The Friends You've Outgrown (Nobody Warns You About This)
Release Date: 07/15/2026
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info_outlineYou can love someone and still outgrow the version of yourself that exists around them.
And nobody warns you about this part of changing your life.
We talk about the habits you'll have to change, the risks you'll have to take, the courage it takes to walk away from something familiar.
We don't talk nearly enough about what happens when the people you love are still connected to the person you used to be.
This episode is about friendship, growth, and the strange, sometimes painful experience of realizing that a relationship that once fit your life may not fit the life you're building now.
Because every room has an invisible definition of what's normal.
What you're allowed to want. What feels possible. What seems too ambitious, too risky, too expensive, or simply not like you.
And sometimes, all it takes is getting close to one woman who is already doing the thing you thought was impossible.
She doesn't have to coach you. She doesn't have to give you a ten-step plan.
Sometimes another woman gives you evidence.
In this episode, we're talking about:
- What it actually means to outgrow people
- Why the people you love may still be relating to who you used to be
- How the people around you shape what feels normal and possible
- Why outgrowing a room isn't the same as abandoning the people in it
- Why courage, desire and aliveness is contagious
- Powerful questions to audit the spaces you're spending time in
- Why I created The Society and why it's the antidote to being stuck
- This isn't about deciding your old friends aren't 'good enough' anymore
It's about recognizing that you may need people in your life who have evidence of where you're going, not only memories of where you've been.
And maybe the question isn't simply, 'Who have I outgrown?'
Maybe it's, 'Who do I become when I'm around the people in my life?'
You're invited to The Society's Opening Weekend
From July 24-26, we're gathering for three live experiences:
Happy Hour, Coffee Chat, and Sparkle Party.
Come to one. Come to all three. Opening Weekend is completely free.
Your next chapter may begin with one conversation, one new room, or one woman who makes you realize that the thing you want isn't nearly as impossible as you thought.
Go find her....or maybe, come find us.