How to Use Dating Apps Without Losing Yourself: A Coaching Session with Listener Jill
Release Date: 01/08/2025
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info_outlineIn today’s episode, you’re going to get the best advice that will help you navigate the world of dating.
Tara’s joined by a listener who’s called in to talk about her struggles with dating in a small town. Meet Jill, who’s been through emotionally unavailable relationships, including a 16-year marriage and a three-year relationship with a narcissist. She’s been facing challenges on dating apps, and now, as she approaches her 48th birthday, she’s feeling uncertain about finding someone genuine.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
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Jill on maintaining an optimistic outlook on dating
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The limiting beliefs
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The frustrations of dating in a small town and what that’s like
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Navigating divorce and moving past past relationships
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How to make the most of your dating profile and dating apps
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How loving and accepting yourself can transform your dating life
Tara’s advice will help uncover what’s missing or what might be holding you back if dating apps have you feeling stuck or trapped in a loop. She’ll also dive into the underlying beliefs that could be holding you back.
If you’re interested in being coached LIVE on the podcast like Jill, head to unblockyourbs.com/podcast to submit your questions or send a voice memo. You could get your questions answered live or get a FREE coaching session with Tara just like our guest today!
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