Sobriety: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast
On this podcast, guests share their personal stories of what happened, how they overcame their addictions, and the exact strategies they used to stop drinking, doing drugs and gain control over their lives. Please subscribe and share so we can help as many people as possible. Visit soberlifeschool.com for more free resources.
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The Role of Dopamine In Addiction With Dr. Anna Lembke
08/13/2026
The Role of Dopamine In Addiction With Dr. Anna Lembke
Since it has been 10 years since I started the podcast, I wanted to highlight some of the most popular episodes with you. This one is with Dr. Anna Lembke. She is Chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic at Stanford University and author of the #1 Bestseller “Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance In the Age of Indulgence”. Over the years, I have found myself repeatedly sharing what I learned from her book, to explain the role dopamine plays in addiction, why we get so depleted of dopamine after drinking and using, and how we can speed up the process of healing. If you are early in recovery and you're struggling you don’t have to do this alone. There are many paths to recovery, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. If traditional methods haven't worked for you, you might want to consider coaching. I have been supporting people in early recovery for over 30 years now. In my process, I use methods like internal family systems, hypnosis, and goal-oriented coaching to help you get to the root causes and help you build momentum in sobriety. If you'd like to learn more, visit makesobrietystick.com to see if coaching is for you. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Dr. Anna Lembke. SHOW NOTES: Guest Website: 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube: Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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Overcoming The Shame of Relapse in Addiction Recovery
08/06/2026
Overcoming The Shame of Relapse in Addiction Recovery
Have you ever felt like the shame after a relapse was worse than the relapse itself? Today I sat down with Tyler Patrick, a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-founder of Therapy Brothers, who has been in his own recovery for nearly 20 years. In this episode, you’ll learn: How the trauma tree shows the real roots behind relapse and acting out The racetrack of shame and why beating yourself up keeps you stuck The three Cs of shame resilience and A simple self-compassion practice you can use today Don’t forget to check the show notes for a podcast summary with links to resources we mention and a list of action steps that will improve the quality of your sobriety. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Tyler. SHOW NOTES: Guest Website: https://www.therapybrothers.org/ 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube: Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music: YouTube Timestamps 00:00 Introduction to Tyler Patrick and today's topic 01:00 What you'll learn by the end of this episode 01:30 Tyler's background as a licensed therapist since 2005 02:00 Tyler opens up about his own recovery journey 03:00 Why shame can be more destructive than addiction itself 05:00 The "trauma tree": how core beliefs drive relapse 07:00 The racetrack of shame explained 12:00 The "case of the fuck its" and the "what the hell effect" 17:00 Why self-trust matters more than willpower 18:30 C1: Using context to normalize your struggle 21:00 C2: Courage: telling your story for the first time 27:00 The four qualities of a safe person to confide in 33:00 C3: Compassion and the Kristin Neff method 36:00 Why repetition rewires your nervous system 41:00 Tyler's real-life story of catching a trigger before church 46:00 The law of 51%: why you don't need to be perfect 50:00 Tyler's closing word of hope for newcomers 51:00 Where to find Tyler and Therapy Brothers
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Find Your Own Higher Power To Get Sober With Sunshine The Sober Witch
07/30/2026
Find Your Own Higher Power To Get Sober With Sunshine The Sober Witch
I sat down with Sunshine Witchski to talk about what happens when you finally stop hiding the parts of yourself that don't fit the mold. ➡️ Creating a safe place for people who want to get sober ➡️ How she rebuilt every single one of the twelve steps with her own spiritual spin... ➡️ What being a "witch" actually means and why it has nothing to do with what you've been told... Sunshine got sober on October 9, 2019, six months before the world shut down, and she describes that first year as one of the loneliest of her life. She'd found the rooms that saved her, but she still felt like she had to leave part of herself outside the door. So over time, she built the thing she wished had existed: a recovery community where you don't have to choose between your sobriety and your spirituality. Here is what you will take away from this episode: ✴️ The two mantras that have carried her through her whole healing journey - change is constant, and everything happens for a reason ✴️ What does a witch actually believe? It's less pointy hats, more healer, empath, and psychic arts ✴️ Recovery is not one-size-fits-all - she rebuilt the twelve steps her own way and it worked ✴️ Trusting her intuitive gifts became one of her biggest protections against relapse ✴️ Building community means nobody has to feel alone in this anymore
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440 Back to Sobriety Basics: A Therapist's Guide to Your First 30 Days
07/23/2026
440 Back to Sobriety Basics: A Therapist's Guide to Your First 30 Days
Today I sit down with Brannon Patrick, co-host of the very popular podcast, “Therapy Brothers”, and as you may have guessed, he and his brother-in-law are therapists! Brannon has spent 20 years treating addiction. I loved talking with him, not only because he really understands addiction but because he is also very compassionate. I feel like I found a new friend and I can’t wait for you to meet him! This is a back-to-basics episode. So whether you’re at the beginning of your sobriety journey or you want to prevent a relapse, this episode is for you. In today’s episode, you'll learn: - Why the right intention matters more than willpower - Why you need outside support and other voices in your first 30 days - Why big life decisions should wait until after year one - The Five A's for handling a craving: aware, accept, acknowledge, assess, act - Why treating your addiction like a frenemy, not an enemy, can reduce shame One more thing I have to share before we jump in, is I now have 50 Beta users for the ReInvent manifestation journaling app! I am already getting exciting feedback. Yolanda is my number 1 user and she reported the biggest win since I launched the app. She told me “Some really good things have happened, and it could be a coincidence, but I just signed a new client that had been stalling, with a contract value of $2,500/mo!” I’m so happy for her! Great work Yolanda! If you want to experience the power of manifestation journaling, you can still get a free trial by visiting getreinvent.app So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Brannon. SHOW NOTES: Guest Website: https://www.brannonpatrick.com/ 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube: Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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439 How to Stay Grounded and Sober Through a High-Conflict Divorce
07/16/2026
439 How to Stay Grounded and Sober Through a High-Conflict Divorce
Before I jump into this week’s episode, I have a new resource that will help those who struggle with finances. After announcing that I launched a manifestation journaling app called ReInvent that helps reframe limiting belief, I realized that I didn’t really provide much context! To remedy that, there is now a blog . I have posted my own personal story of how I tripled my income with this practice. I also include some of the science behind creating empowering beliefs, law of attraction, and wealth creation. You can find it at blog.getreinvent.app. If you are into manifesting, journaling, and reinventing your identity, you can try the app free at https://getreinvent.app Today, I have a very important episode for you, especially if you are going through a high conflict divorce or if you are dealing with post divorce abuse. In this episode I sit down with Ksenia Muench, a divorce coach who specializes in high-conflict divorce and post-separation abuse. Ksenia walked through her own six-figure, high-conflict divorce, and she now helps women go from feeling completely powerless to becoming the CEO of their own divorce. In this episode, you'll learn: • How to self-soothe without numbing or reaching for a substance • Why the harassment doesn't stop when the papers are signed • The gray rock method for staying grounded without reacting • How to rebuild trust in yourself and redefine who you are Guest Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/
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438 -Financial Insecurity Recovery: It's Not About The Money With Barney Whiter
07/09/2026
438 -Financial Insecurity Recovery: It's Not About The Money With Barney Whiter
Hi friend, welcome to this week’s episode, my name is Arlina and I'll be your host. Before we jump in, I am excited to announce the launch of my new app, ReInvent. If you've ever felt like you're stuck, like no matter how hard you work, your bank account never quite catches up to your effort, it's not a strategy problem. It's a belief problem. One of my favorite quotes is from Dr. David R. Hawkins, found in his classic book Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender, is: "The unconscious will allow us to have only what we believe we deserve. The more we hang on to our negativity and small self-image that results, the less we think we deserve." I've spent 32 years studying behavior change and subconscious beliefs, and working with thousands of people. The ones who make lasting change and thrive are those who do the work of reinventing their identity. That's why I built the Reinvent app. It's a daily practice, just a few minutes each morning and at the end of the day, that helps you raise your sense of worth by creating a new empowered identity, so you start taking consistent action on opportunities that will lead you to achieving your goals. It's part law of attraction, part behavioral science, and it's built specifically to shift your beliefs around money and self-worth. Right now, Reinvent is in beta, and I'm looking for 50 people to try it free for 6 months and give me feedback. Just use the code REINVENT6 when you sign up. You can create your free account today at getreinvent.app. That's getreinvent.app, code REINVENT6 for six months on me. This beta round is going to fill up fast, so register today! In this episode, I sit down with Barney Whiter, financial and career coach behind The Escape Artist, for part two of our conversation about money beliefs, financial insecurity, and recovery. I put myself in the hot seat and let Barney coach me through my own money story. I’ve been thinking about it ever since! Barney shares how watching his parents struggle when UK interest rates hit 17% in 1981 wired him for financial anxiety that followed him for decades, even after he paid off his mortgage at 33. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why financial anxiety persists even when your finances are fine • How childhood money experiences literally wire your brain • The difference between the presenting problem and the real problem • Barney's complete toolkit for calming money anxiety: sleep, nutrition, resistance training, and more • Why fear is a powerful motivator with a shelf life, and what to use instead So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Barney. Guest Website: 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube: Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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437 Step 5 with Sonia Khalon: Resentment, Boundaries, and the Fear of Asking for What You Need
