50 | 40 Lessons in 40 Years: A Birthday Reflection on Faith, Family, Time & Becoming

Today’s episode is a little different… because it’s my birthday! 🎂

I’m turning 41, and instead of a birthday month (because let’s be real — December already belongs to Christmas), I decided to pause, reflect, and share 40 things I’ve learned in four decades of living, loving, building, breaking, and becoming.

Some of these lessons are deeply personal.
Some are practical.
Some might make you laugh out loud.
And some might stop you in your tracks.

But all of them are real — shaped by motherhood, marriage, faith, leadership, waiting seasons, hustle recovery, obedience, healing, and the slow, sacred work of becoming the woman God is forming.

This episode isn’t a “how-to.” 

It’s a sit-with-me moment.

Whether you’re 25, 35, or standing at the edge of a new decade yourself, my prayer is that this list gives you permission to breathe deeper, reflect honestly, and remember: you’re not behind — you’re becoming.

✨ What We Talk About in This Episode

In no particular order (because life doesn’t work that way), I share lessons like:

• Why margin isn’t laziness — it’s leadership

• How silence reveals what noise keeps hidden

• Why waiting seasons grow the deepest roots

• The truth about hustle, obedience, and delayed peace

• How family rhythms matter more than rigid rules

• Why success has to be defined per season

• The quiet power of consistency over intensity

• What forgiveness is — and what it isn’t

• Why healing yourself is one of the most loving things you can do for your children

• And why God cares more about who you’re becoming than what you’re producing

There are reflections on time stewardship, marriage, parenting, boundaries, identity, faith, and the kind of freedom that doesn’t just change you — but changes the generations after you.

A Turning Point Moment

As much as this episode looks back, it also looks forward.

Stepping into 41 feels like a launchpad, not a finish line.

I share honestly about sensing God’s invitation to confront old patterns, spiritual strongholds, and “enemy camps” that don’t get to come with me — or with my children — into the next generation.

Because legacy isn’t just what we build.

It’s also what we’re brave enough to break.

If you’ve been feeling that nudge too — that gentle (or firm) invitation to end some cycles, face some things, and walk into deeper freedom — this episode is for you.

An Invitation for You

As you listen, I invite you to ask yourself:

• What has life taught me so far?

• What am I still learning?

• What might God be asking me to confront — not in my strength, but with His?

And if you want to walk alongside me as I step into this next year — the real, behind-the-scenes kind of journey — come hang out with me on Instagram @sustainable_foundations.

I’ll be sharing the small moments, the breakthroughs, and the faithful, ordinary steps along the way.

If you want to sprinkle a little birthday cheer my way 🎉
✨ Share the episode
✨ Send me a message
✨ Or tell me which lesson hit you the hardest

I read every message and I’d love to hear from you.

Here’s to another year of growth, grace, healing, and building foundations that actually last.
Thank you for being here. Thanks for celebrating with me. 💛