Unblock Your BS
Are you sick of the BS holding you back? "Unblock Your BS" is your no-nonsense guide to healing, self-awareness, and reclaiming your power. Hosted by Coach Tara, a certified somatic release breathwork practitioner and self awareness coach, this podcast dives deep into the belief systems (and, let’s be real, the bullshit) that keep us stuck. Each episode explores topics like self-love, emotional intelligence, healing from anxiety and depression, breaking free from toxic cycles, the root causes of our own people pleasing and self abandonment in relationships, and finding your authentic voice. Whether you’re navigating a breakup or divorce, recovering from burnout, or just looking for tools to live a more aligned life, this podcast is your space to unblock your potential. It's time to rewrite your story, take radical ownership of your life, and join the self-aware army. Let's break through the BS together!
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Men Don't Have to Get Screwed in Divorce (Here's the Playbook)
04/01/2026
Men Don't Have to Get Screwed in Divorce (Here's the Playbook)
Most people don’t go into marriage expecting it to end. And when it does… they don’t have a roadmap. If you're a man facing divorce, you’ve probably heard the same story on repeat: You’ll lose your money. You’ll lose your kids. The system is rigged against you. But what if most of that is just noise? In this episode of Unblock Your BS, I sit down with Joe Dillon, co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, to break down what actually happens in divorce, and how to navigate it without destroying your finances, your relationship with your kids, or yourself. Joe has spent 17+ years helping couples avoid courtroom battles and unnecessary chaos. He also lived through a highly contentious divorce as a child, which shaped the way he approaches this work today. We get into: Why divorce becomes a financial and emotional war zone The biggest myths men believe (and what’s actually true) How mediation works—and when it doesn’t What you can do right now to protect your time, money, and future And where this conversation really lands… is in how you approach the process. Because most people are making decisions way too early, based on eмоtion, assumptions, or incomplete information. One of the biggest shifts Joe shares is simple: do the discovery before the deciding. Don’t agree to anything until you actually understand what you’re working with. We also unpack: Why the “system is rigged” narrative isn’t the full story What 50/50 parenting actually looks like in real life (and where most men get it wrong) What child support really is (and why it’s often misunderstood) How to build a parenting plan that doesn’t fall apart What actually damages kids during divorce… so you don’t make it worse. Key Takeaways Divorce isn’t just emotional—it’s a negotiation Most conflict is driven by fear, control, and miscommunication Child support is shared responsibility, not punishment Parenting doesn’t stop when it’s “not your day” Your kids didn’t ask for this… protect them from the fallout If this episode hit for you: 👉 Want to stop reacting and start responding? Download my 👉 Want support around relationships, emotional regulation, and rebuilding? Join the 👉 Ready for deeper work? Apply for About Our Guest: Joe Dillon is the co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, where he and his wife Cheryl (a divorce coach) help couples divorce without lawyers. Joe has an MBA in Finance and combines that financial expertise with deep personal experience—he is the child of a litigated divorce that left scars. Over the past 17 years, Joe has helped hundreds of couples avoid the courtroom nightmare and walk away with agreements that actually work. His approach is tactical, financial, and refreshingly honest. He practices in six states: Washington, California, Illinois, New York, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania. Connect with Joe Dillon: You can find Joe and access free resources, courses, and consultation options at . He is also active on social media where he shares divorce and co-parenting advice: Instagram: Facebook: YouTube: LinkedIn: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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From Affairs + Escapism to Healing: Coleman’s Nervous System Comeback
03/25/2026
From Affairs + Escapism to Healing: Coleman’s Nervous System Comeback
At 25, Coleman was cheating on his wife, chronically lying, and living in constant fight-or-flight. He didn’t just lose his marriage. He realized he didn’t like who he had become. This episode is the raw, unfiltered story of what it actually takes to change, not through mindset hacks, but through nervous system healing. From rock bottom… to somatic work, subconscious reprogramming, breathwork, and rebuilding emotional integrity. Today, Coleman helps women regulate their nervous systems, and teaches men how to create emotional safety instead of control. This conversation goes beyond “self-improvement.” It’s about what happens when your body finally learns safety. In This Episode, We Unpack: Why trauma isn’t just the event, it’s the story the body keeps telling Talk therapy (“mind down”) vs somatic coaching (“body up”) How breathwork completes the emotional processing loop Why peace can feel unsafe after years of chaos Co-regulation vs codependency… and what “fixing” is really about What emotional safety actually means in relationships How anxiety shows up in the body (and why you’re not “just an anxious person”) Why many men resist emotional work, and what shifts that Coleman shares the moment he looked at his life and thought: “I don’t like who I am.” That moment led him into: Plant medicine Somatic healing Inner child work Reparenting Intensive breathwork practice And ultimately…. into becoming a nervous system coach. If This Episode Hit… Send it to someone who: Says they’re “just anxious” Struggles with control in relationships Feels stuck in fight-or-flight Wants to feel safe in their own body About Coleman Coleman is a holistic health and wellness coach with over 12 years of experience. His work now centers on nervous system regulation, subconscious reprogramming, and lifestyle transformation. He helps clients reconnect with their inner light and build emotional resilience from the body up. 🌐 Website: Coleheartedwellness.com 📱 TikTok: @coleheartedwellness 📷 Instagram: @colehearted_wellness Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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I Lost My Marriage… and Found Myself
03/18/2026
I Lost My Marriage… and Found Myself
