EP 66: How To Make & Maintain Friendships During A Breakup [W/Jewel Hohman - Guest Series]
Release Date: 12/03/2024
EP 78: How to avoid rebounding after a breakup
Breakups and Breakthroughs
00:00 intro 00:30 How we fall into rebounds 4:00 Sleeping with/Dating other people won’t get you over your ex 05:00 Our brains get addicted to love 06:50 Signs you’re at risk of a rebound 07:00 You haven’t processed the breakup 07:30 You aren’t comfortable being alone or look to others for validation 08:00 Signs you’re in a rebound08:10 Comparing them to your ex08:30 Avoiding commitment 09:00 Committing too quickly 10:00 How to avoid rebounds 10:15 Get clear on what you want for yourself & in your next relationship 11:20 Take time to process the breakup 11:45 are you moving away...
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EP 77: How Long Should You Wait To Start Dating Again? Signs You're Ready (Or Not!)
Breakups and Breakthroughs
00:00 Intro 01:40 How long should you wait to start dating again? 03:50 Intuition vs. guilt/shame - How do you feel about your own timeline? 05:20 Somtimes you meet someone and the timing isn't perfect... 06:38 The amount of time it takes you to be ready to date again depends on this 07:25 Its more useful to look for signs that you're ready to date again than at the timeline 08:00 Not thinking about your ex and a shift in how you think about your ex 09:30 Thoughts about your ex don't grip you anymore 10:20 Less emotion attached to the thought of your ex 12:00 You WANT to date again...
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EP 76: How to stop intrusive thoughts about your ex
Breakups and Breakthroughs
00:00 Intro 01:40 You think about a lot of things in your day 02:00 You don't have to hold thoughts so heavily 02:20 Thinking about your ex was a part of your routine 03:30 You don't have to act off of your thoughts 05:00 Where are you feeding the habit? 06:00 Redirecting your thoughts 07:40 Preventing intrusive thoughts 08:00 Noticing triggers 09:15 Intrusive thoughts often stem from heightened stress 10:45 Sometimes we resist the things that are good for us 11:45 Look after your human 13:30 One day you'll notice you didn't think about your ex 14:00 Get intentional with processing...
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EP 75: Hoping You And Your Ex Will Get Back Together?
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:40 What hoping you and your ex will get back together looks like 01:45 Is it normal to hold out hope? 03:00 Feeling guilty for holding out hope 03:30 Holding out hope doesn't have to mean anything 04:20 You're holding out hope because you still love or care for them 06:00 Noticing the story you are telling yourself and shifting it 06:30 Creating space between you and your ex 07:30 Reconciling who they were vs. who you thought they were or who you wanted them to be 10:50 Allowing yourself to grieve the loss 11:45 Grieving helps you to find closure 12:25 Where...
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EP 74: How To Forget Your Ex
Breakups and Breakthroughs
How to forget about your ex and stop thinking about them all of the time so that you can start healing and moving forward. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:55 Invest in yourself and your life 03:30 Life wheel 04:30 Getting yourself into a flow state 08:30 Don't beat yourself up when you do think about your ex 9:50 Recap of everything we talked about Podcast Host: Lucy Price Links Join The Heartbreak to Happiness Masterclass Get the "Feel Your Feelings Guide" Interested in working with me one-on-one? If you are interested in getting private coaching from me then the next step is...
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EP 73: Why You Still Miss Your Ex
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Some reasons why you may miss your ex (even months or years after the breakup.) Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:30 Missing your ex is part of moving forward 02:55 The comfort of familiarity 03:50 Emotional Attachment 05:30 Loss of the future you planned with them or loss of identity 06:15 Missing the routine or lifestyle you had 08:00 Romanticizing the relationship or the good you had 09:00 Separting what you miss about your ex vs things you miss in general 10:00 Desire for external validation Podcast Host: Lucy Price Links Join The Heartbreak to Happiness Masterclass Get the...
