The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins

The Pleasure Principles Podcast is where sex, science and sensuality meet. Host, Dr. Jordin Wiggins, a Naturopathic Doctor, entrepreneur, women's sexual health disruptor and author of The Pink Canary, is on a mission to revolutionize the way we deliver, educate, and talk about sexual health, wellness, and pleasure for women.

What Actually Improves Your Sex Drive When You’re a High-Achiever 01/29/2026

What Actually Improves Your Sex Drive When You’re a High-Achiever Women with super traits know how to get shit done. They are hardworking, loyal, independent, and high-achieving. Some want better sex and a deeper connection and cannot figure out why it feels so hard. Others say they don’t care about sex anymore, but what they’re really saying is I don’t feel met. I don’t feel safe enough to erotically open. Desire didn’t disappear. Effort replaced it. Survival crowds out sensation. Performance crowds out receptivity. Women with super traits are good at everything else. Careers. Parenting. Emotional intelligence. What they are not great at is sex, intimacy, and vulnerability. Being good at giving, pleasing, and performing is one-sided. If the effort worked, they would already feel deeply connected. Sex is not a drive. It’s a reward system. When pleasure centers are off and receiving muscles are off, even when someone is trying to give, the body cannot receive. Presence is not a mindset. It is a nervous system state. When sex becomes something you manage, desire shuts down automatically. If you feel called out in a good way, attend the live workshop on February 5th, where we cover the three most common ways women with super traits erode intimacy and the three shifts required to restore desire. J For those ready for personalized clarity, you can also We map your super traits, erotic shutdown style, and relationship dynamics so you stop guessing and start changing the patterns that repeat in and out of the bedroom. If you do not know your super traits yet, take the to understand exactly how this is showing up for you. Why Smart & Successful Women Lose Themselves In Relationships (And why over-functioning and fixing desire never works), on February 5th at 12 PM Eastern and 9 AM Pacific. . If you are ready for personalized support and do not want to keep analyzing this on your own, for private coaching. Connect with me on Instagram CHAPTERS 00:45 Desire and Relationships 01:25 Presence in Intimacy 01:45 The Struggles of High Achievers in Sexual Intimacy 02:32 Effort vs. Connection 03:38 Pleasure-Centered Sex 05:46 Common Misconceptions Around Sex 06:45 Presence in Sexual Intimacy 09:18 The Shift from Performance to Pleasure-Centered Sex 11:13 Presence in Intimacy and Pleasure 15:00 High Achievers in Receiving Intimacy 27:46 The 3 Shifts to Improve Intimacy and Connection /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/39905280

Why Loss of Desire Has Nothing to Do With Libido 01/22/2026

Women With Super Traits Over Explain, People Please, and Lose Desire 01/15/2026

Women With Super Traits Over Explain, People Please, and Lose Desire Over the Christmas break, I had several private clients reach out, and what I noticed was that the transformations had not been completed. The holidays brought up ruptures, disappointments, and old patterns at a time when most women were already running on fumes. The holidays come with extra expectations and very little capacity. Many women even get sick once their bodies finally feel safe enough to stop. That is not a coincidence. We hold an image of the holidays as cozy and connected. In reality, they often unearth everything we have been holding together all year. I found myself repeating the same thing to my clients. Stop over-explaining. Stop people pleasing. Get grounded before you act. If you are here, chances are you feel disconnected in your relationship. Some of you were disappointed by the holidays. Some of you went through separations. Some of you navigated the season alone. The common thread is being a woman with super traits who struggles to feel met, supported, and able to receive. This is a familiar loop. Still explaining. Still repairing. Still choosing words carefully. Still believing that if you say it the right way, it will finally land. That does not mean you are doing anything wrong. It means you have super traits. Women with super traits were never taught discernment. We were taught to fix, soften, reassure, and carry emotional labor. Not every accusation deserves a response. Not every misunderstanding needs a conversation. When we lose connection to ourselves, we start efforting in ways that do not work. Over time, desire shuts down. Health is affected. Intimacy becomes hollow. The traits that brought success elsewhere begin working against us in relationships. There is a that goes deeper into why women with super traits overfunction in relationships and what actually restores clarity, desire, and connection. , and let's make this the year we stop overgiving and start recieving. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. Take the free to understand why these patterns show up so strongly during the holidays Connect with me on Instagram 00:02:16 Understanding Super Traits and Relationship Dynamics 00:03:47 The Exhaustion of Over-Communicating 00:04:51 The Impact of Super Traits on Health and Desire 00:06:51 Navigating Emotional Labor and Intimacy 00:09:22 The Importance of Discernment in Relationships 00:12:02 Overexplaining in Relationships 00:16:37 Communication Problems /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/39735450