Some moments in life split your story into two chapters: Before. And after. For Charlie, that moment happened the night he discovered his wife was having an affair. After 15 years together, his marriage collapsed overnight. His nervous system spiraled. His identity shattered. And he found himself sitting in his car wondering how his life had fallen apart so quickly. But that breakdown became the beginning of something unexpected. In this episode, Charlie shares the real story behind his healing journey inside the Healthy Men-tality program, from emotional shutdown and codependency to learning how to regulate his nervous system, rebuild his self-worth, and show up as a safer father and partner. What started as survival turned into transformation. Today? He's rebuilding his life, reconnecting with himself, strengthening his relationship with his kids, and discovering what it actually means to feel confident, calm, and emotionally safe. Not because his life became perfect. But because he changed how he shows up inside it. In this episode we explore: Why men often suppress emotions until everything explodes The nervous system spiral that happens after betrayal The codependency patterns that quietly destroy relationships How childhood wounds shape adult relationships The breathwork experience that completely shifted his healing Learning to observe thoughts instead of being controlled by them Setting boundaries with parents for the first time Becoming a safer parent for his kids during divorce Rebuilding identity after a relationship ends What happens when a man learns emotional regulation Charlie didn’t just learn how to survive divorce. He learned how to trust himself again. And that changed everything. If you're a man navigating heartbreak, divorce, or feeling stuck in survival mode… You don't have to figure it out alone. The Healthy Men-tality Program teaches men how to: Regulate their nervous system Lead themselves emotionally Build relationships rooted in emotional safety Break patterns that sabotage connection Apply or learn more here: Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Rebuilding Trust With Yourself After Cheating, Divorce, or Betrayal
03/11/2026
Rebuilding Trust With Yourself After Cheating, Divorce, or Betrayal
Heartbreak has a way of exposing patterns we didn’t even realize we were living inside of. In this episode, Tara sits down with heartbreak and relationship coach Erica Wright to unpack the deeper dynamics that show up in relationships, especially after betrayal, divorce, or emotional disconnection. The conversation explores how codependency develops, why people often ignore their intuition in relationships, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust with yourself after a painful breakup. Erica shares how she helps clients heal using parts work and inner child work, explaining how the different “parts” of our psyche, like the people pleaser, the protector, or the abandoned child can drive our behaviors in relationships without us realizing it. Together, Tara and Erica explore the connection between nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and self-awareness, and why many relationship struggles aren’t really about the surface-level conflict at all. They also dive into one of the most misunderstood concepts in relationships today: emotional safety… what it actually means, why so many men misunderstand it, and how learning to stay present with emotions (rather than fixing them) can completely change the dynamic between partners. If you've ever struggled with codependency, ignored your gut feeling in a relationship, or wondered how to trust again after betrayal, this conversation offers practical insight into how healing actually happens. In This Episode Why codependency often looks like “being supportive” or “loving deeply” How parts work (Internal Family Systems) helps people understand their emotional patterns The role of inner child work in healing anxious attachment and people-pleasing Why betrayal and cheating can create trauma to your sense of reality How rebuilding trust after heartbreak starts with trusting yourself again Practical ways to understand what your body is communicating through emotions What women mean when they say they want emotional safety in a relationship Why trying to “fix” your partner’s emotions often makes things worse How curiosity and presence can transform difficult relationship conversations About Erica Wright Erica Wright is a relationship and heartbreak coach who supports people navigating breakups, divorce, and emotional healing after relationship loss. Her work integrates parts work, subconscious reprogramming, inner child work, and nervous system regulation to help clients rebuild self-trust and create healthier relationships moving forward. You can find Erica on TikTok and Instagram: @thewright_erica Listen + subscribe: If this hit you, subscribe and leave a review — it helps more people find the work. Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit here: Use the couple code PODCAST to get 20% discount Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Navigating Post-Divorce Grief
03/04/2026
Navigating Post-Divorce Grief
Divorce is messy. It’s grief. It's a relief. It’s rage. It’s freedom. Sometimes all in the same week. In this solo episode, I break down what really happens after divorce, especially for the men I work with inside Healthy Men-tality. The bitterness. The bargaining. The shame spiral. The temptation to jump into something new just to avoid being alone. And here’s the bold truth: Dating while you’re still legally or emotionally tied to someone else often isn’t healing… it’s avoidance. We talk about: The 5 stages of grief in divorce (even when you initiated it) Why second marriages have higher divorce rates The nervous system rush of “new love” Shame as a childhood motivator… and how it follows men into adulthood Why being alone isn’t proof you’re unlovable How your partner reflects your self-worth Standards vs. protection The difference between choosing singleness and hiding in it This episode is about reclaiming yourself, not rushing to replace what you lost. If you’re navigating separation, divorce, or life after a long-term relationship, this one’s for you. If you’re ready to rebuild as a grounded, regulated, self-aware man, DM me HEAL and let’s talk about Healthy Men-tality. Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Reigniting Desire: From Roommate Marriage to Real Intimacy with Dan Purcell
02/25/2026
Reigniting Desire: From Roommate Marriage to Real Intimacy with Dan Purcell
