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Loving and Living the Quran

Release Date: 04/10/2024

Episode 362: The Motivation to Let Go [24:22] show art Episode 362: The Motivation to Let Go [24:22]

Loving and Living the Quran

Yesterday we reflected on the cost of holding onto grudges. Today we turn to the motivation the Qur’an offers for choosing the difficult path of forgiveness. Allah says: “Let them pardon and overlook. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.” (24:22) Before addressing the motivation embedded in this verse, we must acknowledge something honestly: forgiveness is difficult. The Qur’an itself describes it as an act of courage. Why is it so hard? When someone wrongs us, the injury often feels like a threat to our dignity. Holding onto the grievance...

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Episode 363: Returning Home [89:27-30] show art Episode 363: Returning Home [89:27-30]

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Thirty days ago we began this series exploring the journey of the human nafs toward Allah. We reflected on the full spectrum of who we are: a noble creature before whom the angels bowed (38:72), and a creature of weakness who forgets (4:28). We explored the fitrah, the inner compass of conscience that Allah placed within us. We examined the nafs al-ammarah that pulls us toward desire and the nafs al-lawwamah that awakens discomfort when we stray. We discussed the path of returning to Allah through tawbah, and the courage required to repair our relationships with others through apology,...

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Episode 361: The Cost of Holding On [42:40] show art Episode 361: The Cost of Holding On [42:40]

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Yesterday we reflected on verse 42:40 and discussed “aslaha” — making amends with others, which is an important part of setting things right with Allah. Today we turn to the word that comes before it in the verse: “The recompense of evil is an evil like it, but whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is with Allah.” (42:40) Before reconciliation comes forgiveness ‘afw. The Qur’an begins by acknowledging something deeply human: if someone wrongs you, you have the right to respond proportionally. Justice is permitted. The Qur’an is not asking you to pretend the harm...

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Episode 360: The Harder Turning [42:40] show art Episode 360: The Harder Turning [42:40]

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Allah says: “The recompense of evil is an evil like it. But whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is with Allah.” (42:40) This verse recognizes something important: when someone harms us, we have the right to respond proportionally. Justice is permitted. But the verse then points to something higher. Whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, their reward is with Allah. Over the past few days we have been talking about tawbah — returning to Allah and repairing our relationship with Him. Today’s verse shifts the focus to another dimension of repentance: repairing our...

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Episode 359: Recognizing Al-Tawwāb [2:37] show art Episode 359: Recognizing Al-Tawwāb [2:37]

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Allah says: “Then Adam received words from his Lord, so He turned to him mercifully. Surely He is al-Tawwāb, the Merciful.” (2:37) The first time the Qur’an introduces the Divine name al-Tawwāb appears in the story of Adam (as). After being tempted by Iblis and leaving the Garden, Adam experienced the weight of what had happened. In that moment of remorse, he turned back to Allah. But the Qur’an highlights something remarkable: Adam’s turning did not begin with him alone. Allah taught him the words of return — the kalimāt through which he repented. This reveals something...

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Episode 358: Tawwab as an Identity [2:222] show art Episode 358: Tawwab as an Identity [2:222]

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Allah says: “Surely Allah loves those who turn to Him repeatedly, and He loves those who purify themselves.” (2:222) The Qur’an does not simply praise those who repent once. It praises al-tawwābīn — those who return again and again. The word tawwāb in Arabic implies repetition and continuity. It describes a person for whom returning to Allah is not a rare emergency response after a major mistake, but a regular spiritual rhythm. Repentance becomes a disposition. The people Allah loves are not those who never drift. They are those who do not stay away for long. Imam Khomeini reflects...

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Episode 357: You Will Find Him [4:110] show art Episode 357: You Will Find Him [4:110]

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Allah says: “Whoever does evil or wrongs his own soul and then seeks forgiveness from Allah will find Allah Forgiving, Merciful.” (4:110) This verse contains a powerful promise. It acknowledges two kinds of wrongdoing: harm toward others and harm toward one’s own soul through sin. Yet the verse does not end with condemnation. It ends with an invitation. If such a person turns and seeks forgiveness, the Qur’an says: “he will find Allah.” The verb used is yajid — he will find. It is immediate and certain. To find something implies it was already there. The verse suggests that Allah...

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Episode 356: The Roadmap to Return [66:8] show art Episode 356: The Roadmap to Return [66:8]

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Allah says: “O you who believe! Turn to Allah in sincere repentance (tawbatan nasūḥā). Perhaps your Lord will remove from you your evil and admit you into gardens beneath which rivers flow.” (66:8) This verse addresses believers — people already in relationship with Allah. Tawbah is not only for those far away. It is part of the ongoing life of faith. The Qur’an emphasizes the quality of repentance: tawbatan nasūḥā — sincere, wholehearted repentance. Scholars explain the word nasūḥā in several ways: A repentance done purely for Allah’s sake. A repentance that...

