Lead with Love: How Dads Shape Strong, Compassionate Young Women
Release Date: 02/02/2026
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The Power of the Everyday Moment
One of the central themes Chad Mitchell brings to the conversation is the importance of the “little things.” As a father and now a grandfather, he reflects that the most meaningful moments with his daughters weren’t grand gestures or planned events, but simple time spent together—talking, listening, and just being present. It’s a reminder for all dads: you don’t have to be perfect or extraordinary for your daughter. What matters most is showing up authentically, creating spaces for laughter, listening, and sharing life’s ups and downs.
Balancing Guidance and Independence
Chad Mitchell is candid about his own journey learning how to guide his daughters while also giving them the independence to grow. He admits he was stricter with his first daughter, loosening up with experience. His key realization? Letting your children choose their own paths—whether in sports, music, or academics—helps them build confidence and resilience. He encourages dads to support their daughters’ unique interests, learn from mistakes (their own and their kids’), and “choose your battles wisely.”
Raising Leaders, Not Just Followers
A recurring lesson from Chad’s book and the episode is that leadership isn’t defined by age, popularity, or formal titles but by influence, kindness, integrity, and everyday choices. Dads play a unique role in helping daughters see themselves as leaders—right now, not just in the future—by labeling them as such and recognizing the ways they impact those around them.
Connection Through Listening and Vulnerability
Perhaps most powerful is the call for empathetic listening. Chad Mitchell believes that being fully present—with eye contact, without distractions—opens the door to trust and deeper connection. Sharing your own struggles and vulnerabilities, as appropriate, helps daughters realize they’re not alone in facing life’s challenges.
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TRANSCRIPT
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]:
Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]:
If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have an opportunity to be able to work on those relationships, those connections that we have with our own daughters, working to help to make them be the strongest that we want them to be, the strongest that they can be. And we do that by learning, by growing, by continuing to look beyond ourselves.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:16]:
And that's why every week, I love being able to have you here and being on this journey with me. Today on the dad and Daughter Connection, we're joined by someone who has dedicated his life to empowering young people to lead, to serve, and to believe that they matter. Chad Mitchell is a educator, a coach, an author, and mentor, and has a new book called Change youe Game. And it in this book, it really reminds us that leadership isn't about age or status or titles. It's about influence, kindness, integrity, and the everyday choices that we make. Chad has spent many years helping young people discover their voice and. And their courage. And today we're going to talk to him about being a dad himself, a father of six, but we're also going to talk to him about being a father of two daughters.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:07]:
But we're going to talk to him about this book, too, and gain a little bit more perspective about his own journey, but also some of the things that he's learned along the way in working with youth in this way. So really excited to have him here. Chad, thanks so much for being here today.
Chad Mitchell [00:02:21]:
Chris, thanks for having me. I'm super excited. The intro just gives me goosebumps. I'm great. I love. I love this subject matter. I love my daughters. I love young women, and it's going to be exciting time.
Chad Mitchell [00:02:32]:
Thanks for having me.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:33]:
Well, I'm really excited to have you here and to chat with you today and having two daughters, I know that your kids range in age from 17 to 35, so every child is a little bit different and your daughters came interspersed between the sons that you have as well. And I guess as you think about your two daughters, what are some of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with your daughters thus far and what made them so special?
Chad Mitchell [00:03:01]:
What are the most meaningful moments with my daughters? You know, it's interesting that I would think they're not if you. In the moment, they were just little things, Chris. They're not. I mean, there's probably a couple things like a daddy daughter dance that I would have taken my girls to when we lived in, in Chicago area, but I think a lot of them are just time together, listening, talking, smiling, and just doing really simple, seemingly mundane things. But as I get older and we have five grandchildren, all of them daughters, and I get to spend time with my daughters, being mothers now, it is the simple things. It's holding a baby, it's, you know, going to the store with them. It's just really just that relationship. And there are so many little things that go into having a good relationship.
Chad Mitchell [00:03:51]:
And I would say just those moments of us together not doing anything fancy or crazy, but just enjoying each other and being each other's company and sharing hard things, sharing sad things, sharing fun times and sharing silly dad jokes which they grown at still. But that's all right. That comes with the territory.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:08]:
It does come with the territory. I'm not good at telling dad jokes. And when I say something that I probably didn't mean to be a dad joke, I do get the groans too. So I completely understand that now. I know both of your daughters are grown and they're adults, but as you think back to them growing up and you think back to the things that you did to help them become the women that they are today, how did you balance guiding your daughters while also giving them the independence to grow into the women that they did become?