07/02/2026
437 Step 5 with Sonia Khalon: Resentment, Boundaries, and the Fear of Asking for What You Need
My name is Arlina, I’m a best-selling author of the 12 step guide for skeptics, I’ve been sober for 32 years myself, and I'll be your host. Before we jump in, I just want to share that I have a few coaching spots opening up. There seems to be a lot of people who are sober and building businesses, which in this economy, is really smart! The biggest challenge I see is people who are under earning Due to subconscious fears. I use hypnosis and internal family systems as part of the process of eliminating limiting beliefs and creating a new identity that supports your goals. So if you're sober and you're building a business, but you keep self-sabotaging or staying stuck, I work with people exactly like you. Book a free discovery call at soberlifeschool.com. Today I sit down with Sonia Kahlon, co-founder of Sisters in Sobriety to tackle Step 5. Sonia has been moving through the steps with remarkable consistency, and this conversation gets real about resentments, boundaries, fear of asking for what we need, and the surprising ways sobriety makes us more sensitive, not less. This episode is packed with practical wisdom, including: • Why resentment is called the #1 cause of relapse - and what to do about it • How to set a boundary without going from doormat to dictator • The difference between your thoughts and your actions (and why it matters for Step 6) • How sobriety can actually make you slower to react - and why that's okay • What the Karpman Drama Triangle is and how it shows up in your relationships • Why if you spot it you got it is a tool for compassion, not self-punishment • How to use canned responses to navigate emotionally charged conversations So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Sonia! SHOW NOTES: Guest Website: https://sistersinsobriety.substack.com/ 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube: Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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436 The Top Predictor of Long-Term Recovery with Dr. Ellenhorn
06/25/2026
436 The Top Predictor of Long-Term Recovery with Dr. Ellenhorn
Relapsing is such a common experience for people early in recovery. This episode is going to be really important for those who are exploring all the nuances of how people find recovery and the predictors of long-term recovery. Before we jump in, if you haven't yet, please consider supporting the podcast by joining the YouTube members only content for just $1.99 per month. It’s ad free content and by showing your support, I can keep creating free content for you. The podcast costs about $500 per month so every little bit helps. Thank you so much! Today I sit down with Dr. Ross Ellenhorn, a sociologist and founder of Ellenhorn, one of the most robust community integration programs in the United States. For over 20 years, Dr. Ellenhorn has been running what he calls a "hospital without walls" - a program that meets people where they are, literally going to school with clients, accompanying them to jobs, and helping them rebuild their lives inside their communities rather than removing them from those communities to treat them. In this episode, you'll learn: • What "fear of hope" is and how it quietly blocks people from moving forward • Why denial and resistance are more about your environment than your psychology • How self-efficacy and pride are the real building blocks of lasting recovery and • The difference between hope and faith - and why both matter for recovery So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Dr Ellenhorn. Guest Website: https://ellenhorn.com 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube: Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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435 Step 4 Uncensored: Sonia's Searching and Fearless Moral Inventory
06/18/2026
435 Step 4 Uncensored: Sonia's Searching and Fearless Moral Inventory
Before we jump in, I have a couple of programming notes for you. The first is that since this month is the 10th anniversary of the show, I’ll be publishing a back to basics series for those who are either allergic to the 12 steps, who are sober curious or otherwise needing support for early recovery. The second is to let you know that there are lots of free resources on the podcast website at . There's a guide called 30 tips for your first 30 days, how to have sober fun, and how to make sobriety stick. These are all free and available for instant download. Okay friend, if you are skeptical of the steps, I actually wrote a whole book about “The 12 Step Guide for Skeptics” available on Amazon, but if you find yourself curious about the program, we are getting into the nitty gritty work of the 12 steps today! This is another installment of the stepwork series that I have been doing with Sonia Kahlon, co-founder of Sisters in Sobriety. I just love Sonia. She’s so courageous in her willingness to work the program in semi public. We will be doing some of this work in private because I want her to feel safe in doing the work, but you’ll get a peek into the process so you can make an informed decision to try the steps or not. In this episode, we walk through Sonia’s actual Step 4 inventory together - her resentments toward her parents, her brother, and her ex-husband - and dig into what finding your part really means when you weren’t the one who caused the damage. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why Step 4 is not about taking blame - it’s about finding your power - How unresolved resentments show up as triggers, even years later - The difference between self-pity and an appropriate emotional response to pain - How the people we’re most resentful toward reveal our deepest limiting beliefs - Why self-abandonment is often the real pattern hiding underneath our biggest resentments and - How to find the gifts that grew out of your most painful experiences So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! SHOW NOTES: Guest Website: https://sistersinsobriety.substack.com/ 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube: Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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434 The OD Bodycam Footage: From OD to Recovery Miracle with Adam Vibe Gunton
06/11/2026
434 The OD Bodycam Footage: From OD to Recovery Miracle with Adam Vibe Gunton
Today I sit down with Adam Vibe Gunton - bestselling author, founder of the nonprofit Recovered on Purpose, and owner of a 68-bed treatment center in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. Adam went from being given cocaine at age 12 and starring as the defensive captain of Columbine High School's state championship football team, to a homeless heroin addict who overdosed in 2015 - and has the police body cam footage to prove it. He's the only person I know of who showed their own dead body during a TED Talk. In this episode, you'll learn: Why a decade of 12-step meetings still left Adam unable to stay sober, and what the critical missing piece was The "wrong" sponsor who turned out to be exactly right - and why everything you've been told about finding a sponsor might be backwards The spiritual experience at an IHOP that marked the last day Adam ever used Why people like Adam literally die without the 12 steps being done quickly and rigorously How November 6th keeps showing up as the most important date of his life How his nonprofit is making sure nobody has to spend Christmas on a trap house floor calling treatment centers who won't pick up
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433 Long-Term Sobriety, Relapse, and the Cosmic Joke of Recovery With Katie Hingle
06/04/2026
433 Long-Term Sobriety, Relapse, and the Cosmic Joke of Recovery With Katie Hingle
Hi friend, welcome to the podcast, my name is Arlina, I’ve been sober for 32 years, and it’s my life’s mission to carry a message of hope for recovery. Here’s a question we all need to consider, No matter where you are in your recovery journey: What if the survival skills that you develop in childhood - the performing, the achieving, and the self-abandonment for the sake of appeasing others- are the exact habits quietly keeping you feeling stuck in adulthood? This actually happens to everybody in one form or another, and we're going to talk about how to break some of those patterns. Today I sit down with Katie Hingle, founder and CEO of Lavish, and a woman in long term recovery to talk about how she is working through her own survival patterns. I’ve known Katie for decades, and always admired her, not just because she’s so accomplished as an executive at Adobe, and now the CEO at her own company, but because she is a woman of faith, service and integrity. Katie is one of those shining examples of someone who has done real work - not just recovery from alcohol, but the untreated perfectionism, people-pleasing, and codependence underneath it. But before we jump in, I just want to share with you that because June marks 10 years of the One Day at a Time podcast, I am going to be doing something a little different In the upcoming weeks. I am going to do a series of episodes focused on early recovery. This will be for those who are simply wanting to take a break from alcohol, those who are sober curious and don’t want to go to AA, or those coming back after a period of drinking. I want you to know that no matter where you are in your journey, I am here to support you with a safe space for coming to your own conclusions. In today’s episode, you'll learn: • How to recognize when your survival mechanisms have become your biggest liability • Why resentment is the root of the devolving process in recovery and relationships • The concept of collateral growth - and why doing your own work changes everyone around you And • How recovery principles translate directly into building a business and showing up in relationships So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Katie. Guest Website: lavishexperienceco.com 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube: Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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432 A Navy Seal's Story of Sobriety After Shame, Secrets, and Addiction
05/28/2026
432 A Navy Seal's Story of Sobriety After Shame, Secrets, and Addiction
What happens when the thing that was supposed to save you - the mission, the badge, the identity - becomes the very thing addiction destroys? And what do you do when you are a trained Navy SEAL, built to be a hero, and you cannot even save your own son from a pandemic scare because you are too deep in a three-day meth binge to pick up the phone? Today I sit down with Dr. Tony Dice - Navy SEAL, PhD, and author of After the Trident: A Navy SEAL's Battle with Secrets, Shame, and Addiction. Dr. Dice spent years serving alongside legends like Jocko Willink, then gave up his SEAL career to protect his drug use - until a moment of devastating clarity brought him to his knees and into treatment. In this episode you will learn: How growing up in extreme isolation with an alcoholic father shaped his addiction before it even started Why high performers are especially vulnerable to addiction - and how the same obsessive drive that builds careers can quietly destroy everything they love How Tony sold his car to fund his own rehab stay, and what that moment of willingness meant for his recovery The holistic change model Dr. Dice discovered in 12-step recovery - and why it maps directly onto proven therapeutic frameworks Why gratitude is not just a feeling - it is an action word, and why Tony has it tattooed on his leg next to a handcuff key So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think!
