Episode 429 - Sex, Worthiness, and the Rules You Inherited - What It Did to Her
Sex for Saints
Have you ever wondered why intimacy can feel so difficult, even when you've done everything "right"? In this episode, I explore how the messages many women received growing up can quietly shape their relationship with their bodies, their desire, and their marriages long after the wedding day. Through the stories of Rosalie and Hazel, we look at how different experiences can lead to similar struggles and why those patterns aren't a sign that you're broken. If you're looking for thoughtful Christian intimacy coaching that blends faith, compassion, and practical understanding, this conversation...
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Episode 428 - Sex, Worthiness, and the Rules You Inherited - The Hundred-Year Story
Sex for Saints
What if the struggles you're experiencing in your marriage started long before you ever said "I do"? In this episode, I kick off a five-part series exploring the history, teachings, and cultural influences that shaped how many Latter-day Saints think about sexuality, desire, and worthiness today. We trace the roots of purity culture, gender roles, and sexual messaging over the last century and examine how those lessons continue to affect marriages, intimacy, and personal identity. Whether you're seeking healing, understanding, or support through christian intimacy coaching, this episode offers...
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Episode 427 – Why Your Spouse Gets Defensive When You're Just Trying to Help
Sex for Saints
What happens when “help” from your spouse starts to feel more like criticism? In this episode, I talk about why even well-intentioned advice can feel like an attack when it isn’t invited first, especially in conversations about sex and intimacy. I walk through how unsolicited feedback triggers defensiveness in our nervous systems, why both higher-desire and lower-desire spouses fall into this pattern, and how asking for consent before sharing can completely change the conversation. We’ll also talk about practical ways to create emotional safety, move from defensiveness to curiosity,...
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Episode 426 - When He Stops Initiating
Sex for Saints
How do you reconnect with your spouse after so much distance that you’re not even sure you want things to go back to the way they were? In this episode, I talk about what often happens when the higher desire partner stops initiating and why that silence can bring both relief and unexpected grief for women. I explore responsive desire, avoidance, emotional safety, and the complicated vulnerability of reaching back toward someone after months or years of disconnection. We also talk about what healthy initiation can actually look like, how to rebuild trust in small ways, and what to do if...
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Episode 425 - Learning to Initiate Again After Rejection
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When the higher desire partner stops initiating after repeated rejection, it sets off a painful cycle that neither spouse knows how to break. In this episode, we walk through why he pulls back, what that silence creates on her side of the bed, and why both partners need to be initiating for a sex life that actually feels good. I explore the nervous system response behind initiation after a long silence, the role of polarity and emotional maturity in marriage, and what it really takes to move toward your spouse when fear tells you to stay hidden. Whether you're the one who has gone quiet or the...
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Episode 424 – Getting Over Rejection: How to Stop Letting "No" Run Your Marriage
Sex for Saints
When sexual rejection builds up in a marriage, it rarely stays contained to the bedroom. It seeps into everything — the emotional atmosphere, the small daily gestures, and eventually the belief that anything will ever change. In this episode, we dig into why rejection hurts as much as it does, how to stop interpreting your wife's "no" as a verdict on your worth, what curiosity can open up that shutting down never will, and what it actually costs you when the hurt never gets processed. We also talk about what your wife experiences when she sees how you react to her no — and why that matters...
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Episode 423 - The Weight Men Carry Into the Bedroom
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What happens when a man spends his whole life believing his desire could hurt someone? In this episode, I will explore how religious and cultural messages about male sexuality can lead men to disconnect from their own desire, constantly monitor themselves during sex, and quietly seek validation from their wives without even realizing it. I’ll talk about how this pattern shows up differently in marriage, why it often creates pressure and disconnection for both spouses, and what actually helps men become more present and connected. I’ll also share how wives can support without taking...
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Episode 422 - Slow Down to Connect: The Science of Sexual Mindfulness with Dr. Chelom Leavitt
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What if the key to a more connected, nourishing sex life is simply slowing down? In this episode of Sex for Saints, I will talk with sex researcher Chelom Leavitt about sexual mindfulness, shame, emotional connection, and why so many women struggle to feel fully present in their sexuality. We will explore how curiosity and non-judgment can transform not only our sexual experiences, but also the way we relate to ourselves, our spouses, and even our faith. We’ll also discuss women’s arousal, emotional safety, vulnerability in marriage, and why slowing down may be one of the most healing...
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Episode 421 - Why Talks About Sex Keep Going Sideways
Sex for Saints
Hard conversations don’t fall apart because of what’s said, but often because of how they start. In this episode, I will show you why “ambush conversations” trigger defensiveness and disconnection, even when you’re trying to fix something important. I will walk you through how to create true consent in conversations by giving context, asking for the right timing, and honoring your spouse’s capacity to engage. I will also share what to do if you’re the one being caught off guard or if your partner keeps avoiding the conversation altogether. When you shift the way you start hard...
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Episode 420 - Redefining Protect and Provide
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What if “protect and provide” isn’t outdated, but just misunderstood? In this episode, I will break down how these ideas have quietly shaped marriages and why the old definitions may be leaving couples disconnected. I will walk you through what it will actually look like for a husband to provide emotional safety, real presence, and the kind of connection that makes desire possible. We’ll also talk about protection in a whole new way, not just physical, but emotional, relational, and even within your sexual relationship. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right but...
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Are you are your children often worried or have anxiety about things to come? In this episode, we talk about a little game I like to play that helps your brain see there is nothing to worry about after all.