Chad Mitchell [00:04:39]:
So I think of Taylor Swift's recent song Eldest Daughter, and I love the phrase that she talks about. Eldest daughter was the first lamb to the slaughter. And so I will, I'll be the first to say, Chris, I'm a much better dad today than I was when our first daughter was born. So I don't know how good a job I did back then, you know, as a first time parent. And you know, you have two daughters and that first one you probably handle differently than you're handling the second one. And I don't mean that in a pejorative way, but you just learn a lot. And so I think I was much better with Chloe second daughter in terms of not trying to protect her from everything and trying to keep her from dealing with hard things. And so one great way to give them independence and let them create their own path is to try what they want to try.
Chad Mitchell [00:05:26]:
And whether that's sports, whether that's acting, whether that's music, whether that's cooking. I mean, giving your kids freedom to do and choose how they want to spend some of their time is a huge thing. And I'm a football guy, and so I wanted my kids to try football, except for my daughters. And that's a whole nother story that Caitlin would love to tell you about how she was the one shot at letting having a football player, and I told her she couldn't because she was a girl. Forgive me, Caitlin, but, you know, the kids didn't gravitate to football, and so we needed to let them do lacrosse and let them do soccer and let them do music. And so I think just giving the kids the ability to choose their own way as early as we can in a safe way, is a huge part of helping them be independent and also learn from mistakes along the way.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:06:13]:
Speaking about mistakes, all of us do make mistakes. We're human. And as our children are born, there is no manual to tell us how to be a dad. And hopefully we've had some good role models along the way, but not every father does. So, as you think back to raising your daughters and having them be coming up through their ages into adulthood, what's a mistake that you know that you did make as a father, and what did you learn from it about fostering either a better positive connection or something else?
Chad Mitchell [00:06:45]:
So I will say that my dad was fairly strict. He was in the army as drill sergeant. And so you talk about role models and mentors, and we have those for good and ill. And my dad taught me a lot of great things. But like every parent, right, There are some things that I observed and saw that were not the best thing to do as a parent. And so I think being strict, as I already mentioned, with my eldest daughter and even with with Chloe, our fourth child, I wish I would not have been so strict. And it's okay to be strict sometimes, but as my wife says, choose your battles wisely. Right? Is it really important to be strict about this thing that doesn't matter at all? Because that was my experience growing up.
Chad Mitchell [00:07:29]:
Probably not. Do we need to be strict about, hey, you do your homework first, and then you go and play, and that's the rule. And sure, there's little exceptions because of unique circumstances, but, you know, the exceptions can't swallow the rule. So I was too strict with my kids. I got better, and I'm even much better today, but it's still a challenge, and I wish I wasn't so strict. And so dad's out there listening, you know, find those. Find those things that don't matter as much and let things go. So we're not constantly harping on or, you know, talking to our kids about little things as opposed to the things that matter most, which is them feeling loved by us and getting a lot of positive feedback from us, as opposed to, hey, did you do this? Why haven't you done that? You missed this spot on the lawn.
Chad Mitchell [00:08:21]:
I mean, very practical things that some you follow up on, but a lot of them I've found out, they're not important enough to degrade the relationship.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:08:29]:
Every one of us as fathers have to balance that. Like you were talking about the support and the challenge as we are working with our daughters, thinking about how you supported your daughters, how did you support your daughters in pursuing their dreams and their passions that they had for themselves?
Chad Mitchell [00:08:50]:
I would show up. Sometimes it was just a supportive parent in the stands or in the audience. Sometimes it was stepping up to be the coach because they didn't have a coach. Sometimes it was, you know, taking off work and going to see them do a presentation at school. I think showing up, Kris, is one of the most important things we can do and make sure you show up in the right role that you have. Because when I'm not a coach, I don't need to show up for my kids at their soccer game and coach them. I'm there to cheer them on. I'm there to be supportive of them and their team.
Chad Mitchell [00:09:23]:
And they have a coach. Let that coach do their job. Chad's not coaching. Chad doesn't need to coach. My kid at soccer, I'm there to cheer and support. So I think showing up and showing up in a way that's going to be supportive and listening and just enjoying the moment and enjoying whatever the result is. If it's a loss, there's an opportunity to learn something from that. Right? If it's a game that doesn't go well, there's an opportunity to learn something from that.