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EP 72: What To Do When You See Your Ex Move On First
Breakups and Breakthroughs
In this episode we are going over practical things you can do when you see your ex move on first. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:30 Seeing your ex move on before you 01:40 Society's narrative around "winning the breakup" 03:30 Resist the temptation to dig deeper 06:00 You don't actually know what's going on with your ex 06:50 What are you making your ex moving on first mean? 08:00 Challenge the stories you are telling yourself 09:30 Working with your brain and treating yourself with compassion 11:00 A personal story where my ex moved on first16:00 Use it as an affirmation that you can move...
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EP 71: How To Stop Obsessing Over An Ex
Breakups and Breakthroughs
In this episode: Practical ways to stop obsessing over your ex Why we get stuck in thinking about our exes Mini mindset shifts that will make the process of moving on from your ex easier Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:30 Free Masterclass - Heartbreak to Happiness 01:00 Can't stop thinking about your ex 01:30 Thinking about your ex after a breakup is expected 02:20 Being in the habit of thinking about your ex 04:45 Minimize or eliminate triggers that cause you to think about your ex 07:50 Get curious about your thoughts, what is the story you are telling yourself? 10:15 Get off of autopilot 13:30...
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EP 70: How to Stop Romanticizing Your Ex and Start Romanticizing Your Life
Breakups and Breakthroughs
In this episode: Why we idealize past relationships, especially after a breakup. The impact of selective memory and how it keeps you stuck. Practical steps to shift focus from the ex to building a fulfilling life. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:30 My own experience with romanticizing an ex 03:00 What we're covering in this episode 04:00 What is romanticization 05:00 Why we romanticize exes 05:27 Protecting the idea of the relationship and what it could of been 06:05 Hormonal changes 08:10 Getting nostalgic about your ex 09:00 Getting different perspectives from people you...
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EP 69: How Your Attachment Style Shapes Relationships, Breakups, and Dating [W/Jessica Da Silva - Guest Series]
Breakups and Breakthroughs
In this episode we cover: How to navigate a breakup based on your attachment style. What to do when old patterns come up in new relationships. How to know when you’re ready to date again. How knowing your attachment style helps you navigate your breakup. How to use your attachment style to your advantage in future relationships. 01:34 what advice would you give each of the attachment styles to get through a breakup? 02:30 Anxious attachment 03:00 Avoidant attachment 03: 26 Disorganized attachment 04:00 Attachment patterns coming up as you get back out into the dating world 07:00 How to...
info_outlineIn this episode I am joined by Jewel Hohman and we are diving into how to make and maintain friendships when you are going through the emotional ups and downs of a breakup.
- How to build relationships when you are struggling emotionally with a breakup.
- Practical ways to cultivate friendship after a breakup.
- How to know when a friendship is worth investing more into or whether it would be better for you to walk away.
- How society and social media are isolating us and the effect that has on ourselves and our relationships.
Time Stamps:
00:00 intro
02:00 How to make friends when you’re struggling emotionally
04:50 Avoiding other people when you’re going through a hard time
07:30 Numbing out emotions through tech
09:30 You don’t have to show up perfectly
12:30 How we’re undermining the value of friendship
14:50 Were not meant to be alone
16:00 What can I do to connect today?
17:00 What you can do to make friends when it feels intimidating and hard
17:40 You are offering someone a gift
19:50 What you can do if you’re not feeling a lot of confidence right now
23:00 The importance of going to a consistent meet up
25:00 Creating a life counsel
28:00 How to decide what relationships to invest in and what relationships to let go of
32:00 Diversifying investments in friendship
35:00 Where you can connect with Jewel
37:00 Outro
Podcast Host: Lucy Price
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About: Jewel Hohman is a future therapist, an overly certified coach, and a human-connection obsessed, imperfect human. With a degree in psychology and sociology, a pending master’s, and over 4000 hours coaching on connection, Jewel combines Evidence-Based Self Help and the latest connection research to help people feel delightfully authentic in social settings and make their friendships more meaningful. In a post-pandemic world where millions are lonelier and more disconnected than ever, this conversation is urgent but mostly ignored, and Jewel is on a mission to change that!
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