Why Communication Advice Fails Women Who Overgive in Relationships 01/08/2026

Why Communication Advice Fails Women Who Overgive in Relationships Most relationship advice says relationships are healthy when you communicate. Be open. Share your feelings. Explain your needs. Take responsibility for your emotions. And all of this is true. But it catastrophically fails women with Super Traits. Not because they are bad communicators. Women with Super Traits are great communicators. But they communicate at the cost of themselves. At the cost of their self-trust. Their clarity. Their desire. Their turn on. Their self-respect. They soften, explain, repair, and try again, and leave conversations feeling more confused than when they entered. Women with Super Traits believe in connection. They believe in repair. They believe in hard work. So when something feels off, they communicate more. They clarify. They watch their tone. They adjust their ask. And instead of curiosity or validation, they get minimization, defensiveness, or the script flipped back onto them. So at the beginning of healing, women with Super Traits actually need to say less. Communicating less is not withdrawal. It is discernment. We speak less because the information gets used against us. Our vulnerability is reframed. The clarity we thought we had leads to confusion. We feel worse after trying to connect than before. This is why communication advice falls short. It does not work for women with Super Traits who over-function with under-functioners. A receiving woman lets silence do the work. Not sharper words. From that steadiness, clarity returns. Desire returns. Turn on returns. Trust in self returns. Why Smart & Successful Women Lose Themselves In Relationships (And why over-functioning and fixing desire never works) F, 2025 at 12PM ET / 9AM PT Take the free to understand why these patterns show up so strongly during the holidays. Book a for clarity on where overfunctioning is costing you energy, connection, and desire. Apply for the f you are ready to stop carrying the emotional load and start being met. 00:00:00 The Communication Issue 00:00:37 The Iceberg of Communication 00:01:11 The Cost of Over-Communication 00:02:14 The Shift to Less Communication 00:03:02 The Journey to Self-Respect 00:03:50 Understanding Super Traits 00:06:33 The Pattern of Ovegiving 00:09:38 The Importance of Saying Less 100:1:34 The Pleasure Centered Society 00:15:55 From High Achiever to Receiver /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/39645280

This is Your Year to Start Receiving Instead of People-Pleasing 01/01/2026

This is Your Year to Start Receiving Instead of People-Pleasing Happy New Year. For women with super traits, there is often a quiet exhaustion underneath the hope and desire for more. You have done everything right, and something still is not working. If pleasure, desire, and connection disappear the moment stress enters your relationships, this explains why. This is not a personal failure or lack of effort. It is a body-level adaptation. Women with super traits were conditioned to maintain connection through over-giving, emotional labor, fixing, and absorbing discomfort so others did not have to. When tension appears, the nervous system shifts into management mode, and pleasure shuts down automatically. This is the second part of my work, which offers clarity around why reconnecting to desire is not enough and why trying harder only deepens the pattern. The issue is not communication, effort, or commitment. The belief is that love must be earned through contribution. It’s time to introduce the RECEIVER IDENTITY. A receiver can say no without guilt, allow disappointment, and stay connected to her desire even under pressure. Receiving is not passive or selfish. It is a regulated authority. Transformation begins with deconditioning the reflex to overfunction. Identifying the patterns that tie connection to self-abandonment and learning how to stay present, grounded, and receptive when stress arises. This is the year of doing less with intention. This is the year of receiving. Take the free to understand why these patterns show up so strongly during the holidays. Book a for clarity on where overfunctioning is costing you energy, connection, and desire. Apply for the f you are ready to stop carrying the emotional load and start being met. 00:00:00 Introduction and New Year Reflections 00:00:47 Transformations and Challenges 00:04:56 Understanding Super Traits 00:08:13 The Pleasure Problem 00:13:35 Receiver Identity 00:18:02 The Path to True Pleasure and Connection 00:24:47 Restoring Pleasure /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/39573510

My Christmas Wish for Women Who Built Their Identity on People-Pleasing 12/25/2025

