.75 youâre not his mother: how to stop parenting your husband and lighten your load
Own Your Revival
Feeling like youâre parenting a grown man with a beard and a Costco membership? If youâre the one managing the calendar, fixing problems, and carrying the emotional load in your marriage, this episode is for you. In âYouâre Not His Mother: How to Stop Parenting Your Husband and Lighten Your Load,â we dive into the commonâbut often unspokenâparent-child dynamic that can quietly take over marriages. Youâll learn how to: Recognize when youâre overfunctioning and mothering your spouse Start breaking the cycle by stepping back with courage and grace Reclaim your energy and...
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.74 should I leave or stay? what strength really looks like in a destructive relationship
Own Your Revival
Iâll never tell you whether to stay or leave a relationshipâthatâs a deeply personal decision, and safety always comes first. What I will say is that sometimes, when one person starts to shiftâby speaking up, setting boundaries, and reconnecting with who they areâthe dynamic can begin to change. In this episode, I share a moment at the gym that unexpectedly mirrored what real strength looks like in hard relationships. Itâs not always in the dramatic decisions. Sometimes the flex is in the small repsâdone with intention, clarity, and truth. đ If this conversation...
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.73 is it trauma or unforgiveness? a conversation on healing and wholeness
Own Your Revival
In todayâs episode, Iâm joined by Ashley Montag, MS, LIMHP, LMFTâa Catholic therapist and founder of âfor a rich and grace-filled conversation about what true healing looks like: mind, body, and soul. We talk about the difference between trauma and unforgiveness, and why the feelings that surface when we see someone from our past donât necessarily mean weâre doing something wrong. Ashley shares powerful, compassionate insights about being fully seen by God and learning to live from your true identity, even when old wounds resurface. If youâve ever asked yourself, âWhy does it...
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.72 breaking free: identifying personal contributions to relationship challenges
Own Your Revival
When you're inâor recovering fromâa destructive relationship, especially while trying to co-parent, itâs tempting to focus solely on the other personâs behavior. But what if one of the most powerful paths to healing is found in taking an honest look at your part? In this episode, we dive into a deeper examen of how we may unknowingly contribute to the relational patterns we desperately want to break. This isnât about blameâitâs about awareness, growth, and the freedom that comes from doing things differently moving forward. This conversation is raw, real, and rooted in...
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.71 3 ways to find peace when big moments don't go as planned đ
Own Your Revival
In this heartfelt episode, we delve into the emotional complexities that arise when significant life events don't unfold as envisioned. Whether it's a milestone celebration, a family gathering, or any pivotal moment, unmet expectations can leave us feeling disappointed and emotionally drained. You're not alone in this experience. Join us as we explore three comforting truths that can help you navigate these feelings, embrace the beauty in imperfection, and find peace amidst the chaos. Let's shift the focus from perfection to presence and discover the profound impact of showing up...
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.70 emotional whiplash in toxic relationships: why big moments get hijacked by outbursts
Own Your Revival
Ever find yourself bracing before holidays, birthdays, or big life eventsâwondering if someone is going to ruin it again? Youâre not alone. In this episode, weâre digging into a pattern I call emotional whiplashâthose sudden outbursts that seem to come out of nowhere right before something good. Weâll explore why it happens, whatâs really going on, and how to start protecting your peace even if someone else refuses to change. This one is especially for the woman who thinks sheâs crazy for dreading the moments that are supposed to bring joy. Youâre not crazy. Youâre waking up....
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.69 (guest) from silence to strength; one woman's journey through divorce with Lauren Louque
Own Your Revival
Todayâs episode is one that I know will stay with you. Iâm joined by Lauren from Louisianaâthe first guest Iâve had on the show who I met out on the interwebsâand Iâve completely fallen in love with her beautiful faith, her mindful way of sharing her story, and (letâs be honest) her pursuit of the perfect king cake. Sheâs a mama of four, and in this conversation, she opens up about the silence she once kept around the pain in her marriage, the mixed responses she received when she finally spoke up, and the slow, sometimes lonely process of finding people who could truly enter...
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.68 when clarity comes after action: why starting matters more than knowing
Own Your Revival
Someone recently asked me how to find a spiritual director, and I shared the best advice I ever got: Even when you think youâve found the right one, meet with them a few times before you decide. That wisdom has echoed in so many other areas of life. Because often, we want clarity before we take action. But what if the clarity only comes after weâve had the courage to show up, take the next step, and trust the process? In this episode, Iâm sharing the tender truth of what it means to move forward without all the answersâand how transformation unfolds one faithful step at a time. đŤ...
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67. (divorce) 𤯠when co-parenting doesn't work
Own Your Revival
In todayâs episode, weâre diving into a tough topic: when coparenting isnât working. You may have found yourself stuck in a situation where communication is broken, and cooperation feels impossible. While coparenting is the ideal, itâs not always achievable. So, what do you do when itâs just not working? In this episode, Iâll explore the concept of parallel parenting, how to shift your approach, and what you can do to create a peaceful environment for your kidsâeven when the other parent isnât on board. Letâs talk about how you can regain control, set boundaries, and build...
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66. đ breaking free from why: the key to becoming a change agent in your life
Own Your Revival
In todayâs episode, we dive into the powerful shift from asking "Why?" to embracing the bigger questions that lead to real change in your life. We often get stuck in the cycle of wondering why things happen or why people act the way they do, but this focus on âwhyâ keeps us from stepping into the role of a change agent in our own lives. Iâll walk you through how shifting your perspective can help you take control, make powerful choices, and move toward the transformation youâre seeking. Whether you see yourself as a leader or not, this episode will encourage you to take action and...
info_outlineWelcome to Own Your Revival! đĽ
Have you ever had a moment where what you thought was secure suddenly felt shaken? That happened to me one morning when I discovered something in my home that made me feel deeply unsafeâsomething I did not expect to find. In that instant, fear and betrayal hit me like a wave, and my reaction only escalated the tension. But instead of staying stuck in the storm of my emotions, I turned to prayer, specifically asking Saint Rita to intercede. What happened next was a powerful reminder that we are never alone in our struggles. In this episode, Iâm sharing how I found peace in the midst of chaos, the lessons I learned about pausing before reacting, and how we can navigate broken agreements with both faith and practical wisdom.
đ Resources & Links Mentioned in the Show:
A Prayer to the Holy Spirit (by Cardinal Mercier)
The War Room Movie
The Lord of the Rings: The Return of the King
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