The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins

The Pleasure Principles Podcast is where sex, science and sensuality meet. Host, Dr. Jordin Wiggins, a Naturopathic Doctor, entrepreneur, women's sexual health disruptor and author of The Pink Canary, is on a mission to revolutionize the way we deliver, educate, and talk about sexual health, wellness, and pleasure for women.

#194 Why Super Traits Keep High-Achieving Women Lonely and Stuck in Relationships 09/18/2025

#194 Why Super Traits Keep High-Achieving Women Lonely and Stuck in Relationships October 2nd at 1pm ET/10am PT. The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy HERE High-achieving women are praised for their empathy, loyalty, and hard work, but these same super traits often become survival strategies that leave them exhausted, lonely, and stuck in relationships. The very qualities that help women succeed in their careers, families, and communities are the ones that quietly drain their desire, connection, and pleasure. For nearly two decades, I have worked with women in every stage of rebuilding after infidelity, illness, divorce, or the collapse of a business. No matter the circumstance, the pattern is the same. Women with super traits give more than they get. They overfunction, carry the invisible workload, excuse harmful behavior, and think 20 steps ahead for everyone else. Over time, this imbalance destroys intimacy, leaves them unfulfilled, and convinces them that they are the problem when the real issue is their conditioning. Super traits are not flaws. They are amplified strengths that become over-functioning survival strategies. Without understanding them, women waste years blaming hormones, childhood, or communication styles while repeating the same painful patterns. Take the free Super Trait Quiz through the link in the show notes to discover the number one high-achieving quality that helped you succeed but now blocks your ability to receive rest and love. Join me live on October 2 for the Super Traits Masterclass, JOIN HERE, where you will learn why effort and patience have not brought the intimacy you crave and the first step to creating a relationship that feels mutual, alive, and sustainable. Take the to discover your top traits and learn how they are shaping your relationships. You can also apply for my - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You’ve Been Craving. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025 Connect with me on Instagram Take the to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/38175830

#193 How Tone Policing Leads to Loss of Intimacy and Low Libido 09/11/2025

#193 How Tone Policing Leads to Loss of Intimacy and Low Libido Join the FREE Super Trait Masterclass October 2nd, 2025 @ 1pmET/10amPT The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy. I am feeling direct today, and it could be the eight cortados I had while writing content. There are a few things that are always true after working with thousands of women with super traits. If he cannot handle your tone, he is never going to be able to handle the full force of your desire, your orgasm, and your passion. Tone policing is not about communication; it is about control. When your needs and frustrations get dismissed because of how you said them instead of what you actually said. Your nervous system learns it is not safe to be fully expressed. That same shutdown shows up in the bedroom and is the reason so many women with super traits feel exhausted, resentful, and sexless in their marriages. Tone policing keeps women performing instead of receiving, and it robs intimacy and desire. Therapy and communication tips often fail for women with super traits because they miss the real issue. Power dynamics, not hormones, not stress, and not communication formulas are the barrier to real intimacy. If you are wondering why you can orgasm alone but not with your partner, why you feel shut down, or why your marriage feels sexless, this will give you the language and clarity you need. Take the to discover your top traits and learn how they are shaping your relationships. You can also apply for my - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You’ve Been Craving. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025 Connect with me on Instagram Take the to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/38091010

#192 Why Smart Women Get Stuck in Extractive Relationships Instead of Pleasure-Centered Ones 09/04/2025

#191 Why You Only Want Sex on Vacation. How to Get Desire Back at Home 08/28/2025

