#72 - Ethical Dilemmas: When Therapy Clients Refer Their Friends!
Love, Happiness and Success for Therapists
Release Date: 06/11/2025
Love, Happiness and Success for Therapists
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info_outlineHave you ever gotten that really sweet message from a client saying, “Hey, I told my friend about you—they’re reaching out!” and felt… conflicted? On the one hand, it’s a huge compliment. On the other? It throws you right into the middle of an ethical tightrope walk. When therapy clients refer their friends, it can feel like walking a fine line between appreciation and professional chaos.
In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists, I’ll share a behind-the-scenes story from my own practice where a client referred a friend—who happened to be their business partner—and how things unraveled when their relationship did.
I’ll also unpack the professional risks, the emotional tug-of-war, and the subtle ethical conflicts that can arise when our good intentions collide with real-world complexity. Plus, how to set therapeutic boundaries and redirect referrals.
Timestamps:
00:00 - The Ethical Grey Area of Friend Referrals
03:49 - Handling Referrals from Clients
07:29 - Redirecting Personal Referrals
15:15 - Handling Unexpected Client Connections
19:00 - Practicing Ethical Boundaries
20:41 - Gray Areas and Subtle Ethical Dilemmas
If navigating tricky situations like when therapy clients refer their friends makes you crave more thoughtful guidance, you’re not alone—and I’ve got you.
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Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com
P.S. — If you know a friend or colleague who'd benefit from this chat, send it over to them. It could be exactly what they need to hear to get out of a sticky situation.