ADHD Open Space Podcast
Raise your hand if any of these phrases sound familiar: “Oh, %$#@, it started five minutes ago!” “Wait — that was today?” “This is taking forever. How can it not be over yet?” “Guess I’m just gonna be late…again.” “What was it I’m supposed to be doing now?” If your hand is still down, this article is not for you; go back to reading “How to enjoy your perfectly manageable schedule” or “How to let people without an unfailingly accurate internal clock know how much you pity them” or whatever it is people like you read. One the other hand (the one...
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info_outline Five Things You're Guaranteed to Get at the ADHD Open SpaceADHD Open Space Podcast
Transcript: Welcome to the ADHD Open Space Podcast. My name is Gray Miller, and I will be your host and facilitator as we explore ideas, workarounds, accommodations, and other aspects of being a professional adult with ADHD. ...
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Let me tell you about the winter when the Idea Monster came and sat in his brain and almost kept the last five NaPodPoMo podcasts from happening. And also…about the fun game about ADHD that I’m creating. “Squirrel card, like…Someone sent a thumbs up emoji and you're distracted, lose, you're distracted, so you lose a certain number of emotional regulation tokens. Or you moved houses three months ago and can't find that one box with all the cleaning supplies. Immediately give up on all house related goal cards. So if you were planning on organizing your closet, or doing the dishes, nope,...
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This was a hard one to post, because my partner is loving and honest and so there are parts of this interview that my brain tells me will make you hate me. But authenticity is important, as is trust, and I trust both her and you, my listeners. So here it is in unedited glory.
info_outline How My ADHD Brain Created a Nightmare of Social AnxietyADHD Open Space Podcast
After my diagnosis, even my dreams make more sense. Sort of. Note: all people mentioned in this article are fictitious constructs of my subconscious brain. Even the one who is real. Since my relatively recent diagnosis, I’ve been immersing myself in research, anecdotes, podcasts, videos, and social media related to adult ADHD. It’s been quite the revelatory experience, as my perspective of the last fifty or so years of my life changes with this new lens turned on myself. Last night all that knowledge finally seeped into my subconscious and I had what I suspect will only be the...
info_outline The Dangerously Addictive Law of MobilityADHD Open Space Podcast
Made for Open Space. But tempting for the world... Here's the thing about Open Space: aside from providing people with the oppor- tunity to share the things they're passionate about, it also provides them with an op- portunity to be responsible. That one law I mentioned? It's known as "The Law of Mobility", and it is pretty simply expressed: If you are not benefiting from or contributing to whatever's going on in front of you, move somewhere you can. Note that it's not called "the opportunity of mobility" or "the you-might-want-to of mobility." It's the Law. It's the only law - as I pointed...
info_outline The Four Principles of Open SpaceADHD Open Space Podcast
Whoever. Whatever. Whenever. It’s Over. That’s what makes it all work. My elevator pitch on Open Space goes something like this: “You know how regular conventions give you a program that tells you who’s going to talk, what they’re going to talk about, and exactly how long they’re going to let you think about it before they’ll stop talking? Open space is the opposite of that. People show up, and we ask them “What do you want to talk about right now? How long do you need?” And then we give them that space.” I’ve found it works pretty well, but some people...
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Including some thoughts on overcoming impostor syndrome as a professional. I actually wrote an entire article about this on October 25th, 2023, and posted it both to my Medium account and to the ADHD OpenSpace newsletter. What was funny to me is that a few days later on October 29th the threads account of simple. mindful.adhd (who I have enjoyed following). (And by the way, I am, I'm quoting them not through any endorsement on their part of my event. I just found what they said interesting because they are at a conference and they were sort of doing a play by play as they were at...
info_outline The Least Helpful Advice I’ve Ever Been Given About ADHDADHD Open Space Podcast
Please stop telling me my brain has a “Special Superpower." “I’m a fish in a forest.” I’m pretty sure at some point I’m going to make t-shirts with this statement. It’s my reaction to the oft-repeated “superpower” trope about ADHD. Here’s a bit of a rant…but I suspect it will resonate. TRANSCRIPT OF MAIN BODY There are two kinds of people when it comes to ADHD. On the one side, there are people like Dr. Russell Barkley, whose research has led him to call ADHD “the diabetes of the psychology”: It’s a chronic disorder that must be managed...
info_outlineMy elevator pitch on Open Space goes something like this:
“You know how regular conventions give you a program that tells you who’s going to talk, what they’re going to talk about, and exactly how long they’re going to let you think about it before they’ll stop talking?
