have a family and live a joyful life. She is on a mission to positively impact other people’s lives by writing and speaking about genetic disease, depression, and infertility.

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In the 3rd part of this series on values we are going to break down the word values, core values and see how this pertains to our life and business. The first episode focused on what core values and helped you to identify them in your life. The second episode dove into are those core values in alignment in your life? Instead of looking outward at people, programs or comparison for what everyone else is doing for alignment, it starts with looking inward.

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In this episode, I am diving into my understanding and lessons about the energy of worrying. According to Psychology Today, “Worry tends to be more focused on thoughts in our heads, while anxiety is more visceral in that we feel it through our bodies. Our thoughts create our reality, and the continuous response and energy of worry is putting visceral stress on our bodies, so if we can change our thoughts we can manage, shift or change what is happening inside of our bodies.

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Today we are speaking with Business Mentor, Jillian Murphy. Jillian is a sales mentor and business coach for entrepreneurs. After 22 years in the corporate space Jillian moved online after losing it all during the pandemic. In the beginning of the pandemic, Jillian dove in head first into the online space growing her business from scratch. Over these past 6 months, while working through medical conditions, Jillian has had to dive into healing,

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Own Your Choices Own Your Life

In this series we are going to break down the word values, core values and see how this pertains to our life and business. A value is simply a way of being or believing that we hold important. (Brene Brown). Living into our values means that we do more than profess our values, we practice them. We walk our talk - we are clear about what we believe and hold important and we take care that our intentions, our words, thoughts, and behaviours align with those beliefs.

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In this episode, I want to share some thoughts on comparison and what it is doing to us in our lives and in our business. In this time of building our businesses online, especially this year when so many people are having to continue to pivot, shift, change or completely reinvent themselves in an unknown territory, it is too easy to stop and compare your “progress” to someone else’s “perceived progress”.

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Own Your Choices Own Your Life

In this series we are going to break down the word values, core values and see how this pertains to our life and business. A value is simply a way of being or believing that we hold important. (Brene Brown). Living into our values means that we do more than profess our values, we practice them. We walk our talk - we are clear about what we believe and hold important and we take care that our intentions, our words, thoughts, and behaviours align with those beliefs.

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In this episode, I am addressing the word control. Ugh, this word control ruled my life for years. I strived for control and perfection, so it is the default I go to on a regular basis. This is also a position that I hear so many of my clients drop into. This can be even further compounded when life feels chaotic, challenging or a lot of things happen outside of our control. It is a simple solution but definitely not always easy.

In today’s episode we discuss:

1) Control is an illusion, it is not real. It is a response that we use to feel “safe or at ease in our lives”. It is the habit or practice of feeling like you can manage what is in front of us as well as it tends to be a response to trauma or chaos and the need to predict the next thing that could go wrong.

2) Control requires a ton of energy, and this is energy that could be used in actionable ways on a daily basis to move yourself forward in your own life. Be aware of the energy you are exerting and is it being used in the best possible way, because that is a limited resource that we can’t get back.

3) Awareness is key. As soon as I feel myself falling back into old patterns I call myself out and say stop, this is not the way. The only person I can control is myself, that is it. My actions, reactions, choices etc. When I can't shift it myself I reach out and ask for support from others, especially people in my life who aren't afraid of calling me on my own BS.

4) Shifting the idea of control came from embodying my own choices in my own life, hence the name of this podcast.

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life. She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.