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431 Out of The Darkness of Addiction: The Plant Medicine Path
05/21/2026
431 Out of The Darkness of Addiction: The Plant Medicine Path
Today’s guest has been sober for 17 years. But her sobriety didn't start with a surrender. It started with a dare. Kat Courtney is a shamanic practitioner with over 20 years of experience working with ayahuasca and ibogaine, a lineage-trained facilitator who completed an 8.5-year apprenticeship, and the co-founder of Base, an ibogaine treatment center in Mexico. Before we jump in, I wanted to announce that the podcast is coming up on the 10-year anniversary! I'm so grateful to all of you who continue to download the podcast and to all of our guests For so graciously sharing their knowledge. If I may be so bold to ask, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Having a lot of positive rankings is how we get the message out to those in need. I realize it's kind of a pain in the ass, so if you actually take a few minutes to Leave a review, Just know you're my new favorite, and I love you. As a Disclaimer for this episode: this is for educational purposes only. I'm not a doctor. I don't play one on the internet. This is not to encourage you to try plant medicine, but to present additional resources if you’re thinking about it. I am not an expert in this area, so I will be largely deferring to Kat for her expertise. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why integration after plant medicine is more important than the medicine itself - and what happens when people skip it • How ibogaine eliminates post-acute withdrawal symptoms for up to three months, giving people a genuine window to heal • Why different plant medicines work for different addictions - and which ones are actually dangerous in combination • What 10 years of shamanic training looks like, and why it matters who is holding space for you • Kat's daily self-care rituals, and how she bookends each day with intention So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Kat! SHOW NOTES: Guest Website: https://plantmedicinepeople.com 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube: Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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430 From Bars to Jars: How Joe Gallagher Turned Rock Bottom Into a Recovery Brand
05/14/2026
430 From Bars to Jars: How Joe Gallagher Turned Rock Bottom Into a Recovery Brand
In this episode of the One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast, Arlina sits down with Joe Gallagher - entrepreneur, author, and two-year sober miracle. Joe shares his journey from childhood trauma and 20 years of failed recovery attempts to launching a spaghetti sauce company 60 days sober and landing interest from 1,100 grocery stores. You'll hear how Joe finally surrendered after his fifth arrest and seventh suicide attempt, what made this recovery stick when the previous two decades didn't, and how service, community, and massive action became the foundation of both his sobriety and his business. His book "From Bars to Jars: A Saucy Redemption Story" is available now, and his honesty about childhood abuse, self-forgiveness, and faith makes this one of the most courageous conversations on the show. Guest Website: https://apastioli.com https://apastioli.com 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! 0:00 - Intro and lightning round: books that helped in early sobriety 1:00 - Manifestation, Napoleon Hill, and how Joe used visualization to get into Piggly Wiggly 2:30 - Five daily practices that keep Joe grounded in sobriety 3:30 - Two years sober - and why year two was harder than year one 5:00 - Childhood: dirt poor, father's addiction, family dynamics 7:30 - Moving to Charleston, 10 years away from family, survival mode 8:30 - First drink at 13 at a cousin's wedding 10:30 - The roots of addiction: childhood sexual abuse, bullying, and violence at home 12:00 - Why men don't talk about sexual trauma - and why Joe does 13:30 - Forgiveness: forgiving others vs. forgiving yourself 15:00 - "From Bars to Jars" - the book origin story 16:00 - The last relapse: two years, physical deterioration, rock bottom 17:00 - First walk into AA in 2010 after 7th suicide attempt 18:00 - Resistance to God after childhood trauma in a church 19:30 - The final surrender: 5th arrest and dropping to his knees in a jail cell 21:00 - Going all in: 170 meetings in 90 days, all 12 steps in 90 days 22:00 - The three legacies and why service was the missing piece 24:00 - Forced entrepreneurship: couldn't get a job, made spaghetti sauce instead 25:30 - From a closet-sized kitchen to 1,100 stores waiting: the growth story 28:00 - Finding investors and a co-packer for 100,000 units 29:30 - Morning routine as an anchor for business and sobriety 31:00 - How he found Sober Founders and Andrew Lassise: a divine intervention
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429 Finding Your Higher Power In Addiction Recovery
05/07/2026
429 Finding Your Higher Power In Addiction Recovery
This is the second episode in the step work series with Sonia Kahlon. Co host of the sisters in sobriety podcast and a woman in long term recovery. And I’m tellin you, she is coming in HOT about Step 2! Before we dive in, a quick announcement. The show notes of every episode contain a summary, all the action steps and all the books mentioned in the episode. There is also a resources tab you’ll want to check out with a bunch of free guides like how to have sober fun, 30 tips for your first 30 days, as well as links to the YouTube channel. You can find all of these free resources to enrich your recovery, at . So, after this week’s recording, it got me wondering. What if the thing standing between you and the steps is the feeling that the language just doesn't apply to you? That the Big Book is too old, too religious, or too far removed from what we actually know about trauma, neuroscience, and mental health? This conversation with Sonia, who has never worked the steps, is a real, unfiltered walk through Step 2 of the 12 steps: "Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity." Although Sonia came in “not loving step 2” as she puts it, What unfolded might surprise you! We talk about: Why the word "sanity" in Step 2 might just be a semantic issue - and what it actually means How to build a concept of a higher power that's personal, flexible, and makes sense to you We share stories of "God shots" and synchronicity that feel like “spiritual experiences” How the pause between your impulse and your reaction is where your higher power can work, and how to access it. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Sonia, and if you do, share it with a friend struggling with the steps
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428 From Shame to Strength: Reframing Your Past as Your Greatest Asset
04/30/2026
428 From Shame to Strength: Reframing Your Past as Your Greatest Asset
Today I sit down with Peter Bailey, author of Be Epic: Reframe Your Past to Navigate Your Future, president of the Prouty Project, and a man with 43 years of sobriety. Peter started drinking at 13, got sober at 22 on Block Island, Rhode Island, and has spent decades since helping people in recovery and corporate leadership see their stories through a completely different lens — one rooted in Joseph Campbell's Hero's Journey model. In this episode, you'll learn: How reframing your past can turn shame into your greatest superpower What the Hero's Journey model is and how it maps directly onto recovery Why comparison is a "disease" that disconnects us from ourselves and others How to use "defense mechanisms that don't work anymore" as your 4th step inventory The power of celebrating recovery milestones and daily wins Peter's daily armor-up practice: the sobriety coin, sunrise ritual, and 10th step Why willingness to be willing is itself a revolutionary act How the Prouty Project uses leadership development to build resilience in recovery Action Items: Write down one story from your past you've been carrying as shame. Ask: what strength did surviving that require? Map your current challenge onto the Hero's Journey. Where are you on the road? Practice disclosing one unexpressed expectation in a key relationship this week. Add one small "armoring up" ritual to your morning. Resources Mentioned: The Hero's Journey -The The Prouty Project: https://peterbailey.com 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick
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427 The Recovery Principle That Saved Her Business with Diane Prince
04/23/2026
427 The Recovery Principle That Saved Her Business with Diane Prince
