What Do Judges Mean When They Say, “Show Me How You’re Fixing It, Not That You’re Sorry”?
Release Date: 09/06/2025
What Do Judges Mean When They Say, “Show Me How You’re Fixing It, Not That You’re Sorry”?
White Collar Advice
We can’t change the past. But if you’re under investigation, you can absolutely influence what happens next. Too many defendants keep their heads down, pay back some money, plead guilty, and think that’s enough. It isn’t. Judges expect more than compliance or boilerplate apologies. I’ve been to sentencing hearings where defendants beg for mercy with the same lines: “I’m sorry. I’ll never do it again. I cooperated.” Judges see through it. They want proof you’re different from the government’s version of events. That means showing—early and often—what you’ve learned,...
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How Can One Page, Written Early, Influence a Judge More Than Any Courtroom Apology?
White Collar Advice
When UBS fired me in 2005, I wasn’t thinking about a government investigation. I was worried about my job, my clients, and how to spin a story. Three months later the FBI knocked, and I lied. Then I went dark for a year, convinced they’d forgotten about me. They hadn’t. During that time, I should have been building a record that countered the government’s version of events. Instead, I left the field wide open, and the government set the tone with their press release. In this episode, I talk about why silence makes you weaker, why judges do read everything, and what former judges have...
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The FBI Showed Up. I Lied to My Lawyers. Then I Waited.
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In this episode, I share what I wish someone had told me when the FBI knocked on my door back in 2005. I didn’t handle it well. I stayed silent, told half-truths, and thought expensive lawyers and keeping busy would protect me. It didn’t. By the time the plea came, the government had already built the case and written the narrative. The DOJ press release branded me a criminal, and I had nothing in my file to counter it. In prison, I met Michael Santos, who pushed me to stop staring at shadows and start creating proof of who I was becoming. That first blog I wrote in 2008 changed...
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Going to Federal Prison? Don’t Issue Clichés—Do This Instead
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Stop Wasting Time—Start Proving You Deserve Leniency A defendant facing sentencing told me, “I wish I knew then what I know now.” But wishing doesn’t move the needle. His probation officer already sees him as “trash.” That perception won’t change with excuses. In the next two weeks, he needs to document growth—something that proves he’s more than a case number. Judges and probation officers don’t reward regret. They respond to action. Start showing—not just saying—what you’ve learned, what you’re doing, and how you’ll rebuild. Join our every Tuesday at 11AM...
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George Santos Fears Prison—My CNN Breakdown on What He’ll Really Face
White Collar Advice
George Santos told Tucker Carlson, "I don’t think I survive this." CNN asked me if that fear was justified. I’ve served time in federal prison, and over the last 15 years, our team has worked with thousands of people getting ready to surrender—people from all backgrounds, including high-profile defendants like Santos. He’s reporting to a minimum-security camp, not a violent facility. But fear isn’t unusual. What’s unusual is how public he’s been about it—and how little he’s done to prepare. In this segment, I break down: – Why fear isn’t the problem—lack of preparation...
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Steal This Idea In Federal Prison
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Share the Progress—Don’t Just Ask for Leniency Judges hear promises at sentencing all the time—but most defendants don’t follow through. One member of our community did. He documented his daily prison routine, reported what he was learning, and shared how he was preparing to live responsibly and repay victims. His consistency paid off: a judge resentenced him to time served under the First Step Act. The takeaway? Don’t wait until you want something. Build a record. Share it. Show it. That’s how you earn trust—and liberty. Join our every Tuesday at 11AM Pacific / 2PM Eastern to...
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I Was George Santos. Delusional. Federal Prison Ended the Charade.
White Collar Advice
Accountability Starts with Ownership—Even for High-Profile Defendants People criticize offering advice to figures like Elizabeth Holmes or George Santos. But real change starts the same way for everyone: by accepting full responsibility. I learned this firsthand in federal prison. Once I stopped deflecting and said, “It’s all my fault—here’s what I’ll do moving forward,” my life began to shift. That mindset—combined with a clear plan and consistent documentation—builds credibility with stakeholders. You won’t win everyone back, but you can earn trust from those who matter....
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The Price I Didn’t Expect to Pay After Federal Prison
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The Real Cost of a Conviction When people think about the biggest consequence of a criminal conviction, they often focus on prison, DOJ press releases, or the guilty plea itself. But as Justin Paperny shares, the deeper cost comes later: isolation. After prison, even success draws skepticism — online hate, accusations, even extortion attempts. Justin’s viral video brought both praise and attacks, but years after prison, he’s learned to feel indifferent. That indifference, though, comes with loneliness few understand. Takeaway: The emotional aftermath of conviction lingers long after...
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STOP Saying Sean Combs Will Get Sentenced To Time Served
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Why Sean Combs Won’t Get Time Served Without Effort Too many assume Sean Combs will get time served, but that’s lazy thinking. As I explained on Law and Crime, federal judges don’t just hand out leniency — they need proof. In Combs’ case, the judge cited his past criminal history when denying release, showing skepticism already. A lawyer’s polished statements won’t cut it. What matters is what Combs is doing himself — in prison — to show personal growth, remorse, and commitment to change. Judges listen when probation officers vouch for real progress, not paid defenses. 👉...
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Someone Yelled at Me for What I Said About Federal Prison
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Summary: Define Success, Then Own It in Prison In federal prison, success doesn’t look the same for everyone. Some people write books or prepare for release; others play pickleball or use an iPhone to stay connected. What matters is that you define your own goals and commit to them, without stalling or blaming others. As Michael Santos and I teach, no one else—not even your spouse—can carry that responsibility for you. A real-world example: I once told a frustrated caller, “I’m not your husband’s parent—he has to decide what progress means.” Want practical guidance on how to...
info_outlineWe can’t change the past. But if you’re under investigation, you can absolutely influence what happens next. Too many defendants keep their heads down, pay back some money, plead guilty, and think that’s enough. It isn’t. Judges expect more than compliance or boilerplate apologies. I’ve been to sentencing hearings where defendants beg for mercy with the same lines: “I’m sorry. I’ll never do it again. I cooperated.” Judges see through it. They want proof you’re different from the government’s version of events. That means showing—early and often—what you’ve learned, what you’re fixing, and how you’re building a new record. Judge Ralph Erickson put it best: “Tell me something your client did when no one was keeping score.” If you don’t start writing your own slate, the government will fill it for you. In this episode, I share what real mitigation looks like and why it starts today.