You’re good teammates.Good parents. But behind closed doors?Something’s missing. The spark.The fire.The “I can’t wait to touch you” energy. Most couples don’t talk about sex or nobody knows how to actually talk about it. In this episode, I sit down with sex and intimacy coach Dan Purcell to talk about what’s really underneath the roommate marriage phase and why trying to “get more sex” is often the exact thing killing desire. We unpack: Why desire discrepancy is so common (and what it actually means) The “sweatpants phase” and how polarity shifts over time How covert contracts and duty-based sex quietly destroy intimacy Why trying to control or convince your partner backfires How men can express sexual desire without entitlement or blame The real role nervous system regulation plays in attraction Why emotional safety is the foundation of sexual chemistry Practical, playful ways to bring novelty back into your relationship The truth? You don’t improve your sex life by controlling your partner. You improve it by regulating yourself. When emotional safety increases, desire often follows. When nervous systems calm down, intimacy has room to breathe. And when conversations shift from entitlement to vulnerability, connection deepens. If you’ve been feeling rejected, frustrated, or confused about why intimacy feels harder than it used to, this episode will give you clarity and next steps. Learn more about Dan Purcell: Website: Podcast: Get Your Marriage OnApp: Intimately Us (Available on Apple & Google Play) Have a story to share on your own healing journey or insights on self-awareness? We’d love to have you as our guest, reach us at Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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She Cheated. Here’s What I Did Instead of Exploding
02/20/2026
She Cheated. Here’s What I Did Instead of Exploding
Two D’ Days. That’s what Clayton calls them. The day he discovered the sexual affair. And the day he found out it wasn’t the only one. She cheated. Twice. When he found out about the affairs, his reality shattered. He stopped functioning. Sat on the couch. Scrolled TikTok for answers. Six months later? His marriage is still rocky. But he’s calm. Clear. Grounded. And not afraid anymore. In this episode, Clayton shares what happened after joining Healthy Men-tality and how nervous system regulation changed everything, not by saving his marriage overnight, but by rebuilding him. We unpack: What betrayal actually does to a man’s nervous system Why breathwork felt “sketchy” (until it rocked his world) The physical experience of emotional release (yes… including the T-Rex arms) Killing the people pleaser without becoming an asshole Emotional detachment vs. emotional shutdown Setting boundaries when trust is gone The moment divorce stopped scaring him How showing up for himself made him a better father Clayton shares what it looked like to: Stop performing for love Stop negotiating self-respect Stop trying to control someone else’s choices Draw a line in the sand Show up as a father with presence and clarity He says something powerful in this episode: “The old me is dead.” And what replaced him? A man who can sit in sadness without collapsing. A man who doesn’t fear divorce. A man who doesn’t chase breadcrumbs. A man who can say: “I’m not abandoning myself anymore.” If you’re in a relationship that’s falling apart… If you’re trying to earn love through performance… If you feel shattered, dysregulated, stuck… This episode will hit. If you resonated with Clayton’s story, I’m hosting a free 60-minute live training: From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuilding the Man We’ll break down: Why you shut down, blow up, or chase How survival mode sabotages connection The 3-step Regulate. Lead. Connect. framework What it actually means to become emotionally safe There are only 3 live class times and I cap attendance so I can answer questions. 👉 Save your seat at: Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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You Changed. She’s Still Mad.
02/18/2026
You Changed. She’s Still Mad.
You finally decided to do the work. You’re learning about nervous system regulation. You’re reflecting on your patterns. You’re trying to show up differently. And instead of relief… She says: “Why now?” “I’ve been asking for this for years.” In this episode, Tara breaks down: Why resentment often shows up when growth begins What emotional shutdown in women actually means Why your healing doesn’t automatically repair years of micro-betrayals How to develop emotional range instead of emotional volatility What emotional safety actually means (beyond the buzzword) Why empathy isn’t weakness — it’s leadership If you’re navigating a separation, divorce, or relationship breakdown… If she feels emotionally out of reach… If you freeze, shut down, over-explain, or get defensive in conflict… This episode will challenge you — and give you a path forward. Want to go deeper? Register for the free training: From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuilding the Man 👉 Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Why Defensiveness Is Wrecking Your Relationship (And What It’s Really Protecting)
02/11/2026
Why Defensiveness Is Wrecking Your Relationship (And What It’s Really Protecting)
If every conversation with your partner feels like an attack… If feedback turns into defensiveness, shutdowns, or arguments… If you keep asking yourself, “Why does this keep happening?” This episode is for you. In today’s conversation, I break down why defensiveness isn’t confidence or self-advocacy… it’s a nervous system response rooted in shame and early childhood wiring. We’re unpacking: Why your body reacts before your logic ever shows up How defensiveness protects an identity wound, not your relationship The difference between guilt (“I did something wrong”) and shame (“I am wrong”) Why high-achieving men feel regulated at work but unravel at home How childhood beliefs quietly drive adult relationship conflict What actually changes when you heal self-worth instead of chasing validation This isn’t about blaming your partner.It’s about understanding what’s happening inside you, and learning how to interrupt the cycle so you can show up steady, grounded, and emotionally safe. If you’re ready to stop surviving your relationship and start rebuilding from the inside out, I’m inviting you to my free training: 👉 From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuild A one-hour class on nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and rebuilding connection without shame or self-abandonment. Register here: Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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What does emotional safety really mean?
02/05/2026
What does emotional safety really mean?
