#186 Kink Isn’t About Pain It’s About Power and Presence
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Release Date: 07/24/2025
#187 The Truth About Estrogen & Breast Cancer That No One Is Telling Women
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
If you’ve ever been told that estrogen causes breast cancer, or that your mammogram will save your life, or that your only option is to “cut, poison, and burn,” this episode is going to challenge everything you’ve been taught. Dr. Jenn Simmons joins me for an honest conversation about what actually causes breast cancer, why the screening model is flawed, and how functional medicine is changing the game. Dr. Jenn was one of the top breast cancer surgeons in Philadelphia. She was the first fellowship-trained breast surgeon in her city. The first onco-plastic surgeon in the state. She was...
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#186 Kink Isn’t About Pain It’s About Power and Presence
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
If you’ve ever been called intimidating, too much, or one of the boys. If you’ve had to explain how you like to be touched more times than you can count. If the idea of surrender feels terrifying because you’re the one who always needs to be in control. This episode is your permission slip. We are talking about kink. Not in the way you think. This is not about whips or pain or anything performative. This is about kink as a nervous system tool. A way back into your body. A space where you can finally stop performing, stop leading, and just feel. This episode is about what high-achieving...
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#185 10 Phrases That Turn High-Achieving Women On When She is Burned Out (Make Her Want Sex Again)
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
The 10 Phrases That Make Her Want Sex Again She came on the call overwhelmed, crusty, resentful. She left flushed, smiling, turned on. If you’ve built your life on doing things right and still feel disconnected from sex, this episode is for you. We are talking about what actually helps high achieving women want sex again. Not dirty talk. Not pressure. Not more performance. These are ten phrases that soften your jaw, land you in your body, and let your nervous system breathe. Because when you are always leading, adjusting, and accommodating, there is no room for your pleasure. If you are...
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#184 Multiple Orgasms Aren’t About Skill, They’re About Safety
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
You’ve read the posts, tried the tips, downloaded the workshops, and still feel nothing. You can orgasm by yourself, but struggle with a partner. Or maybe you’re shut down completely and convincing yourself you’re over it. You’re not. You’ve just been stuck in survival. High-achieving women with super traits are doing sex backward. You’re performing instead of receiving. Doing instead of feeling. Googling techniques when your nervous system is too shut down to hold sensation. I’m walking you through why orgasm isn’t about skill, it’s about safety, why all the tips fall flat...
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#183 Why Successful Women End Up in Sexless Marriages & What to Do About It
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
The high-achieving women that I work with fall into two groups. Low desire and checked out because intimacy has become a performance, a task, a source of resentment. Or high desire and confused because sex is one of the only ways they feel close, but their emotional needs aren’t being met. And then they’re blamed for wanting it too much. No matter which group you're in, you're trapped. And it’s invisible unless you know what to look for. On the surface, it looks like a libido issue. But what we’re really talking about is emotional labor, power dynamics, and a nervous system that no...
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#182 The Hidden Link Between Stress, Painful Sex & Your Pelvic Floor From A Pelvic Floor Specialist
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Superwomen, we need to talk about your pelvic floor. If you’ve ever apologized during a pelvic exam, felt broken because sex hurts, or wondered if leaking when you laugh is just part of being a mom, this conversation is for you. Pelvic floor physiotherapist Aliya Dhalla joins me to answer the questions most of us are too ashamed to ask. We talk about vulva appearance, labiaplasty, pelvic tension, postpartum trauma, and the invisible ways stress shows up in our bodies, especially in the pelvic floor. You’ll hear how porn and patriarchy have warped our ideas of what’s normal and why so...
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#181 Why Couples & Sex Therapy Doesn’t Work for High-Achieving Women (Truth About Communication)
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
Why you don't need to communicate better and other weaponized advice from couples therapy and Instagram influencers. These are the things keeping you stuck in your sexless marriage. If your relationship feels like a never-ending conversation with no lasting change, chances are you don't need to communicate better. You need to understand the concepts of coercive control and power dynamics. Most high-achieving women are not evil at communication. They run companies. They run households. However, in their relationships, they are over-functioning and over-communicating, yet still not getting their...
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#180 5 Questions Couples Having Great Sex Are Asking Each Other
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
You’ve read the sexy prompts, saved the dirty talk guides, maybe even worked up the courage to send a flirty text and still nothing changes. The card games, therapy scripts, I statements, sandwich feedback, even Nonviolent Communication and it still hurts. You feel alone. It reinforces the belief that you’re the problem. But you’re not. I’m sharing the 5 questions couples having great sex are asking each other and why communication advice does not work for high-achieving women with super traits. You’ll learn: – Why high-desire women chase emotional unavailability in the bedroom –...
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#179 Why You’re Not Initiating Anymore (And It’s Not Low Libido, Hormones or Feminine Energy)
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
He wants you to initiate. You want to feel seen, supported, and safe. Every week I get a DM from a man asking how to get his wife to initiate sex again. And every time I think, are you really ready to hear the answer? MAKE SEX WORTH HAVING This one is for the woman who’s doing it all. The emotional labor. The logistics. The mental load. Desire doesn’t just disappear—it gets buried under exhaustion, disconnection, and power dynamics no one’s talking about. We’re not fixing a sex problem. We’re naming what’s really going on. The invisible weight. The resentment. The conditioning...
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#178 Scheduling Sex Isn't The Holy Grail Solution to a Sexless Relationship
The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins
I used to be the doctor on national television telling couples to schedule sex. I even wrote about it in my book. But I’ve learned so much since then. Not because scheduling sex is inherently wrong. But for high-functioning women like us, it becomes another setup. Another task. Another way to fail. Scheduled intimacy only works when both partners truly want it. When desire is shared., but when it’s one-sided, it becomes a power play. Another unpaid job. One more thing we have to manage. This is about more than sex. It’s about power. Emotional labor. Invisible dynamics that no one teaches...
info_outlineIf you’ve ever been called intimidating, too much, or one of the boys. If you’ve had to explain how you like to be touched more times than you can count. If the idea of surrender feels terrifying because you’re the one who always needs to be in control. This episode is your permission slip.
We are talking about kink. Not in the way you think. This is not about whips or pain or anything performative. This is about kink as a nervous system tool. A way back into your body. A space where you can finally stop performing, stop leading, and just feel.
This episode is about what high-achieving women need when it comes to intimacy and why most of us don’t even know how much we’re craving surrender. I talk about power dynamics, topping from the bottom, and how we perform safety just like we perform sex.
I'm sharing what I’ve seen in my clients who say they want to be dominant but want to be held. And I explain why this isn’t our fault. We’ve had to be in control to survive. But now, it’s time to learn how to receive. To feel. To reclaim our erotic power.
Kink is a portal. And this episode is the doorway.
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