#191 Why You Only Want Sex on Vacation. How to Get Desire Back at Home Join us in the Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025 Summer is almost over, and I see a lot of my clients getting caught up in loops. You know that version of you that shows up on vacation. The one who laughs more easily, who says yes to sex, who feels lighter and more present in her body. Or maybe, like me, you have lived years experiencing a vacation from a bird’s-eye view, outside of your body, because of how burnt out you were. That woman isn’t fake. That’s you. But on vacation, you are not free to show up day to day either. Vacation sex is a lot like affair sex. All of the dopamine, none of the responsibility. If your relationship feels like a job and you only feel sparks or connection when you are away from your real life and responsibilities, this conversation is for you. You might be wondering why you only feel desire on vacation, why you crave sex when you are stress-free, but shut down as soon as you are home. Desire is not gone. It is buried under responsibility, gender roles, patriarchy, and nervous system overload. Vacation sex is not proof that your relationship is fine. It is proof that your desire remains. We are looking at the patterns that keep you blaming hormones or libido when what is really happening is your body protecting you. We are talking about bread crumbing, over-functioning, and super traits like empathy and achievement that erode intimacy without you even realizing it. Your erotic power and your desire do not need an escape. They need a new map. This is the first step on the pleasure path and the reason therapy, communication tips, or sex hacks have not worked. Once you can name the invisible dynamics at play, the path back to erotic aliveness and pleasure-centered relationships becomes clear. Take the FREE Super Traits Quiz HERE EP198 Connect with me on Instagram Take the to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/37975580

#190 Why Strong Women Overlook Betrayal and Red Flags in Relationships 08/21/2025

#189 How to Build a Pleasure-Centered Relationship from the Inside Out 08/14/2025

#189 How to Build a Pleasure-Centered Relationship from the Inside Out Most women don’t need another date night, another vacation, or better communication strategies. What they need is a radical unlearning of everything they were taught about love and intimacy. Because even the good relationships are built on extraction. Not reciprocity. Not mutuality. Not pleasure. If your relationship feels like a second job, if your body is numb, if you’ve been blaming your hormones or your libido and nothing ever really changes, this episode will hit deep. You’ve been rewarded for self-sacrifice your entire life. You are the one who holds it all. The one who fixes. The one who over-functions while feeling like your needs are too much. That’s not connection. That’s performance. That’s survival. And it’s killing your desire. This is where we name what’s really going on. The invisible emotional labor. The power imbalances are hiding in plain sight. The way women with super traits are conditioned to have their power extracted and their pleasure pathologized. So what does a pleasure-centered relationship actually looks like? A relationship where mutual joy, emotional safety, and erotic connection are prioritized. Not logistics. Not roles. Not appearances. A relationship where your nervous system can soften, your needs are valid, and your body is safe to receive. If you’re ready to stop performing pleasure and start feeling it, take the and find out where you are. And if this resonates with you, I’ve opened this fall for women who are ready to transform everything about the way they love. You don’t need to leave your relationship. But you do need to leave the version of yourself that disappears inside it. Connect with me on Instagram Take the to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/37806045

#188 Is He a Great Partner or Just Really Good at Control? The Good Guy Gaslighter 08/07/2025

#187 The Truth About Estrogen & Breast Cancer That No One Is Telling Women 07/31/2025

#187 The Truth About Estrogen & Breast Cancer That No One Is Telling Women If you’ve ever been told that estrogen causes breast cancer, or that your mammogram will save your life, or that your only option is to “cut, poison, and burn,” this episode is going to challenge everything you’ve been taught. Dr. Jenn Simmons joins me for an honest conversation about what actually causes breast cancer, why the screening model is flawed, and how functional medicine is changing the game. Dr. Jenn was one of the top breast cancer surgeons in Philadelphia. She was the first fellowship-trained breast surgeon in her city. The first onco-plastic surgeon in the state. She was saving lives and doing everything by the book. Until one day, her own health collapsed. She went from being one of the most high-functioning people in the room to not being able to walk across it. When the system she worked in told her she needed chemo, radiation, and lifelong meds, a voice inside her said, there is something more. Go find it. And she did. She now leads a movement to help women prevent and reverse breast cancer using evidence-based functional medicine, hormone support, and real prevention strategies rooted in nutrition, detoxification, and nervous system health. We talk about what really causes breast cancer, how chronic stress and overachievement contribute to disease, why estrogen is not the enemy, the damage of overtreatment and fear-based care, how to actually screen for breast cancer without radiation, and what needs to happen to stop the silent suffering of survivors. This episode is for every woman who’s been told to be grateful just to be alive while she quietly suffers in pain, incontinence, insomnia, low libido, and fear. It’s for the woman who wants more than survival. And it’s for every high-achieving, burnt-out, hormone-depleted woman who needs a wake-up call before the body says no. If you’ve ever felt like no one was telling the whole truth about women’s health, this conversation is your proof that you’re not crazy. The system is broken. And there are other answers. Connect with Jordin Instagram Take the to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. Connect with Dr. Jenn Simmons Check out Dr. Jenn’s work at . Instagam Get Imaging /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/37615010