What do you do when you’ve had a $28 million business exit — and then watch nearly all of it disappear? If you’re Diane Prince, you eventually find Al-Anon, do the work, and rebuild a life and business that’s more fulfilling than anything you had before. In this episode, Arlina sits down with Diane — entrepreneur, business strategist, and Al-Anon member of 17 years — for one of the most honest conversations about recovery, money, and entrepreneurship we’ve had on this show. The Exploding Doormat Diane didn’t grow up with alcohol in her home. But she grew up with rage — a mother who saved her pleasant face for the outside world and unleashed her anger at home. That environment created what Diane calls the “exploding doormat” cycle: swallowing feelings, avoiding conflict, staying in denial — until everything finally blows. This pattern followed her into her marriage, her business partnerships, and her parenting. It took two specific moments — firing a family member who had been terrorizing her, and yelling at a boyfriend that he was “worse than her ex-husband” — to finally make her ask: what’s the common denominator here? The answer was her. And that realization was the beginning of everything. From Atheist to Step 3 Diane resisted Al-Anon for years. She didn’t believe in God. She thought the people in the rooms were the ones who were confused. It wasn’t until her life felt truly unmanageable that she was willing to try. Working Step 3 at 2am — anxious, exhausted, worrying about college funds and the future — she asked herself: what if I just try this? What followed was a wave of peace she had never felt before. A spiritual experience she still can’t fully explain, but one that changed everything. The $20 Moment and What Came After After the exit, after the divorce, after the financial unraveling — Diane found herself raising three kids with sometimes $20 or $50 to her name for an entire week. What she learned in that season: forcing solutions doesn’t work. Letting things emerge does. When her Malibu rental situation collapsed, she didn’t white-knuckle her way to a solution. She got still, turned it over, and within 24 hours had a lease on Malibu Road she never thought she could afford. Recovery Principles as Business Strategy Today, Diane runs a virtual assistant agency that helps entrepreneurs build scalable businesses. She attributes her success directly to what program has taught her: let go of control, trust the people around you, make amends quickly when you micromanage, and stay open to what wants to emerge. Action Items from This Episode: • Notice where the “exploding doormat” cycle shows up in your own life or business • Ask yourself: where are you forcing a solution right now? What would it feel like to let go? • If you’re building a business and feel like you have to do it all yourself, consider: who could you bring in to help you scale? Books & Resources Mentioned: • Courage to Change — Al-Anon daily reader • Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Guest Website: https://dianeprince.co/ Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days – With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on, , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website .
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426 Addicted to Pain: Breaking the Cycle That’s Blocking Your Success
04/16/2026
426 Addicted to Pain: Breaking the Cycle That’s Blocking Your Success
What if the biggest obstacle to your success isn’t your skill set, your circumstances, or even your past — but your addiction to staying stuck? That’s the central thread of my conversation with Peter Moulton, a 35-year recovery veteran, entrepreneur, and author of UP: A Journey of Intention, Focus, and Execution. Peter has spent nearly three decades coaching entrepreneurs and leaders, and what he’s discovered cuts right through the noise: most of us don’t fail because we lack information. We fail because we’re unwilling to be seen. The Three-Year Prison Peter describes a pattern he calls the “three-year prison” — the tendency for people to rise to their current level of competence, then repeat the same cycle over and over without ever breaking through. The culprit? Imposter syndrome. The fear that if we become truly brilliant and visible, we’ll be exposed. So we self-sabotage. We stay small. We hide. In recovery, this shows up all the time. We know what we’re supposed to do — pray, journal, go to meetings, do the work. But the moment we start feeling better, we stop. And then we wonder why we’re vulnerable again. The Addiction to Pain Here’s where Peter really got me: he doesn’t believe people primarily avoid pain. He believes they get addicted to it. After years of generational trauma and learned dysfunction, suffering becomes familiar. Safe, even. And anything that might bring joy — visibility, success, connection — feels threatening. The healing, he says, isn’t about digging endlessly into the “why.” It’s about acknowledging reality, surrendering to it, and choosing to move anyway. The Ultradian Method: Work With Your Biology Based on research going back to 1953 by scientist Nathaniel Kleitman, our waking brains operate in 90-minute cycles — just like our sleep. Peter built his entire productivity system around this: 75 minutes of deep, singular-focus work followed by 15 minutes of complete disconnection. No phone. No screens. Touch grass. Breathe. His best clients do 3–4 sprints per day. Even two sprints — about 2.5 hours of focused work — consistently outperforms unfocused 8-hour days. Microsoft’s own research confirms this: their employees averaged less than 3 hours of actual productive work per 8-hour day. Action Items From This Episode Try one 75-minute focus sprint tomorrow. One task. No phone. Then fully disconnect for 15 minutes. Ask yourself Peter’s daily question: Who am I this morning — and who do I want to be by tonight? Identify the ONE activity that would move your most important goal forward every day. Let everything else wait. Notice if you’re “wound worshipping.” Are you staying in the story instead of moving through it? Books & Resources Mentioned — Peter Moulton — Dr. Judson Brewer Connect with Peter: peter@1691inc.com Guest website: Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days – With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on, , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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425 Raising the Bottom: How to Stop Drinking Before You Hit Rock Bottom
04/09/2026
425 Raising the Bottom: How to Stop Drinking Before You Hit Rock Bottom
You Don’t Have to Lose Everything First: What Step One Really Teaches Us If you’ve ever looked at the 12 steps and thought that’s not for me, you’re not alone. I thought the same thing for years. The God stuff felt like a barrier. The word “powerless” felt insulting. And the idea that my life had to look like a wreck before I qualified? That kept me stuck longer than anything else. This week on the podcast, I sat down with Sonia Kahlon — founder of EverBlume and host of the Sisters in Sobriety podcast — to start working the 12 steps together, live, on air. Sonia has nearly nine years of sobriety and had never formally worked the steps. Sound familiar? She’s doing it now, and we’re bringing you along for the whole journey. What Powerlessness Actually Means Step One is this: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol — that our lives had become unmanageable. The key word most people miss is over alcohol. Not over your whole life. Not over your career or your relationships or your sense of self. Just over alcohol. When you look at the dictionary definition — powerless means without ability, influence, or resources — suddenly it clicks. Sonia said it perfectly: once I started drinking, I never knew how much I was going to drink. I told myself just one and ended up ten drinks in. Every single time. That’s not a character flaw. That’s powerlessness over a substance. Raising the Bottom One of the most powerful concepts we talked about is “raising the bottom.” The 12 steps and 12 traditions describe it as sparing yourself the last 10 to 15 years of literal hell. You don’t have to get a DUI, lose your marriage, or end up in a hospital before you decide to change. Sonia had what some call a “silk sheet bottom” — financially stable, healthy marriage, functioning career. But emotionally? She wanted to die. That’s a bottom. It just didn’t look like one from the outside. And that invisibility is exactly why so many high-functioning people wait too long. Sober vs. Recovered Here’s something we don’t talk about enough: you can be sober and still not be okay. Sonia and I talked about the difference between sobriety — not drinking — and recovery, which is the ongoing work of becoming emotionally healthy. You can have years of sobriety and still be running on old patterns, substituting one coping mechanism for another, and avoiding the deeper work. The steps are one path into that deeper work. Action Items: – Read Step One in the 12 Steps & 12 Traditions (free online) – Write down the dictionary definitions of “powerless” and “unmanageable” — then see how they apply to your drinking, not your whole life – List specific moments where you were powerless over alcohol — not your rock bottom stories, just examples where you couldn’t keep a promise to yourself about drinking – Find a women’s step study meeting near you (or online) and commit to going once Books & Resources Mentioned: – The 12 Steps and 12 Traditions (AA) – Alcoholics Anonymous (The Big Book) – The 12 Step Guide for Skeptics by Arlina Allen – EverBlume — online recovery support groups founded by Sonia Kahlon: https://everblume.com – Open Recovery — free Wednesday night meetings: https://openrecovery.app Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days – With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on, , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube. Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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424 The 6 Saboteurs Destroying Your Self-Control (And How to Beat Them) with Eric Zimmer
04/02/2026
424 The 6 Saboteurs Destroying Your Self-Control (And How to Beat Them) with Eric Zimmer
