54. ONE Extraordinary Marriage, With Alisa DiLorenzo
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Release Date: 12/14/2021
229. Beyond Climax: How to Improve Sexual Fulfillment
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Are you experiencing true sexual fulfillment—or are you just rushing to the finish line? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell teaches you to slow down and savor each moment, in order to enjoy more pleasure and connection during intimacy. Using the analogy of enjoying delicious chocolate cake, she explores the power of anticipation, mindfulness, and prolonged arousal. Dr. Alexandra shares actionable tips to enhance intimacy, extend build-up, and shift your focus from quick gratification to a more fulfilling, connected sensual experience. Tips in this episode: Anticipate and...
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228. Sex & Porn Addiction in High Performers with Roland Cochrun: What You Need to Know
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Porn addiction among high-performing men is more common—and more misunderstood—than most people realize. In this eye-opening episode of the Intimate Marriage podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell welcomes back expert Roland Cochrun to discuss his new book, 'The High Achiever’s Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery'. Known for his groundbreaking insights into sex and porn addiction, Roland breaks down the crucial difference between substance and process addiction—where individuals become hooked not on external substances but on internal thought patterns and behaviors. Together, Dr. Alexandra...
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227. All About “Intimacy Dates” (Which Can Save Your Relationship)
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Are you and your partner drifting apart, despite loving each other deeply? In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores how planning and scheduling "intimacy dates" can save your relationship (and totally uplevel it!) by fostering deeper connection and closeness, especially for busy couples juggling work, family, and other responsibilities. Emphasizing that intimacy should be prioritized like any other essential activity, Dr. Alexandra shares practical strategies and insights. With decades of experience, personally and professionally, she’ll show you how...
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226. Feeling Like a Third Wheel to Your Wife And Kids
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Do you ever feel like a third wheel in your marriage, after the birth of your children? You are not alone. In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores the common phenomenon where fathers, sometimes mothers, struggle with the change in relationship dynamics that occur when parental responsibilities take center stage; she sheds light on how to navigate these challenging times with grace and leadership. Emphasizing the importance of communication, self-awareness, and leadership in maintaining a strong marital connection amidst the demands of parenting, Dr....
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225. Shedding Sexual Shame with “Shameless Sex” experts Amy Baldwin and April Lampert
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
It's essential to understand that experiences of sexual shame vary greatly, depending on the person and circumstances. Addressing the range of feelings openly is vital for a healthy relationship. In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell is joined by April Lampert and Amy Baldwin of "Shameless Sex" to discuss the intricacies of sexual shame, its impact on relationships, and how individuals and couples can navigate towards a more shameless and fulfilling sex life. Together they highlight common misconceptions about sexual shame, and offer practical advice for...
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BONUS: Initiating Successfully
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
As a listener, you know I rarely record bonus episodes. But I’m too excited to share this so I had to turn on the mic. Today I'm introducing you to "INITIATING," my program for educated successful men who want more and better sex. Are you ready to learn the game-changing strategies that will completely change the dynamic between you and your wife? Join me, starting this Monday, April 7th for INITIATING. Details at Join Initiating: Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: | | Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: | | ...
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224. Getting Real about Prioritizing your Marriage
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
People often talk about the importance of “prioritizing your marriage,” but what does that actually mean? In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell addresses the common tendency to overlook nurturing emotional intimacy, amidst busy careers and family life. She emphasizes that making time to spend together as a couple is essential, but it’s only the beginning of what it takes to create and maintain a deep, uncompromising intimate bond. Dr. Alexandra explores how couples can overcome challenges, when it comes to prioritizing their marriages, emphasizing a...
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223. How to Successfully Initiate Sex, with Dr. Alexandra and Dr. Rodd Stockwell
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell and her husband, Dr. Rodd Stockwell, discuss ways men successfully initiate intimacy with their wives. Drawing on their own experience being married for 29 years, they share how their intimacy dynamics have evolved over the years, and what changed for it to become as wonderful as it is now. They also discuss how their communication skills have been refined over time, and why this is important to the quality and frequency of sex. You’ll learn a lot from this vulnerable episode as Rodd candidly shares his journey,...
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222. How to Cultivate Passion in your Intimate Relationship
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
There is a nuanced art to cultivating intimacy in relationships, and in this week’s episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell speaks specifically on the topic of how men can initiate sex and intimacy with their women in ways that foster connection and increase passion. Emphasizing the qualities of confidence and leadership, Dr. Alexandra discusses effective ways for a man to initiate sex with his wife so that she’s more likely to say “yes.” These tips help increase the frequency of sexual encounters while also deepening the overall emotional connection between...
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221. Stop Assuming! (It Hinders Intimacy in Marriage)
The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD
Making assumptions impacts intimacy and connection in marriage in crucial ways. In this week’s episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell discusses why assumptions are dangerous; she teaches that the act of getting curious and asking questions is a small but powerful alternative to making potentially inaccurate assumptions. Opening up about true feelings and desires will create clear communication with your partner, thus avoiding invisible barriers in your marriage brought on by making assumptions. This episode teaches you to recognize your assumptions, in order...
info_outlineOn this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I’m speaking with Alisa DiLorenzo about marriage, intimacy, and the effect of pornography on a marriage. Alisa and her husband, Tony, co-host the #1 rated ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast. They have been married for 25 years and have recently released their latest book, The Six Pillars of Intimacy. Today, we discuss the six forms of intimacy: emotional, physical, financial, spiritual, recreational, and sexual, and how each one is vital to create a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship. Alisa also shares how she and her husband navigated a pornography addiction together and how they now help coach other couples through similar situations.
IN THIS EPISODE:
- [00:50] Introduction to Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo
- [05:01] Pornography and marriage
- [11:35] How secrets affect marriage
- [16:08] The Six Pillars of Intimacy
- [19:00] Emotional intimacy
- [20:29] Physical intimacy
- [24:01] Recreational intimacy
- [29:03] What Alisa has learned through being married to Tony
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
- Marriages need role models of other healthy and fulfilling marriages. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo are role models for many couples as they encourage others, coaching them with wisdom gained from their mistakes, experiences, and depth of marital knowledge.
- When a married person is engaging in pornography, it impacts both people.
- If something is kept a secret within a marriage, it will still impact the entire dynamic in the marriage. The longer a secret is kept, the more damage that will be done.
- The six pillars of intimacy help create a strong and beautiful marriage that can carry the weight of challenges, because life does still happen to all of us. The pillars create an internal strength that fosters working together as a team.
Links Mentioned:
The Six Pillars of Intimacy: https://www.amazon.com/Pillars-Intimacy-Secret-Extraordinary-Marriage/dp/0578991454
instagram.com/oneextraordinarymarriage
https://www.facebook.com/groups/oneextraordinarymarriage
Read Alexandra’s book “Uncompromising Intimacy”: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl
Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group:
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BIO:
As co-host of the top marriage podcast in Apple Podcasts, the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show, Alisa DiLorenzo speaks to a worldwide audience about sex, love & commitment, and challenges every listener to make their relationship a priority. Their 6 Pillars of Intimacy have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by how common sense it is.