305. A Covert Abuse Tactic They ALL Use | What About What YOU Did?
Release Date: 04/21/2022
Weak Men Are Reactive: It's Not Your Job to Be The Emotional Regulator in Your Relationship
The Awakening Women Show
What if you don't need to understand him more, but you've understood him so well that you've stopped listening to yourself? In this episode, Leanne unpacks a dynamic many women know too well: a caring, generous partner who falls apart when things don't go his way, and a woman who slides from understanding to explaining to regulating to exhaustion, and finally to cruelty she doesn't recognize as her own. Using a composite story, we explore how to hold your autonomy when a man isn't emotionally anchored. That means noticing the first signal, dropping the role of his regulator, owning your side...
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Being the Woman Who Owns Herself (The Steps to Take Starting Today)
The Awakening Women Show
What does it mean to 'own yourself'? In this episode, we're talking about what self-ownership means and ways you can start shifting into this today, with some simple changes and mindset shifts. To go deeper, apply to work with Leanne in her Autonomous Woman asynchronous daily private coaching. Get daily support and full access to the Autonomous Woman vault. This is for the busy woman who doesn't want to be tied down to weekly Zoom calls, wants to learn at her own pace, in her own time, but wants to pop in and get support in the moments she needs it most.
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Stop Romanticizing Love, Trust Only When it's Earned, Always Have Your Own Back
The Awakening Women Show
We romanticize being 'all in' with someone, but what does being in a relationship AND looking out for your best interests look like? What does being an autonomous woman mean, when you are in a conscious relationship where you both want to grow, but also have your own lives apart from the relationship?
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Friday Quickie: Love Isn't a Life Plan
The Awakening Women Show
We are conditioned to believe that we are supposed to put our partner’s needs ahead of our own and to be ‘the selfless one’, the one who's always thinking of others first. This is conditioned into us as little girls. We're brainwashed into not being selfish when we're considering our own desires and needs; we're taught early on that it's selfish to think of others first, and so we bring this into our adult romantic relationships, even when it is detrimental. Read the full Substack:
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Holding On To YOU in Relationships - How to Have Your Own Back
The Awakening Women Show
What do you do when the life you've worked so hard to build is successful, but doesn't actually feel like yours? Welcome to a new season of Awakening Women and a deeper evolution of the work. For years, we've talked about relationships, narcissistic abuse, emotional addiction, boundaries, breaking patterns, leaving, staying and learning to recognize what is really happening beneath the surface of our relationships. But I've come to see that the relationship with a man is often the mirror, not the whole story. Because you can be successful, educated, capable and completely independent in the...
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START HERE: The Modern Autonomous Woman
The Awakening Women Show
Awakening Women: A New Chapter The woman you're evolving into doesn't need permission to be MORE of you; she needs you to stop abandoning who you truly are. Welcome to the new era of Awakening Women. This is a podcast for the successful, independent woman who is ready to stop living from only one dimension of herself. Because life is never just one thing. There is grief and joy. There are endings and beginnings. There is softness and power. There are seasons of expansion and seasons of rest. There are moments to speak and moments to listen. Times to push forward and times to pause, reflect and...
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[NEW SEASON] How Independent Women Lose Themselves in Relationships (And How to Become an Autonomous Woman)
The Awakening Women Show
Welcome to a new era of Awakening Women. For years, we’ve talked about narcissistic relationships, emotional addiction, boundaries, breaking the cycle, leaving, staying, and learning to recognize what is happening inside unhealthy relationships. And we’re not leaving that work behind. We’re going deeper. Because eventually, the question stops being “What is wrong with him?” and becomes: “Where have I abandoned myself?” Your relationship with a man can be one of the most powerful mirrors of your relationship with yourself. It can reveal where you’ve stopped trusting your own...
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Emotional Quicksand: Why You Keep Talking When He Can't Hear You
The Awakening Women Show
You know the conversation isn't going anywhere within the first ten minutes — and you keep having it anyway. Or, you may have found yourself not speaking up and going further into denial. This episode looks at what actually happens when you stop talking because he can't hear you: you don't just lose the conversation, you lose yourself in it. We break down why long, winding, unresolved conversations feel so hard to walk away from, the addictive pull underneath them, and what to do instead. What You'll Learn Why you keep having the same unresolved conversation over and over, even...
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The Awakened Woman and The Unaccountable Man Dance: Why Knowing the Pattern Isn't Enough to Break It
The Awakening Women Show
You've done the therapy. Read the books. Taken the courses. You can name the dynamic, diagnose the pattern, and explain exactly what's wrong — probably better than most professionals could. So why hasn't any of it changed your relationship? In this episode, we're getting honest about the gap between insight and action — the place where so many high-achieving women get stuck. Not because they lack awareness, but because awareness was never the thing that was going to save them. We're unpacking the "Rising Him" trap — why the same competence that built your career and your healing is the...
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Past Baggage, Kids, and Divorce: The Honest Conversation Before You Commit Again
The Awakening Women Show
Episode Summary Love after divorce doesn't work the way it did the first time — and no one tells you that. This episode breaks down why midlife love isn't a fairytale, it's a negotiation. Why your partner isn't going to transform into someone new, he's going to become a more honest version of who he already is. And why real intimacy at this stage isn't about butterflies it's about honest and full disclosure. If you're navigating dating, partnership, or remarriage after divorce, this episode gives you the language for what you're actually building, and the questions you need to be asking...
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In this episode Leanne shares why you never feel heard or understood in your relationship, and how this defense tactic is part of crazymaking communication.