What if the secret to lasting change isn’t a single powerful moment, but thousands of tiny, unremarkable ones? That’s the central idea behind Eric Zimmer’s powerful new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life. Eric is the host of The One You Feed podcast and a long-time figure in the recovery community with 26 years of sobriety. In Episode 424, he and I explored why real transformation happens slowly — and why that’s actually good news. The Hammer and the Chisel Eric opens his book with the story of Dasrath Manjhi, an Indian man who lost his wife because the road to the hospital was impossibly long. After her death, he took a hammer and chisel to the mountain separating his village from the town and spent decades chipping away at it — enduring ridicule and seemingly no progress — until he had carved a path that cut travel time by 90%. Eric calls this the ultimate story of how a little becomes a lot: not dynamite, just consistent effort. Why Progress Is Invisible Before It’s Obvious One of the most important points Eric makes is that progress happens long before we can see it. Our brains, wired for negativity bias, are constantly scanning for what’s not working — which makes it easy to miss all the marbles accumulating in the jar. He shared a story of a client who began putting a marble in a jar each sober day (without removing any for slips), and how seeing that jar fill up over months changed her entire relationship with her recovery. The Recipe for Change Eric’s formula is simple but not easy: low-resistance actions, done consistently, over time, in the same direction. Low-resistance doesn’t mean tiny — it means something you will actually do. Consistent means you don’t stop when it gets hard or invisible. And same direction means you aren’t scattered across 30 goals. The 6 Saboteurs of Self-Control Eric identifies six things that derail us at our “choice points”: The Autopilot Pitfall — acting without awareness (hello, phone scrolling) Fatigue Fallout — being too tired to make good choices The Shortsighted Stumble — valuing the present over the future (play the tape all the way through) Emotional Escapism — wanting to feel different than you do The Self-Doubt Stalemate — believing you can’t do it The Insignificance Trap — thinking one day doesn’t matter Action Items from This Episode Do the values exercise on page 35: identify three times you were happiest, most proud, and most fulfilled — then look for the pattern. Pick a “guide” — someone you admire — and note what qualities you admire. Those are your values. Identify your current top saboteur and name one structural change to make it easier to choose well. Start a marble jar. Seriously. Books & Resources Mentioned – Buy Here The One You Feed podcast — oneyoufeed.net Guest Website: https://oneyoufeed.net Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days – With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on, , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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423 The Sober Founder: How Recovery Principles Built a Business — and a Movement
03/26/2026
423 The Sober Founder: How Recovery Principles Built a Business — and a Movement
When Nothing Goes According to Plan — and That's the Point Andrew Lassise didn't get sober because he wanted to. He got sober because a judge gave him a choice: jail or rehab. He chose rehab. And as he'll tell you, that was the best decision he never really made. Andrew's story is the kind that makes you laugh out loud and then quietly reassess your own life. At 16, he was blacking out at parties. By college, it was a daily habit. By his mid-twenties, he had a 0.24 BAC DUI, three failed breathalyzer readings on his own car-mounted device, and a pocket breathalyzer he'd purchased on eBay to cheat the first one. "I could have just stopped drinking," he admits now. "But that wasn't an option until the judge made it one." What happened in the years that followed is a masterclass in what recovery actually looks like when you apply it everywhere — not just to the bottle, but to business, failure, and the relentless uncertainty of building something from scratch. Failure as Feedback After rehab, Andrew moved to Florida, brought the wrong resume to a job interview, and accidentally landed his first tech job. He joined a small IT company, loved it — and then watched it go out of business. His response? Offer to keep running the tech department for free from his living room. That's the company he spent the next decade building. In 2023, he sold it for 70 times the number someone once told him he was "crazy" to want. Along the way, there were credit card processors who held his money for years, campaigns that completely flopped, and moments where — as he says — "knowing what I know now, I would have quit." But he didn't. And the program was a big part of why. "My sponsor would tell me: you can keep fighting reality, or you can accept it for what it is," Andrew says. "Change what you can change. Let go of what you can't." The Community That Didn't Exist After selling his company and spending exactly one year in corporate (he quit three hours after he was legally required to stay), Andrew did an ikigai exercise — mapping out the intersection of what he loves, what he's good at, and what the world needs. The answer was clear: a community for sober entrepreneurs. When he went looking for it, it didn't exist. So he built it. Sober Founders is a nonprofit — Andrew makes $0 as president — built on 12-step principles and designed for entrepreneurs who want to bring their real business problems to a group that gets it. The results speak for themselves: connections made, deals done, and more than a few phone calls where people cry out of gratitude. Action Items: Visit soberfounders.org and attend a weekly meeting Try the Arthur Brooks failure journal exercise: write down what happened, then revisit in 3 months Ask yourself Andrew's question: When's the last time God let me down? Do your own ikigai exercise to find the intersection of purpose and skill My First Million — podcast Andrew mentioned listening to (about strikeouts before home runs) Arthur Brooks' Failure Journal Exercise — write down what happened after a failure, revisit in 3 months, then again 3 months after that The Ikigai Exercise — finding the intersection of what you love, what you're good at, and what the world needs (this is what led Andrew to start Sober Founders) Sober Founders — soberfounders.org, free weekly Thursday mastermind meetings Vistage / YPO / EO (Entrepreneur's Organization) — mentioned as peer groups with a similar model to Sober Founders Soberlink — the in-car breathalyzer brand Andrew referenced from his DUI story Guest Website: 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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422 From Trauma to Freedom: How Letting Go Changed Everything
03/19/2026
422 From Trauma to Freedom: How Letting Go Changed Everything
What if your energy was like a bag of Skittles? That’s the metaphor Anne uses in this conversation, and once you hear it, you can’t unsee it. Every day you wake up with a limited number of Skittles. Each one represents your energy — mentally, emotionally, and physically. The problem? Most of us are throwing our Skittles away without even realizing it. We spend them worrying about things we can’t control, replaying conversations in our heads, arguing on social media, or saying yes to things we don’t actually want to do. Before we know it, our energy is gone. And we’re left feeling exhausted, resentful, and disconnected from the life we actually want. Anne knows this pattern well. For years, she lived in survival mode. After experiencing childhood trauma and later losing her sister unexpectedly, alcohol became a way to numb the pain. Eventually the chaos caught up with her. At 39, she checked into rehab and began the process of unpacking the deeper reasons behind her drinking. What she discovered changed everything. Healing wasn’t about simply removing alcohol. It was about confronting the invisible weight she had been carrying for decades. Through therapy, journaling, somatic work, and eventually an ayahuasca experience, Anne began releasing the emotional burdens she had unknowingly held onto. As those burdens lifted, something surprising happened. Her energy came back. Suddenly, she had clarity about what mattered and what didn’t. She stopped wasting Skittles. Anne believes the key to peace and purpose is understanding one simple truth: You are the architect of your life. Not your past. Not other people’s expectations. Not your circumstances. You. That means you also have the power to change how you spend your energy. Here are a few simple ways to start: 1. Notice where your Skittles go. Pay attention to what drains your energy during the day. Arguments? Worry? Overcommitment? 2. Stop saying yes when you mean no. Every “yes” to someone else is a “no” to something else in your life. 3. Question old patterns. Ask yourself: “Why do I keep doing this?” Awareness is the first step toward change. 4. Take your power back. Blame gives away your power. Responsibility gives it back. The truth is, most people think life is happening to them. But Anne sees it differently. Life is happening for you. And once you stop wasting your Skittles on things that don’t matter, you’ll have the energy to build a life that actually does. Buy The Book: https://amzn.to/4sNdDDq 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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421 The Hidden Beliefs That Control Your Behavior With Nir Eyal
03/12/2026
421 The Hidden Beliefs That Control Your Behavior With Nir Eyal
