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Stop the blame game [7:23]

Loving and Living the Quran

Release Date: 03/11/2025

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Loving and Living the Quran

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When life doesn’t go as planned, our natural instinct is often to look outward—to blame someone or something else for our pain or problems. But what if blame is actually holding us back from healing, growth, and true wellbeing?

In today’s episode, we explore the seductive nature of blame and how it functions as a defense mechanism that protects us from uncomfortable emotions like guilt, shame, or vulnerability. Drawing from the Quran, teachings of the Ahlul Bayt (as), and insights from modern psychology, we uncover how blame traps us in emotional stagnation—while responsibility sets us free.

Through powerful examples like the contrasting responses of Prophet Adam (as) and Shaytan, we discover two radically different mindsets: one that leads to growth and forgiveness, and another that leads to arrogance and destruction.

Tune in to learn:

  • Why blame feels good in the moment—but harms us in the long run
  • The psychology behind projection and self-serving bias
  • What the Quran and Ahlul Bayt (as) teach us about emotional responsibility
  • The difference between reacting like a Prophet vs. reacting like Shaytan
  • Practical reflection questions to move from blame to empowerment

Quranic Reflections:

  • Surah Al-A’raf 7:23 – “Our Lord! We have wronged ourselves…”
  • Surah Al-Anbiya 21:87 – “Surely I am of those who wronged themselves.”
  • Surah Al-Hijr 15:39 – “My Lord, because You have put me in error…”

Hadith Highlights:

  • Imam Ali (as): “The blamer should not blame anyone but himself.”
  • Imam Ali (as): “Beware of making excuses, for they are the companions of failure.” (Ghurar al-Hikam)

Reflection Prompts:

  • What part of this situation might I be avoiding responsibility for?
  • How does blame protect me from feeling uncomfortable emotions?
  • What is one small action I can take today to reclaim my power?

Takeaway:
Blame may offer temporary relief, but it blocks long-term transformation. Choosing responsibility—even in small ways—aligns us with the Prophetic path, brings us closer to Allah, and invites real inner peace.