When life punches you in the throat (flu, ice storm, a branch through your roof at 5am… you know, casual “unprecedented times” stuff), you learn real fast what “emotional safety” actually means. And here’s the thing: emotional safety has become a buzzword. A lot of women use it. A lot of men hear it and instantly translate it as physical safety. “I’ve never hit her.” “I don’t scream.” “I would never hurt her.” Cool… but that’s not the conversation your partner is trying to have. In this episode, I’m breaking down what an emotionally safe partner is NOT—because most relationships aren’t falling apart from one big dramatic event. They’re dying from the daily patterns: defensiveness, fixing, shutting down, walking on eggshells, and two nervous systems treating each other like threats. Spoiler alert: You can’t create emotional safety with someone if you don’t know how to be emotionally safe within yourself. In this episode, we get into: Why “I never get upset” isn’t emotional safety - it’s usually repression The difference between uncomfortable vs unsafe (and why this wrecks communication) Why walking on eggshells is a relationship death sentence The Fixer/Rescuer trap: how “solving it” is often you avoiding your own discomfort Why the real root problems aren’t the dishwasher, the tone, or the text message How trauma (big T and little t) gets stuck in the body and drives your reactions Why therapy-speak doesn’t equal healing (and why your partner can feel the difference) The skill that changes everything: curiosity > defensiveness Next week, registration opens for my biggest free training yet: “From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuild” We’re going deep on nervous system regulation, relationship patterns, and what it actually takes to become an emotionally safe partner. If you’re not on my email list, you might miss the registration link so download this free 5 minute Breathwork gift and it’ll get you on my email list and give you a daily reset tool to practice: Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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“I Only Feel Anger and Barely Joy” When a Man Goes Numb
01/21/2026
“I Only Feel Anger and Barely Joy” When a Man Goes Numb
Wayne is separated from his wife of 30 years and after starting therapy, he’s realizing something that hits a lot of men like a truck: He spent decades hiding emotions to keep the peace… until his body couldn’t do it anymore. In this coaching episode, we talk about emotional shutdown, suppressed rage, and why Wayne mostly feels anger and barely joy with almost nothing in between. We break down what “freeze + fight” looks like in real life, why emotions feel scary when you’ve been trained to suppress them, and the practical tools that help you find the gap between trigger and reaction (so you don’t explode… or disappear). In this episode, we cover: Why emotional numbness isn’t “cold”...it’s survival The difference between fight vs freeze (and how men get stuck in both) A simple body-scan + breathing tool that takes 10 seconds How to widen the “gap” in the heat of conflict Why your self-image can’t be built on achievements The “boiling pot with the lid on” metaphor (and why breathwork works to turn off the heat) How to stop outsourcing validation and start meeting your own needs Want support? If you’re a man navigating separation/divorce, emotional shutdown, rage, or relationship patterns you’re ready to change, you can learn more about Healthy Men-tality and even apply for the program here: And if you ever want to be coached on the podcast, you can apply at Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Divorce Papers on the Counter: A Fearful Avoidant’s Wake-Up Call
01/14/2026
Divorce Papers on the Counter: A Fearful Avoidant’s Wake-Up Call
He came home from an AA meeting. The kids were gone. His wife was gone. Divorce papers were sitting on the counter. And that was just the beginning. In today’s coaching episode, I’m talking with Onus bout what happens when: your nervous system lives on high alert, being misunderstood feels like a threat, anger shows up before vulnerability, and your relationships become a constant attempt to “earn” love… instead of receive it. We get into disorganized / fearful-avoidant attachment, ADHD rage, the difference between uncomfortable vs unsafe, and why co-parenting trust can’t be rebuilt on vague mind-reading rules. If you’ve ever thought: “Why do I get so defensive?” “Why don’t I trust good things?” “Why does being alone feel unbearable?” …this one is for you. In this episode, we cover: Why “ethical non-monogamy” often becomes outsourced connection when there aren’t real boundaries The real fear under defensiveness: “If I’m alone, I don’t matter” Why yelling can feel normal to one person and unsafe to another (and what to do with that) A simple co-regulation tool to use mid-conflict The question that changes co-parenting dynamics: “What’s the roadmap back to trust?” Why shame keeps you stuck and what accountability actually looks like Your next step (if you want support): If you’re a man trying to rebuild your emotional stability, relationships, and self-respect after divorce or heartbreak, my program Healthy Men-tality was built for this. Learn more + apply: And if you’re not ready for that yet, start with one small thing today like downloading my free 5minute daily breathwork practice to take the edge off the intensity of your stress, anxiety, anger or fear… Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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If She’s “Always Mad,” You’re Missing the Point (And Making It Worse)
12/17/2025
If She’s “Always Mad,” You’re Missing the Point (And Making It Worse)
When your partner is “mad,” most people react like anger is the problem. It’s not. Anger is usually protection and what’s underneath it is what actually needs care, leadership, and emotional intelligence. In this episode, I’m going to break down what happens when men outsource emotional labor to women, why women’s hormones can amplify stress without either partner realizing what’s happening, and how relationships slowly lose intentionality until everything becomes reactive. I’m also going to share the five common mistakes that keep couples stuck in the same cycle ESPECIALLY after kids, stress, and burnout enter the picture. In this episode, I cover: Why anger is a protective emotion (and what’s usually underneath it) How men’s default “anger strategies” (shutdown, defensiveness, blow-ups) block connection What it looks like to outsource emotional labor to your partner (reassurance, hypervigilance, avoiding hard conversations) A practical view of women’s hormones and why “she woke up anxious/mad” isn’t always about you Why couples get trapped in “who does more” wars instead of co-creating a shared vision Accountability vs. apologizing: why “I’m sorry” without identity-level change is lip service The praise problem: why wanting validation for small tasks often means you don’t validate yourself Why boundaries feel “controlling” to people who avoid conflict and what happens to your body when you repress emotions How emotional safety is built (and why intimacy often disappears when safety disappears) If you’re realizing you’ve been reactive, avoidant, or stuck in the same cycle and you want actual tools for emotional regulation, conflict, boundaries, and relational leadership check out the Healthy Men-tality program - a 12-week training + coaching container that teaches men nervous system regulation, childhood wiring, codependency healing, leadership in relationships, and practical emotional tools that change how you show up. Learn more and apply here: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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From Human Doing to Human Being: Healing the “I’m Not Enough” BS Belief