My Christmas Wish for Women Who Built Their Identity on People-Pleasing Christmas has a way of showing us what we have been carrying all year. For many women, this season brings more responsibility, more emotional labor, and more pressure to hold everything together while feeling unseen in their relationships and disconnected from themselves. I spent years overfunctioning in relationships, believing that giving more and trying harder would create safety and connection. My identity was built around being capable, impressive, and indispensable. A coach once asked me a question that changed everything. Who are you if it all goes away tomorrow? When super traits are unhealed, brilliance becomes a survival strategy. Empathy turns into emotional labor. Loyalty turns into self-abandonment. Tolerance turns into endurance. And when pleasure and desire disappear, we blame ourselves instead of the systems that taught us to survive this way. A client recently said something that named it perfectly. I learned to be valuable so I could be safe. Being impressive became my armor. I want a relationship where my presence is enough. My Christmas wish for you is that you know you are worthy of a relationship where you do not earn closeness through effort, and your nervous system can finally exhale. If you are ready to stop managing intimacy and overfunctioning in your relationships, you can apply for the Pleasure Centered Society. Applications begin with a short call. Holiday bonuses include the Pleasure Centered Relationship Masterclass and a Super Trait Audit. I will leave you with two questions. -What underlying need of yours is it serving to keep overfunctioning? -What truth do you need to accept about this situation or relationship for you to stop overfunctioning? Merry Christmas. Take the free to understand why these patterns show up so strongly during the holidays. Book a for clarity on where overfunctioning is costing you energy, connection, and desire. Apply for the f you are ready to stop carrying the emotional load and start being met. 00:00:35 Unhealed Super Traits 00:02:32 Shedding Old Identities 00:04:30 Building Healthier Relationships 00:04:50 Overcoming Overgiving 00:06:57 Journal Prompts 00:12:32 Pleasure Centered Relationship 00:16:28 Christmas Wishes /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/39523620

Holiday Boundaries to Prevent Burnout and Overfunctioning 12/18/2025

Holiday Boundaries to Prevent Burnout and Overfunctioning The holiday season is a major trigger for women with super traits. There is more emotional labor, more pressure to keep the peace, more overgiving, and more shutdown. When you overfunction during the holidays, it leads to burnout, resentment, loneliness, and a sense of feeling unseen, even when you are surrounded by people. I break down practical holiday survival tips to help you stop overgiving and set boundaries without guilt. This includes a holiday emotional load audit to identify invisible responsibilities, a simple rule to reduce burnout, a clear boundary tool for handling pressure in the moment, and a short pleasure-centered reset to regulate your nervous system when stress activates old survival patterns. These tools are designed for high-achieving women who know their patterns but still collapse into overfunctioning when family dynamics, expectations, and emotional labor increase. I share relationship and single check-ins to help you see where you feel supported, emotionally safe, and more like yourself, and where overfunctioning is still running the show. This creates clarity around what needs to change so the holidays no longer cost you your energy, desire, or sense of self. Take the free to understand why these patterns show up so strongly during the holidays. Book a for clarity on where overfunctioning is costing you energy, connection, and desire. Apply for the f you are ready to stop carrying the emotional load and start being met. 00:00:27 Understanding Super Traits 00:00:45 Challenges During the Holiday Season 00:02:48 Personal Experiences and Insights 00:03:36 Welcome to the Pleasure Principles Podcast 00:05:31 Holiday Survival Tips 00:06:29 Emotional Load Audit 00:08:20 15% Rule for Reducing Holiday Burnout 00:09:38 Three Second Boundary Tool 00:16:14 Pleasure Center Reset 00:18:14 Relationship and Single Superwoman Check-In /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/39436705

Financial Infidelity and Relationship Red Flags You Must Not Ignore 12/11/2025

Financial Infidelity and Relationship Red Flags You Must Not Ignore Financial infidelity is one of the most common yet least recognized forms of betrayal. It often begins subtly through missing information (like names not being on the title), restricted access to accounts, unexplained withdrawals, hidden accounts, or financial decisions made without consent. Many women overlook these signs because they appear inside relationships built on trust, love, and shared history. Forensic investigative accountant Dave Oswald brings to light the realities most people never see. His work uncovers partners who erase digital trails, hide income, move money into shell companies, falsify signatures, or quietly open loans in someone else’s name. These patterns are deliberate. They are structured to stay hidden until the fallout is unavoidable. High-achieving, intelligent women often internalize the blame when financial deception surfaces. They replay conversations. They question their intuition. They wonder how they missed it. But financial manipulation is engineered to exploit trust and emotional connection. It thrives because the other person is not just managing money. They are managing a narrative. Recognizing the signs is essential. Sudden secrecy around accounts. A financial picture that never quite makes sense. Being kept off titles or investments. Explanations that change. A partner who becomes irritated when asked reasonable questions. Income that does not match documented records. Access that slowly disappears. These are early indicators of financial control and financial abuse. The impact extends far beyond money. When someone manipulates finances, they also erode emotional safety, intimacy, and a sense of groundedness in your own life. Financial infidelity affects your nervous system, your relationships, and your ability to trust yourself. Understanding how financial control operates allows you to see the truth without shame. It offers the clarity to protect yourself, and the validation that being deceived does not mean you were foolish. It means someone else was intentional. This is the knowledge every woman deserves before the damage begins, instead of after it has already been done. CONNECT WITH DAVE (416) 525-1510 - Oakville, Ontario, Canada Decode the emotional and erotic patterns keeping you in over-functioning, shutdown, and inconsistent connection. If you do not know your Super Traits, take the free If you want your world and relationships to respond to the woman you have already become, apply for . Connect with Dr. Jordin on /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/39357895