The Beliefs That Shape Our Behavior One of the most frustrating experiences in life is knowing exactly what to do, but still not doing it. If you’ve ever tried to quit drinking, build a new habit, improve your health, or pursue a goal and found yourself slipping back into old patterns, you’re not alone. In this episode, I talk with behavioral design expert and bestselling author Nir Eyal about why this happens. The answer isn’t a lack of knowledge. It’s BELIEF. The Motivation Triangle Nir explains that motivation isn’t just about wanting something. It’s actually built on three elements: Behavior Benefit Belief If we don’t believe the effort will work—or if we don’t believe we’re capable of change—our motivation collapses. We might know exactly what to do, but something inside stops us from taking action. This is why so many people struggle with the knowledge-action gap. The Power of Beliefs One of the most powerful ideas Nir shares is this: Beliefs are tools, not truths. Most of us assume our beliefs are facts. But many beliefs are simply interpretations we’ve repeated so often they feel true. And those beliefs shape everything: What we notice How we interpret events What actions we take This is why two people can experience the same situation and come away with completely different conclusions. Pain vs. Suffering Another important distinction we discuss is the difference between pain and suffering. Pain is a signal. Suffering is the interpretation of that signal. When we believe discomfort is unbearable, we escape it—often through unhealthy behaviors. But when we learn to reinterpret discomfort, we gain the ability to stay present instead of reacting impulsively. Persistence Is the Real Secret One fascinating study Nir shares involved rats swimming in water. Normally they gave up after about 15 minutes. But when the researchers briefly rescued them and then returned them to the water, the rats kept swimming for 60 hours. The only thing that changed was their belief that rescue might be possible. That belief unlocked persistence. And persistence is what ultimately determines success. Action Steps If you want to apply these ideas in your life, start with these steps: Identify a belief that might be limiting you. Ask yourself if it’s absolutely true. Consider alternative explanations. Notice how that belief affects your behavior. Experiment with a more empowering belief. When we change our beliefs, we often change our actions—and our lives. Books Mentioned Beyond Belief — Nir Eyal Indistractable — Nir Eyal Guest Website: 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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420 The Root Cause of Emotional Eating In Sobriety
03/05/2026
420 The Root Cause of Emotional Eating In Sobriety
The Root Cause of Emotional Eating In Sobriety There’s something we don’t talk about enough. You quit drinking. You do the work. You go to meetings. You build a life you’re proud of. And then… You find yourself standing in the kitchen at 9pm. Again. Maybe it’s sugar. Maybe it’s “just a little snack.” Maybe it’s eating in secret. Maybe it’s feeling out of control around food in a way that feels eerily familiar. A lot of people in recovery don’t want to admit this part. But it’s common. Very common. In this week’s conversation with Ali Shapiro, we unpacked something that changed the way I think about food struggles — especially for sober people. She said something powerful: “You don’t love food so much. You’re trying to feel safe.” Because if addiction is avoidance of pain… then food can absolutely become the next strategy. Not because you’re weak. Not because you lack discipline. Not because you’re broken. But because your nervous system still wants relief. It’s Not About Food. It’s About Belonging. Here’s the framework that stopped me in my tracks. Ali asks her clients two questions: Think of a positive food memory. Think of a painful food moment. Then she looks for one thing. Belonging. When food memories feel warm and good, there’s usually connection. Celebration. Safety. When food feels chaotic or secretive, there’s usually isolation. Shame. Disconnection. It’s not about calories. It’s about whether you feel like you matter. That’s a different conversation entirely. Why We Switch Addictions In recovery, we often say, “It’s not the alcohol.” The alcohol was the symptom. The deeper driver was emotional regulation, belonging, identity, safety. So when alcohol leaves… The system looks for another solution. Food is legal. Food is celebrated. Food is socially rewarded. And our culture makes overeating normal — especially during stress or the holidays. So if you’re sober and struggling with food? You’re not failing. Your nervous system is trying to solve a problem. The Question That Changes Everything Ali offered one simple question that reframes the whole struggle: “Why does this make sense?” Instead of: “What’s wrong with me?” Try: Why does this make sense? Why does it make sense that after a stressful day, I want sugar? Why does it make sense that when I feel unseen, I want to eat? Why does it make sense that when I feel alone, I crave something soothing? That question moves you from shame to compassion. And compassion is where change actually begins. Practical Action Steps Here are 5 ways to start applying this immediately: 1. Run the Food Memory Exercise Journal two columns: A positive food memory. A difficult food moment. Ask: Where was belonging present? Where was it missing? 2. Ask “Why Does This Make Sense?” Every time you feel out of control around food this week, pause and ask that question. No fixing. No rules. Just curiosity. 3. Delay the Behavior by 5 Minutes Not to restrict — but to observe. What am I feeling right now? Lonely? Overstimulated? Unappreciated? 4. Expand Your Definition of Fun If you’ve tied indulgence to being “the fun one,” ask: What else feels fun to me now? Rest? Deep conversation? Leaving early? Going to bed proud? 5. Create One Small Belonging Ritual Call someone. Go to a meeting. Text a friend. Sit on the porch instead of isolating. Food is often replacing connection. Replace it back. Resources Ali Shapiro’s assessment + programs: 👉 https://trucewithfood.com Ali’s Podcast (Insatiable → rebranding to Truce With Food) Concept: Functional Medicine (root cause vs symptom treatment) If you’re sober and struggling privately, consider: Talking to your sponsor Sharing honestly at a meeting Exploring nervous system work Joining a recovery-focused coaching container Guest Website: 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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419 Sobriety, Service & Success: Rebuilding Life After Addiction
02/26/2026
419 Sobriety, Service & Success: Rebuilding Life After Addiction
The Best Worst Thing That Ever Happened A conversation on sobriety, entrepreneurship, and rebuilding a life that actually works There’s a certain kind of person who can build something from nothing. They’re driven. Intense. Creative. Restless. They work hard. They push. They win. And sometimes… they self-destruct. In this conversation, Tim shares what it looked like to be both a high-achieving entrepreneur and a blackout drinker—and how recovery didn’t just save his life, it reshaped his ambition, identity, and purpose. This isn’t a story about “before and after.” It’s a story about learning how to live differently. The drive started early Tim began drinking in middle school after his parents divorced and he moved to a new town. Trying to fit in quickly became the gateway to alcohol and drugs. At the same time, he was already wired for achievement. In college, he launched a painting business, hired teams, ran sales and marketing, and made real money—while partying just as hard. That “work hard, play hard” rhythm followed him into adulthood. Success grew. So did the consequences. A devastating drunk-driving crash left him with a traumatic brain injury and months of recovery. Even then, he didn’t stop drinking—he just learned how to drink harder and longer. If anything, achievement became another way to avoid looking at what was really happening. High performance can hide a lot Tim went on to build businesses, lead teams, and outperform expectations. But behind the scenes: drugs escalated relationships deteriorated burnout intensified drinking became non-negotiable He describes always being “the most messed up person at every event,” even while breaking performance records. That’s the part people don’t talk about. Addiction doesn’t always look like collapse. Sometimes it looks like productivity. The moment everything broke The turning point came after a blackout weekend that ended his marriage. It wasn’t just one mistake—it was the undeniable accumulation of years of denial. Within days, he attended his first AA meeting. He hadn’t planned a recovery journey. He just knew his life couldn’t keep going like that. He started going to meetings every day. Sometimes two a day. He got a sponsor, worked the steps, and immersed himself in service. That structure became his lifeline. Recovery didn’t shrink his life—it expanded it One of the biggest myths about sobriety is that it takes things away. For Tim, it gave him: community purpose emotional connection clarity direction He learned to build intimacy with other people without substances. He learned to cry, share honestly, and ask for help. He learned that vulnerability wasn’t weakness—it was relief. And slowly, ambition changed shape. Instead of chasing validation, he started building a life rooted in service and meaning. Today, he works in recovery, supports others, and still channels his drive—but with balance and intention. The routines that keep him grounded Recovery isn’t a single decision. It’s a daily structure. Tim’s core practices include: morning prayer and meditation gratitude lists exercise and physical health journaling and learning service and community time with people who support his growth He describes gratitude as essential: “If I’m grateful, then I’m not a victim.” Exercise, too, became foundational—not just for fitness, but for mental and emotional stability. He calls it part of his “solution,” not just a habit. The entrepreneurial paradox There’s a pattern many high performers recognize: intense focus extreme discipline relentless drive These traits build companies. But without awareness, they also: fuel burnout mask emotional pain replace one addiction with another Recovery didn’t remove Tim’s intensity. It taught him how to channel it without destroying himself. Balance became the new metric—not output. Action Steps: What you can take from this conversation You don’t need to be in addiction to benefit from recovery principles. These are life principles. 