12/10/2025
From Human Doing to Human Being: Healing the “I’m Not Enough” BS Belief
You can know all the nervous system language, do the breathwork, read the books, got therapy… and still find yourself lying awake at 3 a.m. replaying every conversation with your partner (past or present), wondering why you STILL feel like a failure. In today’s episode, I coach Autumn - a recently divorced listener to the pod - through the question that’s been running her entire life since childhood… “Am I enough?" What You’ll Hear in This Episode: How fear of failure and “am I enough?” get tangled together and bleed into every area of your life. What functional freeze actually looks like in real life (spoiler: you can still go to work, pay bills, and be completely shut down). Why your brain loops at night and how to work with your body instead of fighting it when you can’t sleep. The moment Autumn realizes she’s still competing with her younger brother’s “golden child” status and how that old comparison is driving her money, success, and relationship stress. The difference between being a human doing and a human being, and why rest feels so unsafe when your worth has always been tied to performance. How childhood people-pleasing patterns shows up as over-functioning in adult relationships. A simple way to notice whether you’re acting from self-abandonment or self-respect in how you’re showing up in relationships. If you’ve ever sat in bed thinking, “I’ve done so much healing work - why am I still triggered by this?”, this episode will help you see that you’re not broken. Your nervous system is just running the only pattern it’s ever known - staying safe by believing you’re never enough. Once you can see that familiar pattern, you can start choosing something different to shift out of toxic patterns and cycles! Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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How to Survive the Holidays During or After Divorce
11/26/2025
How to Survive the Holidays During or After Divorce
When you're going through a separation or divorce, the holiday season doesn’t feel magical… it feels like a spotlight on everything that’s changed. Waking up in a quiet house… splitting time with your kids for the first time… trying to act “fine” while everyone around you is celebrating, it can make even the strongest men feel cracked open. In this episode, I share what no one prepares you for during the first (or third) holiday season when your family dynamic looks different than you ever imagined and how to survive it without collapsing into shame, isolation, or panic. More importantly, we talk about how to stop resisting what is so you can start creating a holiday experience that doesn’t make you dread December every year. Episode highlights include: Why loneliness hits harder when you're already grieving the life you thought you'd have The difference between pain and suffering (and why one is optional) How to make this season suck less without forcing joy or pretending you're okay Creative ways to redefine holidays when you're without your kids What to do when family expectations make everything worse How to stop seeing being alone as evidence that you're unlovable The mindset shift that turns holidays from something you endure into something you can shape If this season feels heavy, this episode will help you take back choice, control, and dignity even when nothing looks the way you wanted it to. 🎁 Holiday Gift for Our Listeners - The Gift of a Regulated Nervous System AND AS MY GIFT TO OUR PODCAST LISTENERS IN NAVIGATING THIS HOLIDAY SEASON TO SUCK LESS - come learn to regulate your nervous system with Somatic Breathwork inside of my Breathwork Community called The Self Aware Army for only $1 for your first month in the program (then $39/month thereafter - cancel anytime). To Learn More about the Self Aware Army and to Get started today for Only $1 You’ll get: Live monthly somatic breathwork sessions On-demand 24/7 breathwork library Coaching support A community that gets it and is healing together If there was ever a time to have tools instead of just trying to “get through it,” it’s right now. Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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From Saving the Marriage to Saving Himself: Brian’s Shift from Fixing to Leading
11/19/2025
From Saving the Marriage to Saving Himself: Brian’s Shift from Fixing to Leading
When Brian joined Healthy Men-tality, his marriage was on life support. He was desperate to fix the cracks that had formed after trust was broken but what he discovered was that the real repair had to start within himself. In this raw, powerful conversation, Brian shares how learning nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and inner healing shifted him from people-pleasing and fear of abandonment to grounded self-leadership. You’ll hear: What happens when men stop fixing and start feeling The cycle of rejection and resentment that kills connection How breathwork became a bridge back to emotional safety Why learning to be present changed his family’s dynamic What rebuilding trust really looks like… with yourself and your partner If your marriage feels impossible, this episode is living proof that healing is possible but it starts with you. 👉 Learn more about the Healthy Men-tality program and apply here: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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The “Not Good Enough” Trap: Jim’s 40-Year Cycle of Self-Abandonment (and How to Break It)
11/12/2025
The “Not Good Enough” Trap: Jim’s 40-Year Cycle of Self-Abandonment (and How to Break It)
Men: if you’re exhausted trying to “be enough” and fix everything at home, this episode shows how to stop self-abandoning, regulate, and lead yourself so connection actually grows (instead of resentment). In this coaching episode, we unpack the real reason many men feel “not good enough” and why trying to manage your partner’s emotions keeps you stuck. You’ll learn how codependency forms, why her mood can’t define your worth, and the simple, uncomfortable actions that build emotional safety: stop fixing, own your lane, and make choices you’re proud of (even if you’re scared). What You’ll learn: • What codependency looks like in men (plain English) • Why “happy wife, happy life” backfires and what to do instead • Emotional safety basics: predictability, regulation, curiosity over control • How to rebuild connection with your kids (why calls beat texts) • A 30-day check-in rhythm for couples to get out of survival mode If this hit home and you want support to rebuild your identity, calm your nervous system, and lead with clarity, apply for Healthy Men-tality. There’s no commitment to join by applying - it just lets us hop on a quick Zoom to figure out what support makes sense for you right now and if this 12 week coaching program is the next right step if you’re a man experiencing the same struggles our guest Jim is experiencing: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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From “Man Up” to Showing Up: Former Pro Athlete on Healing, Emotional Safety & Real Connection
