Episode 14: Inside a Neurosurgeon’s Marriage: Dr. Adrian Harvey on Family, Faith, and Medicine
Release Date: 09/02/2025
Episode 26: Holiday Expectations for Physician Spouses: Ditch the Date, Ditch the Pressure, Keep the Magic
Supporting Physician Spouses
In this episode, Katie and Kendra talk honestly about navigating holidays in medical families—when schedules rarely match the calendar, traditions shift, and expectations don’t go as planned. Listen If You’ve Ever Felt… Sad or frustrated celebrating without your spouse Guilty for not doing “traditional” holidays Tired of explaining your family’s reality Worried your kids are missing out Unsure how to create meaning when nothing feels normal What We Cover The mindset shift that removes holiday pressure Creating flexible, meaningful traditions Splitting...
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Episode 25: Are You Using Gratitude to Avoid Hard Emotions Without Realizing It?
Supporting Physician Spouses
This week, Kendra and Katie unpack a quiet but common struggle among physician spouses: the belief that gratitude and dissatisfaction can’t coexist. We explore: Why so many physician spouses downplay their hard moments The “gratitude as gaslighting” trap How privilege guilt + comparison silence our real needs A simple AND vs BUT framework to spot healthy vs harmful gratitude How to hold emotional complexity without minimizing yourself Four questions to help you take action instead of staying stuck Why acknowledging what’s hard is not selfish—but essential for thriving ...
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Episode 24: The Predictability Problem Series (Part 4) - How Physician Families Build Systems That Bend, Not Break
Supporting Physician Spouses
When the call schedule explodes, the backup plan fails, and everyone’s unraveling — how do you hold it all together? In the final episode of The Predictability Problem Series, Kendra and Katie unpack what it really means to create flexible family systems that bend but don’t break when medicine runs the clock. You’ll learn: Why rigid plans actually increase stress in high-uncertainty seasons The Plan B Framework — Predict, List, Automate, Name — to restore calm when things go sideways How to build “structured flexibility” that keeps the household steady Why Plan B...
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Episode 23: The Predictability Problem Series - From Parallel Lives to Connection (Part 3) How Physician Spouses Can Rebuild Connection When Medicine Feels Unpredictable
Supporting Physician Spouses
Even the calmest, most grounded person can feel off balance when their relationship starts to feel like two people living parallel lives. In Week 3 of The Predictability Problem Series, Katie explores how physician spouses can rebuild calm through connection, even when medicine keeps changing the plan. You’ll hear: A real-life story of emotional safety in action Research from Dr. Tate Shanafelt and Dr. Wayne Sotile on what predicts thriving in physician families How much “meaningful time” couples actually need—and what to do if you can’t get it Why micro rituals of connection...
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Episode 22: The Predictability Problem Series - From Bracing to Anchoring (Part 2) How Physician Partners Can Reclaim Calm Amid Burnout and Uncertainty
Supporting Physician Spouses
When the text comes — “Got pulled into a case. Won’t make it for dinner.” — your whole body reacts. The plan falls apart, and suddenly, you’re bracing again. This week, Kendra walks physician spouses through the science of why unpredictability hits so hard — and a powerful, research-backed framework for reclaiming calm in the middle of it. Drawing from cognitive behavioral therapy and resilience training, she shares the ANCHOR Framework — six practical steps to shift from bracing for chaos to anchoring in calm, even when the schedule changes for the hundredth time. You’ll...
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Episode 21: The Predictability Problem Series - Reclaim What's in Your Control (Part 1) Finding Autonomy in Physician Family Life
Supporting Physician Spouses
If you’ve ever said, “Our calendar is held hostage by the call schedule,” or, “I can’t plan anything until we know the rotation,” this episode is for you. In Part 1 of The Predictability Problem Series, we’re exploring how to reclaim rhythm and calm in a life that’s constantly being reshaped by medicine. We’ll unpack what happens to our nervous systems when life feels unpredictable, the science behind why autonomy matters (thank you, Self-Determination Theory!), and how even tiny “pockets of control” can help restore your sense of balance and peace. You’ll walk away...
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Episode 20: Loss, Healing and Hope - with Special Guest Amy Watson
Supporting Physician Spouses
October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, and in this heartfelt conversation, Kendra and Katie sit down with Amy Watson, a certified life coach who helps women navigate the deep grief that follows miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss. Amy shares her personal story — from losing her daughter Lauren and later her baby River, to transforming that pain into purpose by supporting others walking a similar path. This episode is for everyone — whether you’ve personally experienced loss or want to know how to better support a friend, colleague, or loved one who has. Together, we...
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Episode 19: How to Embrace the Hard and the Hope for Physician Spouses
Supporting Physician Spouses
Life in medicine can feel like one long stretch of “hard.” Between call schedules, solo parenting, and the constant shifting ground of medical life, it’s easy to believe something must be wrong when things feel heavy. But what if “hard” isn’t something to fix—what if it’s something to honor and even grow through? In this heartfelt conversation, Kendra and Katie get real about what it means to embrace both the hard and the hope in the physician spouse journey. This episode will leave you encouraged, grounded, and equipped with simple steps to hold both gratitude and...
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Episode 18: Finding Peace in Turbulent Times: Grounding, Faith & Community for Physician Families
Supporting Physician Spouses
In this heartfelt episode of Supporting Physician Spouses, Kendra and Katie pause to acknowledge the heaviness in our world right now. With tragic shootings, heartbreaking losses, and ongoing uncertainty, many of us feel shaken and weary. Together, we explore what it means to steady ourselves when the world feels unsteady—and how to cultivate peace that is both grounding and real. We walk through six steps that help us (and can help you) navigate turbulent times: Return to the Basics — Sleep, water, nourishment, and movement aren’t luxuries; they are anchors for your nervous system. ...
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Episode 17: Residency, Family, and the Power of Language in Relationships - with Dr. Talon Harris
Supporting Physician Spouses
In this heartfelt episode of Supporting Physician Spouses, Katie and Kendra welcome Katie’s husband, Dr. Talon Harris, a 3rd year FM resident, for a candid conversation about the realities of medical training, marriage, and family life. From childhood crushes to the challenges of residency leadership, the Harris family story shines a light on resilience, faith, and partnership in the physician spouse journey. Together, they explore: The Harris family’s love story — from first grade to marriage and medicine. How setbacks, rejections, and divine interventions shaped Talon’s path to...
info_outlineToday’s episode is something special—we asked you, our listeners, to send in the questions you’ve always wanted answered from the physician’s perspective. The result? A candid, insightful conversation with Dr. Adrian Harvey, neurosurgeon, husband to our co-host Kendra for 21 years, and father of five.
Adrian opens up about his unexpected path into medicine, meeting Kendra in the middle of medical school, and what it’s really like to balance one of the most demanding professions with raising a family. Together, Kendra and Adrian reflect on:
✨ How they grew from “survival mode” in residency to a true partnership
✨ What worked (and what didn’t) when it came to protecting each other during training
✨ The role counseling, mentors, and personal growth played in strengthening their marriage
✨ Practical ways they share the mental load and keep connection alive, even in busy seasons
✨ Why self-care (for physicians and spouses) matters more than ever—and what that looks like in their home
Whether you’re in the thick of medical training, newly adjusting to “post-residency life,” or years into this journey, you’ll find both honesty and hope in this conversation.
Resources & Mentions
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Jennifer Finlayson-Fife & Jody Moore (mentors mentioned by Kendra)
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