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Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast
Release Date: 04/20/2023
Sober: The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast
In this episode, I’m joined by Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith—a couple whose story of addiction, betrayal, and ultimately deep healing is nothing short of powerful. Matthew shares his journey through sexual addiction and recovery, while Joanna opens up about the betrayal trauma that nearly broke their relationship—and how they found a way to rebuild trust, intimacy, and connection. We talk about what betrayal trauma really is (hint: it’s not codependency), how hiding the truth strips partners of choice, and why full disclosure—when done safely—can be a turning point for couples...
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Hey friend, Im so glad youre here! In case youre new to my little corner of the world, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. If youre not new here, then you already know I love exploring tools and practices that support sobriety, spiritual growth, and mental health - all in an effort to help me change my behavior and ultimately feel better. The tool were talking about today is called Two Way Prayer and Father Bill W will be teaching us what it is, how it can benefit you and how to do it. You may have heard about this before through Elizabeth Gilbert who has a substack called Letters from...
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Hi friend, Thank you for downloading this episode and hanging out with me today Before I introduce todays guest, I wanted to let you know we have some new sponsors and youll start to hear about them in the upcoming weeks. This will help me move from depending on donations that cover the expense of producing the podcast. In the near future I will offer a subscription option for ad free episodes, so check the website or YouTube for that. So ,imagine pouring your heart into a book& only to have your life fall apart before it hits the shelves. Thats exactly what happened to my guest this week...
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Hi Friend, Thank you for downloading the episode! My name is Arlina and Ill be your host. Before I talk about todays guest, I want to share that I am celebrating 9 years of hosting the podcast! I have interviewed more than 400 people, many NYT best selling authors, all kinds of experts, and I celebrate all paths of recovery. Im obviously a huge 12 step advocate, but I also interview people who get sober through yoga, fitness, celebrate recovery, recovery 2.0, She Recovers, online groups, SMART recovery, and recovery darma, just to name a few. It has been my honor to introduce you to so many...
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Today my friend Courtney Anderson. Courtney is the author of Sober Vibes A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol, and host of the Sober Vibes Podcast She joins me to talk about how sobriety reshapes your relationships, career, identityand what to do when everything shifts. Sobriety is more than putting down the drinkits a total identity shift. In this episode, we dive into the surprising (and sometimes painful) side effects no one talks aboutlike losing friends, outgrowing your job, and redefining who you are. If youve ever thought, Why does everything feel different...
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Welcome to the podcast! Its been a minute since I introduced myself, so in case we havent met yet, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. I have been sober for 31 years, happily married for 28, a mother of two amazing young men, and an english bulldog called Teddy, that you might hear snoring in the background on occasion. Im also the bestselling author of The 12 Step Guide for Skeptics Clearing up common misconceptions of a path to sobriety. As a sober coach, I help my clients navigate the complex world of recovery and support them through lifes challenges. I coach men and women as they move...
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Hey friend, Thank you for downloading the episode, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. Were doing something a little different today. On this call I am speaking with Joslynn who is in long term sobriety, but like many of us, she has been struggling with sticking to a healthy food plan. The funny thing is, we all know what we should eat. But knowing what to do and being able to do it are two different things. What we are going to do on this call, is address the two opposing desires the part that wants to eat healthy and the part that wants to indulge. We will be going through a process...
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Today I am joined by my friend and fellow podcaster Brock Bevelle. Hes a retired police officer and a man in long term sobriety from opioid addiction. He also manages the Tiktok and IG accounts called @Fentanylprojectaz where he interviews people on the street in active addiction. We are going to talk about what its like to be in long term sobriety and actually get into some of our dark addiction stories that keep us sober that we dont normally talk about. I also wanted to bring awareness to Brocks work where he is actually in the streets trying to help people kick fentanyl addiction. He...
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Can marriages really survive alcoholism? Well today my guest Melissa shares how hers almost didnt, but with the support of her 12 step program, professional help, and a lot of work, her marriage is now better than ever! Melissa Stoeltje is the author of Drunk Love Marriage Under The Influence. A memoir that not only shows the dark side of a high achiever who struggled with her drinking, but the steps she took to get her life back on track. Before we jump in, did you know that there are a bunch of resource guides on the website? Theres a guide for your first 30 days, a resource list of 100...
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Hey friends, welcome to the podcast, in case nobody has told you yet today, you are loved! If youve been listening to the podcast for a while youll know Ive been addressing my financial insecurities lately. Honestly its kind of embarrassing to admit this, but Ive always had a dysfunctional relationship with money. I know this isnt really true, but I have deeply rooted beliefs that money will solve all my problems, and these beliefs are at the root of my workaholism. Today I will be joined by Barney Whiter, a financial coach who is also sober! Well dive into his story of alcoholism, his...
info_outlineToday my guest is the Founder and CEO of Wired For Addiction®, Dr. Evelyn Higgins is a recognized international expert in the epidemiology of addiction. As a Certified Addictionologist, Diplomate of the American College of Addictionology and Compulsive Disorders, and Diplomate of the American Board of Disability Analysts specializing in pain management.
We are going to talk about understanding the genetic markers of addiction, and how a simple test could identify missing chemicals that contribute to the mental health disorders that lead to addiction like anxiety and depression. Her work is fascinating and I can’t wait for you to hear it.
But before we jump in, it’s time for new resources! I just completed the 12 step workshop last week and the topic was step 12 which is about carrying the message, or in other words, being of service to those who suffer from addiction. I think I’ve probably shared this before but it’s worth repeating.
For a lot of people with little kids or constrictive schedules, I would like to offer up a flexible and simple way to be useful, and that is to practice what I call “willingness calls”. It’s also a simple way to establish a support system if you don’t have one already.
A willingness call is simply to find 3 or 4 people that you can reach out to on a regular basis to check in with. You do it when you feel good, because most of us just want to isolate when we feel bad. There’s an old saying that we don’t rise to the level of our expectation, we fall to the level of our training.
It can be a short call, just a hey how are you? Let them share a little bit, then you offer up what is going on in your life and that’s it! Pretty soon you are current with several people, and when life get’s too “lifey” you are already in the habit of calling, and you don’t have to spend a lot of time explaining the back story. You can get right into solution. The interesting thing that happens when you practice willingness calls, is you might catch a friend in the middle of being upset and you can offer support and be of service. Or they might start reaching out to you in a moment when you feel shut down or too sad to call. I’ve had such amazing experiences over the years of this practice, so I wanted to share this with you too.
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