Episode 23: The Predictability Problem Series - From Parallel Lives to Connection (Part 3) How Physician Spouses Can Rebuild Connection When Medicine Feels Unpredictable
Release Date: 11/04/2025
Episode 35: Fair Play Part 3 - Time Equality, Provider Pressure, and Being a True Partner at Home with Dr. Adrian Harvey
Supporting Physician Spouses
In Part 3 of our Fair Play series, Kendra sits down with her husband, Dr. Adrian Harvey, to talk candidly about what it looks like for a physician husband to move from “helping” to complete ownership at home. They unpack the provider-role pressure, the mindset shift required to truly value time equally, and how shared ownership can deepen connection with both spouse and kids, even in a demanding medical career. In this episode, we discuss: Dr. Adrian’s first reaction to Fair Play, and what changed over time What “peer marriage” looks like in a physician household The provider...
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Episode 34: Fair Play in a Physician Marriage, What’s Actually Realistic
Supporting Physician Spouses
Physician families do not need a “perfect” division of labor, they need a realistic one. In Part 2 of our Fair Play conversation, we move from concepts into application and talk about how to make the Fair Play framework work when medicine does not cooperate with routines, predictability, or a normal workweek. We name the reality that 60, 70, 80-hour weeks are not “flexible hours,” and also the important question that follows: when the physician is home, what happens during those hours? We talk about the difference between needing to decompress (human) and becoming consistently...
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Episode 33: The Mental Load in Physician Families: Fair Play Framework Explained
Supporting Physician Spouses
When one partner is working 60, 70, 80+ hours a week, it is easy to default into, “I’ll just handle everything at home.” On the surface, it looks supportive. Over time, it often turns into resentment, disconnection, and a physician who feels like a guest in their own home, while the at-home partner feels like they can never step away from being the household CEO. In Part 1 of our Fair Play series, we break down the core ideas from Fair Play by Eve Rodsky, and translate the framework into the reality of physician family life. This episode is about the concepts and language you need before...
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Episode 32: Honoring Your Seasons: Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Always Work for Physician Spouses
Supporting Physician Spouses
If you’re married to a physician, the “New Year, new you” pressure can feel extra exhausting, especially when your life is already running on a high-demand schedule. In this episode, Kendra and Katie offer you something better than resolutions: permission to honor your current season and work with your real energy, not an arbitrary calendar date. In this episode, we cover Why January 1 can be a terrible “starting line” (and why nature is resting when we’re told to sprint) The seasons framework, using a farming metaphor: Winter: planning, rest, reflection Spring:...
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Episode 31: End-of-Year Wrap Up for Physician Spouses: Favorite Episodes, Listener Stories, and What’s Coming in 2026
Supporting Physician Spouses
If you’re married to a physician and you’ve been holding a lot this year, this one is for you. Katie and Kendra share highlights from our first year, read reviews from listeners, and tease what’s ahead in 2026, including a Fair Play series and conversations about your family’s ecosystem. As we head into a new year, we’re looking back on the first year of the Supporting Physician Spouses podcast, how it began, what resonated most, and what we’re building next. If you’ve been listening quietly, this is your invitation to step closer. Leave a review, send a DM, or email us with what...
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Episode 30: Do We Even Have Traditions? Holiday Life as a Physician Family
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Episode 29: Balancing Holiday Stress and Rest for Physician Spouses
Supporting Physician Spouses
Today we’re talking about the kind of rest physician spouses actually need during the holidays—especially when the whole world seems to slow down while your home ramps up. If you’re carrying the family load while navigating your spouse’s demanding end-of-year schedule, this episode was made for you. Today we’re talking about… Rest—not the “add another task to your list” kind, but the biological, necessary kind that helps you survive and stay present during an already overwhelming season. In this episode, we talk about: The three types of rest most depleted in physician...
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Episode 28: The Solo Holiday Season: What You & Your Family Really Need From You
Supporting Physician Spouses
In this episode, Katie and Kendra talk honestly about what it’s like to attend holiday events solo as a physician spouse. From classroom parties to winter concerts, this season often highlights the unique pressures physician families face. We normalize the mixed emotions, offer simple ways to reduce the pressure to “perform,” and share strategies to stay connected with your partner and present with your kids—even when you’re the only adult who can be there. ✨ Key Takeaways Your presence matters more than perfection. Kids remember how it felt, not whether two parents were in the...
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Episode 27: Making the Season Lighter: A December Re-frame for Physician Spouses
Supporting Physician Spouses
In this honest solo episode, Katie shares what’s coming up for her as December begins—resistance, overwhelm, perfectionism, small-space stress, seasonal energy dips, and the pressure to “make magic” during the holidays. Instead of powering through it, she slows down and walks through the SEE–SAY–FEEL–DO framework in real time to bring intention, clarity, and compassion into the season. If you’re feeling behind, heavy, stretched thin, or unsure how to make the holidays feel good for you, this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air. Listen In If You’ve Ever Felt: ...
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Episode 26: Holiday Expectations for Physician Spouses: Ditch the Date, Ditch the Pressure, Keep the Magic
Supporting Physician Spouses
In this episode, Katie and Kendra talk honestly about navigating holidays in medical families—when schedules rarely match the calendar, traditions shift, and expectations don’t go as planned. Listen If You’ve Ever Felt… Sad or frustrated celebrating without your spouse Guilty for not doing “traditional” holidays Tired of explaining your family’s reality Worried your kids are missing out Unsure how to create meaning when nothing feels normal What We Cover The mindset shift that removes holiday pressure Creating flexible, meaningful traditions Splitting...
info_outlineEven the calmest, most grounded person can feel off balance when their relationship starts to feel like two people living parallel lives. In Week 3 of The Predictability Problem Series, Katie explores how physician spouses can rebuild calm through connection, even when medicine keeps changing the plan.
You’ll hear:
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A real-life story of emotional safety in action
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Research from Dr. Tate Shanafelt and Dr. Wayne Sotile on what predicts thriving in physician families
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How much “meaningful time” couples actually need—and what to do if you can’t get it
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Why micro rituals of connection (3 minutes, 3 times a day) are the secret to predictability when schedules never stop shifting
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Practical examples you can try this week—no extra time required
Because predictability doesn’t come from your calendar—it comes from knowing you can count on each other.
Links & Resources Mentioned:
🩺 All freebies + Office Hour registration: stan.store/supportingphysicianspouses
💬 Learn about coaching for physician spouses: ItGetsBetterNow.com
Timestamps:
0:00 – Welcome + recap of The Predictability Problem Series
3:40 – The accident story that redefined emotional safety
7:55 – What research says about time, connection, and burnout
11:20 – Why emotional safety = predictability
14:00 – How to create “micro rituals” (3x3 framework)
22:40 – Co-regulation and the biology of connection
26:30 – Weekly challenge: Build your micro rituals
29:15 – Closing + what’s next in the series