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Episode 355 : Do Not Despair [39:53] show art Episode 355 : Do Not Despair [39:53]

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Allah says: “Say: O My servants who have transgressed against their own souls, do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Surely Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, He is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” (39:53) This verse is often described by scholars as one of the most hope-giving verses in the Qur’an. Notice how Allah addresses the very people who feel most distant: “O My servants.” Even in the moment of transgression, the relationship is not severed. The belonging remains. The Qur’an describes sin as “transgressing against your own soul.” It frames wrongdoing not primarily as...

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Episode 354: The Cost of Drifting [83:14] show art Episode 354: The Cost of Drifting [83:14]

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Allah says: “No! Rather, what they used to do has become like rust upon their hearts.” (83:14) Over the past reflections, we have explored the inner landscape of the soul — the fitrah, the states of the nafs, the pull of desire, and the voice of conscience. Recently we reflected on how communities help protect that conscience through mutual guardianship. Today we ask a difficult question: what happens when the soul drifts and does not return? The Qur’an uses the word rān, often translated as rust or a covering over the heart. Classical scholars explain that the human soul begins pure...

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Yesterday we reflected on a truth about this life from the Quran: that life is full of challenges.

Today, let us look at a promise of Allah [swt] that gives us confidence that we have what it takes to succeed in these challenges and find our way through these distresses. 

At the end of Chapter 2, Sura Al-Baqara the Quran tells us:

Allah does not task any soul [impose a duty on, place a burden on] beyond its capacity. [2:286] 

This brief selection from a longer verse suggests many important points of reflection:

The word Quran uses for soul is “Nafs”, the struggling part of ourself. The part that struggles to be better and yearns to actualize. 

In order not to burden us beyond our capacity or capability, He knows what that capacity is. So many times when we are facing challenges, they seem insurmountable and we feel completely overwhelmed and inadequate to deal with them. At times like these, it is important to remind ourselves of this verse. Even if we are unsure of our own potential, He is in His infinite knowledge and wisdom knows what our capacity is.

We need to understand of course, that human capacity is not a static thing. That we grow by stretching ourselves. We experience this in all sorts of ways in the daily course of life in any case. When we go the gym, we do not lift Styrofoam weights that we can swing easily. We lift weights beyond what we think we can lift, thereby stretching our perceived capacity. 

And in hindsight after going through a period of stress or challenge, we may look back with surprise and wonder at our own abilities to handle the situation. We realise that even though we may have thought we would DIE in the challenge, we actually didn’t!

Now, without Divine intervention, given that we prefer a life of comfort and ease [even though this is not ultimately good for us, nor why we are created], human beings would very likely pass away “full of potential”.  His expectation from believers, however, is that they will live on the outer edges of their potential and fully realise and actualize it – not die with it. 

 

And so we are given trials and distresses according to the measure of our ability and resources to actualize this potential. 

 

When we go through and come out on the other side of such bespoke challenges, we are changed forever. There is no going back to “before”. We may have heard of the term “resilience” as the ability to “bounce back” after a set back. Let us deepen our understanding of our options in dealing with challenges. 

Psychologists explain that people can react in three different ways to challenges and setbacks: we can be fragile and break easily. Or we can be resilient and withstand more stress before breaking down (and then bouncing back a little quicker than most). OR… we can be the OPPOSITE of fragile. Which means, the more challenge we face, the STRONGER we get. This is what Nasem Taleb calls being “Antifragile” in his book of the same name. Taleb gives us a great metaphor to bring the point home. Imagine the wind. It’s a strong wind. It is wind that will extinguish a candle. But it is the same strong wind that will fuel a fire and make it stronger. 

In terms of this verse, Allah knows that we have the potential to be that fire and the challenges of life are meant to fuel this fire to bring it to its full blazing potential. 

Our faith in Allah’s knowledge of our ability [beyond our recognition] can give us unshakeable confidence that we have what it takes.

Let us do a little teaching on confidence. 

Etymologically, the word confidence comes from two little Latin words: con and fidere.

The word literally means "with intense trust." This is Intense trust in what? Not that everything will go perfectly. That is unrealistic of course and not in line with what we have been reflecting on. It is intense trust in Allah’s promise that it doesn’t matter what happens because we know we have the resources and the ability to handle these challenges. How do we know this? Because these challenges have shown up in our lives and because He has promised us that He will not place a burden upon us beyond what we are capable of. 

Does this make sense? How will we think, feel and act differently the next time life throws us a curve ball?