5 Ways Overfunctioning Kills Your Pleasure (and What to Do Instead) 12/04/2025

5 Ways Overfunctioning Kills Your Pleasure (and What to Do Instead) You have done the healing. You know your patterns and your attachment style. You set boundaries and stopped abandoning yourself. Yet when life gets hard, or someone is disappointed in you, you still end up doing the emotional labor. You collapse or you over-function. Your relationships have not shifted as much as you have. Your sex life feels flatter than it should. Your aliveness and turn-on feel inconsistent. You have grown on the inside, but the world has not adjusted to meet you. Pleasure requires presence, sensation, receiving, and truth. Super Traits demand scanning, fixing, anticipating, managing, and performing. Therapy, nervous system work, EMDR, trying to want sex, and communication tools were a good foundation, but not enough because Super Traits pull you out of the conditions required for pleasure and connection. Super Traits pull you into your head, where hyper vigilance replaces feeling. They turn you into the emotional container who regulates everyone else. They reward performance rather than presence, and they create loneliness even when you want connection. They train you to choose harmony over truth, and suppressed truth kills desire. They make receiving uncomfortable, so pleasure cannot land because it never reaches you. This creates a pleasure-suppressed life. Flatness. Numbness. Only feeling pleasure when everything is perfect. Freezing or fawning when things are hard. Over-functioning under stress. Craving more but not knowing what you want. Carrying the emotional load and trying to fix the connection instead of influencing it. Pleasure is intelligence. Pleasure tells you what is true, what you want, when you are abandoning yourself, and when someone is not meeting you. Super Traits drown out that internal guidance system. Insight does not create influence. Presence and pleasure do. If you want your world and relationships to respond to the woman you have already become, apply for . If you do not know your Super Traits, take the free /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/39247730

4 Relationship Behaviors That Kill Desire and Create Sexless Marriages 11/27/2025

4 Relationship Behaviors That Kill Desire and Create Sexless Marriages You are not frigid. You are fried. When you have super traits, empathy, loyalty, responsibility, and hard work, you end up building your entire relationship around him. You carry the emotional load, the logistical load, and even the erotic load. You hold his stress, his moods, his comfort above your own, and then blame yourself when your desire shuts down. You are not an impossible-to-please crusty wife. You are playing a game you were never taught the rules to. You were handed invisible contracts you never agreed to, and you have been trying to fix problems that were never yours to fix. Your body has known the truth long before you had the language for it. Women with super traits have been trained not to see the real dynamics happening in their relationships. We play checkers while our partners play chess. We sense disconnection and ask what is wrong with me instead of asking, “Am I safe?”, “Am I being met?”, “Am I being touched the way I like?” Four hidden behaviors quietly erode intimacy for women with super traits. Emotional unavailability, where he offers logic instead of empathy, and your body learns it is not safe to feel. Weaponized incompetence where he forgets the groceries, the kids, and the plans, and you end up doing everything. A male-centered relationship where everything revolves around his stress and comfort, while you shrink your needs smaller and smaller. Emotional withholding and punishment where any request for connection is met with defensiveness, silence, or blame. Your desire did not disappear. Your body shut down because it had to protect you. You do not need to work harder at love. You need a new relational blueprint rooted in pleasure power and nervous system safety so you can stop blaming yourself and finally understand the rules you were never taught. If you are a woman with super traits and you feel unseen, unheard, and untouched, your body is telling the truth. It is time to stop blaming yourself and start understanding the game you were pushed into without the rules. so you can see the patterns that have shaped every relationship you have ever been in. If you know you are ready to shift these dynamics rather than survive them, explore the , where we train your body to lead with safety, clarity, and real power rather than exhaustion and self-blame. /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/39182955