11/05/2025
From “Man Up” to Showing Up: Former Pro Athlete on Healing, Emotional Safety & Real Connection
If you’ve ever been praised at work and lost at home, you’re not alone. My good friend and guest on today’s episode is Paul Coleman, who thought “providing” was enough for his family… until conflicts, distance, and a daughter’s simple note exposed the truth: true connection with loved ones was a skill and he was lacking in it. Paul is a former professional athlete and top 1% California real estate agent, husband, and father to four. Over two years, he has rebuilt his inner world - finally facing childhood wounds he swore he had dealt with already, learning emotional safety for himself and how to create that for others, and choosing presence over performance. In this episode, he shares the exact steps that changed how he shows up for his family differently, because what he believed was “showing up” wasn’t working. You’ll Hear Why “man up” works- until it absolutely doesn’t The household red flags that launched his healing journey The book that unlocked his reactivity as a father and partner (“Parenting from the Inside Out”) How reframing his origin story (and writing to his estranged father) melted decades of anger Emotional safety 101: presence, regulation, and not mirroring your partner’s mood The 6-year-old’s note that reoriented his entire approach to love How to stop fixing and start holding (and why it changes everything) Building brotherhood: why men’s groups accelerate growth Practical boundaries when hormones, stress, and history collide Walk away with a clear picture of what emotional safety looks like in practice from a man’s perspective, how to become the grounded “rock” your partner and kids can lean on, and why presence… NOT performance creates lasting connection. And men listening - if you’re feeling called out (in the best way) - Learn more and Apply for my men’s coaching program: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Wife or Bust: Dating With Integrity, Courage & Clarity (feat. Chris Bates & Joel Cochran)
10/29/2025
Wife or Bust: Dating With Integrity, Courage & Clarity (feat. Chris Bates & Joel Cochran)
Modern dating is a minefield of mixed signals, ghosting, and people saying they want “real connection” while avoiding the real work it takes to build one. But what if the chaos wasn’t a punishment - what if it’s a mirror? In this episode, two men pull back the curtain on how to date with radical transparency and integrity in a world full of band-aids and quick fixes. Chris Bates, Dating Coach for Men and author of The Dating Edge, and Joel Cochran, mindset and business coach and co-creator of Wife or Bust, are on a mission to help men turn modern dating into a springboard for personal development. They talk about how childhood wounds shape attraction, why most people use dating apps like slot machines instead of filters, and what it actually means to lead with character and clarity in love. You’ll Hear: How to turn the mess of modern dating into a personal development game. The mindset shift that makes dating less about “finding her” and more about becoming him. Joel’s simple rule that instantly lowers defensiveness and builds connection: “Questions pull. Statements press.” Why men hear feedback better from other men - and how to build your own brotherhood. What “dating with integrity” really means (and why you should always close the loop instead of ghosting). Chris’s “four legs of the stool” and how to build a solid life foundation before inviting a woman in. Hinge vs Bumble: why your profile isn’t a highlight reel - it’s a landing page for the right woman. If you’re a man re-entering the dating world post-divorce or just tired of surface-level connections, this conversation shows you how to approach dating as a mirror for growth — to heal old patterns, lead with honesty, and build connection through curiosity instead of control. Links & Resources Chris Bates: | Joel Cochran: | Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Retired Army Colonel Hit Rock Bottom with Alcohol and is Now an Advocate for Healing and Feeling?
10/22/2025
Retired Army Colonel Hit Rock Bottom with Alcohol and is Now an Advocate for Healing and Feeling?
Jack is a 24-year Army combat veteran who retired into a quiet house and a loud nervous system. Without the mission and tribe, drinking became the go-to “solution.” In this honest conversation, Jack shares how rock bottom in a VA emergency room cracked him open, how default coping mechanisms kept him stuck, and how Healthy Men-tality gave him the structure, community, and tools to regulate, take ownership, and rebuild his identity. You’ll hear about: The invisible crash after retirement: losing tribe, purpose, and identity Why anger “worked” in the military and failed at home Drinking as nervous-system management (effective short-term, destructive long-term) The moment of truth in the ER: admitting powerlessness and receiving help Therapy vs. coaching: connecting dots vs. changing behavior Breathwork, body-based regulation, and learning to be present Codependency, people-pleasing, and replacing shame with responsibility Building a new identity: emotionally attuned, regulated, and proud If Jack’s story hit a nerve and you’re ready to finally let go of the burden you’ve been carrying and managing (poorly) alone, apply to Healthy Men-tality. Get the knowledge, the brotherhood, and the mastery of taking control back of your life: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Beyond “Just Breathing” | How Facilitated Breathwork Rewires Your Life (Feat. Jana McKinney)
10/15/2025
Beyond “Just Breathing” | How Facilitated Breathwork Rewires Your Life (Feat. Jana McKinney)
Today I’m joined by Jana McKinney, CEO & Founder of Get Living Breathwork, to unpack why facilitated breathwork can shift you faster and deeper than years of white-knuckling or logic-only therapy. We get into the physiology (vagus nerve, diaphragmatic breathing, nitric oxide), the three layers of breathwork (awareness, daily regulation, journey work), and how journey-style sessions surface and release stored survival energy so you stop repeating the same emotional cycles. We also talk skeptics, safety, and how breathwork + therapy together becomes rocket fuel for growth. If you’ve ever wondered whether breathwork is “just woo,” this one bridges science and lived results—beautifully. What You’ll Learn Why belly/diaphragmatic breathing instantly tones the vagus nerve How “over-breathing” keeps you anxious and the 5 breaths/min fix The 3 types of breathwork: awareness, daily protocols (e.g., box breathing), and journeys What happens in a journey: stress → parasympathetic rebound, endogenous DMT release, memory reconsolidation, and somatic discharge Why gentle vs. intense protocols unlock different layers of healing How co-regulation & mirror neurons ripple healing through families A practical frame to combine therapy + breathwork for faster change Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join Coach Tara’s healing community to do a breathwork session today + learn more nervous system healing tools: Men on a Healing Journey - Ready to regulate, lead, and stop repeating patterns: Join Healthy Men-tality Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: Connect with Jana: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Divorced. Numb. Lost. Here’s What Changed for Kyle After Joining Healthy Men-tality