Open space is the opposite of that. People show up, and we ask them “What do you want to talk about right now? How long do you need?” And then we give them that space.”
I’ve found it works pretty well, but some people still get a whiff of anarchy about it. One person put it politely: “So…it’s like a study hall?”
So the elevator pitch is still a work in progress, and meanwhile I can talk about the Four Principles that make the whole thing magic.
1. Whoever shows up are the right people.
There is no slate of presenters at an Open Space. Professionals who deal with ADHD folks might show up (I’d be surprised if they didn’t). Sometimes even Big Names show up - I’d be delighted if Jessica McCabe showed up arm-in-arm with Ned Hallowell!
But if they did, I’d emphasize to them that unlike the other conventions they speak at, in an Open Space they are not expected to do anything more (or less) than anyone else.
They can think of this as a vacation, or, if they prefer, an opportunity. Suddenly they have the chance to present on that weird topic that’s been in the back of their mind, or even (OMG!) just be participants at an event!
Meanwhile, people who have wanted a chance to present an idea or pose a question for the group get the opportunity in a cooperative, low-pressure and supportive environment.
2. Whenever it starts is the right time.
I started doing Open Spaces about fifteen years before I learned I had ADHD, so now I understand why this principle was always my favorite.
There will be a definite start time for the ADHDOS, probably 9 or 10am. That’s when everyone meets and plans the day’s agenda (more on that later). There will also be a closing circle, probably about 5pm, where we come together and close out the day.
Aside from that? There is no fixed schedule. There are 30 minute blocks set up across the top of the agenda wall — but those are guideposts, not rules. People are not forced to either fill or cut short their presentations to fit.
Instead, they guesstimate how long they think they’ll need, and they start their session when they are ready. If that’s the time they picked, cool — but if they’re immersed in some other conversation at that time, I let them decide what their priority is.
Want to start it later? Fine. Want to cancel it, or let it happen without you? Also fine. My job as a facilitator is simply to give them that choice, and let everyone else know about it. Usually that means a lot of shuffling taped pieces of paper and moving the “NOW-ish” sign.
It makes the day into a fluid, exciting, and unique learning environment.
3. Whatever happens is the only thing that could have.
Remember how I said at the beginning there is no agenda?
There really is no agenda. So if no one decides to put up a session — nothing will happen.
Now, that’s never happened, in well over a hundred open space events. But it’s still worth reminding the attendees: they have a measure of responsibility that is different than most conferences.
It also means that if, after the open space, there is something you wish would have been discussed, covered, explored - you have no one to blame but yourself.
3. When it’s over, it’s over
This is the other half of that second principle.
Remember how those half-hour blocks are just guideposts? If a class topic takes 15 minutes to cover, take that 15 minutes and do something else. If it takes 5 minutes, it takes 5 minutes. We don’t ask you to fill time if you’re done.
If, on the other hand, a discussion needs 4 hours to adequately cover (which is rare, but has happened) then we make that time available. That’s another part of my job as a facilitator — you may need to move the session to a different place, but you can keep doing it until you decide it’s done.
This principle also reminds us that everything does have an end, including the availability of an open space location. We do call everyone together at the end of the time in the space to have a “closing circle.” Open space attendees discover that a day filled with people sharing things that matter personally and passionately can be exhausting. We take a very short time to celebrate the unexpected connections and new friendships.
Every Open Space is a unique combination of people, and a unique coming-together of knowledge and talents, that will never happen again. We choose to focus on the great and cool stuff that happens because of this, and not say “Damn, I wish such-and-such had happened!” In the end, it’s up to us. - the Author, somewhere at a past open space.
That’s the four principles. Tomorrow I’ll talk about the one dangerously addictive and immensely fun Law of Open Space.