127. Love Is Not Enough to Create A Dream Marriage
The Intimate Marriage Podcast
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, considers that love is not enough. We want it to be, but many couples love one another and it’s not enough to enjoy their dream marriage. She discusses the importance of relationship skills, personal growth, and being willing to understand your partner better in order to create nourishing, connected, joyful experiences. She delves into ways our childhoods shape our perception of love and influence our response to our spouse. She emphasizes that these are learnable skills, requiring courage and openness to grow....
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126. Reframing Our Approach To Sexual Intimacy In Terms of Expectations, Stigmas, and STDs: Holistic Sexual Health From A Family Medicine Physician and Sex Coach | With Dr. Tiff Cagle
The Intimate Marriage Podcast
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by Dr. Tiff Cagle, a board-certified family medicine physician, sex educator, and coach. Dr. Cagle talks about her passion for providing care through the lens of a person's mind, body, intimacy, relationships, and community. Dr. Cagle also shares her experience in decreasing stigma around sex and providing HIV testing and counseling. Dr. Cagle discusses sexual concerns including erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, orgasm difficulties, desire discrepancies, and living with sexually transmitted...
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125. Wait, How Long Has Kevin Bacon Been Married To Kyra Sedgwick? Secrets We Can Learn From Their 34-Year Marriage
The Intimate Marriage Podcast
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, discusses how long Kevin Bacon has been married to Kyra Sedgwick and why she thinks they have been able to create their remarkable love story for the past 34 years! Alexandra is excited to talk about Kyra Sedgwick and Kevin Bacon because they are an attractive celebrity couple who have built a successful marriage and have raised a family together. She discusses their secrets to lasting love and offers insights into what it takes to enjoy a happy, fulfilling marriage. Alexandra also shares how hard it is to find couples...
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124. Constructive Conflict: How We Can All Resolve Conflict Productively Today and Start Dismantling Racism For The Future | w/ Dr. Lynne Maureen Hurdle
The Intimate Marriage Podcast
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by Dr. Lynne Maureen Hurdle, a conflict resolution strategist. Conflict is inevitable and Lynne talks about how she helps people engage in constructive conflict, instead of running from it. In this conversation the focus is on conflict in marriage, and in the workplace, between any two people and specifically interracial couples. Lynne recommends people engage in conversations with those they are in conflict with, aiming to be vulnerable and staying open to listening. She describes her program, On the Matter...
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123. The Emasculation of Men Is Not Necessary: Overcoming Societal Pressures and Finding Authentic Connection in Relationships and Friendships | w/ Connor Beaton
The Intimate Marriage Podcast
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by Connor Beaton, the founder of ManTalks, to discuss the emasculation of men and how they can have real conversations with their partners and friends. Despite appearing to have a perfect life, Connor hit rock bottom while struggling with addictions and dishonesty. He eventually found a mentor who taught him yoga, psychology, cognitive behavioral therapy, and shadow work. When he opened up to his male friends about his struggles, he found they didn’t know how to respond and were used to conversations which...
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122. Licensed Therapists Become Clients: Exploring Physical Intimacy And Feeling Vulnerable Amidst Parenthood And Life’s Many Stressors | w/ EJ & Tarah Kerwin
The Intimate Marriage Podcast
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by EJ & Tarah Kerwin, licensed therapists wanting to expand their sensual intimacy and explore feeling vulnerable within their loving marriage. As professionals, EJ and Tarah often use the power of sharing vulnerably to help guide other couples in their relationships and this episode is no exception. They show up for me to coach them on this tender topic in a way that others can learn from. As you listen, you will hear EJ and Tarah participate as clients and also as the highly qualified professionals they...
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121. Redefining Love: Overcoming Blended Family Issues And Letting Go of Expectations For A Truly Successful Marriage | w/ Vince and Krystina Shirey
The Intimate Marriage Podcast
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by Vince and Krystina Shirey to discuss the many blended family issues they faced when they got married and combined their families. They also talk about how they learned to let go of expectations in order to have a happier marriage. A pervasive challenge faced by couples when blending a family concerns the delicate balance between prioritizing the children’s needs and wellbeing versus prioritizing one another in the marriage. Unfortunately, societal norms and unconscious biases are unhelpful when navigating...
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120. Embracing Vulnerability and Maintaining Your Relationship | w/ New York Times Bestselling Author Laura Doyle
The Intimate Marriage Podcast
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is joined by New York Times best-selling author, Laura Doyle, to talk about vulnerability and intimacy in marriage. While discussing her latest book, "The Empowered Wife," Laura shares her experiences and perspectives, while focusing on the importance of vulnerability in relationships. She explains that opening up to one's partner leads to deeper intimacy and a stronger connection. Laura has an inspiring personal story as well as a lot of insight into the painful mistakes wives make when trying to get time, attention,...
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119. Celebrating 100K Downloads And Discussing The Importance Of Being Present In All Of Life’s Relationships | w/ Chris Stockwell
The Intimate Marriage Podcast
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, celebrates the milestone of 100K downloads on the podcast with her son Chris Stockwell! A few weeks back, I hit 100,000 downloads and that means people have been interested in, and listened to, what I have to say on The Intimate Marriage podcast 100,000 times! For me, it's such an incredible celebration. It's a celebration that belongs for me because I created this podcast and it's my vision. It's also a celebration that belongs to you, the listener, because you have created this with me. What’s most important...
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118. Intention And Love Language Keep Romance Alive | feat. Kaylee and Justin Poulet
The Intimate Marriage Podcast
In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD, chats with Kaylee and Justin Poulet about keeping the romance in your marriage alive through intention and using Love Languages. In addition to his knowledge and ambition, I recognized Justin's incredibly intentional support for his wife as a real asset to his marriage. For context, we met in Arizona at a conference, and there was a massive snow storm back in his hometown. This made the situation back home somewhat difficult on his wife, Kaylee, who was managing the kids and household on her own. After we...
info_outlineToday’s episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast marks the end of Season 1. As I look back at the richness of the season, it’s clear that there is no specific formula for a happy marriage. Each couple that I interviewed shared different things that contribute to their happiness. It’s a creative process unique to the individuals involved in terms of how they pursue and cultivate more joy, more pleasure, more connection, and more self-expression in their relationship. Listen as I highlight key moments from Season 1 and look ahead to Season 2!
IN THIS EPISODE:
- [01:15] The rules, or lack thereof, for happy and unhappy families
- [04:06] Analogy: Teaching someone to fish and creating a fantastic marriage
- [06:58] Key takeaways from Season 1 couples
- [08:18] Taking risks in your relationship and tracking relationship goals
- [11:30] The connection between vulnerability and stress in marriage, and the importance of getting your children’s perspective about marriage and family
- [16:08] Prioritizing your partner’s experience and finding success in life and marriage despite the chaos around your
- [19:42] Reflection and looking forward to Season 2
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
- There is no specific formula for a happy and growing relationship. It's a creative process and unique to the individuals. It is intrinsically motivated and having a happy family is really a unique achievement.
- How we handle our money, especially in interacting with our spouse, is heavily influenced by emotional content that may not be completely clear to each other. It may feel obvious to us, but when you actually express it to your partner, it will ease miscommunication and frustration.
- You can totally love and support your spouse without being interested in the things that they are interested in.
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