Fierce Conversations with Toby
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"Don't ever give up. Don't ever, ever, ever, give up.
I could not see a life this beautiful when I was dealing with the legal process or even when I was a young single mother... whatever hardship you may be going through, it holds the seeds to the beautiful future, to the best version of yourself."
- Portia Louder, author of the memoir “Living Louder”, trauma and addiction mentor, public speaker, and today’s guest on Fierce Conversations with Toby.
Some of our fierce topics today:
[00:00] - Introduction to the podcast episode and guest, Portia Louder.
[00:59] - Discussion about Portia's favorite color and what it tells about her.
[1:58] - Crossroads in Portia's life that pushed her in a different direction: Portia's decision to change her life in prison and the empowerment she gained.
[03:47] - Avoiding pain and facing it, the importance of self-awareness and reflection.
[4:04] - Using time in prison productively and valuing personal growth.
[7:48] - The cost of keeping secrets and the power of openly admitting mistakes.
[11:32] - Portia's work in helping incarcerated women and writing content for prisons.
[14:56] - Moving past denial and embracing personal growth and change.
[17:31] Helping incarcerated individuals find their power and move past victimhood.
[19:56] - Evaluating life after prison and finding fulfillment in personal growth and experiences.
[22:54] - Discussing self-discovery and embracing one's true self.
[25:00] - Understanding self-forgiveness as a journey.
[26:02] - Examining the impact of mistakes on others and allowing them to express their pain.
[27:08] - Highlighting the sisterhood and camaraderie experienced in women's prison.
[30:54] - Addressing the challenges of reintegrating into society after prison.
[33:24] - Encouraging resilience and embracing the potential for a better future.
[34:27] Outro.
About Portia Louder:
Portia Louder photographed weddings for a while until an opportunity to flip real estate caught her attention. But then she somewhat naively committed mortgage fraud in 2011. Indicted, Portia spent four and a half years in federal prison. Today, she speaks openly about her mistakes and what it took to move past them. Portia gained a new perspective and currently teaches empowerment skills to at-risk youth, mentors women struggling with trauma and addiction, and writes and speaks about her experiences publicly. What a perfect trainwreck to discuss fiercely!
Portia’s memoir, Living Louder, A Compassionate Journey Through Federal Prison, is an account of compassion, faith and enduring friendships discovered in federal prison.
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