Hard Work Creates Emotional Labor and Destroys Intimacy 11/20/2025

Hard Work Creates Emotional Labor and Destroys Intimacy I am recording this sitting on an ice pack with stitches in my vagina. After the delivery of my daughter, there was a tear. They tried to fix it. It didn’t really fix. The doctor said to wait until the next baby, and we can repair it then. I thought that made sense. My daughter just turned five. I have been tolerating a tear in my labia that I didn’t want to be there. I decided I was done waiting. I was done tolerating. Hard work is the trait that builds success and destroys intimacy. We were taught that hard work will fix everything. The relationship. The libido. The career. But when hard work becomes your identity, intimacy starts to feel like effort. Relationships feel like effort, not ease. Women with super traits carry a relentless sense of responsibility and a high tolerance for discomfort. We push through pain, confusion, and rejection. We take pride in holding everything together. We repair for two. We perform for safety. We perform in the bedroom and call that love. Effort does not equal arousal. Desire needs safety, reciprocity, novelty, and space. Desire cannot live in a nervous system that never rests. Hard work becomes survival. It keeps us in one-sided relationships. It keeps us trying to fix what is not ours to fix. Healthy relationships require effort but not suffering. The work should feel mutual. Both people should be active participants in growth. When you stop working for love and start working from love, everything changes. -Apply for - Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to take back your power and create a pleasure-filled life without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. Take the FREE to see how responsibility shows up in your relationships or apply for private coaching to start rebuilding your sense of safety, power, and desire. Connect with me on Instagram /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/39090930

Why High-Empathy Women Attract Emotionally Unavailable Partners 11/13/2025

Why High-Empathy Women Attract Emotionally Unavailable Partners High-empathy women are praised for their compassion, yet beneath that care often lies exhaustion and loneliness. When empathy becomes survival, it stops being connection and starts being control. Many women who feel deeply spend their lives reading the room, anticipating every tone, and managing everyone else’s emotions in the name of love. It looks selfless but becomes self-abandonment. The nervous system learns that predicting moods brings safety, and harmony comes from disappearing, leaving you burnt out and confused about why love feels like labor. Empathy born from hypervigilance attracts emotionally unavailable partners and unequal relationships. High-empathy women often mistake caretaking for connection and people pleasing for intimacy. They give endlessly, believing that calm and control will earn love. Yet empathy without boundaries drains energy and ties worth to giving. Healing begins when you stop performing empathy and start embodying power. Boundaries invite intimacy. Detachment allows you to hold your emotions without absorbing others. When high-empathy women reconnect with their bodies, they stop rescuing and start relating. They move from caretaking to commanding, restoring vitality, connection, and reciprocity. The world needs women who feel deeply without losing themselves. When empathy is grounded in boundaries, it becomes magnetic again, an energy that attracts safety, honesty, and real intimacy. -Apply for - Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to take back your power and create a pleasure-filled life without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. Take the FREE to see how responsibility shows up in your relationships or apply for private coaching to start rebuilding your sense of safety, power, and desire. Connect with me on Instagram /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/38946115

#201 Why Successful Women Confuse Control with Love 11/06/2025

#201 Why Successful Women Confuse Control with Love High-achieving women with super traits know how to make everything work. We plan, manage, fix, and anticipate. We keep the peace and carry the weight for everyone around us. From the outside, it looks like strength and success. Inside, it’s emotional exhaustion and the quiet panic of never feeling safe enough to rest. Control becomes our safety. -Apply for - Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to take back your power and create a pleasure-filled life without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. It hides behind kindness, competence, and responsibility, but underneath it all is fear. The fear that if we stop managing, if we stop fixing, if we stop holding everyone else together, everything will fall apart. Control promises safety but keeps us stuck in survival. Women with super traits learn young that love must be earned through performance. We learn that calm means safe, that managing other people’s emotions keeps the peace, and that being responsible keeps us chosen. Those same traits that brought us success are now the ones keeping us disconnected from our bodies, our pleasure, and the intimacy we crave. When control becomes love, we lose ourselves. We confuse vigilance for care and performance for connection. We build beautiful lives that feel empty because control cannot give us safety; it only gives us distance. It’s time to rebuild safety from within. To rest, to feel, and to let go without losing power. Inside we learn how to regulate the nervous system, balance power in relationships, and create the kind of connection that doesn’t demand performance. Control was never safety. It was survival. And you deserve more than survival. Take the FREE to see how responsibility shows up in your relationships or apply for private coaching to start rebuilding your sense of safety, power, and desire. Connect with me on Instagram /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/38932385