1) Build a grounding morning routine Start simple: gratitude stillness reflection Consistency matters more than complexity. 2) Replace extremes with consistency You don’t need heroic bursts of effort. You need steady, repeatable actions. 3) Notice where achievement becomes avoidance Ask yourself: Am I building… or escaping? Am I creating… or distracting? 4) Find your people Recovery happens in connection. Whether it’s: 12-step meetings coaching groups fitness communities spiritual spaces Isolation keeps people stuck. 5) Anchor your life in service Helping others stabilizes your own growth. It creates meaning that performance alone never will. Resources Mentioned Books The Four Agreements — Don Miguel Ruiz Living Untethered — Michael Singer Practices AA / 12-step community meditation + gratitude routines exercise for mental regulation yoga and breathwork cold exposure / recovery practices Recovery & Treatment Work Camelback Recovery TMS (Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation) as a non-invasive mental health support approach Guest Contact Info: https://www.camelbackrecovery.com/ 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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418 Burnout, Identity & the “Respectable Addiction” of Work
02/19/2026
418 Burnout, Identity & the “Respectable Addiction” of Work
The Respectable Addiction: When Work Becomes the Coping Mechanism A reflection on burnout, identity, and recovery — plus practical action steps There’s an addiction we rarely talk about because it looks like ambition. It earns praise. Promotions. Respect. It hides behind phrases like “driven,” “productive,” and “hard-working.” But for many high achievers, work isn’t just effort — it’s a coping mechanism. In this episode, Dawn shares her story of a “workaholic blackout” — the moment she realized work had become her drug. After years of recovery from substances, she found herself caught in a new cycle: overwork, anxiety, identity tied to productivity, and eventual burnout. At one point, she drove home from work and had no memory of the drive. That was the moment everything shifted. What followed was a diagnosis of extreme burnout and a realization that she wasn’t just “busy” — she was addicted to working. When Work Stops Being Healthy One of the most powerful distinctions Dawn shared is this: Working hard doesn’t make someone a workaholic. External pressure doesn’t equal addiction. Workaholism comes from the inside. It’s marked by: An internal compulsion to keep working Self-worth tied to productivity Constant thoughts about work Anxiety or guilt when not working Difficulty detaching — even during rest You can meet deadlines, put in long hours, and still be healthy. But when work becomes how you manage fear, grief, identity, or anxiety — it shifts from effort to escape. Burnout Isn’t Just Exhaustion Burnout isn’t just being tired. It’s a full-system collapse: Physical Emotional Mental Spiritual For many high performers, burnout mirrors an addiction “bottom.” You keep pushing… until your system can’t. And then something breaks. Relationships suffer. Health declines. Meaning fades. And the work that once energized you begins to feel like pressure, obligation, or proof of worth. The Cultural Trap Our culture celebrates overworking. We glorify: Hustle Sacrifice Endless productivity “Grinding” for success But we rarely talk about the cost: Anxiety Family strain Loss of identity outside work Chronic stress Emotional detachment Workaholism is often called “the respectable addiction” because it looks admirable from the outside. Until it doesn’t. Recovery Isn’t About Quitting Work Unlike substances, you can’t abstain from work. Recovery is about boundaries, awareness, and redefining your relationship to productivity. Dawn shared practices that helped her rebuild balance: Under-scheduling instead of over-planning Creating “top lines” (healthy behaviors to commit to) Creating “bottom lines” (behaviors to avoid) Protecting time for joy, relationships, and rest Spiritual grounding and daily reflection Detaching self-worth from output It’s less about doing less — and more about working from a different place. Not fear. Not “not enough.” Not urgency. But intention. Action Steps: Rebuilding a Healthy Relationship With Work If this episode resonated, here are simple starting points. 1) Notice the fuel behind your productivity Ask yourself: Am I working from joy… or fear? Is this aligned… or avoidance? Am I creating… or proving? 2) Separate urgency from importance Not everything urgent is important. And not everything important feels urgent. Pause before reacting. 3) Identify your “bottom lines” Examples: No work after a certain hour No phone during family time No checking email first thing in the morning 4) Define your “top lines” Healthy commitments like: Movement Hydration Connection Rest Creative time 5) Schedule spaciousness Recovery often begins with: Fewer commitments Fewer calls Fewer goals at once Space allows clarity. 6) Detach identity from productivity Practice this reframe: “I am enough — with or without what I produce today.” 7) Watch for the “self-care productivity trap” Even healing can become another project. Self-care isn’t something to optimize. It’s something to experience. Reflection Prompts Where is my self-worth tied to achievement? What am I avoiding by staying busy? When do I feel most at peace — and why? What would “enough” look like today? Resources Mentioned Workaholics Anonymous literature and tools Journaling and recovery reflection practices Byron Katie’s “The Work” inquiry process Anxiety and habit research (Dr. Judson Brewer) Recovery communities and peer support spaces (Referenced from episode transcript) Final Thought You don’t have to burn out to change your relationship with work. You don’t have to earn rest. You don’t have to prove your worth. You don’t have to run on fear. There is another way to work — one rooted in clarity, presence, and enoughness. And it starts with one honest question: What’s really driving me right now? Guest Contact Info: 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? 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417 Can I Moderate My Drinking? Why This Question Changes Everything
02/12/2026
417 Can I Moderate My Drinking? Why This Question Changes Everything
Can I Moderate? Why This Question Matters More Than We Talk About For most of my recovery journey, I held a pretty firm belief: If you’re questioning your drinking, the answer is probably abstinence. That belief came from both lived experience, as well as observing other people who struggle with alcohol. Personally, I never drank normally. From the very first drink, the switch flipped on—and it stayed on. I hit a hard bottom early, and after years of trying to moderate, the answer for me was clear: I could not moderate. As it turned out, for me abstinence meant freedom. And still… Over time, something softened in me. Not because I changed my relationship with alcohol—but because I started listening more closely to other people’s experiences. The Question Everyone Has to Answer for Themselves I’ve come to believe this: “Can I moderate?” is not a denial question. It’s a developmental one. For many people, it’s the pivot point of their entire recovery journey. Some people answer it quickly. Some answer it painfully. Some don’t answer it until years—sometimes decades—later. But skipping the question doesn’t make it disappear. And that’s why my conversation with Nick Allen, CEO and co-founder of Sunnyside, felt so important. Nick grew up in an AA household. Both of his parents are in long-term recovery. He understands abstinence deeply—and still, his own relationship with alcohol took a different path. Instead of waiting for a crisis, he began asking a quieter question early on: What does a healthy relationship with alcohol look like for me—right now? That question eventually became Sunnyside: a platform designed to help people explore change before things fall apart. The Missing Middle Here’s the reality I see again and again: Most people are offered two options: Figure it out Quit forever And when those are the only choices on the table, a huge number of people choose to keep trying to figure it out. Not because they’re reckless. Not because they don’t care. But because abstinence can feel overwhelming, stigmatizing, or premature—especially for people who are still functioning “well enough.” Research suggests there’s often a 10-year gap between when alcohol becomes a problem and when someone seeks help. Ten years. Think about what happens in ten years: Careers strained Health eroded Relationships damaged Kids absorbing instability they can’t name yet Waiting is not neutral. Why Willpower Isn’t the Answer One thing Nick and I aligned on immediately: Willpower is a terrible long-term strategy. Willpower is finite. It’s lowest at the exact moments people need it most: After a long day During stress At the witching hour (5–7pm) On Fridays when it’s “been a week” Sunnyside takes a different approach: Decisions are made ahead of time, when clarity is high Habits are supported with structure, not shame Accountability is externalized, not moralized This is how real behavior change works. A Word About Naltrexone (And Nuance) We also talked openly about naltrexone, a medication that’s been FDA-approved for decades to help reduce alcohol cravings. Here’s what matters: It doesn’t make people sick It doesn’t require abstinence It reduces the reward loop that drives compulsive drinking I’ve had clients use it successfully—particularly high-functioning people who struggled with the “off switch,” not daily drinking. But for people earlier in the process—people quietly wondering, “Is this still working for me?”