Chad Mitchell [00:09:50]:
And if it's an awesome game and your daughter hustles and maybe doesn't score a basket but plays super hard, oh, that's so much to celebrate, right? Just showing up and giving it great effort, man. There's a lot of success in that little simple recipe right there. So reward that. Be excited about that when that happens, point that out in our daughter's lives. When we see that that can change maybe a bad or a situation that they're not excited about, to see the good in it and see the way that they put forth effort which we can all control and turn it into a positive. Everything can be a positive if we look at it from the right perspective.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:10:28]:
Now I mentioned that you have a new book called Change youe Game and it is a leadership book. It has has a lot of leadership principles within it, but it's more than just that. It, as I looked through it and, and read through parts of it, it's a, it's a guide that really helps young people understand their value, their influence and the power that they have to change the world around them. I love the fact that you use stories and science and use some reflection prompts through with, along with real life examples. And you invited all of us as readers to see that leadership isn't about age or popularity. It's about, as I said at the beginning, integrity, kindness, courage, and the choices that we make every day. So as an author myself, I know how much time, passion, effort goes into putting something out into the world. So I guess before we dive too deep into some questions about the book itself, talk to me about the genesis story of why this book, why this topic, and why you wanted to put it out into the world.
Chad Mitchell [00:11:32]:
So why this book? So it was October 17, 2020 that I started writing this book. I went back once I got it published. It's not available yet. It'll be available in January. But I went back to say how long have I been working on this? When did I actually start? So I went back and looked at my files and it's been five years and it was in Covid I was coaching, I coached spring lacrosse in Washington State, boys high school sport. And so that got cut off right before we had a game. I think the Thursday before we had a game on, on our first game of the season on everything got turned topsy turvy and we up here in Washington State, we did not have a season. So there's a lot of extra time that I had on my hands and a lot of reflection, as I'm sure all of us did or most of us did during the unexpected Covid that shut down many parts of our lives about what matters, what's important to me.
Chad Mitchell [00:12:24]:
And as I saw young people struggling with the reality of COVID and what it did to daily life. I was just trying to figure out a way that I could help beyond just the kids who I have influence over through church, through our neighborhood, through our community. And I felt like I should start writing this book. And so I started writing it, and it really. I don't know that, Chris. I don't know. That's a book I could have written five years ago. As you said, I've been working with you since I was 18.
Chad Mitchell [00:12:53]:
The first time I coached youth sports was when I was still in high school. Someone asked me to help with a soccer team. So I have a lot of the experience, but I think the nuance and the perspective, you know, I've gone through some counseling, some therapy, and I just felt like I was finally at a point where I was comfortable enough with myself and really was trying to do it for the right reason, just to help youth and help us as adults figure out a way to tap the potential that our youth have, that the time was right. And so, yeah, a lot of time, a lot of energy. I asked myself, I'd be curious if you did this when you've written your books, Chris, is anyone going to read this? Is it going to make a difference? Am I wasting my time? Because so much time and a couple points along the way, I felt like this is worth doing. And lo and behold, here we are five years later, and it's coming out into the world, which is super exciting. But I really would love to hear the answer to my question from you, Chris. Did you have imposter syndrome and doubts about whether this was the best use of your time as you slog through what a really hard thing to do in writing a book.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:13:55]:
Imposter syndrome is definitely real, and you will always feel that way. And you'll have your people that you know will always say something nice. If your parents are still around, they're going to say nice things. Your family's going to say nice things. But it comes down to, okay, what are other people saying? People that you don't know. And you have to always just kind of turn a blind eye to naysayers because you're. There are always trolls out there, but there are people that will come out of the woodwork, and inevitably you're going to find that people do really like it and that people will resonate with it. So keep moving forward.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:14:29]:
That's all I can say at this point.
Chad Mitchell [00:14:30]:
Awesome. Thank you. I appreciate the encouragement, and it sounds like we had a very similar experience. But one more question. Doesn't anyone go through Imposter syndrome before they make it. Because at some point, aren't we all imposters?
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:14:43]:
Yes, we always are. You always fake it till you make it and you hear that mantra. But it's very true. And I think a lot of our kids do feel that they have to be perfect, especially kids these days. And that's a challenge right now. I think as parents, we have to work with our daughters to be able to help them to see that they just need to be who they are, they don't have to be perfect and that nobody's expecting them to be perfect in any way.
Chad Mitchell [00:15:10]:
Social media makes that so hard, makes it so hard for our young men and young women to not feel like they have to live up and measure up to the artificiality they see on a constant basis through their phones.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:15:22]:
Well, and so many filters. And seeing the non reality of what life really looks like when you look at people through the lens of an iPhone and through the filter filters that are provided there, it can make anybody look great and make the reality of a person's life look very different than what the reality really is now. You know, your book mentions and emphasizes that young people are not too young to lead and that their influence on peers is far greater than adults often realize. How can dads empower their daughters to see themselves as leaders right now, not someday in the future?