#200 It's Not Hormones or Perimenopause Brain Fog. It’s Your Body Protecting You 10/30/2025

#200 It's Not Hormones or Perimenopause Brain Fog. It’s Your Body Protecting You Apply for the Super Traits Society- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to take back your power and create a pleasure-filled life without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. Women come into my office every week saying they can’t think clearly, they lose words mid-sentence, and they feel like their brains are failing them. They’re sure it must be hormones, thyroid, or perimenopause. Some are afraid it’s early dementia. But what if that brain fog isn’t just a sign that something is wrong on the cellular level? What if your body is protecting you? High-achieving women with super traits: empathy, responsibility, tolerance, and hard work, often live in a constant loop of over-explaining, clarifying, and managing everyone else’s emotions. That pattern, especially in relationships built on emotional abuse or coercive control, breaks down our nervous system. The confusion and brain fog you feel aren’t signs that you’re broken. There’s evidence that your body has been trying to keep you safe. I’ve seen it again and again. Women think they’re dealing with hormone imbalance, perimenopause, or chronic stress, but what’s really happening is trauma adaptation. When you’ve been conditioned to maintain peace, stay quiet, or carry the invisible load, your body learns that clarity equals conflict. The fog is protection. The confusion is your nervous system saying enough. When we stop participating in coercive control dynamics, clarity returns. The fog lifts. Desire, focus, and energy come back online. This isn’t a flaw in your body; it’s your body’s intelligence trying to save you. If you’ve been feeling lost, numb, or disconnected from your power, start by naming what’s happening. Brain fog isn’t failure. It’s evidence of endurance. Take the FREE to see how responsibility shows up in your relationships or apply for private coaching to start rebuilding your sense of safety, power, and desire. Connect with me on Instagram /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/38819850

#199 When Responsibility Turns into Resentment and Desire Disappears 10/23/2025

#198 You’re Not Codependent You’re Surviving Coercive Control 10/16/2025

#198 You’re Not Codependent You’re Surviving Coercive Control Most women try to fix their relationships or fix themselves. My work isn’t about fixing or forcing intimacy. It’s about rewiring what led you to believe that depletion was love in the first place. High-achieving women with super traits have been called codependent, people pleasers, and overfunctioners, when the truth is, we were never met. We are not meant to see extractive love, and the smartest, most successful women I know are often in the most imbalanced dynamics because we superwoman so hard. Therapy hasn’t helped because the issue isn’t communication or attachment style. It’s the extraction economy of love. Marriage benefits him more than it benefits you. Your exhaustion, burnout, resentment, and loss of desire are not personal flaws. They are symptoms of systems that reward your strengths and exploit them at the same time. Discover how to identify your super traits, recognize the invisible dynamics that have been draining you, and begin rewiring your nervous system so that love, intimacy, and desire become nourishing again. Take the to discover which of your amplified strengths, such as empathy, loyalty, responsibility, tolerance, or hard work, has been running the show and how to reclaim your power from it. Take the You can also apply for my - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You’ve Been Craving. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025 Connect with me on Instagram Take the to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/38508320

#197 Why Marriage Benefits Men More Than Women (And Leaves You Exhausted) 10/09/2025

#197 Why Marriage Benefits Men More Than Women (And Leaves You Exhausted) Something so simple but so hard for high-achieving women to accept is that we were taught male-centered love, male-centered relating, and male-centered sex. The truth that I denied for months after reading the original research is that marriage benefits him more than it benefits you. He lives longer, he is healthier, he receives emotional stability, caretaking, and the invisible workload, while your life expectancy is shortened, and you slowly find yourself erased in the roles of mother and wife. This is called the marriage benefit imbalance. Our super traits of empathy, loyalty, and responsibility make us successful, but in love, they keep us stuck. They keep us loyal when we should have left, forgiving when nothing changes, and working harder when we should be doing less. Over time, this imbalance leaves us exhausted, disconnected, and blaming ourselves. It is not your hormones, it is not that you are asking too much, it is not that you just cannot be happy. We have been surviving in a system that was never designed to fuel us. Our brilliance is undeniable, but without a new framework, our relationships will continue to drain us rather than nourish us. This is why I created the pleasure-centered method. It is a reeducation in sex, love, feeling, and living. It rewires us from survival and overgiving into intimacy and erotic connection. If you are ready to reclaim your clarity, your power, and your ability to be fully met. Join me for the eight-week live group coaching intensive and learn to put pleasure back into all areas of your life. Take the You can also apply for my - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You’ve Been Craving. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025 Connect with me on Instagram Take the to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/38450690

