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Cole Chance on Her 9 Years of Sobriety and Finding Your Own Recovery Path

Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Release Date: 02/23/2023

382 The Secret Addiction That Shattered Us: Rebuilding After Hidden Betrayal

Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

In this episode, I’m joined by Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith—a couple whose story of addiction, betrayal, and ultimately deep healing is nothing short of powerful. Matthew shares his journey through sexual addiction and recovery, while Joanna opens up about the betrayal trauma that nearly broke their relationship—and how they found a way to rebuild trust, intimacy, and connection. We talk about what betrayal trauma really is (hint: it’s not codependency), how hiding the truth strips partners of choice, and why full disclosure—when done safely—can be a turning point for couples...

381 The Power of Two Way Prayer With Father Bill

Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Hey friend, Im so glad youre here! In case youre new to my little corner of the world, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. If youre not new here, then you already know I love exploring tools and practices that support sobriety, spiritual growth, and mental health - all in an effort to help me change my behavior and ultimately feel better. The tool were talking about today is called Two Way Prayer and Father Bill W will be teaching us what it is, how it can benefit you and how to do it. You may have heard about this before through Elizabeth Gilbert who has a substack called Letters from...

380 A Clean Mess: Love, Loss, and Starting Over In Sobriety With Tiffany Jenkins

Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Hi friend, Thank you for downloading this episode and hanging out with me today Before I introduce todays guest, I wanted to let you know we have some new sponsors and youll start to hear about them in the upcoming weeks. This will help me move from depending on donations that cover the expense of producing the podcast. In the near future I will offer a subscription option for ad free episodes, so check the website or YouTube for that. So ,imagine pouring your heart into a book& only to have your life fall apart before it hits the shelves. Thats exactly what happened to my guest this week...

379 Rewiring the Brain: Ketamine Therapy in Addiction Recovery

Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Hi Friend, Thank you for downloading the episode! My name is Arlina and Ill be your host. Before I talk about todays guest, I want to share that I am celebrating 9 years of hosting the podcast! I have interviewed more than 400 people, many NYT best selling authors, all kinds of experts, and I celebrate all paths of recovery. Im obviously a huge 12 step advocate, but I also interview people who get sober through yoga, fitness, celebrate recovery, recovery 2.0, She Recovers, online groups, SMART recovery, and recovery darma, just to name a few. It has been my honor to introduce you to so many...

378 The Sobriety Side Effects No One Warns You About

Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Today my friend Courtney Anderson. Courtney is the author of Sober Vibes A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol, and host of the Sober Vibes Podcast She joins me to talk about how sobriety reshapes your relationships, career, identityand what to do when everything shifts. Sobriety is more than putting down the drinkits a total identity shift. In this episode, we dive into the surprising (and sometimes painful) side effects no one talks aboutlike losing friends, outgrowing your job, and redefining who you are. If youve ever thought, Why does everything feel different...

377 Healing in the Spotlight: A Comedian’s Story of Childhood Trauma, Addiction, and Suicidal Ideation In Sobriety

Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Welcome to the podcast! Its been a minute since I introduced myself, so in case we havent met yet, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. I have been sober for 31 years, happily married for 28, a mother of two amazing young men, and an english bulldog called Teddy, that you might hear snoring in the background on occasion. Im also the bestselling author of The 12 Step Guide for Skeptics Clearing up common misconceptions of a path to sobriety. As a sober coach, I help my clients navigate the complex world of recovery and support them through lifes challenges. I coach men and women as they move...

376 Why You Sabotage Your Eating Goals and How to Stop

Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Hey friend, Thank you for downloading the episode, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. Were doing something a little different today. On this call I am speaking with Joslynn who is in long term sobriety, but like many of us, she has been struggling with sticking to a healthy food plan. The funny thing is, we all know what we should eat. But knowing what to do and being able to do it are two different things. What we are going to do on this call, is address the two opposing desires the part that wants to eat healthy and the part that wants to indulge. We will be going through a process...

375 Unsung Heros: Life on the Frontlines of Addiction

Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Today I am joined by my friend and fellow podcaster Brock Bevelle. Hes a retired police officer and a man in long term sobriety from opioid addiction. He also manages the Tiktok and IG accounts called @Fentanylprojectaz where he interviews people on the street in active addiction. We are going to talk about what its like to be in long term sobriety and actually get into some of our dark addiction stories that keep us sober that we dont normally talk about. I also wanted to bring awareness to Brocks work where he is actually in the streets trying to help people kick fentanyl addiction. He...

374 A Marriage That Survives Alcoholism

Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Can marriages really survive alcoholism? Well today my guest Melissa shares how hers almost didnt, but with the support of her 12 step program, professional help, and a lot of work, her marriage is now better than ever! Melissa Stoeltje is the author of Drunk Love Marriage Under The Influence. A memoir that not only shows the dark side of a high achiever who struggled with her drinking, but the steps she took to get her life back on track. Before we jump in, did you know that there are a bunch of resource guides on the website? Theres a guide for your first 30 days, a resource list of 100...

373 Money, Booze and The Biology of Desire

Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

Hey friends, welcome to the podcast, in case nobody has told you yet today, you are loved! If youve been listening to the podcast for a while youll know Ive been addressing my financial insecurities lately. Honestly its kind of embarrassing to admit this, but Ive always had a dysfunctional relationship with money. I know this isnt really true, but I have deeply rooted beliefs that money will solve all my problems, and these beliefs are at the root of my workaholism. Today I will be joined by Barney Whiter, a financial coach who is also sober! Well dive into his story of alcoholism, his...

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Today my guest is Cole Chance. She is a woman in long term recovery, a yoga instructor and the creator of EMERGE Recovery, a live, online journey to recovery steeped in love, acceptance and empowerment. We talk about how she recovered from addiction and the tools that continue to support her on her path to wholeness.

Before we jump in, I have a couple of tips for you. I’ve been meaning to talk about one of the most powerful relapse prevention tools that I have used for over 28 years, and I call it “willingness calls” A willingness call is an act of willingness to invest in your sobriety. It’s about cultivating a support system where you can give and receive support. The basic idea is that you have a list of people you call for a quick check in. I recommend one call per day, but you can do more if you’d like. The reason we do this is simply that addiction is a disease of isolation and connection is the cure.

Another reason is that to prevent relapse we need to condition ourselves to reach out before we’re in crisis. We make these calls when we feel good, because it is so hard to call when we feel bad if we’re not already in the habit of it.

It reminds me of this quote “We don't rise to the level our expectations, we fall to the level of our training” Archilichocus

So to give you an idea of the format of the call, I typically call someone and say hey, I only have a few minutes but I just wanted to check in with you. Ask: What’s going on with you, then share a little bit about what’s going on in your life and that’s it! Pretty soon you will be current with several people and when life gets life-y, you are already in the habit of calling, and you can get right into the solution, without having to spend a lot of time giving someone the whole back story.

And lastly, it’s a great way to build self-esteem but you will have the opportunity to be supportive to others.

So that’s it, I encourage you to put this into practice today and let me know how it goes!

And without further delay, please enjoy the episode with Cole.

Connect with Cole!

Visit Website: https://emergerecovery.com/

Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/colechanceyoga/

Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNuRolkOZ7X8fCEFCDYd5tg

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