Chad Mitchell [00:15:58]:
Yeah, great question. And so one of the things I talk about in the book is labeling a leader, and I'm not sure exactly why, but calling our daughters leaders as opposed to saying they're leading or they have leadership. But using the noun calling them a leader actually is more effective than labeling it something else. And so one of the things I've done with my kids in my learning journey, Chris, is will tell me how you are a leader today at school. And he may, or Chloe or, you know, it doesn't matter if you're a son or a daughter. And they may say, you know, Chloe may say, well, I don't know that I was dad. I said, well, did you have a discussion with any of your friends? Tell me about that. And you ask questions in the appropriate setting.
Chad Mitchell [00:16:44]:
Right. Depending on your age of your daughter, she may not be interested in having that discussion with you. My experience is daughters are more open to having these discussions than a certain age of boys are. But I think you can point out little things to them that they don't think of as being a leader and label that a leader and talk to them about them being a leader and help them connect that, yes, this Little thing I do, saying hi to my friend in the hallway and asking them what they're excited about and then actually listening to their answer and remembering their answer. That's a great leader, right? That's connection with their peer. That's helping somebody else feel seen and cared about and respected. And it's so our kids don't think about it that way generally. And so our role as dads is point that out to our daughters and help them explore that and see that and how that can have such a positive impact on their peers.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:17:40]:
One of the other things that I really liked in the book was throughout the book, you draw a line between integrity and inner peace. When, as you said, our shoes fit our feet, life feels right. How can dads help their daughters choose integrity, especially when fitting in or pleasing others, feels easier?
Chad Mitchell [00:18:00]:
I think the foundation that we need to try and give our daughters, Chris, is what I do in the book is explore principles. Right? If we have a foundation of principles that we try and use to guide our lives, then it's going to be easier for our kids to understand why it's important to be consistent with our principles. I mean, what principles are there? On just a random day on social media, there are no principles. Or if there are principles, the overarching principles are throw shade at other people. Look at me, I'm so cool. I have all these material things. And it's so easy to get caught up in as we talk about in the book. But when we have principles that help govern our lives, such as I care about other people more than I care about material things, as a dad, I tell my daughters I love them and I love them more than anything else in the world.
Chad Mitchell [00:18:53]:
Right? And if they know that love is one of the principles that I care about and I show that to them, guess what they're going to care about? They're going to care about love. And that's going to be an aspect of a principle, that they determine how it fits into their world. And so when we teach them principles about love, doing the right thing, even when it's hard, being kind to others, being honest with others and yourself, it's those principles rising to the surface in difficult situations. They're going to help them make the right choice. And when they don't make a right choice, we should have taught our daughters about making mistakes is part of the process, Right? Some of the greatest growth I've had is mistakes. Do my kids know that? Do my daughters know that? Absolutely. And I think that helps with. That's got to Be one of the principles is mistakes are a part of life.
Chad Mitchell [00:19:42]:
We're going to make them. The real question is, what do we do when we make them? It's not are we going to make them? It's how do we react when we make a mistake? And so that's a great question, Kris. I don't know that I did your question justice with my answer, but that's what I got right now.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:19:55]:
A number of your stories that you share talk about those that are Natural Helpers and Hope Squad, and you talk about that in your book. And it also relates to moments where young people saved lives simply by being trusted peers. What do you believe that dads can do to help their daughters become this type of friend that others feel safe talking to?
Chad Mitchell [00:20:16]:
The most important thing that a dad may be able to instill in his daughter's, his daughter or daughters, I think is empathetic listening. And I talk about that in the book, Chris. And what I mean by that is whole self listening. You know, if someone is sharing with me a problem, so think about this as having a discussion with your daughter or she trying to have a discussion with you. The, the optimal way to do that is to put your phone away, is to sit and look at the person. It's to not be distracted by other things. It's actually not to think about what am I going to say in response to what Caitlin and Chloe are telling me. It's I need to listen to what Caitlin and Chloe are telling me.
Chad Mitchell [00:20:56]:
I need to give them eye contact. I need to give them positive feedback that yes, I hear you. Keep going, keep telling me more. And it's through that listening that we're actually going to figure out things that we won't know unless we can have that empathetic listening and the discipline to be in the moment, to care more about what that person is saying than what we feel or what we want to do. And that is life changing. And you're right, Chris, in the story we talk about, you know, Hope Squad, they have had great success in reducing the number of suicides in the schools that they're at by helping our young people understand how important it is for these trusted peers to listen to their peers and then to be trained so that if someone is showing suicide ideation, they know what to do. And so I think listening and being in the moment and mirroring and practicing that with our daughters. And I don't mean practicing it in a way that is artificial, but I mean, dads step up, figure out how to do this because Anyone can do it.