#196 Why Loyalty Without Reciprocity Isn’t Love 10/02/2025

#195 5 Habits of the Most Well-Loved and Well-F*cked Women 09/25/2025

#194 Why Super Traits Keep High-Achieving Women Lonely and Stuck in Relationships 09/18/2025

#194 Why Super Traits Keep High-Achieving Women Lonely and Stuck in Relationships October 2nd at 1pm ET/10am PT. The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy HERE High-achieving women are praised for their empathy, loyalty, and hard work, but these same super traits often become survival strategies that leave them exhausted, lonely, and stuck in relationships. The very qualities that help women succeed in their careers, families, and communities are the ones that quietly drain their desire, connection, and pleasure. For nearly two decades, I have worked with women in every stage of rebuilding after infidelity, illness, divorce, or the collapse of a business. No matter the circumstance, the pattern is the same. Women with super traits give more than they get. They overfunction, carry the invisible workload, excuse harmful behavior, and think 20 steps ahead for everyone else. Over time, this imbalance destroys intimacy, leaves them unfulfilled, and convinces them that they are the problem when the real issue is their conditioning. Super traits are not flaws. They are amplified strengths that become over-functioning survival strategies. Without understanding them, women waste years blaming hormones, childhood, or communication styles while repeating the same painful patterns. Take the free Super Trait Quiz through the link in the show notes to discover the number one high-achieving quality that helped you succeed but now blocks your ability to receive rest and love. Join me live on October 2 for the Super Traits Masterclass, JOIN HERE, where you will learn why effort and patience have not brought the intimacy you crave and the first step to creating a relationship that feels mutual, alive, and sustainable. Take the to discover your top traits and learn how they are shaping your relationships. You can also apply for my - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You’ve Been Craving. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025 Connect with me on Instagram Take the to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/38175830

#193 How Tone Policing Leads to Loss of Intimacy and Low Libido 09/11/2025

#193 How Tone Policing Leads to Loss of Intimacy and Low Libido Join the FREE Super Trait Masterclass October 2nd, 2025 @ 1pmET/10amPT The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy. I am feeling direct today, and it could be the eight cortados I had while writing content. There are a few things that are always true after working with thousands of women with super traits. If he cannot handle your tone, he is never going to be able to handle the full force of your desire, your orgasm, and your passion. Tone policing is not about communication; it is about control. When your needs and frustrations get dismissed because of how you said them instead of what you actually said. Your nervous system learns it is not safe to be fully expressed. That same shutdown shows up in the bedroom and is the reason so many women with super traits feel exhausted, resentful, and sexless in their marriages. Tone policing keeps women performing instead of receiving, and it robs intimacy and desire. Therapy and communication tips often fail for women with super traits because they miss the real issue. Power dynamics, not hormones, not stress, and not communication formulas are the barrier to real intimacy. If you are wondering why you can orgasm alone but not with your partner, why you feel shut down, or why your marriage feels sexless, this will give you the language and clarity you need. Take the to discover your top traits and learn how they are shaping your relationships. You can also apply for my - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You’ve Been Craving. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025 Connect with me on Instagram Take the to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/38091010

#192 Why Smart Women Get Stuck in Extractive Relationships Instead of Pleasure-Centered Ones 09/04/2025

#191 Why You Only Want Sex on Vacation. How to Get Desire Back at Home 08/28/2025

#191 Why You Only Want Sex on Vacation. How to Get Desire Back at Home Summer is almost over, and I see a lot of my clients getting caught up in loops. You know that version of you that shows up on vacation. The one who laughs more easily, who says yes to sex, who feels lighter and more present in her body. Or maybe, like me, you have lived years experiencing a vacation from a bird’s-eye view, outside of your body, because of how burnt out you were. That woman isn’t fake. That’s you. But on vacation, you are not free to show up day to day either. Vacation sex is a lot like affair sex. All of the dopamine, none of the responsibility. If your relationship feels like a job and you only feel sparks or connection when you are away from your real life and responsibilities, this conversation is for you. You might be wondering why you only feel desire on vacation, why you crave sex when you are stress-free, but shut down as soon as you are home. Desire is not gone. It is buried under responsibility, gender roles, patriarchy, and nervous system overload. Vacation sex is not proof that your relationship is fine. It is proof that your desire remains. We are looking at the patterns that keep you blaming hormones or libido when what is really happening is your body protecting you. We are talking about bread crumbing, over-functioning, and super traits like empathy and achievement that erode intimacy without you even realizing it. Your erotic power and your desire do not need an escape. They need a new map. This is the first step on the pleasure path and the reason therapy, communication tips, or sex hacks have not worked. Once you can name the invisible dynamics at play, the path back to erotic aliveness and pleasure-centered relationships becomes clear. Apply for the Super Traits Society- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to take back your power and create a pleasure-filled life without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. EP198 Connect with me on Instagram Take the to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. Join us in the Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025 /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/37975580