10/08/2025
Divorced. Numb. Lost. Here’s What Changed for Kyle After Joining Healthy Men-tality
Kyle’s story is proof that you don’t have to stay stuck in the pain of divorce, disconnection, or old patterns. In this episode, Kyle, one of the men currently inside Healthy Men-tality my 12-week coaching program just for men - shares his journey of hitting rock bottom after a blindsiding divorce, how he almost drowned in alcohol and isolation, and why he finally chose to get support. Inside the episode Kyle share how this program has helped him: Release decades of bottled-up emotions through breathwork. Find brotherhood and safety in a group of men all doing the work. Start communicating differently in dating and relationships — no longer trying to fix everything or fawn for approval. Learn to regulate his nervous system instead of spiraling. And even noticed his golf game improve because he’s no longer beating himself up hole after hole. This is what happens when men commit to healing. 👉 If Kyle’s story resonates with you, apply now for the next round of Healthy Men-tality at . Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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I Spent $7,000 on a Matchmaking Service (Here’s What Happened)
10/01/2025
I Spent $7,000 on a Matchmaking Service (Here’s What Happened)
When we’re lonely, it’s easy to throw money, time, and hope into quick fixes for love. Matchmaking services promise “high-quality partners” but are they really delivering? I dropped $7,000 on a service that matched me with men who were… let’s just say, not exactly husband material. From shocking disclosures to ghosting to inappropriate texts on Christmas, I quickly realized I’d paid a premium for more disappointment than the free dating apps. In this episode, I (embarrassingly) share my real story of hiring a matchmaker - the good, the bad, and the straight-up bizarre - so you can learn from my mistakes (and save yourself the expensive learning lessons). More importantly, I unpack what desperation does to our decision-making, and why self-work and nervous system regulation are a far better investment than outsourcing love. Episode highlights include: The truth about what matchmaking services actually offer The red flags I ignored because I wanted love so badly Why compatibility > chemistry > desperation every single time How to date without settling or self-abandoning If you’ve ever felt the pull to settle or rush love, this episode will help you pause and reset. ✨ For women: Join the Self Aware Army for breathwork + coaching → ✨ For men: Apply to Healthy Men-tality → or DM me HEAL on Tik Tok or Instagram Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Are You Fighting Your Partner...or Your Past?
09/24/2025
Are You Fighting Your Partner...or Your Past?
Most couples stay stuck in the same painful cycles because they believe their partner makes them feel unloved, unwanted, disrespected or upset. But when you hand someone else the keys to your emotional state, you give up your agency and ability to regulate your own emotions. The result? Endless reactivity, blame, and miscommunication that leaves both people hurt and defensive. In this solo episode, I’ll explain why “triggers” aren’t created by your partner - they’re revealed. Drawing on nervous system science, childhood attachment patterns, and real client examples, I’ll show you how to separate facts from stories, regulate emotions, and communicate with curiosity instead of accusation. Here’s some highlights: The orange juice metaphor that flips the script on blame A real-life birthday gift debacle one tik tok lady is facing example that reveals fact vs. story in conflict How your reticular activating system and amygdala work together in emotional spirals Why anger is a protective emotion and how to release it safely What it looks like to take your power back in relationships Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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He Broke Down Crying in a Waffle House at 1am - Then Radically Changed His Life
09/17/2025
He Broke Down Crying in a Waffle House at 1am - Then Radically Changed His Life
Most of us get hijacked by spirals of anger, shame, or the “should storms” of life. We either shut down, blow up, or perform our pain for approval. But the cost is high: broken relationships, wasted energy, endless regret, and a nervous system that never feels safe. And while the internet is full of “healing tips,” few people are embodying them in real time. Enter Eric Palacios, returning guest, creator of the Stay Light journal and Palaciosophy, and a living example of turning breakdowns into breakthroughs. In this episode we revisit the fateful Waffle House night in Nashville that shifted his life and unpack how Stoicism, Buddhism, and Taoism meet in the messiness of everyday life. In this episode we dive into… The “Waffle House breakdown” that became Eric’s catalyst for emotional autonomy The 3-part detachment framework: pause (Buddhism), control what you can (Stoicism), trust the flow (Taoism) Why performative healing isn’t the same as living in alignment How reframing “should” → “could” → “can” changes everything The trap of trying to heal partners who don’t choose their own growth Ready to stop spiraling and start leading yourself? Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Nervous System 101 for Love & Dating
09/10/2025
Nervous System 101 for Love & Dating
Why is it you can be so chill and peaceful single but the second you start the talking phase or go on a single date with someone - it triggers the anxious spirals, shutdowns, and self-abandonment that leave you doubting your worth and all of the healing work you’ve been doing single?!? From that feeling of desperation as you wait on a text response (and the torture that ensues when more than a few minutes have passed) to over-functioning in relationships where you turn on the charm and performative “mating ritual” of the early stages of modern dating trying to get any kind of approval, validation and a dopamine hit of attention - the nervous system hijacks connection. Add perfectionism, “earning love,” and ignoring red flags in the name of empathy or people-pleasing, and that’s a sure fire recipe for exhaustion masquerading as intimacy and “courtship”. Enter today’s guest expert, Shaina Richardson, a dating and relationship hypnotherapist for powerhouse women. In this episode, we’ll unpack how to decode nervous system “activations” as Shaina calls it (aka triggers), how to stop gaslighting yourself, and the path to creating relationships that feel safe and soul-aligned. What all we’ll cover: Why your body freaks out in dating and how to translate its language Hypnosis as a tool to rewire reactions (yes, beyond funky chicken stereotypes) The meaning you attach to texts, “I’m busy,” and “not my person”... and how to shift it The trap of micro self-abandonment (aka putting his needs above yours) Vulnerability as the bridge to masculine, healthy love Ready to build relationships as powerful as your career? Work with Shaina: Coach Tara’s Breathwork + Healing Community: Apply to Healthy Men-tality - Coach Tara’s Men’s Coaching Program: or DM HEAL on Tik Tok or IG to learn more Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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In a Roommate Marriage? Let's Deep Dive Why
