EP 69: How Your Attachment Style Shapes Relationships, Breakups, and Dating [W/Jessica Da Silva - Guest Series]
Release Date: 01/07/2025
EP 93: Boundaries On Social Media Post Breakup
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 02:10 How you engage in social media will either help you heal or hold you back 02:43 Why it’s important to have boundaries around social media 06:25 The algorithm can push your ex’s posts to the top of your feed 07:15 People can screenshot your posts 08:25 Get curious of your own motives 09:25 Assume the person you don’t want to see it will see it 10:25 Control the controllable 11:58 What is the best thing for you? 14:05 Unfollow & leave groups of people who don’t uplift you and help you heal 15:37 The temptation to stalk your ex 17:25 You don’t know what...
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EP 92: How To Make Friends And Rebuild Your Social Network After A Breakup
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:40 Practical steps you can take to rebuild your friendships after a breakup 02:25 Why it’s easier to make friends as a kid 04:35 Lesson 1: Make friends outside of your partners 06:25 Lesson 2: When people show you who they are, listen 09:17 Lean into friendships you already have 12:30 Evaluate your availability, values, and interests 14:17 Find something consistent that gets you around other people with similar interests or values 17:19 Remember things about the people you meet 19:39 Get their contact info 20:38 Low bids for connection 22:33 Invite them to things...
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EP 91: 5 Things To Do When You’re Feeling Rejected
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:03 5 steps you can take to deal with rejection 01:25 How rejection impacted me 04:05 Could you be rejecting yourself right now? 05:22 No one can make you feel inferior without your consent 07:29 Look at the facts, not the feelings 10:10 Place yourself in the other person's perspective 13:12 Where is this rejection a redirection? 15:55 Give yourself credit 18:25 Outro Links: Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here ⬇️ The Breakup Glow-Up Four Week Group Program Learn more about me and my work ⬇️ Website: Email me...
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EP 90: Your Past Doesn't Dictate Your Future- So Don't Let It
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 04:15 Get curious about what you’ve normalized and where things could be a different way 06:21 Your brain is trying to protect you by keeping you in situations you know 08:40 Confirmation bias 09:10 We all have an algorithm 11:10 You have to consciously challenge your thoughts and beliefs 13:15 Scan for evidence that things can be different 14:23 Gather data on where things could be different 15:35 Don’t get too caught up in the details 16:43 Visualization 19:25 Remove I don’t know from your vocabulary 22:52 Practice thinking new thoughts and taking new...
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EP 89: How To Stop Feeling Controlled By Anxiety
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:40 How anxiety affected me 05:00 My turning point 06:50 Why do we get anxious? 09:14 2 Main takeaways from why we get anxious 10:10 Your brain isn’t trying to hurt you or make you feel bad 11:45 How our language shapes our anxiety 13:15 the emotional we describe something the more we feel its true 13:35 Label your emotions to start defusing them 15:15 Regulate your emotions 16:16 Challenging your thoughts 18:02 Changes that come from doing this 19:00 The changes this work made in my life 22:00 Opportunities to work together 22:14 Links in the show notes! Links:...
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EP 88: Is It Ever Okay To Lie?
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:20 What is lying? 03:10 Lying by omission 05:30 But what about white lies? 07:40 Lying is a slippy slope 08:00 We are all capable of lying 11:00 How lying hurts us 12:27 Why we lie 19:03 Where do you draw the line in lying? 25:18 How to not get lied to 27:00 Emotional regulation technique 29:00 Working through conflict 30:26 How to bounce back from lying Links: Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here ⬇️ The Breakup Glow-Up Four Week Group Program Learn more about me and my work ⬇️ Website: Email me your...
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EP 87: Why Healing Isn’t Linear—and What to Do When It Feels Like You’re Going Backwards
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:54 What to do when you feel like you’re backsliding in your healing journey 03:12 Why healing isn’t linear 06:16 Cyclical processing 09:09 Focus on growth and what you have achieved 10:36 Anchor into one or two practices 12:40 Final thoughts 16:00 Outro Links: Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here ⬇️ Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on method (the direct steps you can take to get over your ex and move forward). Workbook included. Get the workshop here ⬇️ Learn more about...
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EP 86: How to anchor into a new identity
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:24 Identity change is uncomfortable 02:24 What inspired this episode - My story 07:59 What beliefs do you hold around the identity shift 09:24 Challenge your beliefs with compassion 10:38 Find acceptance in it being uncomfortable 12:54 You contain multitudes 14:23 Practice your new identity 15:49 You have to break the habit of being yourself 19:39 Your identity is meant to evolve over time 20:38 Final thoughts Links: Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here ⬇️ Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on...
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EP 85: When to Walk Away - 8 Signs it's over
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 03:37 #1 You feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells06:01 #2 You are having the same conflicts over and over09:17 #3 Not feeling like yourself anymore 14:24 #4 You try to avoid them 15:11 #5 More things you dislike about them than you like about them 16:15 #6 You want to, but you’re avoiding it or looking for a good enough reason 20:50 #7 You don’t have the same vision for the future 21:50 #8 You feel alone even when you’re with them 22:24 Final thoughts Links: Get the "Feel Your Feelings Guide" Interested in working with me one-on-one? If...
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EP 84: Love Bombing Vs. Real Love: 3 Ways To Tell The Difference
Breakups and Breakthroughs
Time Stamps: 00:00 Intro 02:53 Does the love & affection match the pace of the relationship? 04:05 What does love bombing feel & look like? 05:25 If your friend was in this situation, what would you think? 06:25 Love bombing is hot & cold, real love is steady 09:55 Love can stand the test of time and stress 12:55 Final Thoughts 14:45 Outro Links: Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here ⬇️ Breakup Workshop: This workshop breaks down my moving on method (the direct steps you can take to get over your ex and move forward). Workbook...
info_outlineIn this episode we cover:
- How to navigate a breakup based on your attachment style.
- What to do when old patterns come up in new relationships.
- How to know when you’re ready to date again.
- How knowing your attachment style helps you navigate your breakup.
- How to use your attachment style to your advantage in future relationships.
01:34 what advice would you give each of the attachment styles to get through a breakup?
02:30 Anxious attachment
03:00 Avoidant attachment
03: 26 Disorganized attachment
04:00 Attachment patterns coming up as you get back out into the dating world
07:00 How to move through the feeling that you should be “over this by now”
10:00 We are all human
10:55 Speaking to the avoidant parts of ourselves that want to do it alone
13:00 Getting your needs met
15:40 How to notice when old attachment patterns are coming up
18:15 Sometimes the things that aren’t good for us feel good
20:45 How to apply what you know about your attachment style to dating & relationships
23:00 Taking the pressure off of yourself and getting clear on your values
23:55 How to know when you’re ready to date again
29:30 What’s the point of doing the inner work?
32:58 Jessica’s Info
Podcast Host: Lucy Price
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About our guest:Jessica Da Silva is a Licensed Mental Health Therapist and Attachment Coach who empowers individuals to free themselves from attachment patterns that sabotage their relationships by teaching them actionable skills to relate to themselves and others more authentically and effectively. Not only does she talk the talk, but she also devotes her online platforms to sharing her personal journey in becoming securely attached and making these topics more relatable and encouraging.