#190 Why Strong Women Overlook Betrayal and Red Flags in Relationships 08/21/2025

#189 How to Build a Pleasure-Centered Relationship from the Inside Out 08/14/2025

#189 How to Build a Pleasure-Centered Relationship from the Inside Out Most women don’t need another date night, another vacation, or better communication strategies. What they need is a radical unlearning of everything they were taught about love and intimacy. Because even the good relationships are built on extraction. Not reciprocity. Not mutuality. Not pleasure. If your relationship feels like a second job, if your body is numb, if you’ve been blaming your hormones or your libido and nothing ever really changes, this episode will hit deep. You’ve been rewarded for self-sacrifice your entire life. You are the one who holds it all. The one who fixes. The one who over-functions while feeling like your needs are too much. That’s not connection. That’s performance. That’s survival. And it’s killing your desire. This is where we name what’s really going on. The invisible emotional labor. The power imbalances are hiding in plain sight. The way women with super traits are conditioned to have their power extracted and their pleasure pathologized. So what does a pleasure-centered relationship actually looks like? A relationship where mutual joy, emotional safety, and erotic connection are prioritized. Not logistics. Not roles. Not appearances. A relationship where your nervous system can soften, your needs are valid, and your body is safe to receive. If you’re ready to stop performing pleasure and start feeling it, take the and find out where you are. And if this resonates with you, I’ve opened this fall for women who are ready to transform everything about the way they love. You don’t need to leave your relationship. But you do need to leave the version of yourself that disappears inside it. Connect with me on Instagram Take the to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/37806045

#188 Is He a Great Partner or Just Really Good at Control? The Good Guy Gaslighter 08/07/2025

#187 The Truth About Estrogen & Breast Cancer That No One Is Telling Women 07/31/2025

#187 The Truth About Estrogen & Breast Cancer That No One Is Telling Women If you’ve ever been told that estrogen causes breast cancer, or that your mammogram will save your life, or that your only option is to “cut, poison, and burn,” this episode is going to challenge everything you’ve been taught. Dr. Jenn Simmons joins me for an honest conversation about what actually causes breast cancer, why the screening model is flawed, and how functional medicine is changing the game. Dr. Jenn was one of the top breast cancer surgeons in Philadelphia. She was the first fellowship-trained breast surgeon in her city. The first onco-plastic surgeon in the state. She was saving lives and doing everything by the book. Until one day, her own health collapsed. She went from being one of the most high-functioning people in the room to not being able to walk across it. When the system she worked in told her she needed chemo, radiation, and lifelong meds, a voice inside her said, there is something more. Go find it. And she did. She now leads a movement to help women prevent and reverse breast cancer using evidence-based functional medicine, hormone support, and real prevention strategies rooted in nutrition, detoxification, and nervous system health. We talk about what really causes breast cancer, how chronic stress and overachievement contribute to disease, why estrogen is not the enemy, the damage of overtreatment and fear-based care, how to actually screen for breast cancer without radiation, and what needs to happen to stop the silent suffering of survivors. This episode is for every woman who’s been told to be grateful just to be alive while she quietly suffers in pain, incontinence, insomnia, low libido, and fear. It’s for the woman who wants more than survival. And it’s for every high-achieving, burnt-out, hormone-depleted woman who needs a wake-up call before the body says no. If you’ve ever felt like no one was telling the whole truth about women’s health, this conversation is your proof that you’re not crazy. The system is broken. And there are other answers. Connect with Jordin Instagram Take the to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. Success, intimacy, pleasure, you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. Connect with Dr. Jenn Simmons Check out Dr. Jenn’s work at . Instagam Get Imaging /episode/index/show/3628cdf4-9ec7-4a00-954b-1321221dc60c/id/37615010

#186 Kink Isn’t About Pain It’s About Power and Presence 07/24/2025

#185 10 Phrases That Turn High-Achieving Women On When She is Burned Out (Make Her Want Sex Again) 07/17/2025

#184 Multiple Orgasms Aren’t About Skill, They’re About Safety 07/10/2025

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