Episode 567 - Mood Makers - How Emotional Intelligence Drives Getting To Yes
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This episode delves into the significance of mood and emotional intelligence in persuasion. Kurt emphasizes the importance of creating a positive environment and shares various techniques to boost one's own mood and that of others, such as using genuine compliments, humor, and physical movement. Through anecdotes and scientific studies, Kurt illustrates how a positive mood can enhance receptiveness, creativity, and trust, ultimately increasing the chances of persuasive success.
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Episode 566 - Elicitation – The Art of Fishing For Information
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In this episode, Kurt discusses the concept of elicitation, also known as the art of subtly extracting information without the other person realizing it. This technique is valuable in fields such as sales, negotiation, and leadership, as it helps gather crucial information to address people's needs effectively. Key topics include the importance of emotional intelligence (EQ), which involves understanding and managing both your own and others' emotions, and various elicitation techniques like open-ended questions, active listening, and creating a safe conversational environment. The episode...
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Episode 565 - Resistant Free Selling - Greasing The Squeaky Wheels Of Your Close
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In this episode Kurt discusses strategies for effective and seamless sales closing. He emphasizes the importance of creating a resistant-free environment by focusing on the needs and pains of prospects rather than prioritizing the sales agenda. Kurt introduces the concept of "greasing the squeaky wheels," which entails listening more, personalizing presentations, avoiding pushy sales tactics, and building trust. He provides practical advice, including offering options, providing guarantees, and using legitimate scarcity to ease the decision-making process for prospects. The episode also...
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Episode 564 - Contagious Charisma: Do You Captivate or Cripple with Your Energy?
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In this episode Kurt discusses the significant impact that personal energy has on influencing and motivating others. He explores how positive or negative energy can affect interactions, whether in one-on-one situations or within a group setting. He also shares insights on fostering a positive environment, using examples from personal experiences and research. He provides practical advice on maintaining high energy levels, the importance of body language, the role of optimism, and how to positively influence and connect with others in various settings. The episode also includes a section...
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Episode 563 - Adapting To The New World Of Persuasion And Sales - New Research
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In this episode Kurt explores the evolving landscape of persuasion, sales, and influence. Kurt discusses contemporary trends, crucial sales statistics, and key tactics to adapt to these changes effectively. Topics include the importance of personalizing interactions, the impact of social selling, and the necessity of persistence in sales follow-ups. The episode also addresses imposter syndrome and offers insights into improving sales techniques to stay ahead in a rapidly changing market. Kurt emphasizes the need to adapt or risk falling behind, reinforcing the importance of continuous...
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Episode 562 - Bragging Or Credibility – The Art Of Self Promotion
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In this episode Kurt addresses how to effectively promote oneself without coming across as bragging. Mortensen explores the fine line between building credibility and being perceived as boastful, especially in professional settings like networking events. He provides insights on the importance of having others vouch for you to build credibility, incorporating personal success stories subtly, and focusing on genuine, value-based self-promotion. Additionally, the episode delves into understanding pathological lying and how to spot and handle individuals who habitually lie. The show...
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Episode 561 - The 95% of Persuasion - What’s Your Focus?
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This episode focuses on the concept that up to 95% of persuasion involves subconscious triggers, while most persuaders focus only on the 5% of logical reasoning. Kurt emphasizes the importance of understanding and leveraging these subconscious signals to maximize influence. He discusses various examples and strategies, such as the impact of scent on real estate sales, the role of the amygdala in emotional processing, and how different subconscious triggers can affect decision-making. Additionally, he provides practical tips on how to prime the subconscious mind for desired outcomes and...
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Episode 560 - The Psychology of Yes/No - FITD vs DITF
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In this episode In this episode Kurt delves into the nuanced strategies of persuasion and negotiation, exploring when to seek a "yes," a "no," or even a strategic "yo." He discusses the psychology behind these responses and the importance of asking questions to influence outcomes effectively. Kurt also shares personal anecdotes, including a family trip experience, and reviews scholarly articles on cognitive shortcuts exploited by marketers. The episode concludes with a listener's question about employing these techniques effectively. Deal of the week - FREE Presentation Assessment- Rank Your...
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Episode 559 - How To Turn Fear Into Excitement Into Influence
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This episode discusses how to transform fear into excitement to enhance personal and professional influence. He explores the common fears related to public speaking and decision-making, providing techniques to reframe fear as excitement, such as focusing on the message, visualizing success, and using deep breathing. The episode also features a Persuasion Blunder story illustrating the importance of managing customer perceptions, a scholarly article on performance anxiety, and listener email questions on handling presentation nerves. Additionally, Kurt offers a special opportunity for...
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Episode 558 - The Power of Clickbait, Intrigue And Curiosity In Influence
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In this all-new episode Kurt discusses the psychological appeal and effectiveness of clickbait. He explains how curiosity, FOMO, and emotional triggers drive people to click on intriguing headlines. Kurt also shares tips on using these principles ethically in persuasion, sales, and presentations to engage and influence audiences. The episode covers similarity theory, the importance of building connections, and concludes with an analysis of overconfidence in achieving success, referencing an article from Psychology Today. Additionally, Kurt delves into the Zeigarnik Effect, which emphasizes...
info_outlineEmotional States: Understanding Feelings and Moods
Charismatic people know there is a fine line between logic and emotion. To influence someone you have to have both. Emotion will override logic every time. I am going to assume here (I know I shouldn’t do that) you have the ability to form a logical argument. Emotion is the missing piece for most people that want to become more charismatic. Very few really know how emotional states, feelings, subconscious triggers and moods affect other people and affect (good and bad) your ability to maintain charisma and influence.
Logic tends to be more temporary while emotion will carry your message into the future. Emotion inspires us to take action, but logic justifies those actions. We know it is difficult for most people to distinguish between logic and emotion. We know that is difficult to identify many of the emotions that are felt throughout a day. We know people can’t forecast what emotions they will feel, how long they will feel it and how strong the emotion will be. Most people just sense if you or your message makes them feel good or feel bad. Your goal is to change or maintain their emotional state or mood.
These are the emotions that will detract from your charisma and decrease your ability to influence.
Anger
Anger is a sign that something is out of line. Anger is also known as a secondary emotion. What they are angry about and really angry about are usually two different things. You can help decrease a person’s anger by finding out the main reason they are upset. It is also useful to ask for their help, opinions, or advice. This will usually diffuse their anger or even help change their demeanor. Sometimes the person doing the influencing may want to use anger to make a certain point or to evoke a certain reaction.
Worry
When someone is worried or preoccupied with something occurring now or could happen in the future, your ability to change their mood or influence them declines. Worry could cause you to feel nervous, uneasy or anxious. Worry can be referred to as a negative vision of the future. Help them by bringing them back to reality. Worry will subside when you can substitute their negative images with positive ones. Another way worry decline is when you help them make a decision. Worry decreases with decisions.
Fear
Fear is anxiety or tension caused by danger or apprehension. The possibility of harm can be real, but it is usually an overactive imagination. Fear motivates us and moves us away from perceived unpleasant circumstances or certain danger. Logic rarely reduces fear. The key to understanding fear is to realize that is has been learned from a past experience. Remember that fear is very real to them. Make sure when they are in fear that you can provide a solution for them. Then your job as a great influencer is to help them feel capable of overcoming this fear.