09/03/2025
In a Roommate Marriage? Let's Deep Dive Why
A post I shared went viral on “roommate marriages” and it highlighted the same core pains from over 400,000 men: no intimacy, eggshell communication, codependency, betrayal wounds, mental health strain, financial/family entanglements, and deep isolation. When you’re dysregulated, you can’t desire. Logic can’t land when emotions flood the brain. And people-pleasing feels “kind” or loving until you realize it’s just self-abandonment at it’s core. Stay here long enough and you’ll start calling a war “gender” that the other side is the problem - when it’s really nervous system (hers) vs nervous system (yours) fighting for safety in the only (toxic/dysfunctional) ways they know how. In this episode, I break down the top common themes I noticed in these types of relationships and give you a nervous-system-aware playbook that leads with curiosity over defensiveness, boundaries over control, and language that reveals AND rewires beliefs - thus hopefully… unblocking your bs ;) Here’s what we get into: Why “roommate marriages” happen and how to restore safety and intimacy (that’s not just physical) Stonewalling/defensiveness decoded (and the “fix/advice/listen?” script) Codependency vs care: the exact line where kindness becomes self-abandonment Betrayal repair basics: trust yourself first, then rebuild together When to stay, when to go, and how to do the consequence math Why men struggle to share and how to get real support that works Men - if you’re ready to overhaul your nervous system so you stop feeling stuck and like a ghost in your own home/marriage/life? Apply to Healthy Men-tality and let’s see if it’s the right next step for you on your journey to stop destructive or unhealthy cycles in your relationships: or DM me on Tik Tok HEAL Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Why Being “Too Nice” Was Killing His Relationship
08/27/2025
Why Being “Too Nice” Was Killing His Relationship
For 20 years, John lived in the “nice guy” role… fawning, avoiding conflict, and losing himself in the process. His marriage looked stable on the outside, but inside he felt empty, resentful, and disconnected. When the relationship ended, his first instinct was to date again and fill the emotional hole with someone new. But without facing the childhood wounds and nervous system patterns that shaped his behavior, he knew he’d bring the same baggage into another relationship. Through breathwork, inner child work, and the Self Aware Army, John learned that fawning isn’t kindness - it’s survival mode. Reconnecting with himself, setting boundaries, and building a life he enjoys have made him confident, calm, and clear about what he wants in love. You’ll hear: The childhood dynamics that led to 20 years of people-pleasing How breathwork became the catalyst for deep emotional release Why vulnerability is the foundation of true connection The freedom that comes from building a life you love… before adding a partner If you’re interested in learning more about Breathwork and healing your nervous system inside of our Self Aware Army healing community - check out If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your worth and start leading in life and love, apply to Healthy Men-tality at or DM me HEAL on Instagram or Tik Tok. Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Observing Before Reacting: The Skill That Saves Relationships
08/20/2025
Observing Before Reacting: The Skill That Saves Relationships
When emotions run high, most people react from their wounds, not their wisdom. The result? Miscommunication, spiraling arguments, and a lot of “fixing” that doesn’t actually solve anything. Whether it’s your partner blowing up over a text you didn’t answer fast enough or you shutting down the second you feel criticized, these moments aren’t about the present, they’re about old patterns. And unless you learn to recognize them, you’ll keep recycling the same conflicts. In this solo episode, I break down my coaching approach: how I listen for the beliefs behind your words, why I see emotional reactions as inner child moments, and how curiosity can change the whole conversation. You’ll learn: Why coaching isn’t about fixing you (because you’re not broken) How language reveals the beliefs driving your behavior The “inner child lens” for understanding emotional reactions Why curiosity > defensiveness in conflict Want to work with me 1:1 or as a couple to stop cycling the same conflicts? Check out my coaching packages at UnblockYourBS.com/workwithme or DM me on Instagram/TikTok @unblockyourbs Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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Codependency, Narcissists, and the Real Root of Attraction with Jen Peters
08/14/2025
Codependency, Narcissists, and the Real Root of Attraction with Jen Peters
Healing gave her insight. Inner child work gave her peace. In today’s episode, I sit down with Jen Peters, an internationally recognized inner child healer and the founder of a 127,000-person inner child healing community. Together, we unpack what actually creates lasting healing for our students and clients - especially for those who’ve done all the things but still feel stuck. Inside this episode we dive into: How your nervous system holds onto trauma you don’t even remember Why your relationship issues are actually childhood wounds in disguise What makes somatic and subconscious healing faster and more effective than mindset work alone Jen shares her own story of adoption, emotional neglect, narcissistic abuse, and rebuilding her life from rock bottom Why healing doesn’t need to take years—and what to do when therapy stops working Whether you’re the codependent, the avoidant, or the overfunctioner in your relationships… this episode will speak to the parts of you that just want to feel safe. Be sure to download Jen’s free digital book , Coming Home, as an exclusive gift for our Unblock Your BS listeners and start your inner child healing journey today. Connect with Jen Peters: Instagram: Website: Connect with Tara: __________________________________________________________________________________ Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.
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