—tools like this can interrupt years of silent suffering. Language Matters More Than We Think One of the most powerful parts of this conversation was about vocabulary. Words like addict, alcoholic, relapse, recovery—they carry weight. For some people, they offer clarity and belonging. For others, they create shame, fear, and avoidance. If the language feels too heavy, people wait. Sunnyside intentionally avoids labels and instead talks about: Alcohol overuse Habit change Awareness Experimentation That shift alone can make change feel possible. Where I Land Now I’m still sober and have no desire to drink again. I still believe abstinence is the right path for most people who struggle with alcohol. And I also believe we need earlier, gentler, more honest entry points into change. The goal of sobriety—or moderation, or reduction—isn’t the absence of alcohol. It’s: Freedom Health Presence A life that actually works If someone can get there sooner, with less damage along the way, I’m all for it. Action Steps If this resonated, here are a few grounded next steps: Ask the question honestly Is alcohol adding to my life—or quietly taking from it? Move from judgment to curiosity You don’t need a label to run an experiment. Plan ahead of cravings Decisions made in advance beat willpower every time. Seek support early Coaching, tracking, community, and medical tools are preventative—not last resorts. Protect what already works If abstinence is serving you, honor that. No need to second-guess stability. Resources Sunnyside: /arlina Sunnyside Med (Naltrexone access) NIH research on alcohol use disorder and treatment gaps AA and abstinence-based recovery programs (for those who already know) If you’re listening to this podcast, reading this post, or even asking the question quietly to yourself—you’re already earlier than most. And earlier matters. Guest Contact Info: https://get.sunnyside.co/arlina 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . 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416 From Blackout Drinking to Divine Alignment: Paula Robbins’ Recovery Story
02/05/2026
416 From Blackout Drinking to Divine Alignment: Paula Robbins’ Recovery Story
There’s a point in many recovery journeys where insight stops being the problem. You know what to do. You understand your patterns. And yet… change still feels hard. In this episode, I talk with Paula Robbins, author of Hitchhiking Into Recovery, who has over 37 years of sobriety, about why that happens—and what actually sustains healing over the long haul. The Ride That Opened the Door Paula’s recovery didn’t begin with a dramatic intervention. It began when she was picked up hitchhiking in 1988 by someone living a sober, connected life. That single interaction mattered because it interrupted isolation. Not with willpower. With connection. Addiction Is a Disconnection Problem Paula grew up with trauma, neglect, and instability. Alcohol became a way to shut down overwhelming emotions long before she had language for what was happening. By age 12, she was drinking to blackout. What stands out isn’t just the trauma—it’s what was missing: Safety Emotional guidance Consistent connection Addiction wasn’t a moral failure. It was a survival strategy. Feelings Aren’t Facts One of Paula’s most grounding principles is simple: Feelings and facts are not the same. Recovery didn’t eliminate difficult emotions—it created space to respond instead of react. That pause is where real change happens. The Four Pillars That Sustain Recovery After decades of sobriety, Paula distilled what actually works into four stabilizing forces: Community – healing happens in relationship Mentorship – someone to help you see clearly Service – contribution rebuilds self-esteem Daily spiritual alignment – prayer, meditation, or quiet time These pillars show up in every effective recovery model because they address the root issue: disconnection. Divine Alignment vs. Self-Will Paula explains divine alignment not as certainty, but as a felt sense. When she’s controlling outcomes, she feels restless and tight. When she surrenders—even briefly—things soften. Sometimes all it takes is the simple phrase: “Thy will be done.” A Gentle Reminder If change feels hard, it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It may simply mean effort isn’t the missing piece—connection is. One Small Action Try just one: Strengthen one pillar that feels weak Take a 5-minute daily pause Offer one small act of service Notice a feeling without acting on it Healing doesn’t require fixing yourself. It starts with not doing it alone. Resources Mentioned Hitchhiking Into Recovery 12-Step Recovery Programs Step 3 Prayer Step 11: Prayer and Meditation Service work in recovery Guest Contact Info: 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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415 Parenting After Sobriety: The Struggles No One Talks About
01/29/2026
415 Parenting After Sobriety: The Struggles No One Talks About
Quitting Drinking Was Easy. Learning How to Parent Angry Kids Was Not. One of the things I loved about my conversation with Zach Brittle is how honest he was about what recovery really looks like—especially for parents. Zach said something that stopped me in my tracks: “Quitting drinking was the easiest part.” For him, the real work began when alcohol was gone and anger, resentment, and emotional reactivity were suddenly front and center. And if you’re a parent in recovery, you probably know exactly what he means. When one person in a family system gets sober, everything shifts. Kids who adapted to chaos don’t always feel safer right away. Sometimes they act out more. Sometimes they get angrier. Sometimes they pull away. Zach shared how his daughter went through her own painful process after he and his wife got sober—and how his job wasn’t to fix her, control her, or defend himself. It was to stay regulated. Instead of escalating, he practiced pausing. Instead of taking the bait, he learned to sit with discomfort. Instead of rushing in to fix, he learned to be present. That didn’t come naturally. He practiced. He rehearsed. He failed and tried again. And over time, trust began to rebuild—not because he forced it, but because he showed up differently. Action Steps If this episode resonated with you, try this: Notice your triggers – especially anger. It’s information, not a failure. Pause before responding – ask, “What would make this worse?” and don’t do that. Practice regulation – not perfection. You get better by showing up. Let time do its work – healing can’t be rushed, especially with kids. Ask instead of assuming – “Do you want to be helped, heard, or hugged?” Recovery isn’t just about removing alcohol. It’s about learning how to be with yourself—and the people you love—when things get hard. Resources Mentioned Marriage Therapy Radio – Podcast by Zach Brittle Internal Family Systems (IFS) – Parts-based therapy model Alcoholics Anonymous – Step work and resentment inventory Therapy & Parenting Support – Individual, couples, and family systems work Zach Guest Contact Info: https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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414 From Eating Cookies Out Of The Garbage to Healing Food Addiction
01/22/2026
414 From Eating Cookies Out Of The Garbage to Healing Food Addiction
One of the most powerful moments in this conversation came when Amber said: “I didn’t want to do what I was doing… but it became my comfort zone.” If you’ve ever struggled with food, alcohol, or any compulsive behavior, you know exactly what she means. This episode isn’t about dieting. It’s about why the body holds on — to weight, habits, protection, and survival patterns — even when we desperately want to change. Amber walks us through her healing journey, from childhood trauma and food addiction to full recovery, and explains why binge eating isn’t a lack of discipline — it’s often a nervous system trying to self-soothe. We discuss: Why restriction and “all-or-nothing” thinking backfire How hormones quietly sabotage progress Why negative self-talk keeps the body in fight-or-flight The difference between managing symptoms and fully healing And why detachment — not obsession — is what allows real change The biggest takeaway? Your body isn’t broken. It’s protecting you. And once you understand why, everything changes. ✅ Action Steps for Listeners Identify your triggers Write down emotional, physical, and environmental triggers (fatigue, stress, scale-checking, restriction). Stop blaming willpower Start asking: “What does my body need right now?” Pay attention to self-talk Notice when inner criticism appears — it’s often a stress response. Support your nervous system Breathwork, journaling, walking in nature, and rest are not optional — they’re foundational. Get curious about hormones If weight or cravings feel “stuck,” there may be a biological reason. 📚 Resources Mentioned Hormone testing & functional ranges EFT tapping Journaling & emotional processing Nervous system regulation practices Amber’s Body Freedom work & free quiz The No Sugarcoating Podcast Guest Contact Info: https://amberapproved.ca/ 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on , , or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website . You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Apple: Spotify: Amazon Music:
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