#186 Kink Isn’t About Pain It’s About Power and Presence 07/24/2025

#185 10 Phrases That Turn High-Achieving Women On When She is Burned Out (Make Her Want Sex Again) 07/17/2025

#184 Multiple Orgasms Aren’t About Skill, They’re About Safety 07/10/2025

#183 Why Successful Women End Up in Sexless Marriages & What to Do About It 07/03/2025

#182 The Hidden Link Between Stress, Painful Sex & Your Pelvic Floor From A Pelvic Floor Specialist 06/26/2025

#181 Why Couples & Sex Therapy Doesn’t Work for High-Achieving Women (Truth About Communication) 06/19/2025

#180 5 Questions Couples Having Great Sex Are Asking Each Other 06/12/2025

#179 Why You’re Not Initiating Anymore (And It’s Not Low Libido, Hormones or Feminine Energy) 06/05/2025

#178 Scheduling Sex Isn't The Holy Grail Solution to a Sexless Relationship 05/29/2025

#177 The Real Reason You Don’t Want Sex in Your “Good” Relationship 05/22/2025

#176 Why High-Achieving Women Stop Wanting Sex (And How to Get It Back) 05/15/2025

#175 Why Sex Therapy Doesn’t Work for High-Functioning Women And What Actually Does 05/08/2025

#174 - How Fingering Unlocks Female Pleasure, Better Sex, and Lasting Libido 05/01/2025

#173 - Breaking Through Trauma: Why Your Past is Blocking Your Intimacy Today 04/24/2025

#173 - Breaking Through Trauma: Why Your Past is Blocking Your Intimacy Today Is your body keeping a secret that's ruining your sex life? Discover why that lack of desire, connection, and fulfillment has nothing to do with your hormones, stress levels, or sexual techniques. We’re sharing one of our most popular episodes from 2023 where Dr. Jordin Wiggins reveals the hidden trauma response that's blocking your pleasure—even if you don't identify as a trauma survivor—and how to finally break free from the patterns keeping you from the intimacy you deserve. In this episode, Dr. Jordin is sharing: Why 90% of sexual disconnection isn't about hormones or stress, but about your nervous system's ability to feel safe enough to experience pleasure, presence, and connection How high-functioning, successful women often carry unrecognized trauma responses that make it impossible to truly let go and connect during intimacy Techniques to regulate your nervous system, recognize your unique trauma response pattern (fight, flight, freeze, or fawn), and reclaim your capacity for deep, fulfilling intimacy If you're craving a connection that won't fade, here’s what comes next: The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching. This 12-week journey is your entry point if you: Feel exhausted by over-functioning but aren't sure what's wrong Are experiencing physical symptoms despite "doing everything right" Have a partner who loves you, but you feel miles apart Have tried hormones, therapy, or self-help without success Are ready to understand the science behind why nothing has worked In this intimate container limited to just 10 women, you'll learn the neuroscience of arousal, map your pleasure blueprint, and take imperfect action toward rekindling your desire. The Pleasure Mastery Network: This 12-month journey is for you if: You've already tried "fixing" your relationship through therapy or hormone treatments You recognize power dynamics at play in your relationship You're ready to address the root causes, not just symptoms You crave a community of women who will witness your transformation You want access to in-person retreats and deeper nervous system recalibration This isn't surface-level work. This is about reclaiming your relationship to intimacy, turn-on, and pleasure on your own terms through monthly calls, in-person retreats, and a powerful community of women walking alongside you. Listen to The Pleasure Path: https://www.thepleasurecollective.com/alpha Follow @drjordinwiggins on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjordinwiggins /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/36283620