Chad Mitchell [00:22:02]:
Step up how to listen effectively to our daughters. And, you know, if you're doing it already, great, fabulous. If you're not, watch that relationship improve immensely.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:11]:
You have a lot of examples in the book also, such as Malala, Martin Luther King Jr. Huck Finn, people that were struggling or wrestling with courage, convictions, and choosing purpose over fear. How can dads invite their daughters into conversations about purpose, values, and doing the right thing, even when it might be hard?
Chad Mitchell [00:22:35]:
Being a dad is hard. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done. And so we signed up for hard things when we decided to be a dad. Right, Chris? I think being appropriately vulnerable with our daughters is a good thing. When we struggle with things, I think it's appropriate and good to share that with our daughters so that they understand that dad is just not this guy who bites down on his mouthpiece, grits his teeth and does things that are hard without feeling that they're hard. You know, he's just built that way. No, our daughters need to understand we struggle with those things. And sometimes we make mistakes, and sometimes we're scared, and sometimes we don't know what to do because guess what? They're having all those same experiences.
Chad Mitchell [00:23:17]:
But so often kids look at adults and they don't understand the struggles that adults are going through. And so I think as dads, really connecting our appropriate experience that are hard for us, that are challenging for us, where we make mistakes that are appropriate to share with our daughters based on their age, based on their circumstances, based on what we're going through, I think that's a great way for our kids to see the reality of what it means to live a life. It's hard. There'll be challenges, we'll make mistakes, but hey, dad can do it. He's not as funny as he thinks he is, and he can do it. I can do it, too. And I'm going to take confidence and examples from my dad, both his positive things and his negative things and the times he screwed up and use those to get through life when I do those same things.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:24:00]:
Now, Chad, we always finish our interviews with what I like to call our dad Connection six, where I ask you six more questions, they delve a little bit deeper into you as a dad. Are you ready? You bet.
Chad Mitchell [00:24:09]:
Let's do it.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:24:10]:
What's one word that describes your relationship with your daughters?
Chad Mitchell [00:24:14]:
Love.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:24:14]:
What's the best piece of dad advice that you've ever received?
Chad Mitchell [00:24:18]:
I don't know who to attribute this to, but it's dads Love your mother. Let your daughter see how you love their mother. Because we want our girls to choose that type of relationship for their spouses. And I know some of our listeners probably divorced. I haven't had that experience. I'm. I'm sensitive to it. And I would say, again, not having had that experience, if you can still love your wife at some level, your ex wife, I mean, that's going to help everyone in that relationship.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:24:47]:
What's one activity that you and your daughters love doing together?
Chad Mitchell [00:24:50]:
Going for walks, especially walks on the. On the Oregon coast. One of my favorite things. I love it. Hikes. Well, I love going hiking with the girls. I'm not sure they always like to go on the hikes, but we always had a good time, the way I remember it, at least.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:25:02]:
Chris, if you could give your daughters one life lesson in a single sentence, what would it be?
Chad Mitchell [00:25:08]:
Follow Jesus Christ.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:25:09]:
What's one thing you've learned about yourself since becoming a dad?
Chad Mitchell [00:25:14]:
I got a lot to work on.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:25:15]:
And finally, what advice would you give to other dads who want to build a lasting and meaningful relationship with their daughters?
Chad Mitchell [00:25:22]:
Be authentic. Don't hide the hard parts of life from your daughters. You know, as appropriate, invite them into that. Let them see that there are things that you're great at, but there are also things that you struggle with, things that you're unsure about, because they're going to have all those experiences. And I think you equip them better to deal with them if you can have those discussions about your experiences when you're a father and their experiences as they go through teenagehood, which we know is a huge challenge.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:25:50]:
Well, Chad, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for being here today and for sharing everything that you've shared. If people want to find out more about you or the book, where should they go?
Chad Mitchell [00:25:57]:
Well, I appreciate you having me on, Chris. This has been really fun. You ask really good questions. So hopefully these help the dads. If you want to find more out about me or my book, you can go to my website, jchadmitchell.com and the book will be available in January. And it's change your game. Empowering young leaders to ditch doubt, find their voice, and impact the world.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:21]:
Well, that wraps up today's conversation with Chad Mitchell and what a powerful reminder it was that our daughters matter. Their voices matter, their choices matter, and their leadership matters. As dads, we have the privilege of walking alongside them as they discover who they are and the impact they can have. Thank you for being a part of this community of fathers committed to raising strong, confident, compassionate young women. And if this episode encouraged you in any way, share it with another dad. We'll see you next week on the dad and Daughter Connection.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:57]:
Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:27:07]:
If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started. Because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting.