EP 67: Getting Back Into Dating After A Breakup [W/Ilana Dunn Soloman - Guest Series]
Release Date: 12/10/2024
EP 93: Boundaries On Social Media Post Breakup
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 02:10 How you engage in social media will either help you heal or hold you back 02:43 Why it’s important to have boundaries around social media 06:25 The algorithm can push your ex’s posts to the top of your feed 07:15 People can screenshot your posts 08:25 Get curious of your own motives 09:25 Assume the person you don’t want to see it will see it 10:25 Control the controllable 11:58 What is the best thing for you? 14:05 Unfollow & leave groups of people who don’t uplift you and help you heal 15:37 The temptation to stalk your ex 17:25 You don’t know what...
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EP 92: How To Make Friends And Rebuild Your Social Network After A Breakup
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:40 Practical steps you can take to rebuild your friendships after a breakup 02:25 Why it’s easier to make friends as a kid 04:35 Lesson 1: Make friends outside of your partners 06:25 Lesson 2: When people show you who they are, listen 09:17 Lean into friendships you already have 12:30 Evaluate your availability, values, and interests 14:17 Find something consistent that gets you around other people with similar interests or values 17:19 Remember things about the people you meet 19:39 Get their contact info 20:38 Low bids for connection 22:33 Invite them to things...
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EP 91: 5 Things To Do When You’re Feeling Rejected
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:03 5 steps you can take to deal with rejection 01:25 How rejection impacted me 04:05 Could you be rejecting yourself right now? 05:22 No one can make you feel inferior without your consent 07:29 Look at the facts, not the feelings 10:10 Place yourself in the other person's perspective 13:12 Where is this rejection a redirection? 15:55 Give yourself credit 18:25 Outro Links: Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here ⬇️ The Breakup Glow-Up Four Week Group Program Learn more about me and my work ⬇️ Website: Email me...
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EP 90: Your Past Doesn't Dictate Your Future- So Don't Let It
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 04:15 Get curious about what you’ve normalized and where things could be a different way 06:21 Your brain is trying to protect you by keeping you in situations you know 08:40 Confirmation bias 09:10 We all have an algorithm 11:10 You have to consciously challenge your thoughts and beliefs 13:15 Scan for evidence that things can be different 14:23 Gather data on where things could be different 15:35 Don’t get too caught up in the details 16:43 Visualization 19:25 Remove I don’t know from your vocabulary 22:52 Practice thinking new thoughts and taking new...
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EP 89: How To Stop Feeling Controlled By Anxiety
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:40 How anxiety affected me 05:00 My turning point 06:50 Why do we get anxious? 09:14 2 Main takeaways from why we get anxious 10:10 Your brain isn’t trying to hurt you or make you feel bad 11:45 How our language shapes our anxiety 13:15 the emotional we describe something the more we feel its true 13:35 Label your emotions to start defusing them 15:15 Regulate your emotions 16:16 Challenging your thoughts 18:02 Changes that come from doing this 19:00 The changes this work made in my life 22:00 Opportunities to work together 22:14 Links in the show notes! Links:...
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EP 88: Is It Ever Okay To Lie?
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:20 What is lying? 03:10 Lying by omission 05:30 But what about white lies? 07:40 Lying is a slippy slope 08:00 We are all capable of lying 11:00 How lying hurts us 12:27 Why we lie 19:03 Where do you draw the line in lying? 25:18 How to not get lied to 27:00 Emotional regulation technique 29:00 Working through conflict 30:26 How to bounce back from lying Links: Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here ⬇️ The Breakup Glow-Up Four Week Group Program Learn more about me and my work ⬇️ Website: Email me your...
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EP 87: Why Healing Isn’t Linear—and What to Do When It Feels Like You’re Going Backwards
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:54 What to do when you feel like you’re backsliding in your healing journey 03:12 Why healing isn’t linear 06:16 Cyclical processing 09:09 Focus on growth and what you have achieved 10:36 Anchor into one or two practices 12:40 Final thoughts 16:00 Outro Links: Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here ⬇️ Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on method (the direct steps you can take to get over your ex and move forward). Workbook included. Get the workshop here ⬇️ Learn more about...
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EP 86: How to anchor into a new identity
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:24 Identity change is uncomfortable 02:24 What inspired this episode - My story 07:59 What beliefs do you hold around the identity shift 09:24 Challenge your beliefs with compassion 10:38 Find acceptance in it being uncomfortable 12:54 You contain multitudes 14:23 Practice your new identity 15:49 You have to break the habit of being yourself 19:39 Your identity is meant to evolve over time 20:38 Final thoughts Links: Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here ⬇️ Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on...
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EP 85: When to Walk Away - 8 Signs it's over
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 03:37 #1 You feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells06:01 #2 You are having the same conflicts over and over09:17 #3 Not feeling like yourself anymore 14:24 #4 You try to avoid them 15:11 #5 More things you dislike about them than you like about them 16:15 #6 You want to, but you’re avoiding it or looking for a good enough reason 20:50 #7 You don’t have the same vision for the future 21:50 #8 You feel alone even when you’re with them 22:24 Final thoughts Links: Get the "Feel Your Feelings Guide" Interested in working with me one-on-one? If...
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EP 84: Love Bombing Vs. Real Love: 3 Ways To Tell The Difference
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Time Stamps: 00:00 Intro 02:53 Does the love & affection match the pace of the relationship? 04:05 What does love bombing feel & look like? 05:25 If your friend was in this situation, what would you think? 06:25 Love bombing is hot & cold, real love is steady 09:55 Love can stand the test of time and stress 12:55 Final Thoughts 14:45 Outro Links: Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here ⬇️ Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on method (the direct steps you can take to get over your ex and move forward). Workbook...
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00:00 Intro
00:30 Meet out guest- Ilana Dunn Soloman!
1:15 How do you know when you're ready to start dating again?
03:00 It's okay to try it out and see how you feel
4:00 Everyone's journey is different
5:45 What do you do when your friends and family are pressuring you to date again?
7:00 As a friend, what can you can do to help your friend through a breakup?
08:15 Common dating mistakes when you start dating after a breakup
08:30 You're actually in a great position
09:45 Getting attached to first dates
10:15 It's okay to slow down and let yourself enjoy the dating process
11:30 Enjoy the new relationship energy
12:00 What do you do when you feel overwhelmed with dating?
12:15 Focus on the facts
13:50 Human's love to make stories
14:50 If the story you're telling yourself doesn't feel good-tell yourself a different story
15:15 How we feed into overwhelm
16:35 The people we love have their own stories too
17:15 The power of discernment
18:00 Trust your gut
18:15 What to do when you're afraid of getting hurt again?
19:45 They want you to be the right person for them
20:45 The power of vulnerability
21:20 What do you do if you're afraid of getting rejected?
21:30 Rejection is redirection
21:45 Rejection isn't about you
22:50 It's not about you
23:20 "I'm looking for a guy in finance"
25:00 In hindisight you may be glad it didn't work out
25:15 You deserve to be with someone who wants to be you
26:15 What are some green flags when you are dating?
29:30 Can you talk about things? Can you navigate life's challenges as partners?
30:00 The beginning should be easy
30:45 Someone being hard to get doesn't make them more desirable
31:15 Can I be myself with this person?
32:00 Do you feel like you have to adjust yourself?
32:30 Where to find Ilana!
33:10 Outro
Podcast Host: Lucy Price
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About our guest:
Seeing Other People Podcast: Seeing Other People - Transforming Heartbreak Into Personal Growth
IG: @Ilana.dunn
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