#172 - Why High-Achieving Women Are The Loneliest, Most Under-F**ked People I Know 04/17/2025

#172 - Why High-Achieving Women Are The Loneliest, Most Under-F**ked People I Know That well-f**ked feeling. You know the one—after great sex, a delicious meal, or when the champagne bottle pops and the elevator doors slide open at a luxurious hotel. That feeling of possibility, pleasure, and playfulness. How long has it been since you've felt it? In this intimate episode, Dr. Jordin takes you behind the scenes of her recent Pleasure Mastery retreat, where high-achieving women finally put down their armor of "I'm fine" and rediscovered what it feels like to be truly seen. In this episode, Dr. Jordin is sharing: Why persistent performing of success, sex, and gratitude is costing you your health and happiness How your independence without intimacy has become isolation (and why it's killing your sex life) What happens when women come together in sacred community to witness each other's truths If you're craving a connection that won't fade, here’s what comes next: The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching: This 12-week journey is your entry point if you: Feel exhausted by over-functioning but aren't sure what's wrong Are experiencing physical symptoms despite "doing everything right" Have a partner who loves you, but you feel miles apart Have tried hormones, therapy, or self-help without success Are ready to understand the science behind why nothing has worked In this intimate container limited to just 10 women, you'll learn the neuroscience of arousal, map your pleasure blueprint, and take imperfect action toward rekindling your desire. The Pleasure Mastery Network: This 12-month journey is for you if: You've already tried "fixing" your relationship through therapy or hormone treatments You recognize power dynamics at play in your relationship You're ready to address the root causes, not just symptoms You crave a community of women who will witness your transformation You want access to in-person retreats and deeper nervous system recalibration This isn't surface-level work. This is about reclaiming your relationship to intimacy, turn-on, and pleasure on your own terms through monthly calls, in-person retreats, and a powerful community of women walking alongside you. to listen to The Pleasure Path. to follow @drjordinwiggins on Instagram /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/36197845

#171 - The High Achiever's Dilemma: Redefining Success Through Pleasure Instead of Hustle with Veronica Romney 04/10/2025

#171 - The High Achiever's Dilemma: Redefining Success Through Pleasure Instead of Hustle with Veronica Romney No woman left behind! In this vulnerable and transformative conversation, Dr. Jordin opens up about the evolution happening within The Pleasure Collective as she partners with client, marketing expert, and author of Identity Marketing, Veronica Romney, to redefine how to ensure every high-achieving woman knows what they deserve and the path to receive it. ”The accolades that you are experiencing in your professional life are going to take away from your personal, intimate life.” If that line also makes you want to lean in, the way Veronica did, here’s what these two powerhouses are getting into: How Dr. Jordin is quietly leading a movement of powerful women who are "quietly shaking the world" The powerful legacy being built as women who walk The Pleasure Path begin advocating for other women How a "pleasure-centered relationship" creates ripple effects that transform not just relationships, but families and communities If you also feel like you’re succeeding in every area of your life, except your intimate relationships, here’s how to take the next step on The Pleasure Path: Listen to Dr. Jordin’s private podcast series, The Pleasure Path, where she guides you through identifying the specific blocks keeping you from experiencing deep pleasure, authentic connection, and your fullest potential. Inside, you'll get instant access to real stories, practical steps, and the truth about what it really takes to break free from burnout and build a pleasure-centered relationship. Ready to transform how you communicate your value without resorting to pushy, fear-based tactics? Veronica Romney's groundbreaking book Identity Marketing offers a refreshing alternative to manipulative "buy this" marketing strategies. Learn how to speak directly to your ideal clients' core identities and create messaging that honors who they truly are. As Dr. Jordin has discovered, this approach isn't just more ethical—it's more effective, especially for high-achieving women who crave authenticity in every area of their lives. to listen to The Pleasure Path. to follow on Instagram /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/36065125

#170 - The 'Not All Men' Defense: How Misguided Beliefs Undermine Women's Power 04/03/2025

#170 - The 'Not All Men' Defense: How Misguided Beliefs Undermine Women's Power The moment you say, “I’m exhausted,” they say, “but men feel pressure too.” The moment you name abuse, they say, “not all men.” The moment you ask for more, they say, “you’re being too much.” This is not compassion. It’s manipulation. In this searing episode, Dr. Jordin exposes the subtle and sinister ways women are silenced in the name of "balance"—especially in spiritual and coaching spaces that should know better. She calls out the weaponized softness, the faux neutrality, and the gaslighting dressed up as emotional intelligence. Because when women are talking about femicide, sexual trauma, and generations of unpaid labor—and someone derails that conversation to center men’s pain? That’s not a dialogue. That’s erasure. And if you’ve ever walked away from those conversations feeling like your rage made you the problem, this episode is going to feel like coming home. What we’re getting into: The real reason why “men struggle too” is a silencing tactic, not solidarity How high-achieving women are groomed to over-empathize and under-advocate What no one wants to admit about the power imbalance in your relationship This episode is a reclamation of:🩷Your voice.🩷Your anger.🩷Your pleasure.🩷Your unapologetic womanhood. No more bypassing. No more guilt. Just the raw, inconvenient truth—and the support to finally do something with it. If this hits you in the gut, trust it. Forward it to the woman who’s biting her tongue to keep the peace. Share it. And tell the truth—we're not doing silence anymore. Ever thought, “I don’t even know where to start to fix this"? I want you to listen to my private podcast series, . A raw, unfiltered series to help you uncover what’s holding you back from the intimacy, connection, and passion you crave. to listen to The Pleasure Path. to follow on Instagram /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/35943150

#169 - No Consent, No Trust: The Reality of Porn Addictions 03/29/2025

#168 - Why High-Achieving Women Dissociate During Sex (And How to Reconnect to Pleasure) 03/20/2025

#168 - Why High-Achieving Women Dissociate During Sex (And How to Reconnect to Pleasure) Do you ever find yourself mentally checking out during intimacy—thinking about your to-do list or even feeling “the ick” when your partner touches you? You’re not alone. High-achieving women often struggle with dissociation during sex, and in this episode, Dr. Jordin Wiggins is breaking down exactly why it happens and how you can start healing. Dissociation is not a personal failure—it’s your nervous system’s way of protecting you when pleasure doesn’t feel safe. Whether it's because you’ve been conditioned to prioritize productivity over receiving, or because of past trauma (recognized or unrecognized), dissociation keeps you stuck in your head instead of present in your body. In less than 30-minutes, here’s what you’ll learn: Why high-achieving women are more likely to dissociate during intimacy How past trauma—both big and small—can shape your relationship with pleasure The 4 steps to start reconnecting to your body and feeling safe with intimacy again The truth is, if you’ve been “going somewhere else” during sex, you can also find your way back. This is your invitation to start healing, reclaim your feminine power, and experience intimacy and pleasure in a way that truly nourishes you. If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who needs to hear it. The more we talk about this, the more we heal. If you’re ready for REAL results, I challenge you to join my Group Coaching experience, a 3-month private coaching and mastermind container designed to help high-achieving women reclaim their feminine power, master pleasure, and finally feel deeply fulfilled in their relationships and personal lives. We kick-off March 26. to register. Ready to rewire your pleasure centers and transform your relationship? The 3-month private coaching experience is launching March 26. if you’re ready to see the results you’ve been craving for years become your reality in the next 90 days. to access Jordin's private podcast, The Pleasure Path. to follow on Instagram /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/35751415

#167 - The #1 Lie Keeping Alpha Women in Sexless Marriages 03/13/2025

#166 - Tight Isn't The Goal. Pleasure Is. 03/06/2025

#165 - “Is It Me Or My Hormones?” The Truth About Low Libido 02/27/2025

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